Passive aggressive behavior is one of the most common—and most maddening—dynamics in high conflict situations. In this episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter of the High Conflict Institute reframe passive aggression as what it really is: aggression with built-in deniability. They walk through how to recognize it at home and at work, how to set limits on behavior that’s designed to evade accountability, and how the “it’s not about me” mindset gives you the emotional footing to respond effectively. Whether you’re dealing with a co-worker who “forgets” every commitment or a relationship where nothing is ever directly addressed, this episode gives you a practical framework for protecting your peace.
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Important Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area.

(00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
(01:07) - Passive Aggressive Behavior
(03:59) - Is It High Conflict Behavior?
(08:43) - Confronting Them
(09:36) - When They Don’t Stop
(13:43) - Conflict Avoidance Behavior?
(17:17) - A Pre-Cursor to More Overt Conflict?
(18:24) - In the Workplace
(19:42) - Examples
(21:54) - Antisocial Behavior
(23:57) - Following Through
(26:09) - Staying Confident
(27:22) - Wrap Up

Passive Aggressive Behavior: Is It High Conflict?