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Intelligent Intoxication
Hosted by Terri Bradway · EN
Get ready to craft a top shelf life with new episodes every Wednesday. Join your host, Terri Bradway, for season two of the Intelligent Intoxication podcast.
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Ep #130 - How To Be An Asset In Your Friendships - Not A Liability
2w ago00:16:01Tap to summarizeIn our friendships and friend groups, we either show up as a liability or an asset. “People don’t like you because they immediately sense that you’re a survival liability.” Donald Miller When you are coming across as a survival liability when you are engaging in one of these 4 “N’s”: You have a pattern of being: Negative: draining or depleting. Needy: you require a lot of attention and take up way more “air time” than others. You may be clingy or pushy. Not safe: others don’t trust you. You might exhibit “black or white” thinking or are repeatedly righteous and judgmental. Not accountable: you are in the habit of “playing the Victim” and blaming others for your emotions. In order to be an asset in your friendships, focus on: Developing the gifts and strengths you can offer to others Be genuinely interested IN others, rather than trying too hard to appear “interesting” TO others Be mindful of granting others equal air time If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use support as you develop friendship strategies and strenghts, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
Transcribe →Ep #129 Sometimes You Don't Need to Fix It. You Need to End It.
3w ago00:14:53Tap to summarizeSo much of our lives happen by default. We inherit beliefs. We inherit traditions. We inherit routines. We inherit friendships. We inherit responsibilities. We inherit identities. Eventually we wake up one day and realize: "I'm managing a life I didn't intentionally create." Rather than endlessly tweaking what's no longer working, sometimes the healthiest thing to do is pause. Empty everything out. Then consciously decide what deserves to come back in. "I think one of the biggest mistakes we make is assuming that because something came into our life naturally, it should stay forever." Examples: Friend groups Volunteer commitments Family roles Morning routines Businesses Book clubs Workout groups Parenting identities Traditions Belief systems Career paths None of these are sacred simply because they've existed a long time. Instead of asking: "How do I make this work?" Ask: "If I were starting from scratch today... would I build this?" Step One Pause Don't redesign while you're emotionally flooded. Create space. Step Two Empty the “Room” Mentally remove everything. Imagine nothing exists. Step Three Choose Intentionally Ask: What deserves to come back? What has earned a place? What no longer fits? Step Four Rebuild on Purpose Now create systems. Boundaries. Expectations. Culture. Don't simply recreate what you've always had. The second season of life isn't just about discovering who you are. It's about becoming the intentional creator of your life instead of the caretaker of a life that accumulated by default. If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use support to discern what no longer fits in your life, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
Transcribe →You're Grieving What You Didn't Experience IN Your Youth
4w ago00:14:29Tap to summarizeThere’s a difference between feel envious of women who are young and experiencing grief over what you didn’t get to experience while you were young. If you've found yourself feeling unexpectedly emotional while watching younger people live their lives, I want to offer you this thought: Maybe you're not jealous. Maybe you're grieving If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use some support and encouragement as you grieve what you didn’t get to experience while you were young, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory Episode Show Notes No one prepares us for the complicated emotions that come with parenting adult children. In this episode, I'm talking honestly about the sting of unmet expectations, broken promises, and the stories we tell ourselves when our kids' choices don't align with what we hoped for. We'll explore the "manuals" we carry about how our adult children should behave, how to separate disappointment from the meaning we assign to it, and why boundaries aren't about controlling our kids—they're about deciding how we want to show up regardless of what they choose. You can love your adult children deeply, celebrate their independence, and still feel hurt when they disappoint you. If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use some support and encouragement as you navigate disappointment in the relationship with your adult children, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
Transcribe →How To Change How You Measure Your Worth
Jul 1500:09:46Tap to summarizeWhen we unintentionally measure our worth by the wrong things, we struggle to feel confident. For years, I measured my worth by who chose me—and who didn't. No amount of achievement could outweigh the fact that I didn't have a boyfriend until my third year of college. Attending my recent 40th high school reunion led me to a question I think every woman should ask: What are you measuring yourself by? Whether it's your relationships, your children's need for you, other people's approval, or your accomplishments, the "ruler" you use will shape how you see yourself. In this episode, I explore why confidence isn't about what others see—it's about the standard we use to evaluate our own worth, and how choosing a better measuring stick can change the way we experience our second season of life. If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use some support and encouragement as you intentionally find better ways to measure your progress, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
Transcribe →Why You're Struggling to Stay Present
Jul 800:08:00Tap to summarizeWhy Midlife Moms Struggle to Stay Present Do you find yourself replaying the past or worrying about the future instead of fully experiencing your life right now? In this episode, we're exploring why so many midlife moms get stuck in regret, rumination, and worry—and why staying present can feel surprisingly difficult during this season of life. After spending years caring for others, planning ahead, and anticipating everyone's needs, many women discover that uncertainty feels uncomfortable and the present moment feels unfamiliar. We'll talk about why uncertainty often pulls us out of the present moment and simple questions you can use to help you return to what's happening right now. If you've been feeling distracted by what was or preoccupied with what might be, this episode will help you understand why—and how to reconnect with the life that's unfolding in front of you today. If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use some support and encouragement as you navigate uncertainty with your adult children in the second half of life, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
Transcribe →How to Have A Tough Conversation With Adult Children
Jul 800:10:51Tap to summarizeNavigating Difficult Conversations Difficult conversations don't have to turn into battles. A simple framework can help you communicate clearly while staying connected. Share Your Observations Start with what you've noticed, not accusations. "I've noticed that when we have differing opinions, you tend to raise your voice or yell." Address the Impact Explain how their behavior affects you. "When you yell, I feel uncomfortable and notice myself starting to shut down." Get Curious Invite them to share their experience. "Does that make sense to you? Can you help me understand what's going on for you in those moments?" Make a Request Clearly state what you'd like to happen moving forward. "Going forward, if you're not able to discuss something calmly, please let me know. If things become heated, we'll take a break and circle back when we can both discuss it calmly." Most Important: Before initiating any difficult conversation, check in with your own nervous system. If you still feel an urgent need to address it immediately, there's a good chance you haven't fully processed your emotions yet. Regulate first. Then communicate. If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use some support and encouragement as you navigate difficult conversations with your adult children, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
Transcribe →When Adult Children Disappoint You
Jun 2400:11:35Tap to summarizeNo one prepares us for the complicated emotions that come with parenting adult children. In this episode, I'm talking honestly about the sting of unmet expectations, broken promises, and the stories we tell ourselves when our kids' choices don't align with what we hoped for. We'll explore the "manuals" we carry about how our adult children should behave, how to separate disappointment from the meaning we assign to it, and why boundaries aren't about controlling our kids—they're about deciding how we want to show up regardless of what they choose. You can love your adult children deeply, celebrate their independence, and still feel hurt when they disappoint you. If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use some support and encouragement as you navigate disappointment in the relationship with your adult children, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
Transcribe →Navigating Transitions with Your Adult Children
Jun 1700:06:48Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we’ll explore how to support our adult children as they move from the familiarity and freedom of college life into first jobs, new routines, and greater responsibility. We'll focus on supporting them with empathy rather than urgency while normalizing the mix of excitement, grief, uncertainty, and hope that often accompanies major life changes. As our children step into new seasons, we navigate our own transitions as mothers as we release roles we've cherished, honor what has been, and learn to trust what we’re creating now. In this episode, we'll explore: Why transitions can feel both exciting and disorienting How to validate your adult child's mixed emotions The importance of normalizing grief during celebratory milestones If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use some support and encouragement as you navigate both your kids’ transitions and your own, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
Transcribe →Re-Mothering Yourself: The Three Things You May Still Need as a Midlife Mom
Jun 1000:16:48Tap to summarizeMany women arrive in midlife carrying a quiet longing they can't quite name. Maybe you've done the therapy, built a beautiful life, raised children, and accomplished so much—and yet something still feels unfinished. In her book Mother Hunger, therapist Kelly McDaniel identifies three essential needs every daughter requires from her mother: Nurturance To be seen, soothed, comforted, and cherished. When nurturance is missing, we may spend years searching for comfort through achievement, food, busyness, relationships, or approval. Re-mothering question: How did I honor my feelings today? Protection To feel safe, defended, and worthy of boundaries. When protection is missing, we may struggle with people-pleasing, over-functioning, or allowing others to cross our boundaries. Re-mothering question: How did I honor and defend my well-being today? Guidance To be helped in developing trust in ourselves and our own inner wisdom. When guidance is missing, we may second-guess ourselves or constantly look outside ourselves for answers. Re-mothering question: How did I listen to and trust my own wisdom today? The Empty Nest Connection For many women, the empty nest years bring old longings to the surface. As we spend less time actively mothering others, we may become more aware of the ways we still long to be nurtured, protected, and guided ourselves. The invitation isn't to blame our mothers or wait for them to change, but to become increasingly capable of providing these things for ourselves. Reflection Questions Where am I strongest: nurturance, protection, or guidance? Which area feels most neglected? What would it look like to mother myself well today? What am I still hoping someone else will provide that I can begin offering myself? For Mothers of Adult Children As our children grow, our role evolves. We continue to offer: Nurturance through love and emotional presence. Protection through healthy boundaries and trust. Guidance through wisdom rather than control. A beautiful question to consider: How can I love my adult children deeply while trusting their journey completely? Healing comes from learning to provide yourself with the nurturance, protection, and guidance you've needed all along. If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use some support and encouragement as you re-mother yourself, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
Transcribe →Grappling With "Not Enough" As a Midlife Mom
Jun 300:12:56Tap to summarizeMany women live with a quiet belief running in the background: I'm not doing enough. I'm not accomplishing enough. I haven't had enough. I am not enough. What's interesting is that getting “more” rarely solves the problem. The goal is reached, the project is finished, the glass is refilled, and the feeling simply moves to the next thing. The truth is that "not enough" is often not a quantity problem—it's an experience problem. We spend so much time chasing the next thing that we lose the ability to recognize sufficiency in the present moment. In this episode, we explore: Why the feeling of "not enough" shows up in productivity, food, achievement, relationships, and self-improvement Why more doesn't always create satisfaction How Essentialism offers an alternative to “not enoughness” Essentialism teaches us that if everything matters, nothing is ever enough. When we identify what is truly essential, we create boundaries around our time, energy, and attention—and we allow that to be enough. Questions to consider: What matters most in this season of my life? What am I pursuing because it is essential? What am I pursuing because I believe more will finally make me feel enough? Where can I recognize sufficiency instead of chasing more? Because perhaps enough isn't found by adding more to our lives. Perhaps enough is found by removing everything that distracts us from what matters most. Essentialism is not the pursuit of less. It's the disciplined pursuit of enough. If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use some support and encouragement as you navigate this new season, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you. If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode. My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: terribradwaylifecoaching@coachbradway.com For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory
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