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I Wish You Could Hear This
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Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.
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The Truth Every Overwhelmed Christian Mom Needs to Hear, with Brittany Ann, Episode 46
5d ago00:45:24Tap to summarizeFeeling overwhelmed by motherhood? Wondering how to prioritize your faith when you're barely keeping up with everyday life? If you've ever ended the day feeling guilty because you didn't have time to read your Bible, pray, or spend quiet time with God, you're not alone. In this episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with author, speaker, and Equipping Godly Women founder Brittany Ann to talk honestly about the challenges young Christian moms face. Together, they explore how to grow closer to God without adding more pressure to an already full life. Brittany shares her own journey of balancing marriage, motherhood, ministry, and faith, along with practical encouragement for finding God's peace—even in the middle of exhaustion and chaos. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why so many Christian moms struggle with guilt over their spiritual lives How to prioritize your relationship with God when life feels overwhelming Practical ways to spend meaningful time with God—even if you only have a few minutes The difference between striving for perfection and pursuing faithfulness How to let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace God's grace Encouragement for moms who feel spiritually dry or discouraged Simple habits that can help you stay connected to God during busy seasons Whether you're raising toddlers, homeschooling, juggling work and family, or simply trying to catch your breath, this conversation offers biblical encouragement and practical hope for this season of life. Meet Our Guest Brittany Ann is an author, speaker, podcast host, and the founder of Equipping Godly Women, a ministry dedicated to encouraging Christian women with practical, biblical wisdom for everyday life. Since launching the ministry in 2014, Brittany has reached millions of women through articles, Bible studies, books, and online resources. She and her husband are raising four children together. Resources Mentioned Fall in Love with God's Word by Brittany Ann https://a.co/d/000kPB4D https://equippinggodlywomen.com/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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What's Happening to Our Boys and How You Can Help, Episode 45
3w ago00:41:52Tap to summarizeSummary: Boys and men are struggling—but this isn't a reason to lose hope. In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff unpack what's happening in today's culture, why so many boys and young men are falling behind, and the simple, powerful ways each of us can make a difference. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, mentor, teacher, or friend, you'll come away with practical encouragement and renewed hope for the boys and men you love. Resources and Links: Nancy Pearcy “The Toxic War on Masculinity” https://a.co/d/05CJjqrE Hannah Rosin, The End of Men essay in The Atlantic https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/308135/ “If We Were Ants” short film https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE Pew Research -Public Views on Men and Masculinity https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2024/10/17/public-views-on-men-and-masculinity/ APA Guidelines on practice with boys and men https://www.apa.org/about/policy/boys-men-practice-guidelines.pdf Data tables: Reading scores of 4th, 8th and 12th grade students – see Figure 5, 6, 7 https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/indicator/cnb/reading-performance College enrollment of men v women https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/pdf/2024/cpb_508c.pdf https://nces.ed.gov/programs/digest/d22/tables/dt22_303.10.asp Bureau of Labor Statistics about men and women in the workforce: https://www.bls.gov/charts/employment-situation/civilian-labor-force-participation-rate.htm Mortality data: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db456.htm https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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What Every Dad Needs to Know About Your Teenage Daughter, with Michelle Watson Canfield
Jun 1600:44:51Tap to summarizeSummary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with author, counselor, and father-daughter relationship expert Michelle Watson Canfield to explore one of the most challenging seasons of parenting: connecting with adolescent daughters. Many dads feel uncertain about how to respond when their daughters become more emotional, pull away, or seem resistant to their efforts. Michelle shares a powerful insight she has observed through years of counseling: many men would rather do nothing than risk doing it wrong—but when it comes to fathering daughters, stepping back often creates more distance. Together, Shaunti, Jeff, and Michelle unpack why dads often feel sidelined during the teenage years, how mothers can become caught in the middle, and practical ways fathers can stay engaged even when conversations feel awkward or difficult. You’ll learn: Why many dads instinctively pull back—and why that can be harmful How to stay calm and grounded when emotions run high Practical ways to pursue your daughter with intention and consistency Why your presence matters more than your perfection How to build trust and connection during the adolescent years If you've ever felt unsure how to connect with your daughter—or worried that you're getting it wrong—this conversation will equip and encourage you to keep showing up. Because your daughter doesn't need a perfect dad. She needs an engaged one. Links and Resources: Website: drmichellewatson.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/drmichellewatson Instagram: michellejwatson and thedadwhispererpodcast Twitter: @mwatsonphd LinkedIn: Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield The Dad Whisperer Podcast: Apple Podcasts + Spotify YouTube: @thedadwhisperer Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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Why Couples Drift and How to Reverse It, with Lindsey Maestas – Episode 43
Jun 200:45:45Tap to summarizeSUMMARY: What happens when a marriage starts drifting apart — and one or both spouses wonder if it’s even possible to reconnect? In this honest and hope-filled conversation, and sit down with author, speaker, and podcast host to talk about the quiet disconnection many couples experience and the practical ways healing can begin — even when things feel broken. Drawing from Lindsey’s personal story and her new book Don’t Burn Down the House, this episode explores: Why many marriages slowly drift into “roommate mode” What often causes emotional disconnection beneath the surface How resentment and hopelessness quietly build Why change can begin even if only one spouse is willing The small shifts that can create major transformation How to prioritize your marriage without losing yourself What rebuilding trust and connection really looks like If you’ve ever felt discouraged, lonely, unseen, or unsure whether your marriage can recover, this conversation offers practical wisdom and genuine hope. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Book: Don't Burn Your Own House Down: Prioritizing Your Marriage, Your Spouse, and Yourself for a Deeper Connection: Maestas, Lindsey: 9780310369479: Amazon.com: Books Website: HOME - Sparrows + Lily Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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Tired of Carrying Hidden Hurt? Finding Healing, with Willow Weston - Episode 42
May 1900:40:31Tap to summarizeSummary: In this powerful episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with author, speaker, and ministry leader Willow Weston to explore what it means to truly heal from hurt instead of hiding from it. Together, they unpack how unresolved pain can surface in anxiety, broken relationships, unforgiveness, and emotional exhaustion—and why healing begins when we stop running from our wounds and bring them honestly before God. Willow shares her personal story, the heart behind her ministry Collide, and insights from her new book about embracing pain as part of the pathway to restoration and deeper connection. This conversation offers encouragement for anyone carrying hidden hurt, walking through disappointment, or longing to experience emotional and spiritual healing. You’ll hear: Why unprocessed pain often “comes out sideways” How honesty and vulnerability open the door to healing The role faith and community play in restoration Encouragement for those feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or emotionally exhausted Hope for healing not only for ourselves, but also for the people we love If you’ve ever wondered whether real healing is possible, this episode is a reminder that God meets us in our pain—and that hope and restoration are closer than we think. Links and Resources: Book: Collide Website: https://wecollide.net/staff/willow-weston/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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The Blind Spots Hurting Your Relationships, with Debra Fileta: Episode 41
May 500:43:09Tap to summarizeSUMMARY: In this episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with licensed professional counselor and bestselling author Debra Fileta for an honest and insightful conversation about the relationship blind spots many of us don’t realize we have. Together, they explore how emotional patterns, past wounds, and unrecognized habits can quietly shape the way we connect with others. Debra shares practical wisdom on how to grow in self-awareness, strengthen communication, and take ownership of the ways we impact the people we love. Whether you’re dating, married, leading others, or simply wanting healthier relationships, this episode offers hope-filled tools to help you break unhealthy cycles and build deeper connection. If you’ve ever wondered why relationships can feel harder than they should—or how to become a healthier version of yourself—this conversation is for you. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Book: People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your Skills Website: Debra Fileta | Best Selling Author, Speaker, Psychotherapist, and Podcaster! The Kindness Challenge Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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How Young People Can Handle Ghosting, Disappointment, and Other Barriers to Dating – Episode 40
Apr 2100:37:16Tap to summarizeSummary: In Part 2 of this important conversation on the modern dating recession, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn continue unpacking new research from the Institute for Family Studies on why so many marriage-minded singles are struggling to date—and what can actually help. With 70% of surveyed singles saying they want meaningful relationships but aren’t dating, the challenge is real—but not hopeless. Shaunti and Jeff revisit the key barriers discussed in Part 1 and dive into additional reasons dating feels harder today, from fear and discouragement to unclear expectations and social disconnection. Most importantly, they offer practical, research-based encouragement for singles who desire marriage, as well as parents and loved ones who want to support them. If you or someone you care about feels stuck in today’s dating landscape, this episode offers fresh insight, empathy, and a hopeful path forward toward genuine connection. Resources: Report on “The Dating Recession”. https://ifstudies.org/report-brief/state-of-our-unions-2026-the-dating-recession IFS article about young men. See point 2 for “Most unmarried young men want to marry” https://ifstudies.org/blog/young-men-are-not-checked-out-their-hopes-are-being-frustrated For Women Only link. For Men Only link Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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Where have all the good dating partners gone? – Episode 39
Apr 1400:40:26Tap to summarizeSummary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn unpack the growing “dating recession” impacting today’s young adults. Why are so many singles ages 22 to 35 dating less or not at all? They explore the emotional, social, and cultural factors behind the trend, from fear and discouragement to a lack of confidence and connection. With practical insights and real hope, Shaunti and Jeff discuss the relationship skills that matter most, why community support is essential, and how singles can navigate today’s dating landscape with greater clarity and confidence. Resources: Report on “The Dating Recession”. https://ifstudies.org/report-brief/state-of-our-unions-2026-the-dating-recession IFS article about young men. See point 2 for “Most unmarried young men want to marry” https://ifstudies.org/blog/young-men-are-not-checked-out-their-hopes-are-being-frustrated For Women Only For Men Only link Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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Emotional Baggage Isn't Our Problem (Here's How to Live Lighter), with Laurie Davies – Episode 38
Mar 3100:50:07Tap to summarizeSummary: In this episode, Shaunti Feldhahn sits down with author Laurie Davies to unpack the powerful concept behind the book Emotional Hoarding: Letting Go of the Stuff That Keeps You Stuck. Together, they explore how holding onto hard emotions costs us. Emotional 'hoarding’ limits how we love, it keeps us stuck in regret, grudges, and shame—and, most importantly, it creates a disconnect between us and the freedom God wants us to walk in. Together, Shaunti and Laurie distinguish between emotional “baggage” and the deeper patterns of emotional hoarding, highlighting signs that you might be hoarding hard emotions, and why honest self-examination is essential to breaking free. The conversation dives into emotions such as worry, worthlessness, regret, anger, and bitterness—focusing on how scripture offers a clear path to freedom. With worry, for example, Shaunti and Laurie discuss how renewing our thinking, grounded in principles from Philippians 4:8, can close the worry loop and restore peace. As Shaunti observed in her foreword to the book: “You will never think about your inner emotional life the same way again.” Tune in to this episode for a hope-filled path for stepping into greater emotional and relational freedom. Links: lauriedavies.com Emotional Hoarding on Amazon Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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Are You Snowplow Parenting? When Helping Your Kids Too Much Hurts Them - Episode 37
Mar 1700:37:16Tap to summarizeSummary: Parents naturally want to protect their kids from disappointment and failure—but sometimes our help can actually get in the way of their growth. In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff talk about the growing trend of “snowplow parenting,” where parents try to clear every obstacle out of their child’s path. Through stories, research insights, and practical wisdom, they explore how well-meaning parents can unintentionally prevent their kids from learning resilience and responsibility. You’ll hear why allowing natural consequences can actually be a gift—and how to support your kids without removing every challenge in front of them. For Parents Only https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-1/ https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-2/ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/16/style/snowplow-parenting-scandal.html Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
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