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So I wanted to do this solo episode of Caroleos. I haven't done a solo episode in quite a while because I want to tell you guys all about my trip to Europe. Why did I go, how I ended up there? And if you are going through something really tough in your life right now, whether it's a horrible breakup, maybe financial hardship or loss, maybe you lost someone, maybe you lost your job, whatever it is, I truly believe this episode found you for a reason. Because I literally went from the depths of tragedy, loss, despair, to living my dream life and finally going back to Europe, which is something that I used to do every year and I love so much. And this year I was able to accomplish this goal of mine, which was to take me back there. So I hope you enjoy it. I hope it inspires you to remember that no matter what it is that you're going through, you can definitely, definitely rebuild stronger, build the life of your dreams. And the first step to doing it all is to believing. Believing in yourself, even when nobody does.
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But before anything else, let's talk about sleep.
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Do you ever toss and turn because.
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You'Re too hot, too cold, or just can't get comfortable?
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I used to.
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It's on my bed right now and.
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You know my dog is asleep right next to me, right.
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I stay cozy all night and when.
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I get too hot, I just open a window.
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It's so easy.
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So, for those of you who don't know me and don't know Kat on the loose, a very quick recap of what was going on in my life in 2018. I found myself completely penniless, jobless, no support system whatsoever because I don't have a family. My parents passed away a long time ago, and I didn't have any money in the bank. I literally lost everything that I inherited after my husband's death because the courts didn't enforce the will. How didn't the courts didn't enforce the will? Very long story for another episode. But believe it or not, it does happen. The people that my husband trusted with his will, they basically decided, you know what? Why are we going to let Catherine get everything? They took over the company. They put their entire families on payroll and they trashed everything. And the judge would not listen to me. I would go to court with my attorney and I would beg and plead and ask her to read the freaking will and enforce it. And by the time she actually did listen to me, two years into it, everything was gone. But basically, it's a really long story, and it doesn't really matter today. The part that really matters is that I found myself with nothing. Nothing. I didn't have a place to live. I didn't have a job. I didn't have money in the bank. I didn't have anybody to support me. So my first thought was, and I actually did talk about this part in the podcast in the past, my first thought was, wow, amazing. I have so many friends and people that know me that used to come to my parties and events. I'm gonna go around town and ask for jobs. And unfortunately, to my shock, everybody bought popcorn and sat on the front row to watch my demise. Every single person turned their backs on me. So I started rebuilding my life alone, because I really didn't have a choice. By the way, if you guys hear little noises here and there, my three doggies are napping on my feet because I'm doing this episode from home today. And as you guys know, can on the loose is 100 organic. Never edited, never scripted. So I'm just winging it with my dogs here. So anyways, I started rebuilding, and it was a very, very, very long road. It was an uphill battle from 2018 to today because, of course, I found a million obstacles in my way. I got so many no's and so many issues. That I had to deal with. And it was literally just one baby step at a time. And I remember when I started rebuilding, of course, I always had flashbacks of my old life being married to a millionaire for 15 years. And one of the things that we used to do was we used to go to Europe every single year. Because although I was born in Brazil, I don't like going back to Brazil at all. I think it's an extremely violent country, and I don't like the corruption there. And my mom died when I was in Brazil in 2017, and that traumatized me a lot because it was the toughest time of my life. Anthony, my. My husband, was very sick. I knew he was going to die. And I was mourning the. The death of my mom. And I was going through hell in high water down there. So I don't have the desire to go back there. But Europe was always second home to me, especially France and Paris, because I have French heritage. My father's family, My father was from. From France. So we used to go there every year. And it was always my happy place. No matter what was happening in my marriage, no matter whether or not Anthony was drinking, the minute I was there, I just felt so happy and fulfilled. And as I was rebuilding my life, I used to always say to myself, I'm going to take myself back to Europe. I'm going to be able to make my way back there one day. And that always was a big motivation for me to start making money again, to start rebuilding and to be strong again. And every single year that went by, I always looked at my finances and how much money my. My company was making and everything. And it was never enough. And finally this year, actually last year, I filmed a movie called 40 Days, which is out in theaters now. And the director, he's an award winning director, Fantastic, fantastic person, Fantastic human. His name is Peter Takla. He's originally from Egypt. Egypt. And he invited me to be in this movie because we did another project together. And not only I'm an actor in this movie, but I'm one of the producers. I was working behind the scenes, and I was talking to Peter as we were rapping shooting. And Peter said to me, I'm gonna go to Cannes next year. We gotta try to sell this movie for international distribution. And I said to him, you know what? I will be there with you. I promise you, I will be there with you. And I started working harder than I ever did. Day, night, weekends, holidays, holiday season. No matter what happened in my life, I was working overtime because I Made this promise to Peter and to myself that I was going to be able to go to the Cannes Film Festival. And sure enough, this year, March came along and I started making plans to go to Cannes. And then I was. As I was making plans to go to Cannes, I was like, you know what? I'm already going to be in Europe. I. I'm going to go and spend two days in Monaco for F1, and then I'm gonna take myself to Paris before I come home. And I'm gonna spend two days in Paris. So I planned this amazing trip for myself, and I went and I did it. And this is the important part that I want to share with you guys in Cannes. I was there for work, right? We were having meeting after meeting after meeting all day long. Really fun, super exhausting. I went to some amazing events at night, red carpet, got invited to the Mission premiere night, which was one of the most incredible experience of my life. And I have a big group of friends all over Europe, and we created this WhatsApp chat, and we were connecting there. It was amazing. I was around a lot of people. But once I left Ken, I said, you know what? I want to be completely alone. I do not want to meet with anyone. I want to give myself this freedom for the first time in my life to do whatever I want, whenever I want. No schedule, no drunk husband causing chaos, telling me what to do, going crazy, unhinged on me. I'm going to be 1 million percent at peace with myself. And let me tell you guys, if you haven't seen the videos, go to my Instagram Cats Zamoto, because I did so many spectacular videos of Monaco. It was the most special experience of my life. My one day, my two days in Monaco. I remember walking around and thinking, this is by far one of the happiest days of my life. I woke up early, which is something I love to do. I walked around all over town for hours and hours and hours. I stopped in my favorite places. I had a cup of coffee and croissant. Then I stopped at a champagne bar, and then I walked some more. And I took myself to lunch in one of my favorite restaurants in the world. And I had a glass of champagne. I ordered this fabulous plate of pasta with fresh seafood. And as I'm doing all of these things, I was thinking to myself, it's an experience that every woman in the world should do. I don't care if you're married, if you're in love, whatever is going on with your life. Because we have this tendency, we get so dependent in our partners. We feel like we cannot do anything alone. And I hear from women saying that to me all the time. When I told one of my closest friends that I was gonna go there, she's like, oh, but you're gonna eat alone, you're gonna walk around alone? I'm like, yes, I really, really want to have that experience, the freedom, the mental state of knowing that I can actually do that I don't need anyone, that if I want to be with someone, it's because I want to. But I want to love my company. I want to be in love with myself. I want to be proud of myself, that I can pay for my meals, my champagne, everything that I want to do. And this friend said to me, wow, you're so brave. You're so courageous. Which, if you guys think about it, is ridiculous because I'm not good at war. I wasn't going to do anything dangerous by myself. There's nothing brave about it. But that's how scary, scared most women are of simply doing something by themselves. And I'm telling you, if you are capable of doing something completely alone, making your own money, knowing the kind of trip you can afford, going by yourself, doing everything by yourself, you are going to feel so, so insanely, insanely empowered that once you're done with the trip, it's going to give you even more energy to accomplish anything else that you want to accomplish in your future. Before the trip, I already knew what I am made of, what I am capable of. I already knew, okay, I'm capable of this much. I'm capable of rebuilding my life without any, anyone's help from scratch by myself. I know I'm capable of supporting myself and my dogs and helping a lot of people that need my help and that work for me. I know I'm capable of living the life of my dreams in the place that I love that is good for me. I know I'm capable of giving myself the lifestyle that I think I deserve now. I know I'm capable of coming on the trip that I want, staying the place that I want, visiting the place that was important to me to visit without anyone's help, and being happy by myself. This is key if you want to build any happy relationship. And I see so many women falling in the trap that I fell in the past. We think that we are only going to be validated if we have a partner. We think that we can only do certain things if we have a partner. We are so afraid of being out there in the world alone and that's really, really sad because you are not. You are capable of doing anything you can if you decide you can, which is what happened in my case. Now I know that once I bring in a partner into my life, it's exclusively because I want to have that partner in my life and never ever again because I need to have a partner in my life. And that is insanely empowering. And it's so important for everyone, but especially for women because so many women think they're nothing without a partner. And it's such bs. We need to feel we can do anything in this world that we want to do alone in order to feel fulfilled in a relationship and in order to not feel, oh my God, I am nothing without this relationship.
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And another thing that I learned that I realized and it has a lot to do with what was happening in my marriage. Like I told you guys, we used to go to Europe every year and of course we used to stay in the best hotels money could buy. So I remember twice, two or three times we, we went to Monaco. And Monaco is one of the most spectacular hotel in the world which is called Hotel de Paris. It's right across from the Casino de Monte Carlo. And of course we stayed there. But I was miserable. I was miserable, I was miserable, I was miserable. And this time when I was in Monaco, I did. Of course I couldn't afford the Hotel de Paris anymore. So I stayed in a really adorable hotel, but a lot more affordable, that fits my budget, good location, everything. But nothing luxurious, nothing crazy. And I remember walking, I went to the Hotel de Paris for a drink, I went to the Casino de Monte Carlo, I played roulette, I met all the people. I mean, I had a blast. But I remember standing there in front of the Hotel de Paris and thinking I was here. With my husband in one of the most spectacular suites and one of the most splendid, spectacular hotels in the world. And I was so sad and I felt so alone because he was drinking, because he was super moody, because he would get hammered during lunch and go back to the room and fall asleep all day and then wake up at night in the worst possible mood and sit in front of the TV and order some whatever room service food and go to sleep until he started drinking again the next day, the next morning, morning. And I was just alone. I was sitting there looking out the balcony, thinking, wow, I cannot believe I'm in Monaco and I am so alone with this husband that drinks and complains and gets unhinged on me because he was so bipolar. One minute he was happy and then he was drinking and then he was furious. And I felt so sad because I felt I should be enjoying this place. And it's so magical, it's so fantastic. And I can't believe I can get to enjoy it with my husband because he's just not capable of it. And this time all those memories came back flooding in my head because I was there alone. And as much as I didn't have all the luxury, I was so happy, so happy because I got to walk around and enjoy everything and literally sit at all my favorite restaurants at the Cafe de Paris and here and there and there, and enjoy and soak up the moment without anybody excited exploding on me, without anybody wasting that amazing opportunity of really, really enjoying one of the most beautiful places in the world. And this is the lesson that I took from it. There is no point in going anywhere, even if it's the most expensive places in the world, if you are with the wrong company, if you are with someone who will not enjoy life. And on the same token, if you are alone but happy, even if you are not in the best hotels in the world, you're going to be happy and you're going to have an amazing time. And of course, if you are with the amazing company, even if you're not in the best hotels in the world. So obviously the company that you are with matters so much more than all that luxury that we had. But very, very unfortunately, he was never, ever able to enjoy it. And then after Monaco, before I came home, I went to Paris, and same story, we used to stay at the Plaza Tener, which is one of the most spectacular hotels in the world. It's one of my favorite hotels in the world. For you guys that don't know the hotel, if you love Sex and the City, When Carrie moved to Paris with the Russian guy, that's where they were staying. That hotel. That scene when she. He kind of slaps her and she runs and Mr. Big finds her. All. All that. That was filmed at the Plaza Tene. It's a dreamy scene, spectacular hotel. And we used to stay there. And now this time, of course, it wasn't in my budget yet to stay at the Plaza 10 again. I stayed at a much smaller, cuter hotel nearby. But same feeling. I was happy. I was walking, losing myself around the streets of Paris. I stopped at my favorite restaurant, which is one of the most spectacular restaurants in the world. Loving you. And I was sitting there as I'm sipping my champagne and eating my filet with Bernaise sauce, I'm thinking, you know what? Nobody's rushing me. Nobody's going crazy on me. I remember I was always so tense, so tense having lunch with my husband because he would literally drink a bottle of wine in, like, under half an hour and order the second one. And I was like, oh, my God. Okay, he's gonna be so hammered when we get out of here. Let me eat fast. Is he going to embarrass me? Is he going to go crazy on me? Is he going to start yelling at me? I was always, always so tense. And this time I was at peace. I was at peace with myself. I was at peace with my world. And most importantly, I was so proud of myself that I was paying for everything out of my own pocket. And it's really sad that this day and age, so many women, single women, all they're looking for is for a partner to pay their bills. I have single male friends that complain about that every single day to me. They meet a girl, really nice girl, and she's like, I want somebody to support me. Just yesterday, one of my friends is saying, this girl came up the most BS excuse in the world. She likes him. They're dating, they have great sex, great chemistry. And then she's sending my message like, oh, you know, I want to keep my options open because I want a man to support me so I can be my feminine energy. I want to be supported so I don't have to do anything. And you're not going to do that for me? Like, are you kidding me? And my friend is not broke by any means. He lives in Beverly Hills, makes a really good salary, but apparently he's not rich enough for her. And women that do that, let me tell you, ladies, you are selling yourself short. Because the most empowering, most incredible feeling in the world is the feeling of making our own money. And I remember when I'm. I. I obviously my husband liked me because I was different from all the other women he was dating because everybody wanted to marry a millionaire and be supported by him. And I actually said to him, I make my own money. I love making money. I love working. And this is what made me stand out. And this is the reason why he dated me and married me. But then, unfortunately, he became so possessive and so controlling. He didn't want me to work. He didn't want me to be out there. He didn't want me to do anything. So a lot of people on the outside, they thought, oh, this blonde bimbo, she's married to this millionaire because she wants to be a Barbie. She doesn't want to work. But my fight with him was always the opposite. I wanted to work, I wanted to pursue my passions. And it was always a huge problem in our marriage because he didn't let me do anything. He would always cut me off. He would always use horrible phrases like, oh, I make more in a day than you ever make in a year. Why do you think you need to work? This is so stupid. He would totally, like, cut me off, and I wanted to work, and I love what I do. So now that I paid for this entire trip by myself, as much as it wasn't as luxurious as I want to have in the future, because I think that's what I deserve. And I'm working really hard to get to that point again. I felt empowered because I felt, you know what? I get to do this. I can eat at this restaurant. I can do this. By the way, my favorite restaurant in Paris is definitely one of the most high ends. It's a major celebrity hangout. The food is spectacular. It's a scene. You see so many beautiful people. That's called loving you. It's always, always in the news because celebrities always go there every time they're in Paris. But it is pretty, pretty spectacular. But it made me feel empowered. So when I got back home, it reminded me of all my goals. And he reminded me why I work so freaking hard. So much harder than most people I know because I'm nine to five won't cut it. If you want to be an insanely successful entrepreneur, if you want to have one of the top podcasts in the world, if you want to do all of these things that I do, you need to. To give yourself your all. And this is what I decided to do this year. So I'm like laser focus and that's all I'm doing, which is okay as well. So so far, this has been the year of me, me, me, me, me. I haven't dated anyone.
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Of course.
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I talk to men all the time. I talk to people here and there and there. Do I want to be in a relationship? Absolutely. But I am so focused on giving myself the life of my dreams, the life that I think I deserve, that it's totally okay to take my time with dating. So if you're going through something really, really tough right now, whatever it is, put yourself first. Put yourself first because this was a big game changer to me. The day that I decided to put myself first is the day that my life started changing for me and taking a turn for the better. And then everything else will fall into place. Place. Finding the right partner will fall into place. Everything else that comes. If you have your own money, if you have your own independence, if you respect yourself, if you take care of your body, mind, soul, everything else gets easier after that. We are booking some incredible guests coming up. I've been flooded with requests from people to be on the show so we're trying to book as fast as we can. If you're one person that wants to be on the show, hang in there. Thank you guys for listening. Remember, I know it sounds crazy, but self love and self care are the, I think the most important lesson that we will all learn. And if you have the opportunity, go on a trip solo. It's the best gift you will ever give yourself because if you do that, you will feel empowered to do anything else. Be safe. I'm coming back next week with an incredible guest. A very powerful, self made woman, multimillionaire. She's on Netflix. She's a kick ass entrepreneur. I adore her. I get really inspired by her. I hope you guys don't miss it and I'll see you all very soon. Be safe out there. Love you.
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And this one is for everyone that loves to play poker and is planning a trip to Las Vegas.
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I just came back from Las Vegas.
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I found out about this and I.
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Want to share with you guys because.
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I had so much fun. I'm inviting you to go check out the most fun, most private poker game in town. Held right inside Aria's resort VIP poker room.
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It's called Table one and I love.
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The name and it's very fitting because this is the most exclusive, hottest poker table in town right now. Even if you're not that into poker or new to the game and want to try it out, this is a great opportunity to network with businessmen, athletes and celebrities in a super exclusive environment. Mr. Beast has played there. Dan Bian has played there. Golf pros have played in it. It's like an elite, exclusive social club, but also a really, really fun, cool environment. And you're going to play Texas, no limit. Hold them and you're going to have so much fun. It's blowing up. Definitely one of the hottest places in.
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All of Las Vegas right now.
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However, your name needs to be on the list in order for you to gain access. So make sure you send me a message if you want to do it through Instagram. Katzamuto z a m m u t o DM there or text me or WhatsApp on 1310-692-0578 to reserve your seat for priority access. And I am going to give you some incredible special comps that are only available to my guests. You guys gotta listen to this. They will reimburse your Aria hotel fee for up to $350 for each day you play the game. They will give you private transportation from the airport to the hotel, and they will give you access to special airfare deals for business and first class tickets. I mean, these guys will totally roll out the red carpet for you and you're going to have so much fun. So if you're planning a trip to Las Vegas, let me hook you up with table one and you are going to love it. Don't forget, send me a message.