Podcast Summary: Kat on the Loose

Episode: FATHER DAMON - FOUNDED SCTM - a members-only secret sex club

Host: Kat Zammuto
Guest: Damon Loner (aka Father Damon)
Date: August 13, 2025

Main Theme & Purpose

This episode centers on Damon Loner, founder of the infamous and ultra-exclusive members-only nightclub and sex club, Sanctum. Kat invites Damon for a candid, raw, and revealing interview about his journey: from creating a high-end secret club shrouded in mystery and desire, to his personal struggles, the impact on his family, what really went on behind the scenes, and how he’s processed it all in his memoir, Eyes Wide Open. The conversation boldly demystifies sexuality, consent, and healing while confronting media sensationalism and harsh critics.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Genesis of Sanctum

[08:32 - 11:39]

• Damon describes his return from Bali broke and desperate, blending experience in nightlife with a unique vision.
• Driven by a desire for belonging, attention, and escape, Damon channeled his struggles into creating an Eyes Wide Shut-inspired, high-society fantasy, not a typical "sex party."
  • “Most people told me I was crazy...that no one would want to do that.” (Damon, 10:33)
• Sanctum’s appeal: mystery, exclusivity, curated aesthetics, and a focus on art and sensuality over rampant sex.

Notable Quote:
"The wealthy aren't driven by necessity, they're pulled in by desire." (Kat quoting Damon's book, 11:57)

2. Sanctum’s Experiential Impact

[05:59 - 15:21]

• Kat shares her own transformative experience attending a Sanctum party while reclaiming her sexuality after an abusive marriage.
• Damon reflects on the intoxicating power of attention, and the godlike feeling of being at the club's epicenter.
  • “I felt like a God...I wanted that energy. I got completely addicted to it.” (Damon, 06:23)
• Many came to watch, not just to participate; the environment was about curiosity, empowerment, and safe exploration.

3. Safety, Consent, and Community Ethos

[15:19 - 19:13]

• Damon established "Ask before you touch" as an early guiding rule, predating mainstream consent conversations.
• Strict screening and high security made women feel safe, shifting sexual expression from shameful to celebrated.
  • “...there was tons of security...everyone was screened...it was just so safe.” (Kat, 15:48)
• The club normalized open conversations about sex, breaking long-standing social taboos, especially for women.

4. Dealing with Public Backlash & Misconceptions

[16:25 - 22:23]

• Damon discusses being vilified online, stalked, and scrutinized, but remains firm that he offered a safe space and always loved women.
  • “If I had done anything wrong, ever in my life, I would have been...I mean, I've had a microscope on me from the day I started this thing.” (Damon, 15:55)

5. The Cost of Success: Personal and Familial Consequences

[22:23 - 24:23]

• Sanctum’s rise meant the dissolution of Damon’s marriage and increasing personal unhappiness despite external success.
  • “Inside, I’m not feeling so good because I had to trade...I can’t have my family...I can’t have my wife and kids and have this Sanctum thing.” (Damon, 22:23)
• Damon is candid about regretting the trade-off: “If I could go back in a fucking time machine, I would not have fucking done it.” (24:09)

6. The Sale of Sanctum & Its Aftermath

[26:06 - 34:07]

• Damon sold Sanctum for $900k (not a full million) in cash to a mysterious buyer, leading to dramatic logistics (transporting cash in suitcases).
• Post-Sanctum, Damon struggled with new ventures and regaining a sense of self after his identity was intertwined with the club.
  • “I didn’t know who I was anymore...That was a fantasy world that I created. Now I'm me.” (Damon, 28:23)

7. Attempts at Replicating the Magic: Elysian House

[34:39 - 41:05]

• Damon attempted a new high-end party concept with a wealthy partner, but it could not recapture Sanctum’s unique chemistry. The younger, influencer-heavy crowd altered the dynamic, and his passion had waned.
  • “It didn’t replicate the Sanctum...I think you can’t recreate that mix.” (Kat, 39:18)

8. Breaking Club Confidentiality – The Hunter Biden Saga

[41:28 - 44:07]

• Damon publicly revealed Hunter Biden as a Sanctum attendee, violating his own club’s only real code of discretion—something he regrets deeply.
  • “I shouldn't have done that. I fucking should not have done that.” (Damon, 43:17)

9. Recovery, Healing, and the Power of Honesty

[45:31 - 52:02]

• Damon discusses his journey to sobriety, confronting emotional lows, self-forgiveness, and the catharsis of writing Eyes Wide Open.
• He admits homelessness and a total restart, emphasizing growth, vulnerability, and realness:
  • “Now...I’ve never felt so real. I want to be devastatingly honest with myself and others.” (Damon, 46:41)

10. Sexuality, Shame, and Societal Change

[53:22 - 55:34]

• Both Kat and Damon passionately argue that honest discussions and exploration of sexuality would make society better and more connected.
  • “If people were having more sex and more open about their fantasies and sexuality, the world would be a much better place.” (Kat, 54:51)
  • “When you really connect with your partner...that’s the closest to god and oneness we can get.” (Damon, 53:49)

11. Personal Impact and Looking Ahead

[56:02 - End]

• Kat reveals how Sanctum helped her rediscover her sexual self and set a higher bar for future relationships and personal agency.
• Damon acknowledges his creative force and aspires to rebuild from a place of truth and compassion.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "I felt like a God and I wanted that energy...I got completely addicted to it."
  — Damon, [06:23]

• "The wealthy aren't driven by necessity, they're pulled in by desire."
  — Kat reading from Damon’s book, [11:57]

• "Just ask before you touch. That became the golden rule... that was before anyone was talking about consent."
  — Damon, [17:23]

• "If I could go back in a fucking time machine, I would. I would not have fucking done it."
  — Damon on choosing between family and Sanctum, [24:09]

• "Now...I've never felt so real. I want to be just devastatingly honest with myself and others."
  — Damon, [46:41]

• "Sex is the best thing in the world...When you open your heart and your soul...that’s the closest to oneness and God we can get."
  — Damon, [53:47]

Timestamps for Key Segments

• [03:07] Kat introduces Damon and frames the conversation around his memoir.
• [08:32] Damon explains the real inspiration and purpose behind Sanctum.
• [15:19] Consent, security, and building a safe sexual space.
• [22:23] Damon discusses Sanctum’s toll on his personal life and marriage.
• [26:06] The story of selling Sanctum and reflecting on its ending.
• [34:39] Elysian House and difficulties replicating Sanctum’s chemistry.
• [41:28] Damon’s confession about revealing Hunter Biden and the fallout.
• [45:31] Sobriety, starting over, and the emotional impact of writing his story.
• [53:22] Broader messages: sexuality, social taboos, and honest connection.
• [56:02] Kat shares how Sanctum transformed her self-worth and outlook.

Tone & Style

The episode is open, raw, confessional, and empathetic. Both Kat and Damon bring humor, self-awareness, and emotional vulnerability—championing honest dialogue about sex, empowerment, and healing without shying away from past mistakes or regrets.

Conclusion

This episode is an unfiltered exploration of elite sexual subcultures, the price of living boldly, and what it takes to reclaim one’s truth. Damon’s story is both cautionary and inspiring, showing that even the most glamorous fantasies come with real costs, but there’s hope and growth in radical honesty. Whether you’re intrigued by sanctums or just enjoy hearing someone “pull back the velvet rope” on human desire, this conversation delivers deep insight, compassion, and unforgettable stories.