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IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective
Hosted by Ben Pugh · EN
This podcast will help parents of teens keep life's struggles as a teen, and as a parent of a teen, in perspective. Parents will learn real tools to help them help their teens. They will learn how to build a rock solid relationship with their teen so they will have a powerful impact and a positive influence on their teen's life.
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Why Your Boundaries Keep Turning Into Battles
1w ago00:28:24Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"Do your boundaries with your teen always turn into fights?You ask him to get off the game, do his chores, go to bed, or follow a summer rule… and suddenly you are in another battle.In this episode, Ben explains why this happens. A lot of parents think they are setting boundaries, but they are really reacting after things have already gone too far.And a reaction is not a boundary.You’ll learn why unclear rules, late conversations, and anger-based limits often lead to more pushback from your teen. Ben also shares how to set boundaries before the fight starts, so your teen knows what is expected and what will happen next.This episode will help you: Understand why your teen pushes back Stop setting rules when you are already mad Create clearer summer expectations Give your teen more responsibility Set boundaries without yelling, begging, or giving in If every rule in your house turns into an argument, this episode will help you see the pattern and start changing it.Your teen does not need you to control every choice. He needs you to lead clearly, calmly, and consistently.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
Transcribe →The Real Reason You and Your Teen Keep Having the Same Fight
2w ago00:21:52Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"Do you and your teen keep having the same fight over and over again?Maybe it’s about chores, screen time, sleep, attitude, or video games. And with summer coming, you may already feel stressed about what’s ahead.In this episode, Ben explains why summer often makes these fights worse. But here’s the good news: summer is not the real problem. Your teen is not the problem. And you are not the problem.The real problem is the pattern that keeps playing out in your home.You’ll learn why your teen may keep pushing things off, why nagging does not work, and why more rules usually do not fix the issue. You’ll also learn how to start seeing the pattern so you can begin changing it.If you want less yelling, less nagging, and fewer daily battles this summer, this episode will help you take the first step.In this episode, you’ll learn: Why summer can make teen conflict worse Why chores, screens, and sleep turn into daily fights Why your teen may keep avoiding responsibility Why more rules are not always the answer How to spot the pattern behind the fight Why changing the pattern starts with you The same fight does not have to keep happening all summer. A better pattern is possible.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
Transcribe →How to Raise a More Resilient Teen
3w ago00:30:29Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"Is your teen struggling right now?Maybe he is stressed, frustrated, disappointed, or ready to give up. And as a parent, you may want to jump in and fix it.But what if your teen needs some struggle?In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about how resilience is built. It does not come from having an easy life. It comes from doing hard things and learning, “I can get through this.”You’ll learn why rescuing your teen too fast can backfire, why nervousness is not always a bad thing, and how to support your teen without taking over.Your job is not to make sure your teen never fails.Your job is to help your teen believe he can get back up.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
Transcribe →The Real Reason Your Teen Won’t Go to Bed
4w ago00:29:58Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"Is your teen staying up too late, sleeping through alarms, and walking around tired all day?You might think your teen has a sleep problem.But what if sleep is not the real issue?In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about the real reason many teens won’t go to bed. It is not just phones, video games, homework, or bad habits. A lot of teens are trying to fit sleep into whatever time is left over.And if we are honest, a lot of parents do the same thing.You’ll learn why your teen may be exhausted, anxious, grumpy, and hard to wake up. You’ll also learn how a simple sleep routine can help your teen calm their mind, get ready for the next day, and fall asleep without so much pressure.This episode will help you stop fighting your teen about sleep and start looking at the bigger picture.Because your teen may not need more lectures.They may need help learning how to protect what matters most.Want help setting boundaries without the constant fight?Join me for my live workshop: Boundaries That Don’t Suck: Get Your Teen Working With YouIt’s happening May 12th at 2:00 PM MDT, and it’s only $7.Sign up here: https://benpughcoaching.com/boundariesworkshopAre You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
Transcribe →Your Teen Isn’t the Problem… You Are (Here’s Why)
Apr 3000:30:06Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"If your teen keeps breaking the same rules… and nothing you try is working…this episode is for you.Most parents think they have a behavior problem.But that’s not the real issue.You don’t have a behavior problem… you have a boundary problem.In this episode, we break down why consequences often fail and what to do instead.You’ll learn how to stop focusing on what your teen is doing… and start focusing on what you can control.Because real change doesn’t start with your teen.It starts with you.In this episode, we talk about: Why your teen keeps repeating the same behavior Why consequences don’t work the way you think The difference between behavior and boundaries What you can control (and what you can’t) How to respond without more power struggles If you feel stuck, frustrated, or worn out…you’re not alone.You’ve just been focused on the wrong problem.Want to take the next step?Take the Parent Trap Quiz (it takes less than a minute): https://benpughcoaching.com/ptquizpodcastNew episodes every week to help you parent with more clarity, calm, and confidence.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
Transcribe →Your Teen Isn’t Lazy… You’re Just Looking at It Wrong
Apr 2300:33:37Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"Is your teen lazy… or are you just looking at it the wrong way?In this episode, we break down why your teen might not be motivated—and why it’s not what you think. Most teens aren’t lazy. They’re motivated by comfort, fun, and what matters to them… not always what matters to you.You’ll learn how motivation really works, why your teen resists what you push, and how to use things like privileges, values, and boundaries to help them take more responsibility—without constant fights.If you’re tired of nagging, pushing, and feeling frustrated… this episode will help you see your teen differently and show you what to do instead.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
Transcribe →Why Your Teen Wants Independence But Avoids Responsibility
Apr 1600:35:56Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"In this episode, Ben and Nola Gephart talk about why teens want freedom but often avoid responsibility—and what parents can do about it. You’ll learn how to stop rescuing your teen, empower them to grow up, and help them earn independence the right way.NolaGephartCoaching.comAre You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
Transcribe →Stop Repeating Yourself: Boundaries That Actually Work
Apr 900:29:16Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"If you feel like you’re repeating yourself every day—and your teen still doesn’t listen—this episode is for you.“Be home on time.”“Do your homework.”“Get off your phone.”And nothing changes.Most parents think they have a teen problem.But what if it’s actually a boundary problem? In this episode, we break down why most parenting boundaries don’t work—and how to fix them using a simple, practical framework you can start using today.You’ll learn how to stop power struggles, follow through without feeling like the bad guy, and create boundaries that actually work for both you and your teen.Because the goal isn’t to control your teen…It’s to lead yourself.Key Takeaways: Why control creates resistance The simple boundary formula that works How to follow through without constant conflict Why it’s never too late to change your parenting approach Next Step:If this episode resonates with you, share it with another parent who needs it—and leave a review to help more families find this message.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
Transcribe →This Book Wasn’t Written for Parents… But It Might Fix Your Relationship With Your Teen
Apr 200:27:15Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"What if your teen isn’t the problem?Most parenting advice tells you to fix their behavior.Get them to listen. Change their attitude.But what if that’s exactly why it’s not working?In this episode, I sit down with Randon Young, author of Foundations for Business Relationships, to unpack simple but powerful relationship principles that weren’t written for parents… but might be exactly what you need.We talk about: • Why focusing on your teen often creates more disconnection • How trying to “fix” them increases pressure and resistance • What actually builds trust and connection • A simple shift you can start using immediatelyIf you feel like you’re trying everything and it’s still not working… this episode will challenge how you think about parenting—and show you a better way forward.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
Transcribe →Why Saying “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough With Your Teen
Mar 2600:31:33Tap to summarize"Send Ben a text"You said “I’m sorry”… But your teen is still upset.Now what?Most parents think an apology should fix things. But with teens, it often doesn’t—and that’s where the frustration starts.In this episode, I’ll show you why your apology didn’t land… and what your teen actually needs from you instead.You’ll learn: Why “I’m sorry” alone often falls flat The common mistake parents make after apologizing How to rebuild trust without overexplaining or chasing your teen What it looks like to lead with connection instead of control If you’ve ever tried to make things right with your teen and felt like nothing changed… this episode will help.Check out the blog: Episode 303Are You Caught in the Parent Trap?Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today.https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
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