Podcast Title: How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Episode Title: The Write Stuff: How to Turn Your Boring Bio into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Clint)
Host: Connell Barrett
Release Date: July 22, 2025

Introduction

In this engaging episode of the "How to Get a Girlfriend" podcast, renowned dating coach Connell Barrett hosts a live coaching session with Clint, a 56-year-old education professional re-entering the dating world after a 15-year hiatus. The primary focus revolves around optimizing online dating profiles to attract meaningful connections and navigate the challenges of modern digital dating.

Client Background: Clint's Return to Dating

Clint shares his journey of stepping back into the dating scene after a prolonged break. Initially feeling discouraged over the years, he decided it was time to revamp his approach to online dating, leading him to seek Connell's expertise.

Clint (B) [01:34]:
"I kind of gave up on dating about 15 years ago... I think it's about time to get back into this thing and started writing my dating profile."

Crafting an Engaging Bio

Connell emphasizes the importance of viewing an online dating profile as a form of digital marketing, where Clint is the "product." The goal is to present an authentic and appealing version of himself to stand out in a competitive landscape.

1. The Power of a Hook

A compelling first line is crucial as women make snap decisions in mere seconds.

Connell (A) [03:29]:
"I think the amount of time it takes a woman to swipe right or left... it's about 2.9 seconds. We have to hook a woman's interest quickly."

Connell suggests using humor or unique personal traits to create an effective hook.

Connell (A) [07:29]:
"Warning. My karaoke voice may make you swoon."

Clint decides to adopt a similar approach:

Clint (B) [11:12]:
"Warning. Dating me might cause laughing."

2. Specificity Over Clichés

Connell advises against vague statements like "I love travel." Instead, he encourages Clint to provide specific details that evoke universal emotions.

Connell (A) [29:36]:
"If you can dial in very specifically on what you're trying to say, even if the person reading it doesn't specifically do that thing, that can still impact them."

Clint identifies his hobbies and personal traits to make his profile stand out.

Clint (B) [20:15]:
"I'm the middle of three children... and my older sister was always having her girlfriends over, so they would tease me a lot."

3. Incorporating a Call-to-Action

Asking a fun, easy-to-answer question encourages engagement.

Connell (A) [34:51]:
"The best performing call to action that I've ever tested on my profile is... 'I was dog shopping at the time and I wrote, 'Would you rather get a rescue or a Frenchie?'"

Clint experiments with similar prompts to invite responses.

Connell (A) [37:20]:
"If you have something like, 'Which restaurant would you rather have dinner tonight? Pierre's French restaurant or Taco Bell?' That's light and easy."

Optimizing Conversations on Dating Apps

Beyond crafting a stellar bio, maintaining engaging conversations is pivotal.

1. Personalized Openers

Connell introduces the "Three P's" for effective openers: Playful, Personalized, and Perfect length.

Connell (A) [52:41]:
"An opener should be playful, personalized toward her, and it should be the perfect length, roughly 20-25 words."

An example provided:

Connell (A) [53:19]:
"Hey, Anastasia, I see that you're a Wolverine... What do you think? Can opposites attract?"

2. Transitioning Off the App

Moving the conversation from the app to a more personal medium is essential for building a connection.

Connell (A) [57:36]:
"Be a man with a plan... 'I enjoy chatting with you. We should plan a date. What's your number?'"

Clint is guided to make this transition smooth and confident.

Connell (A) [62:41]:
"Here's how I like to send that first message... 'Hey, is this Francesca or did I accidentally text Papa John's Pizza instead?'"

First Date Dynamics

Entering the physical dating world after a long hiatus can be daunting. Connell offers strategies to keep conversations flowing and make a memorable impression.

1. Preparing Conversation Topics

Having "back pocket" topics can alleviate the anxiety of awkward silences.

Connell (A) [65:04]:
"Have two or three back pocket topics... Tell me about your backpacking trip through Spain."

2. Planning the First Date

Creating an inviting and interactive first date scenario helps establish comfort and connection.

Clint (B) [43:07]:
"McMinims pubs had an art show... It’s a great way to meet someone and have extended talking time."

Securing a Second Date

Asking for a second date confidently can significantly enhance dating success.

Connell (A) [69:55]:
"Instead of asking 'Do you want to go out again?', use assumptive communication like, 'I know exactly what we're going to do for our second date. You just gave me a perfect idea.'"

Clint is encouraged to express clear intent without appearing "thirsty."

Connell (A) [71:26]:
"Show confidence and certainty in oneself. Ask her out sincerely, like 'I had fun last night. We should do this again. What about you?'"

Highlighting Personal Attributes: Being a Single Dad

Connell advises embracing and humorously presenting personal circumstances, such as Clint being a single father, to attract like-minded individuals.

Connell (A) [46:23]:
"Here's a good prompt for all you single dads out there: 'Yep, I'm a DILF—Dedicated, Invested, Loving Father. Hey, get your mind out of the gutter.'"

This approach effectively communicates Clint's status while showcasing his sense of humor.

Conclusion

The episode concludes with Connell reinforcing the importance of authenticity and strategic presentation in online dating profiles. By treating the dating profile as a marketing project and continuously iterating based on responses, Clint is well-equipped to navigate the digital dating landscape successfully.

Connell (A) [75:27]:
"Your dream girlfriend is out there. You just have to go out and meet her and find her and show her the real, authentic you."

This detailed summary encapsulates the essence of the coaching session between Connell Barrett and Clint, highlighting practical strategies for enhancing online dating profiles, initiating engaging conversations, and successfully transitioning to meaningful in-person dates. By incorporating specific examples and actionable advice, listeners can effectively apply these insights to their own dating endeavors.