High conflict cases have a well-documented credibility problem: the person with high conflict personality traits walks into the lawyer’s office, the HR department, or the courtroom looking calm and composed. The person who has been responding to years of escalation walks in looking emotional, reactive, and hard to follow. Without a framework for recognizing this pattern, systems can unintentionally reward the behavior driving the conflict—and penalize the person trying to respond to it.

Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, walk through the biggest mistakes people make when presenting high conflict concerns to lawyers, HR, courts, and adult protective services—and offer a concrete strategy for making those concerns land. They cover why chronological storytelling buries the most critical information, how to work with professionals who don’t yet see what’s happening, and what to do if you’ve already vented or lost your cool.

It’s All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.

Submit Questions | Full Show Notes | Bookstore | Website

Watch this episode on YouTube

Important Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area.

(00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
(00:50) - When No One Else Sees It
(03:19) - Why Do HCPs Come Across Credible?
(07:55) - Biggest Mistakes
(13:43) - Connecting Behaviors to Laws
(19:28) - Repairing After Venting
(23:52) - Takeaways
(24:36) - In Legal Case
(27:00) - Wrap Up