You told yourself you'd say no this time. But when they asked, you said yes anyway. Again.

This is a continuation of part three of the Beyond Awareness series that was aired on Tuesday. Today, we're journaling through what you're actually afraid will happen if you say no.

You're not saying yes because you want to help. You're saying yes because you think saying no means something about who you are as a person.

Journaling Prompts:

1. Think about something you recently said yes to that you didn’t actually want to do. What was it? Why did you say yes? What did saying yes give you in that moment? Did it make you feel needed, helpful, like a good person, like a team player?

2. Imagine you had said no. Walk through what you think would have happened. Would they have been disappointed? Would they have thought less of you? Would you have felt selfish or guilty? What is the worst case scenario your brain was trying to avoid?

3. If you weren’t the one everyone could count on. If you weren’t the person who always said yes and showed up… If you chose yourself and said no confidently…What would that mean about you? Would people still like you?Would you still be a good leader, mom, partner, friend? Would you still be worthy of your success?

4. What would you need to believe about yourself or trust about your relationships to say no without guilt? Finish this sentence: I’m allowed to say no to ______ without it meaning ______.

If you notice that you’ve been saying yes to prove you’re kind, capable, or worthy, that’s the belief that needs to shift.

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