Podcast Summary: "Becoming A Man Pt. 2" | Jabin Chavez Leadership Podcast #069

Host: Jabin Chavez
Date: October 22, 2025
Episode Theme:
This episode is a direct, no-nonsense talk aimed primarily at men in Jabin’s church and leadership audience. Jabin explores the transition from boyhood to manhood through the lens of service, generosity, and responsibility, emphasizing concrete actions men should take to mature spiritually and as leaders.

Main Theme & Purpose

Jabin Chavez continues his exploration of manhood, focusing on the difference between boys and men, especially regarding serving others and living generously. The episode is equal parts a challenge and a practical call to action, urging listeners to leave immaturity behind, step up to active service, and embrace a lifestyle of giving, particularly through tithing and contribution to their local community or church.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Difference Between Boys and Men: Serving Others

• Scriptural Foundation: Jabin kicks off with a story from Mark 10:35, where James and John selfishly demand favors from Jesus, illustrating an immature, self-centered mindset.
• Redefining Greatness:
  • “Men serve. Men have a desire to be great, but Jesus redefines greatness... the way to be great is by becoming a servant.” (A, 02:15)
• Call to Action: Jabin repeatedly asks, "Who are you serving, and whose life are you making better?"
• Definition of Happiness: Quoting, “Happiness is not a certain amount in the bank. Happiness is not a zip code. Happiness is not an address. Happiness is purpose. Someone to love, something to do, something to look forward to. That’s purpose.” (A, 03:32)

2. Purpose Through Service

• Immediate Engagement: Jabin calls out for men to join service teams at church (parking, safety, hosting).
  • “I need 100 men today to join the team!” (A, 05:10)
  • “Church is better when you’re contributing, not just receiving.” (A, 05:53)
• Sense of Belonging: Serving creates “friends, community, brotherhood. Man, it’s so good for you.” (A, 06:16)

3. From Greed to Generosity: The Call to Tithe

• Personal Story: Jabin shares his journey of giving, tithing since age 15, growing up in poverty, and the impact of giving on his life and family wealth:
  • “I’m 42. I’ve been tithing since I was 15 years old... My wife and I are the first in either side of our family to break out of poverty and into real generational wealth.” (A, 07:16)
  • “I gave my way to the level I’m at now. Did I work hard? Yes... But there is a side of this where boys want to take but men learn generosity.” (A, 09:32)
• Practical Giving:
  • Jabin asks men to take faith steps in giving — emphasizing automated, regular tithing.
  • “The world of the generous gets larger and larger… the world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller.” (A, 10:12)

4. The Spiritual Foundation of Giving (Tithing)

• Partnership with God: “You are partnering with God for the preaching of the gospel… You have to mature from ‘I’m helping him out’ to ‘I’m partnering with God.’” (A, 12:44)
• Breaking Down Misconceptions: Tithing isn’t about prosperity gospel or “cheap, cheesy, gross thing you saw on Christian TV at 3am.” (A, 16:22)
• Blessing Is Bigger Than Wealth: “It’s not bigger cars, bigger houses, bigger bling… It’s bigger impact, bigger faith, bigger sacrifice, bigger obedience.” (A, 10:44)

5. Tithing as a Marker of Maturity

• Accountability and Integrity:
  • “The first thing I’m doing [when my daughter brings home a boyfriend] is I’m pulling up his tithe record at this church.” (A, 14:46)
  • “If he’ll rob God, he’ll dishonor my daughter.” (B, 14:56)
• Practical Impact: If every man tithed, “the church would do more, and you would be free. You’d be free from greed and you’d be free from the love of money.” (A, 17:11)
• Testimony: Jabin notes the church's growth and real-life impact, enabled by generosity and tithing. “Since we moved in this building in May, just since May, we’ve seen over 2,000 people give their life to Christ…” (A, 20:56)

6. Giving With Vision and Confidence

• Annual Challenge: Encourages all men to automate and prioritize their giving, especially heading into the church’s Miracle Offering in November.
• Faith Over Amount: No gift is too small to be powerful. “This church is not built on two or three big givers. This church is built on everyday men and women who give their little to Jesus and He multiplies it.” (A, 23:55)
• Calling Out Scarcity Mindset: “They’re building a stadium right now for 3 billion... we’re tripping over a million dollar parking lot… Church thinks small. We gotta do more.” (A, 25:45)
• Final Call:
  • “Money’s no longer my God. I don’t worship Mammon. I don’t serve Mammon. I serve God.” (A, 26:52)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Men serve. Men have a desire to be great, but Jesus redefines greatness... the way to be great is by becoming a servant.” — Jabin Chavez (A, 02:15)
• “Happiness comes from purpose, not ease.” — Jabin Chavez (A, 03:36)
• “Church is better when you’re contributing, not just receiving.” — Jabin Chavez (A, 05:53)
• “I gave my way out of small. I gave my way out of greed. I gave my way out of fear. I gave my way out of poverty.” — Jabin Chavez (A, 17:31)
• “If he’ll rob God, he’ll dishonor my daughter.” — Jabin Chavez (B, 14:56)
• “It’s not about money. It’s about honor. It’s not about money. It’s about souls. It’s not about money. It’s about the gospel.” — Jabin Chavez (B, 21:12)
• “You can’t outgive God.” — Jabin Chavez (A, 28:21)
• “Come on, we gotta think bigger.” — Jabin Chavez (A, 25:55)
• “Money’s no longer my God. I don’t worship Mammon. I don’t serve Mammon. I serve God.” — Jabin Chavez (A, 26:52)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• [00:01] Introduction of Mark 10 and the call to serve
• [05:10] Direct challenge to join a church serve team
• [06:38] Transition to teaching on giving and tithing; personal testimony
• [14:46] Connection between tithing, integrity, and relationships
• [17:31] The personal freedom gained through generosity
• [20:56] The impact of collective giving—testimony of changed lives
• [23:55] Addressing giving fears across income levels
• [25:45] Calling the church to “think bigger” and embrace a larger vision

Summary Takeaways

Jabin’s episode is a clarion call to maturity for men—serving over being served, generosity over greed, vision over small thinking. He draws from biblical principles and personal testimony, emphasizing that real manhood—and ultimately happiness—is found in purpose through loving, serving, and giving. The message is direct, candid, and frequently humorous, challenging listeners to shift from a consumer mentality to an active, generous contributor in both church and life.

For leaders and men seeking clear next steps, the episode spells it out: serve, tithe, automate generosity, and partner with God in building a legacy that transcends dollar amounts—a legacy of impact, community, and faith.