What’s your knee jerk reaction when someone disagrees with you? I’m sure none of us were born with the instinct to lean in with curiosity. It’s definitely something I have learned and a skill I’ve worked on (and literally just this week had to practice in some big disagreements!)

Thinking back of this month’s focus on getting to joy through disagreement proved to me yet again the power of having hard conversations and approaching conflict with curiosity and kindness.

In this week’s episode, Shelby and I look back on the lessons learned this month and recap some of our favorite moments from the conversations with Justin. We talk about how conflict is showing up online and in our homes and how we’ve approached it.

One of our big consistent reminders this month: Just because I disagree with you doesn’t mean I hate you. Ufda! And we talk about how to navigate that grey space in life and leadership.

If you’ve got some tricky relationships or disagreements this holiday season, this will lend you a few skills to help you have more peace and joy!

And, if you’re ready to leave behind the exhaustion of leading and ready to lead with joy, check the resources section to book a Spark Session to discuss with me your best steps forward!

Here’s what we talked about:

02:07 Disagreements in community and online

06:39 Leaning into curiosity in conflict

09:55 The best of this month’s conversation

14:07 Bridging the gap and finding common ground

16:01 How to welcome disagreement as a leader

20:28 The common myth in disagreement

24:43 How to navigate and challenge the algorithms

28:19 Tips for networking events and listening well

Links/Resources:

Grab Justin Jones-Fosu’s latest book, I Respectfully Disagree https://amzn.to/4gl9fpb

Erin Walsh’s book: It’s Their World: Teens, Screens, and the Science of Adolescence https://amzn.to/4grMO1r Comes with some great pre-order (bonuses)

https://sparkandstitchinstitute.com/its-their-world-bonuses/

The Free 99 Step:

Spark https://jennwhitmer.com/spark-call

Session Book a 15 -minute spark session with me here https://jennwhitmer.com/spark-call We'll work together to take a look at what's working and what isn't, uncover the most pressing problem that's keeping you stuck, and identify your next best step.

Joyosity Explorer Map http://jennwhitmer.com/joyosity-explorer will guide you to understanding the deeper purpose and story you tell yourself about your work. Joy is linked to purpose and productivity increases by 20% or more when you directly link your purpose to your work.

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