Do you ever wonder WHY you do what you do?
So much of our behavior is driven by the need to have an emotional need met.

According to author and speaker, Tony Robbins, there are six human needs that drive all of us — and understanding them can bring so much clarity and self-awareness.

On today’s episode I’ll apply my understanding of Robbins’ 6 needs to the empty nest stage of life during which midlife women are reimagining “what’s next” while mothering adult children.

The Six Needs

Certainty
The need for safety, stability, comfort, and predictability.
Where in life do I need to feel secure?
Variety
The need for change, spontaneity, challenge, and excitement.
Where do I feel bored or restless?
Significance
The need to feel important, valued, and seen.
Where do I seek validation or a sense of mattering?
Love & Connection
The need for belonging, closeness, and meaningful relationships.
Where do I feel connected — or disconnected?
Growth
The need to learn, evolve, and become more of who I am.
How am I stretching in this season?
Contribution
The need to give, serve, and make a difference.
How am I offering my gifts to something bigger than myself?

Key Point

The first four needs help us feel emotionally safe.
The last two create deeper fulfillment.

Sometimes what feels like dissatisfaction is simply an unmet need.

Reflection Questions for Listeners

Which need feels strongest for me right now?
Which one feels missing?
How am I currently trying to meet it?
Is there a healthier way to meet that need?

Closing

Understanding your needs helps you move from self-judgment to self-awareness.

Sometimes the discomfort you feel is simply information.

It may be showing you what your life is asking for next.

Here’s the link to Robbins’ article:

Tony Robbins: 6 Human Needs

If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who needs some support as you craft a next chapter that addresses your 6 needs, I can help. I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link:

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