Joel Osteen (14:14)
When we carry around bitterness, unforgiveness, guilty, angry at our neighbor. You may not realize it, but that's stinking up your life. That's pushing people and opportunities away. Why don't you get the stinky stuff out? There's an amazing future in front of you. There's beauty for ashes, joy for mourning, dancing for heaviness. But you gotta move forward. Maybe you need to bury a mistake that you've made. You've lived guilty, condemned, down on yourself long enough. Have a funeral for it and put it behind you. No more talking about it. No more letting the accuser convince you that you're just a failure. You don't deserve to be blessed. You're unworthy. Those lies will stink up your life. Don't let the defeat play in your mind when the failure, the mistake, the guilt, the disappointment comes back up on the movie screen in your mind. Do yourself a favor, change the channel. Have the attitude. I'm not going backwards. I'm not living in regrets. I'm not rehearsing my failures. I'm moving forward. I may have made some mistakes, but I've got a promise. Better is the end. If you'll get your mind going forward, your life will go forward. How much time and energy are you giving to the negative things of your past? Hurts, wounds, failures, disappointments. You only have so much emotional energy each day. When you're spending that energy on negative things, calling a friend, talking about how bad somebody treated you, reliving your failures down on yourself. That's energy you should be using to move forward. You have to come out of what was and come into what is. Don't say another word about that breakup, that disappointment you went through. Don't tell another person about the mistake you made. That's over and done. You buried it. You had a funeral. Now don't talk about it anymore. You can't have your mind in yesterday and expect to go forward. The truth is, every person has baggage. We all have Things that could cause us to be bitter and live with a heaviness. The difference between the people who are positive, happy, expecting good things, people that are bitter, discouraged, negative, is that second group. They hold on to all the baggage. The first group have learned this principle, to drop it, to let it go. Mark, chapter 11. Jesus was talking about what we should do when somebody does us wrong. Verse 25. He said in the amplified version, forgive them and let it drop. Leave it and let it go. Notice the principle. Drop it, leave it and let it go. Maybe somebody's talking about you, trying to make you look bad. You could easily be upset, offended, try to pay them back. Why don't you try a different approach? Drop it, leave it and let it go. God will fight your battles. Well, they betrayed me, they walked away. Don't waste another minute being bitter. Drop it, leave it. Let it go. You took a step of faith, but it didn't work out. The business didn't make it. You could easily be sour. No, three simple things. Drop it, leave it, let it go. The reason it says leave it is because you'll be tempted to go pick it back up. You may drop it at first and that's good. That's the right thing. But tomorrow morning, when you think about what they said, how rude they were, you'll want to pick up the hurt, pick up the bitterness. I know people that have been picking up the same offense for 47 years. It's no longer a bag, it's attached to them. It's a part of who they are. You have to leave it. It may not have been fair, but God saw what happened. He is a God of justice. He's promised that he will make your wrongs right. When you leave it. That doesn't mean that you're weak. You're giving up. You don't care what they did to you. No. You're saying, God, I trust you to be my Vindicator. I trust you to open the right doors. I trust you to get me to where I'm supposed to be. Maybe at 10 o' clock in the morning, a co worker is rude to you, you drop it, Leave it and let it go. But when you see them at noon again, you're going to want to be tempted to pick it back up. Just say, no, thanks, I'm leaving that offense where I dropped it. I'm not carrying any negative baggage. But so many people are just the opposite. Somebody cuts them off in traffic at 8 in the morning, at noon, they're still upset. Instead of dropping it and Leaving it. They keep picking it back up again and again. Put it in their bag, take it wherever they go. Friends, life is too short to carry around negative baggage. Your destiny is too important. Your time is too valuable to go through the day weighted down by offense, by guilt, by disappointments, by hurts. You have to make this decision to not only drop it, but to leave it. Don't give in to the temptation to pick it back up. There was a man in the scripture by the name of Ahiataphel. He was one of King David's right hand men. For over 25 years, he served as an advisor and close counselor to David. But when David's son Absalom made an attempt to take the throne, Ahiataphel was one of the first ones to desert David and go with his son. He started advising Absalom, telling him what he should do to overthrow his father. Well, this revolt wasn't successful. Eventually, Absalom was killed. The scripture says that Ahiatophel was so distraught that he went out and hung himself. But why would a trusted advisor of King David for so many years suddenly turn on him? Ahiataphael was the grandfather of a lady named Bathsheba. She was the woman that David had an affair with and had her husband Uriah killed. Then David took her as his wife. Could it be that Ahiatophel turned on David so quickly because he never got over what David did to Bathsheba and to Uriah. Instead of forgiving David, dropping it, leaving it, letting it go. All those years that poisoning was simmering on the inside, on the outside he looked fine. Everything looked like it was okay. He was advising King David. But on the inside, something wasn't right. Tragically, he ended up taking his own life. And of course, what David did was wrong. Ahiah, to fel in the natural, at least had a reason to be bitter, angry, upset. But when you carry around negative baggage year after year, you're not harming the other person. It's contaminating your own life. You won't have the creativity, the blessing, the favor that you should. Like Ahiapel. What they did to you may have been wrong. It may not be easy. But for your sake, not theirs, you need to drop it. Leave it. Let it go. When you do, God will heal your hurts. God will restore your broken places. God will pay you back for the injustice. But when you hold on to bitterness, unforgiveness, guilt, actually you're not holding it, but it's holding you. That poison will lead you down the wrong Path Ahiah to Fel had everything going for him. A successful career, working for the king, respected. But because he wouldn't deal with his negative baggage, he missed his destiny. It cost him his life. Don't let that be you. Don't play games with negative baggage. Bitterness, unforgiveness, guilt. Drop it and let it go. Well, Joel, I don't understand why this happened to me. Why did these people do me wrong? Why did I come down with this illness? People ask me, why did your mother get healed and my mother didn't? We're never going to understand everything. Don't get caught up in the whys of life. The scripture says we see in part now, like looking through a glass, dimly. But one day we will see in full. One day it will be clear. But if you're always trying to figure out why everything happens, you're going to end up bitter, frustrated. The best thing you can do is just leave it alone. If God wants you to understand why He's God, he'll tell you why. But if he's not revealing that to you, you need to be smart enough to let it go. Some things God doesn't want us to know. The scripture says it is God's privilege to conceal things. If you're going to trust God, you have to accept that there are going to be unanswered questions. We have to be big enough to say, God, I don't understand why this happened, but I'm okay with not understanding why. I don't have to have all the answers. You're God and I'm not. I trust that your plans for me are for good, that you know what you're doing. Good friends of mine pastor a church in another city. One night, their teenage son was tragically killed in an automobile accident. As you can imagine, they were so heartbroken, devastated. Overnight, their world came crashing down. They're great people, strong believers. But I didn't know how they would respond. A lot of people get bitter, angry, blame God, let it ruin the rest of their life. It wasn't easy. They went through a dark time, but they came through it. And I asked them how they did it without becoming bitter. They said, we made a decision that we weren't going to exchange what we do know for what we don't know. What we do know is God is good, that he's for us, that he's loving, that he's merciful. We weren't going to let that one situation that we didn't understand cancel all that out. Maybe you've gone through some things that don't make sense. It's bothering you, causing you to be bitter, discouraged, upset. You need to do what they did. Quit trying to figure it all out and go back to what you do know. You do know God has you in the palm of his hand. You do know God wouldn't have allowed it if somehow, someway, he wasn't going to bring good out of it. The truth is, everything is not going to fit perfectly into our theology. We all need to have a file in our thinking called an I don't understand it file. When something comes up that doesn't make sense, you can't find an answer to. Instead of getting bitter, frustrated, just put it in your I don't understand it file and keep moving forward. If you make the mistake of going through life trying to figure out why everything happened, why did I get sick? Why did my loved one not make it? That's going to poison your future. 1881. James Garfield was elected the 20th President of the United States. Six months later, he was shot in the back. The doctors were able to save his life, but they couldn't find the bullet. He was recovering just fine, but back in those days, they thought if they didn't remove the bullet, it would cause them problems later on. So they did more surgeries, probing all around. Still couldn't find it. Alexander Graham Bell developed an electrical device hoping to locate it. That wasn't successful. Two months later, President Garfield died. Not from the original gunshot wound, but from the infection that came from all the probing around.