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want to prove it to ourselves. We want to prove it to ourselves. That's the energy. That's the theme that has been running within me. Running within you. You know, there's many things that a lot of us have been thinking about, meditating on, you know, wanting to bring into fruition. Many of us may need things in this season, you know, things this year, you know, just things in life, period. You know, we feel that pressure, even though we know pressure nurtures our presence at times. And pressure can make diamonds. Sometimes the things we need to do and we have to do, we got to do can weigh us down so, so much. You've been there, I've been there. We're all. We all have been there. We're all sharing a very similar experience. That's why we are here. The day I was talking to somebody and they're embarking on a journey, a new journey, and they asked me, well, what's the most important thing? I said, the most important thing is what you're isn't what you're going to attain in the material. Even though that is exciting and even though we need those and want those, we're going to build those and, you know, receive and create the infrastructure for all that we're about to receive. But I said, the most important thing is that you. That you prove it to yourself, that you do not lose the trust in yourself that you build, you nurture, you protect, you preserve, and you harness the trust you have with yourself. Because the trust we have with ourselves, think about how important that is. Think about every step that you take, every decision that you make. What does it require? Trust. Trust with ourselves. And I do think one of the scariest places to be, which we will end up there, because that is the human experience. But one of the most. One of the scariest places that I have ever been was losing trust with myself, not trusting my instincts, what my gut was saying, my authority, struggling to make decisions, not knowing which road, which path to walk down, and being buried by my own decision fatigue. Not because the options are so good, simply because we are fearful of our own decisions. And this happens often when we find ourselves in a place in life where we're not too quite fond of it. Why we made some maybe poor decisions, or maybe you really did make the decisions at the best of intentions, but unfortunately it did not pan out in your relationship. Maybe you entered a romantic relationship with the best of intentions, but unfortunately, when the mask. Mask came off, you realize this wasn't the right environment for you, wasn't an environment for you to grow and be nurtured, be loved, or even a good environment for you to give love. Because maybe you stretched yourself thin, you found yourself depleted, even depleted of your own trust. Maybe you thought there was a career path you wanted, a creative path you wanted a job that was going to be just right for you, went down that road, went down that path, attained it, achieved it, and then found yourself still miserable. You know, the walls closing in. That's a very typical one. I was watching a movie the other day with Cameron Diaz and Ashton Kutcher, one of those old school, like 90 ROM cons, which I realized I really love those movies. I don't know, it's just like. It's just full of emotions and joy and it's just like I feel like all the shows these days are so goddamn dramatic, which nothing wrong with that, but we need balance in life. But the archetype of putting yourself in a situation, in a career with an immense amount of pressure and success, but it doesn't feel in alignment. You know, this is a theme that just runs through the human experience. You know, I. I firsthand experienced it when I found myself in Los Angeles, you know, shooting music videos, and I was around superstars, and I was like, whoa, why do I feel misaligned and unfulfilled? And I thought this was where I was supposed to be. And it's. It's very scary. You're like, oh, my God. All my hard work, all my effort that burning desire brought me to a dead end. And in this movie with Cameron Diaz, something similar happened to her. She found herself gunning for a promotion for so long just to finally get it. And in that moment, realizing she would rather be happy, even though she didn't know what that meant, she knew that that wasn't her happy place. And she stepped into uncertainty to allow a new path to unfold for herself, one that involved true love. And for me, I had to step into a new path as well. You know, leave the. Leave the Los Angeles behind and allow things to unfold for me. And I remember I felt like all my efforts for a good six years was, like, a waste of time. I'm like, man, I spent all this time, you know, doing audio work and then video work, and, you know, look where it got me. And I even sold my camera because I really didn't know what I was going to do. But I remember one time I was in Puerto Rico, and I was with this artist named Sean Kingston. And I swear, I remember I was, like, walking and filming him. We're at the resort, beautiful resort. Sun is blazing. It's my first time in Puerto Rico, and I felt this nudge and this voice in my spirit say, but you have a story to tell. Like, my own story. Like, my own voice. And I remember being so confused by that nudge. You know, fast forward a couple years when I found myself in that unknown place, you know, with a loss of trust for myself, because I'm like, wow, are you the type of person to spend six years doing something and then just completely quit it all, and now you have nothing really to fall on? Like, you know, what are these skills? Even more. Okay, sure, these skills can get you a little job right now, but it's not like I want to be at this job forever. I started editing videos for a company, and at that company, you know, I used to listen to a lot of podcasts. This is like when podcasts just started, like, the early inception. Like, I'm literally talking 13 years ago. And I remember just falling in love with the intimacy you could have through an audio experience. I found myself every week being excited for a new episode and, you know, putting the hours in listening to these podcasts where I understood the inside jokes, the ones that you wouldn't understand if you just tapped in for the first time. And those voices became so familiar. And it was, like, really the only way I could get through the job because it was quite boring. And, like, I could edit this stuff without even really listening to the audio 70% of the time, like the audio and the video that I was editing so I could listen to other things. And then again, I remember I felt this nudge, like, hey, what if you did this too? And I was like, me, like podcasting, what would I even say? I'm like, first off, I hate my voice. You know, that's one thing. I hated my voice. But really what I realized now is I didn't trust my voice. I didn't trust my voice because really, one of the things I get commented on the most is my voice. People resonate with it, but I didn't trust it. So I wasn't willing to lead with it, to step into it, to muster up the courage and speak at that moment in time. I kind of ignored that voice a little bit more. And then fast forward a few years. I found myself in a place with so much energy and desire to create again. And I purchased a little camera and I just started documenting myself. And I purchased a little microphone again. And I was like, oh, wow, these old tools that I used to use, they're in my hands again, but I still don't know what to make. I was developing my own formats, things that I've never seen before. And I remember when I got on that microphone and I spoke and how fluent I felt and how free I felt and how new it felt. It felt like the first time I picked up a camera and I was like, yeah, I think this is for me. And I had a lot of knowledge and wisdom and experience from those previous years because I went on a journey to get to know myself. Because I said, if I don't trust myself, why? And I said, well, maybe I don't know myself enough. And that's when I really removed the things that I felt were clouding my vision of seeing my true self, you know? So that's when I quit drinking. You know, I quit smoking, I went celibate, actually changed up my diet. I went plant based. I removed all these things as if it was fog, as if it was dust. So I can feel and see again. But most importantly, feel. And I felt like I got to feel myself again and see myself. Then I started to love myself because I started to love myself. I started to trust myself. And even if I wasn't sure if a decision I was going to make would be right, I gave myself the willingness to make that step. Because I said, hey, I love you. And even if you fail, even if. Even if it was the wrong step, don't worry, I'm going to nurture you. We're going to recover and we're going to get back up again. And that is the grace we need to have with ourselves. When it comes to trusting ourselves, we must prove it to ourselves. If you want to transform your life, nearly every ounce of it. 360. Look around. It feels different, looks different, is different. It starts with trust. It starts with the willingness to muster up the courage and take that step and take another step and know that even if you make a misstep, you will love yourself through that misstep and pick yourself back up and go again. I always say, you know, we can be so hard on ourselves that when we fail or make a misstep, you know, I really believe all failures are nutrients for our foundation. Now, some failures are quite big and may set us back for sure, but it can still be information for our foundation. But if we fall down and we decide to dig a hole so deep and bury ourselves in that hole with shame and regret for so long, it will be so. It will. It will. It will take so much energy to climb out of that hole. But if you love yourself, and we do that work every day, we take that time, we create that space to see ourself and feel ourself. We write to ourself, we speak to ourself, we take ourselves out on little dates. We allow ourselves to be seen in our relationships where you allow ourselves to receive love, allowing those who love us to love us. If we do all of that and we develop that trust because we proved it, we will be able to love ourselves through every misstep. Prove it to yourself. Prove it to yourself. Do something and prove it to yourself. This season might require a new level of discipline for you, a new ritual. But make it a ceremony. When you wake up in the morning, it's not, oh, I got to do this. I got to do this. So I become so successful, so I don't fail, so I don't end up broke. It's today is a ceremony, an opportunity to become intimate with myself, my work, my mission, my purpose, my family, whatever it may be. And this morning, we are showing up for ourselves so we can love ourselves, so we can nurture the trust with ourselves. Because the stronger the trust you have, it's simply going to reflect in life. When you trust yourself, you stand up for yourself. Meaning you will not allow yourself to stay in environments that do not serve you for too long. When you trust yourself, you are willing to love again. And you don't harden your heart so hard or you close yourself off to life. When you trust yourself, you experiment with life. You take side quests, you discover new gifts within you. I went to a fragrant making class this past weekend. Yeah, I went to a fragrant making class to make a scent. And it was quite cool experience. I was literally the only man there, but I enjoyed it. And I was smelling all the scents, and right away I just had like a natural inclination to what I liked and what I don't like. Trust, right? Like your taste in things, your style, your aura is trust. I smelled about 40 different scents, you know, and I picked about four right away. You know, didn't even really second guess it. And I tested mixing them up. Hey, mix these together for me. Boom. They bring it back. I smell it. H. Take out this one. H. Then I realized, ah, but that cardamom in there really grounded it. Let me bring that back. And when I was done making the scent, we were all to share our scents. So, like, you know, you kind of pass it around. And I'm the only guy there, so I'm like, damn, you know, like, obviously I'm going to have a little bit of a. A different nose, cuz, you know, all the women are kind of maybe making sense that would be more suitable for a woman. And I definitely made one that was suitable for a man, since I am a man more. My scent was definitely a very grounded scent. And I passed it to two of the women across from me, and they're like, whoa. They're like, what is this? I told them what it was, and they were genuinely shocked. They looked at me, they're like, yo, this is the best one. And then this other girl grabbed it and she was like, going off about it now. At first I'm like, are they. Are they just rubbing my belly? But then I realized they weren't. And one was like, I need this for my man. They was all, you know, they was loving my scent. And I'm like, you know what? This was a dope side quest. Trusted myself to go and experience this thing. Kind of discovered I have a nice little knack for sense. And then I also realized, I'm like, I think I want to do more of this. I think I want to create scents at my home. Like a little side quest, a little hobby, nurture my taste and share it with the world. You know, I used to be afraid in the past to, like, share creative works or to make creative works in front of people. That was probably the hardest thing was to, like, make music in front of someone or to shoot a video. In front of a bunch of people. And although I knew I could make great work, I didn't fully trust myself to do it in front of people, and it would really unearth the whole experience for me. So when I was reflecting back on the scent thing, I was like, oh, yeah, I was just chilling with, like, 30 random women making a scent, shared it with them, came out with it with a new side quest, realizing, hey, I have another gift in me, you know? If you prove it to yourself, you will discover how many more gifts you have, because you will trust yourself to explore and experiment. Many of us are not betting on ourselves anymore because we feel like we cannot afford another failure, that we cannot afford another failure because of what it will do to our trust. But you must prove it to yourselves. Every day is a new day to explore that courage. Every day is a new day to love yourself. Every day is a new day to feel and see yourself and remind yourself that you love yourself. You trust yourself because even if you make a misstep, you trust yourself to love, to nurture yourself back up and forward. And you don't know, in hindsight, everything is going to be more than all right.