Podcast
Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex
Hosted by Dr. Juli Slattery and Authentic Intimacy® · EN
Dr. Juli Slattery sits down with guests over coffee and you get to join them. We have honest conversations about sex, marriage, intimacy, singleness, and God's design for sexuality.
Java with Juli is an outreach of Authentic Intimacy.
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Bye Awkward Side Hugs! Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships, #323
Feb 900:42:59Tap to summarizeAre awkward "side hugs" the best we can do when it comes to opposite-sex friendships? Juli sits down with author Bronwyn Lea, who helps us rethink what it means to live as brothers and sisters in God's family. They talk about why we often confuse intimacy with sexuality, how Jesus modeled close, non-romantic relationships, and what healthy Christian community can look like (even in a sex-saturated world). Listen in to discover how moving beyond fear-based boundaries can lead to more connection and stronger, life-giving friendships in the body of Christ. Guest: Bronwyn Lea Follow-up Resources: Beyond Awkward Side Hugs: Living as Christian Brothers and Sisters in a Sex-Crazed World by Bronwyn Lea What Defines an Intimate Relationship? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog) Q&A: What is the Purpose of My Sexuality as a Single? w/Dr. Juli Slattery Q&A: How Can I Tell The Difference Between Sexual Desire And A Desire For Intimacy? w/Dr. Juli Slattery Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes . . . Everything by Dr. Juli Slattery Follow Bronwyn at @bronwyn_lea Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Transcribe →4 Lies We Believe About Sex, #595
Feb 200:49:43Tap to summarizeJuli unpacks four of the most common (and subtle) lies we believe about sex, desire, and compatibility. From "sex is about expressing myself" to "the best sex is compatible sex," they explore how these ideas shape our relationships—and how God invites you into something deeper. If you've ever felt stuck, confused, or distant from God because of sexuality, pull up a chair—this conversation is for you. Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso Leave us a rating & review in your favorite podcast app. Follow-up Resources: Surrendered Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Joe at @joecaruso06
Transcribe →Puzzle or Mystery? Rediscovering God Beyond Easy Answers, #594
Jan 2600:47:18Tap to summarizeWhat if your relationship with God didn't start with how broken you are—but with how beloved you are? This week, Juli is joined by Marty Solomon, host of the BEMA Podcast, to explore the difference between our Western desire to have all the answers and the Bible's invitation to mystery, curiosity, and wonder. They talk about how systematic theology can both help and hinder our faith, and why being "beloved" is more foundational than being "right." This conversation reframes how we see our humanity in light of God's steadfast love—not as a problem to fix, but as a relationship to steward. Guest: Marty Solomon Preorder Marty's new book, The Gospel of Being Human: How Asking Better Questions of the Bible Reveals Who We Are Listen to The BEMA Podcast (we recommend starting with Season 1) Follow Marty Solomon at @marty_solomon Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Transcribe →3 Things Christians Do That Shut Down Healing After Betrayal, #593
Jan 1900:50:51Tap to summarizeIf you're trying to heal after betrayal, you may be doing everything you were taught to do—and still feel stuck. Sometimes we unintentionally sabotage our own healing—all in the name of love and forgiveness. Instead of feeling better, you end up feeling silenced, unsafe, and confused about why healing hasn't happened. Author and counselor Tammy Gustafson joins Juli to share four necessary phases of healing, and three common mistakes that actually shut it down. With clinical insight and biblical wisdom, this conversation will help you move forward with strength and hope. Guest: Tammy Gustafson, LPC Follow-up Resources: Preorder Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal (comes out Jan. 27) Register for The Betrayal Healing Conference, January 26-30. (It's online and free.) Take the Betrayal Healing Quiz to find what phase of the journey you're in. Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me? Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal? Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage by Drs. Chuck and Mike Misja (for the betrayed spouse who stays in a marriage even though their spouse is not doing the work needed to heal) Follow Tammy at @tammylgustafson Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Transcribe →Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You're Asking Us, #407
Jan 1200:31:45Tap to summarizeThere's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could it be an issue of spiritual maturity for some of us—whether we're married or single? Can it be used in a healthy way in marriage? Join us to have your thinking challenged! Co-host: Hannah Nitz Tell us what you thought of this conversation! Leave a rating & review, Share this episode. Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study! Follow-up resources: Masturbation: Is It Wrong? (Juli's blog) What's OK in the Bedroom? (Juli's blog) Is Masturbation a Sin? You May Be Asking the Wrong Question (Juli's blog) Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
Transcribe →The Love Language that Matters Most with Dr. Gary Chapman, #592
Jan 500:42:44Tap to summarizeWhat if knowing your loved one's love language isn't enough? Kicking off this new year, Juli sits down with Dr. Gary Chapman to unpack how it is that we can know each other's love language and still feel disconnected. Whether you're married, parenting, or navigating close friendships, this episode will challenge you to love more intentionally—and more effectively. Guest: Dr. Gary Chapman Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study! Pre-order The Love Language That Matters Most by Dr. Gary Chapman, Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Transcribe →What Your Husband Wishes You Knew About Sex, #126
Aug 11, 202500:37:54Tap to summarizeHave you ever wanted to get inside the mind of your man–just for a day? Now’s your chance! Juli and Hannah sit down with pastor and author Chip Ingram to find out what husbands wish their wives knew about sex. From why men fear rejection more than they let on, to how wives misunderstand their husbands’ need for connection, this conversation is filled with eye-opening insight and practical wisdom. Guest: Chip Ingram, Co-host: Hannah Nitz Follow us in your favorite podcast app. Join an online book study today! Resources: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Blog: Struggling with Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need a “Sex Break” Blog: Are You Entitled to “Good” Sex in Marriage? Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband’s Porn Problem Q&A: What Should I Do If I Discover My Spouse Is Looking at Porn? Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me? Find more resources at www.authenticintimacy.com Follow us on social media at @authenticintimacy Follow Chip Ingram at @chip_ingram
Transcribe →From Head to Heart: Why Love Changes Everything, #578
Aug 4, 202500:35:06Tap to summarizeIf loving God (or others) has felt hard or risky, this episode is for you. Join Juli and Hannah to discover why surrendering to love is not weakness—it’s the first step toward knowing the One whose love sets you free. Drawing from scripture and real-life tension in the Church today, they unpack how Christians are called to love in three radical ways: our neighbors, the family of God, and even our enemies. Co-host: Hannah Nitz Follow-up Resources: Get your copy of Surrendered Sexuality now! Find more resources at authenticintimacy.com Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz
Transcribe →Single, Married, or Searching: What Are We Really Longing For?, #577
Jul 28, 202500:37:12Tap to summarizeIn a culture that elevates marriage, sex, and romance as the ultimate goals, many of us are left feeling unfulfilled or sidelined. Have we unknowingly made idols out of good things? In this episode, Juli unpacks how our hearts can get entangled in false narratives—even within the Church. Whether you're married, single, or discipling others, you’re invited to surrender your desires and expectations to God and find contentment on the other side. Co-host: Joe Caruso Become a monthly donor and get a free copy of Surrendered Sexuality! Or, buy your copy here.
Transcribe →Q&A with Jackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo, #576
Jul 21, 202500:43:20Tap to summarizeJackie Hill Perry and Laurence Koo tackle some of the most pressing questions surrounding faith, sexuality, and discipleship. No small talk here—just honest answers about the reality of same-sex attraction, the cost of following Jesus, and the beauty of surrender. Whether you're a pastor, parent, friend, or someone personally navigating LGBT questions, this is a must-hear conversation. Guests: Jackie Hill Perry & Laurence Koo Follow-up Resources: Become a monthly donor and get a free copy of Surrendered Sexuality! Or, buy your copy here. Follow Jackie Hill Perry at @jackiehillperry Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy
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