Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Allie Hoffman, founder of Catch The Feels—a viral in-person dating experience helping people ditch dating apps and reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and intuition.

We dive deep into Allie’s groundbreaking “four systems of knowing” and how we can use the body, emotions, thoughts, and inner truth to date with more clarity and self-trust. Allie opens up about falling for poly men while being deeply monogamous, breaking her pattern of choosing emotionally unavailable partners, and how her body often speaks louder than her mind when it comes to sex and relationships.

We also discuss:

How to spot the difference between ego and intuition

Why we keep falling for unavailable people (and how to stop)

Her practice of using orgasmic energy for sex magic

The truth about dating apps and why they’re keeping us stuck

How to “own your erotic map” and be okay with your identity—whether you’re queer, kinky, monogamous or none of the above

How The Feels was born and what really happens at her IRL dating events

Why being open to love is the bravest thing you can do

Sex, breakups, and learning to hear your body say “no”

How to break your patterns and stop ignoring red flags just because the sex is good

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How to Date Better: Trusting Your Body Over Your Brain (ft. Allie Hoffman)