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And at the end of this episode, you're going to hear the change in his voice. You're going to hear how much more confident he sounds. Welcome back to the how to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach Connell Barrett. I'm here to help you flirt, gain confidence, get a great girlfriend, and do it by being authentic. Integrity. No sketchy pickup moves needed. And if you are listening to this episode, I'll bet that you struggle with self confidence. Maybe, maybe you're not sure that you are in the league of the kind of woman you'd like to have as a girlfriend. Maybe you just feel like, oh, I'm not good enough at flirting, or I'm not attractive enough, I'm not tall enough, I'm not charismatic enough, I'm not something enough. I'll bet there's some kind of doubt that's holding you back, and that's incredibly common. It's so common. I dealt with it, too. And today I'm going to help you transform your any confidence issues you have in turn, go from. Go from lacking confidence to feeling really certain and confident about your attractiveness to women. I'm going to let you in on a coaching session I did a while back with my client, Nick. Nick is a great guy. You're about to listen to the very first coaching call we ever had. And Nick came to me because he just feels like he's like, sees himself as a 5. He's a 5 or 6 out of 10. He's not a really attractive guy in his mind. And what you're gonna listen to is how we take Nick from feeling like, I'm not good enough. I'm too nice. Women don't want nice guys. Me. And you'll actually hear his transformation in this episode. I'm going to take him through a process that I call the higher self awakening or the authentic self awakening. Essentially, what we're going to do is identify his biggest limiting belief that is hurting his confidence with women. I'm going to ask him some questions and take him through a process. And at the end of this episode, you're going to hear the change in his voice. You're going to hear how much more confident he sounds, how much more belief he has in himself. So he's going to essentially transform, not into a different person, but he's going to awaken, awaken what I call the higher self, which is you, me, Nick. It's any man at his most confident what I call a higher self. Because here's what I learned in all of my years of work, first working on my dating life and then becoming a dating coach. Is that you, me, everybody. We all have dual selves in a sense. We have what I call the higher self and what I call the lower self. Now, your higher self is the hero of your life. It's any area of your life that brings you joy, fulfillment, confidence. You feel amazing. That's your higher self. He's confident, he's focused, he's authentic. He's in the zone. He's basically you operating at your full potential. So the job you love, the biceps you've sculpted, maybe the great kid that you're raising, if you're a single dad, any area of your life where you feel like amazing, or at least amazing at times, it's the superhero inside of you who's running the show at the same time. Every superhero has an arch villain. Every superhero has to face that mustache twirling bad guy. And I call that the lower self. The lower self is that fearful, doubtful side of you who says, oh, maybe I'm not enough. Maybe I'm not tall enough. I don't have six pack abs. Women don't want to date me. At least not amazing women. And it's that little voice that says, don't approach her. She's out of your league. It's that little voice that creates the frustration, the insecurity, and leads to things like loneliness, leads to things like settling, leads to things like anger, depression in extreme cases. With some guys I've worked with really dark thoughts wanting to hurt themselves. And I felt this way too for a long time. I walked through the world feeling like I was just not enough. So again, think of your higher self as you at your best. And your lower self, it's that voice of self doubt. And what you're going to hear today with Nick is you're going to hear him go from that lower self to his higher self. And you're going to hear him give his higher self a name. Because what I have, all my clients do when we first start working together is they give their lower selves a name. I had a client named Frederick who gave his lower self the name Frightened Freddy because he could not talk to a girl, a woman out in the world. His hands would sweat, his four four head would sweat, his hands would shake. He gave his lower self a name. But then he became, once we awakened, his higher self, he became Frederick the Great. And he could approach women anywhere. I had another client named Different. A different client. Not the Nick you're about to listen to. But I had a different client named Nicholas who named his lower self one nut Nick, and he changed into Nicholas the Great. So you can instantly become confident or at least a lot more confident in a short amount of time. And if you want to. So what I want you to do in this episode is I want you to follow along and don't just listen passively to my conversation with Nick. Answer the same questions I ask Nick of yourself. When I ask Nick, hey, what is the biggest thing holding you back? What do you think you're missing? Ask yourself that question. And as. As we're going to go through this process, you're going to hear Nick realize how valuable, how attractive, how amazing he is to women. And you'll notice the shift inside of him. And I want you to feel that same shift because here's where. Here's where I'm taking you, or here's where. Here's where we took Nick. A couple of months after this episode was recorded, Nick was out on the town in New York City with me. I do in person coaching with guys in New York City. Nick and I were out in the town and he test drove this new and improved higher self. And I saw him approach and walk up to some gorgeous, cool, stylish women and get phone numbers. Create instant attraction. And just recently, Nick was telling me about a girl he has been dating. It got intimate. He had a really great first date with her. And essentially this new higher self that we created on this coaching session that you're about to hear, that is what women are most attracted to. There is nothing more attractive to women than you at your most confident, authentic, badass, in the zone version of you. The best dating moves, the best pickup lines, the best flirting moves, none of those are going to work for very well for very long if they're coming from that insecure lower self. But if you walk up to a woman feeling amazing, feeling confident, feeling in the zone, you can go on a date, you can approach, you can just chat with a woman, and she will get attracted to you because she's talking to your 10 out of 10 version of you. Okay, enough preamble. Um, if you want, if you just want to skip ahead about five or six minutes from right here, that's where the coaching session begins with Nick and myself. Listen to Nick go from insecure and in his head to so much more confident. He's now getting great dating results. Listen along, do the. Do the authentic self awakening process that I do with him. Follow along, make this an active process. Let's Go out and let's go out there. Let's make you more confident. Let's get you a great girlfriend. Enjoy my coaching session and this episode with him. Nick. Okay. Nick. Good to talk to you, man. What's up?