Podcast Summary: I've Had It

Episode: "Straight Panic, Gay Excellence"

Date: December 23, 2025
Hosts: Jennifer Welch & Angie “Pumps” Sullivan
Special Guest: Ashlyn Harris (Two-time Women’s World Cup Champion, Activist, Creative Consultant)
Producer: Kylie
Notable Mentions: Sophia Bush, Renee Stubbs, Carson Kressley

Overview

In this vibrant, candid, and unfiltered episode, Jennifer, Angie (Pumps), and guest Ashlyn Harris dive deeply into politics, societal pressures, family structures, parenting pitfalls, gay excellence, and straight panic. Broadcasting from Jennifer’s NYC apartment and joined virtually by their Oklahoma-based producer and Ashlyn in New Jersey, the episode oscillates between searing commentary and uproarious humor. The crew openly challenges America’s cultural and political regression, celebrates the queer community’s resilience, and shares stories about parenting, judgment, and the true meaning of family.

Key Discussion Points

1. Red State Fear-Mongering vs. City Life Freedom

• Angie’s Rant on Fear of Big Cities (01:22):
  • Annoyed that people always ask if she’s scared in NYC due to media-fueled narratives.
  • “No, I'm not fucking scared. I feel so safe. I feel safer in New York City with the more restrictive gun laws than I do in Oklahoma.” (Angie, 01:24)
• Jennifer’s Analysis on Rural Hypocrisy (01:58):
  • Contrasts rural “freedom” with urban diversity and autonomy.
  • “The only culture [in red states] is being a patriot and going to your church... in a large city you don't have time to be up in everybody's business. You've got shit to do...” (Jennifer, 02:33)
  • On red state politics: “These are a bunch of misfit psychopaths who have lied to you, starting from Ronald Reagan...” (Jennifer, 06:04)

2. Parenting: Grandstanding Toddlers and Public Child Etiquette

• Jennifer’s NBA Game Story (06:31):
  • Shares a harrowing tale of being “adopted” by a toddler at a Thunder game—once you make eye contact, you’re trapped.
  • “It's like feeding a stray cat. Once you’re kind to them... it's showtime for all four quarters.” (Jennifer, 08:52)
  • Comparison of toddlers to drunks: “They bite you, they throw up, they spit on you, they tell you they love you, they tell you they hate you—all within five minutes.” (Jennifer, 13:04)
• Modern Parenting Trends (10:55):
  • Critique of the “take your baby everywhere” movement.
  • Pumps: “Just certain places you shouldn't take a kid. I mean, a baby like that.” (12:09)

3. Reviews, Online Hate, and Forming Community Defense Squads

• Fighting MAGA Bots and White Nationalist Accusations (16:18):
  • Jennifer and Kylie read and discuss hateful reviews and their fanbase’s efforts to combat them.
  • Jennifer doubles down: “We here at I’ve Had It podcast firmly believe with everything in us that Stephen and Katie Miller are white nationalist Nazis.” (Jennifer, 18:17)
  • Angie: “She [Katie Miller] might be crazier than him, and that's a low bar.” (18:54)

4. Defining Real Family & Empathy vs. MAGA’s “Traditional Values”

• Inclusivity as Strength (21:22):
  • Jennifer reflects on how conservative definitions of “family” exclude and harm non-traditional households, especially LGBTQ+ and immigrant families.
  • “A single mother with one child—that is a family... My family is not more valuable because I'm white or born in America.” (24:00)
• Producer Kylie’s Personal Story (22:37):
  • “I think my family cared more about what others thought than about me being gay...” (Kylie, 22:37)

5. Welcome: Ashlyn Harris — Queer Excellence, Family, and Straight Panic

• Ashlyn’s “Had It” List (30:54):
  • Tired of straight people dictating her life: “I’ve really had it with straight people trying to tell me how to live.” (Ashlyn, 31:06)
  • “Nothing irks me more than they're like, well, let's just not be political here. And I go, oh, must be nice that everything you do doesn't revolve around your, like, literal human rights.” (Ashlyn, 31:51)
  • Jennifer reframes these arguments: “This isn’t a political disagreement... This is a moral and ethical disagreement.” (Jennifer, 32:06)
• Athlete Chat: Lesbians in Sports (33:13):
  • Jennifer’s tongue-in-cheek theory: “Are lesbians better athletes?”
  • Ashlyn: “You can’t win championships without gay people.” (Ashlyn, 34:51)
• Frustration with Self-Checkout (35:04):
  • “My patience goes to my children, not to self-checkout lines during the holidays.” (Ashlyn, 35:04)

6. Family Structures and Political Threats

• Safety of Queer Families (40:56):
  • Ashlyn: “I checked every box in Florida. Actually we’re just not safe... What do you do as a mama bear?” (Ashlyn, 41:43)
• Sanctuary Cities for LGBTQ+ People (42:16):
  • Jennifer highlights the rising need for safe cities for queer families amid hostile laws.
  • Reflects on exemplary parenting by gay dads: “They were the best flying toddlers I had ever seen... Everything about it was a 12 out of 10.” (Jennifer, 43:33)

7. On Bigotry, Media Control, and Sex

• Book Bans and Black-and-White Thinking (46:06):
  • Angie: “My worldview was black and white... When you open up, you have to evolve.” (46:44)
• Evangelical Christianity & Sex (47:24):
  • Jennifer: “At the core of evangelical Christianity... is control over sex.”
  • “It’s such a threat to MAGA because they want to have shame-free sex so bad, but they’re so into their faith.” (Jennifer, 49:22)
• Queer Liberation as Threat (51:47):
  • Ashlyn: “The queer community knows themselves... their life is full of color... I think that is what MAGA and straight white men fear—the fact that we don’t care what people think about us because we’ve already lived decades in a closet.” (Ashlyn, 51:47)

8. “Had It or Hit It” Game with Ashlyn Harris (54:32)

Fun, fast takes—including:

• Chewing with mouth open: “Had it!” (Ashlyn, 54:47)
• FIFA World Cup 2026: “Hit it. I love FIFA.” (Ashlyn, 56:30)
• Renee Stubbs: “Hit it, baby. Hot.” (Ashlyn, 58:14)
• U-Hauling with Sophia Bush: “Hit it, hit it. Sophia U-hauled her way right in.” (Ashlyn, 61:27)
• J.D. Vance: “I've had it with all of those straight white men. Bye. Send them off to an island.” (Ashlyn, 62:56)
• The USA in 2025: “I've had it with what America looks like and feels like.” (Ashlyn, 63:09)
• On activism: “We do the work. We show up. We’re not just hopeful—fuck that. I’m rolling my sleeves up. I need more people ruffling feathers...” (Ashlyn, 64:30)

Notable Quotes and Memorable Moments

• “If you live in New York, you just don't care because you have to cooperate with everybody as a means of survival.” (Jennifer, 02:51)
• “They're holding a mirror up to your ragged, hateful face and you know you hate what you see, so you lash out, making yourself that much worse.” (Listener Review Read Aloud, 16:12)
• “When you have children... you feel a connectedness to all other women that had ever held babies... I just can't imagine you have that feeling and you can't transfer that towards immigrant families.” (Jennifer, 18:54)
• “If you think about some of the greatest athletes of all time, they’re straight... but you can’t win championships without lesbians, gay people.” (Ashlyn, 34:16 / 34:51)
• “You're a product of what you choose to see. If I tell you to look around for something blue, that's your POV. We're not opening our eyes to other colors that belong.” (Ashlyn, 44:25)
• “That is the one thing that is so fearful to [the Right]: how big and beautiful our life can be when you drop all the labels.” (Ashlyn, 51:47)
• “We do the work. We show up... I'm rolling my sleeves up.” (Ashlyn, 64:30)
• “Ashlyn Harris—she’s cool. We're cool. She's an athlete. Some people could say I'm an athlete.” (End banter, Jennifer, 66:01)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Resentment of Fear-Mongering About Big Cities: 01:22–03:58
• Rural Politics and Hypocrisy: 03:58–06:03
• Grandstanding Toddlers & Parenting in Public: 06:03–14:09
• Fight Against Online/Bot Review Attacks: 16:11–17:55
• Empathy and Family Values Discussion: 18:54–25:28
• Introducing Ashlyn Harris – Parenting and "Kid Jail": 28:10–30:24
• Ashlyn’s “Had It” List (Straight Panic): 30:54–32:42
• Queer Athletes vs. Straights: 33:13–34:51
• Self-Checkout and AI Frustrations: 35:04–38:04
• Safety of Queer Families, Sanctuary Cities: 40:56–43:33
• Book Bans, Control & Sex: 46:06–51:47
• Had It or Hit It Game: 54:32–62:47
• Closing Reflections on America & Activism: 63:01–65:11
• Sign-off Banter: 66:01–66:42

Tone and Style

Bold, brash, unapologetically progressive, and deeply empathetic. Jennifer and Angie’s frank irreverence is matched by Ashlyn’s clear, direct activism and humor. The episode moves effortlessly from hilarious analogies (toddlers acting like drunks, U-hauling lesbians) to serious indictments of political hypocrisy—always with an undercurrent of warmth, community, and fierce love for all families, especially those marginalized by current politics.

For New Listeners

This episode of I’ve Had It is a must for anyone interested in sharp social and political critique delivered with wit, laughter, and absolute honesty. You’ll walk away with important insights on queer excellence, the insidiousness of fear politics, and the everlasting fight for inclusive, empathetic community.

Episode MVPs:

• The phrase “You can’t win championships without lesbians” (34:51)
• Unfiltered family and sex talk
• Ashlyn Harris’s direct call for all listeners to "roll up your sleeves" and get to work for real change (64:30)

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