Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, performer, director, and sex worker Lucy Hart for an honest conversation about reinvention, desire, identity, and learning how to start over without losing yourself. Lucy shares what it has been like to transition later in life, rebuild after financial loss, find community through kink and creativity, and forgive herself through every stage of change.

In this episode, they discuss:

Reinventing yourself multiple times throughout life
Transitioning later in life and trusting your timing
Building chosen family and supportive community
Talking about sex before getting into bed
Ending sex based on satisfaction, not performance
Communication, oral sex, toys, kink, and curiosity
Sexual responsibility, testing, PrEP, and harm reduction
The importance of kissing and chemistry
Exploring kink slowly and without pressure
Power dynamics and shifting roles
Losing financial stability and rebuilding from scratch
Divorce, grief, and letting go of relationships that no longer fit
Forgiveness as a daily practice
Letting go of resentment and self-blame
Redefining success and happiness
Making peace with impermanence
Trusting yourself to rebuild again if needed

Thank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈