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Cat K a T V day for 20 off site wide. Because pleasure should feel confident, fun, and totally on your terms. What up, Cat Kingdom? This is the first solo episode of Season 6, 2026. So for those of you who follow the show, this is probably going to be a lot of recapping, but we've been having a lot of new listeners lately. I am so proud of our worldwide community. I cannot believe we are in 58 countries and counting. So I've been getting a lot of questions, of course, about the show, my background, what's going on, the stuff I talk about. So I'm gonna do a little bit of a recap, but also what I want to do today is talk about this message that I've been sending over and over and over on my social media, which is, how do we take our power back? And you guys are going to understand exactly what I mean. So in a nutshell, for those of you who don't know me, I was born in Brazil. I did not come from a nice family at all. I come from a horrible background. Like so many of us out there, my father was a narcissist. He was a womanizer. He was crazy chaotic. He resented my mom for marrying her. Um, and my mom ended up being an alcoholic. I think a lot of you guys know the story. And sadly, she ended up killing herself in 2017, almost 10 years ago. I cannot believe that it's been almost 10 years. She died one year before my husband Anthony died. And this is the first lesson that I want to leave here for us, I. I know a lot of people that come from tough backgrounds, like, I do end up bringing all this trauma and into our lives. Like, oh, my God, you know, my family did this, my family did that. My mom did that to me, my dad did that to me. La la la la. This is why I don't have a good relationship nowadays. And don't let whatever happened to you, whatever background you come from, like, if it's like mine or many times worse, don't let that define your life. Don't let that define your future. We can totally change that narrative. And that's what I did for my life. I decided a really long time ago when I was in my teens, and I thought, you know what? I'm gonna make my life in the United States, by the way, without my parents support. My mom actually looked at me and said, what makes you think that you can be in the United States? What makes you think you're better than anybody else? What makes you think you're gonna get a green card, become a U.S. citizen? And actually, that was fuel to my fire because I wanted to prove to her that I could do it. But anyhow, way back then, I remember thinking, I don't want to be anything like my parents. I don't want to be a narcissist, a dishonest, nasty person like my. My father. And I don't want to give up on myself and give up on my life and end up being an alcoholic like my mom. So this is just a way to shift your mindset. Instead of using our family history as an excuse, use that as power to change how you are going to live your life. So to me, I think that's. That was one of the biggest lessons that defined me growing up and, and building my life here alone and putting myself through college and, and doing everything that I did. So then I was here. I know a lot of you guys know I ended up marrying a guy, and he was very wealthy when we met. I was in my 20s. He was already very, very rich, way richer than me. And. And this message goes to a lot of women out there thinking, how do I marry rich guy? I. I see every single day on social media, and it always breaks my heart. A lot of coaches, and I'm using coaches with codes because there are a lot of coaches out there saying, oh, this is what you do to marry a millionaire, and this is how you get a rich guy. No, no, no. And I'm like, ah, I'm cringing. Because let me tell you guys something. The easiest way to, to attract even okay, if you want to marry a millionaire is if you have something incredible going on in your own life. The main reason why my husband married me is not because I was the prettiest or the skinniest or Playboy bunny or anything like that, is because when he met me, although I was in my mid-20s, I had just graduated college, I had a lot going on in my own life. I had friends, I had a job, I had a career, I had a business, I drove a nice car, I didn't need anything. And it's always like that with most successful, not just men, but most successful people in the world. At the end of the day, they want a partner that can keep up. Most successful men in the world. You can be the most gorgeous woman there is. And of course, there are tons and tons of those out here, around here, Beverly Hills. They're so beautiful and they think, oh, I am beautiful. My beauty is currency. So yeah, you should kiss the ground I work walk on. But the fact of the matter is more, most successful men want a woman that has something going on up here in their head that they can actually take to a business event that they can actually take somewhere and they are going to be able to keep up with them. So this is actually the main reason why my husband fell in love with me because he used to say, wow, you're so intelligent. However, and unfortunately the story in a nutshell is that the more money he made, the more he drank. He became a full blown alcoholic. He started being a social drinker, heavy drinker, functioning alcoholic. And then he became a full blown alcoholic to the point that he started being super abusive, verbally abusive all the time, and sometimes physically abusive. And it took me all those 15 years in my journey to say, you know what? I had enough. I don't want to have this kind of behavior around me. And of course I always say that on the show and I always say that on my social media. I hope to God that no woman in the world takes 15 years to get out of any abusive situation. But I know a lot of us, and I get messages from you guys all the time, we always think that when we are in any kind of abusive, any kind of toxic relationship, that person is going to change for us. I remember for so many years, I used to say to myself and to my parents, my mom who was alive at the time, I used to say, oh, but he loves me so much. He's going to change for me. So every Time, he would call me names. Imagine being called a useless piece of and many, many worse things for 15 years. But I remember every time he used to do this to me and then sober up and then feel bad the next day and apologize and say, I'm never going to do it again, I would believe it. And of course, nowadays, I know, especially after doing the show for five years, this is our sixth year of doing Cat on the Loose and interviewing dozens and dozens and dozens of people. Interviewing dozens and dozens. And there's no experts. I'm a firm believer that nobody is going to change their behavior because they love you. They are going to change. If they decide, okay, they, this is horrible, I need help, I'm going to change. But if you think, if you are going through what I was going through, and if you think, oh, this person loves me and they're not going to change, it is very, very, very, very unlikely. So a big, big, big part of growing as a person and being able to change my life and turn my life around is that I learned that this behavior is never, ever, ever acceptable. So every single time you guys send me this message, I was just responding a bunch of messages last night on. On Facebook, and I, as you guys know, I literally try to. To answer every single one of you guys myself. Sometimes I get my team to help, but we've been inundated with messages. But many, many times, it's the same question, oh, he cheated on me. She cheated on me. Should I stay? Oh, my husband slapped me on the face the other day. What should I do? And my an going to be kind of the same. Remove yourself from toxic situations as soon as possible. And I say that, of course, I'm a woman, so I say that to women all the time, but to men as well, if something is toxic, if something is. Is disrespectful to you in any way, shape or form, chances are that that behavior is only going to get worse and worse and worse and worse, and it's not going to get better. So the sooner you get out, the sooner you can actually pick up the pieces and start rebuilding. And it's never, ever too late. And this is why I'm here looking at you and telling my story. And I try to be as open and transparent, as honest about it as I can, because I know that if I get one message from a woman out there, thank you. You made me get out of an abusive relationship. Thank you. You made me. You encouraged me to start my own business, my own side gig. You encourage me to be Financially independent, whatever it is that I'm encouraging you to do that will make your life better. I feel this is why I'm here and. And this is why I'm doing my job for you. But I. But the sooner you get out, the better, unfortunately for me, it took me 15 freaking years. And the rest of the story. Again, those of you who listen to cat on the loose know, for those of you who are new here, in a nutshell, once my husband died, I cannot believe how time goes by fast, right? 2018, I literally lost everything. We spent 15 years building together. I literally lost everything. And people ask me, like, what do you mean? What do you mean? And I know it sounds crazy, and I'm like most of you. I mean, I'm an immigrant, right? I'm a u. S. Citizen. And I. I fell in love with the United States because I believed we are so protected by our laws and our system. I was so naive back then. I was so nice. So I thought, well, you know, we are so rich. We have a will which to this day, it's like public record in. In Florida family law, family court. And I thought, well, nothing can go wrong. But everything went wrong because the courts did not enforce the will. The people that my husband trusted in charge of the will decided that they were going to take over the company, our assets, our cars. I'm. As I'm talking. If you guys are listening to the audio episode, I'm kind of laughing. But now looking back, I laugh not because it's funny, because it was a big tragedy. I mean, almost killed me, but I laugh at the story because if I saw the story in a movie screen, my story, I would be like, no way that this happens in real life. This is a freaking movie. But it does happen, and it did happen to me. And I spent two years going to court and try to talk to the judge and like, your honor, but you're not. And they would tell me to shut the hell up or they were going to hold me in contempt, which means they were going to throw me in jail if I didn't show up. Nobody helped me. My attorneys didn't help me. Nobody did anything for me at all. So I saw myself. I found myself grieving the death of my mom, grieving the death of my husband without any assets whatsoever. I lost my homes, all our bank accounts, everything was taken from me. Everything I inherited, all my personal property, everything was gone. And I think I spoke in more detail in. In past episodes about the situation, and I know the details of the story are for a future episode. Because that's not the. The purpose of this, this show. The purpose of this show is to help you take your power back. So, okay, then all that crap happened. Imagine going downstairs to your bank, and you. You think you have half a million dollars in one account, you think you have $30,000 in another account, and you go downstairs to your bank, and the bank accounts are closed. So I'm like, what the am I going to do now? So this is the interesting part about the story. When I was rich, I had hundreds of people around me, right? We had homes in different places. I always threw incredible parties. To this day, if you Google me, you see some information videos of my parties and events and things that I did. I always try to be extremely generous to my group of friends. So I thought, well, you know, I'm going to start asking people around for jobs and opportunities. I know so many people and. And everybody ran away like rats. True story. The closest people to me. The closest people to me that used to sleep on my couch when they had an issue, swim in my swimming pools, be around me all the time, drink my champagne. This is why I use this expression, champagne, friends. The closest people to me ran away like rats once. I did not have money. And I think it hurt me. And it hit me so much harder realizing that I was surrounded by people who are really just interested in what I had as opposed to people that were interested in being a part of my life. That hurt me so much more than actually losing everything, because, of course, did I deserve it? No. Nobody deserves to lose everything they work for. Nobody deserves to lose everything they. They build with, with a. A partner, with a husband. However, the people that took everything from me, they thought, oh, you know, this woman is going to end up homeless on the street. She's. She has nothing. But the funny thing is, I love to work. I never minded working. I started working at a very, very, very early age. I did my first TV commercial when I was 4 years old. So working and producing and being creative was always ingrained in me. And that was a big fight, by the way, in my marriage because my husband was. Was so obsessed with controlling me. He didn't want me to work. He didn't let me work. He was always humiliating me whenever I wanted to do something, Whenever I wanted to do a job, he would say, oh, why are you going to waste your time with that? I make more money in an hour than you're going to make in a month. But once I lost everything, I was like, well, what am I going to do. I'm going to roll up my sleeves and go back to work. I'm going to produce, I'm going to do something, but nobody gave me an opportunity. And that was probably one of the most painful, but one of the most awakening experiences of my life. It doesn't matter if you're surrounded by hundreds of people. It's never about quantity. It's all about quality. It's so much better to have 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 very, very close people in your life. I don't care if it's a relative, if it's a friend, whatever it is that really, really care about. You have your back when you need them, as opposed to have, like I say, this champagne, friends. Oh, my God. I threw a party and 250 people show up, you know, in a minute, right? Who the needs that? So that was a big, big, big realization to me. And I remember one of my closest friends at the time, and again, friends, quote, unquote, right? Because obviously she wasn't a friend because she was one of the people that disappear when she realized what was happening to me. She said, oh, my God, Catherine, what are you going to do? I mean, how do you go from being a multi millionaire, traveling the world, having all these homes, and now what are you gonna do? Where are you gonna live? You don't have anything. You should jump off of the balcony. Because in Miami, our apartment was at the Four Seasons residence and the 58th floor. We had a mansion in Las Vegas. We had a house here in Beverly Hills, but in Miami, it was a condo. And she said to me, she said, you should jump off of the balcony. And the day she said that, I remember looking at myself in the mirror and I thought, you know what? I just love life so much. I just lost my mother because she obviously was miserable. She didn't like her life, so she took her own life. Then a year later, my husband died from many, many complications due to alcoholism. And it's a much longer, complicated story. And I thought, I don't want to end up like them, so I am going to to swim. It was sink or swim. I'm like, I made that decision and that was the moment that I thought, I'm going to take my power back. I'm going to swim. I don't know where I'm going to end up. I have no idea what's going to happen to me, but I am going to try. It's always better to die trying to do something that you love doing, trying to go after your dreams. Then die frustrated or sad or disappointed because you were so afraid of trying. You're just stuck there. Or you think you don't deserve to make your dreams come true. Quick pause. 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So whether Valentine's Day is about connection, curiosity or self love, go to we vibe.com we vibe.com and use my code Kat Vday Cat K-A-T V day for 20 off site wide. Because pleasure is power and confidence is always sexy. So that day I packed my car and I said I'm gonna move back to Beverly Hills, which is the place that I love, it's the place that makes me happy and same thing. And I don't know if this helps you or not, but it's. I use, I use this theory to this day in my life. I actually designed an entire course that is called the upgrade method because it is what helped me rebuild my life. And by the way, it wasn't overnight, right? This is the seventh year, but it helped me rebuild my life from 2018 to today. I call it the upgrade method. And what does it mean? It means exactly the opposite. What most people do in my situation. So when most people are broke, right? Like let's say you're in financial distress or you don't have enough or you go through a horrific divorce, which affects so many times, it affects the women, right? Whatever it is that you're going through that is difficult in your life, the mindset of most people is, well, I gotta cut back on everything. So you move to the suburbs and you sell your car and you're like, oh, I know I love drinking my coffee in the morning at that fancy coffee shop, but I can't afford it anymore. So you Start downgrading your life. But the problem with doing that, with constantly downgrading your life, is that you end up there because you decide this is what you deserve. So I always use this. Of course, it's. It's an analogy. But I say, like, if you live in a really shitty area, you're going to be surrounded by shitty people and very likely with a lot of people that already gave up on their lives if you decide, oh, I'm gonna eat every night, I'm gonna sit at McDonald's, and I'm gonna eat at McDonald's because it's really cheap. Well, you are certainly very, very unlikely to meet someone at McDonald's that will give you a job, that it will give you an opportunity that will open an amazing door for you. You are much more likely to sit at McDonald's with people that decided their health doesn't matter, their body doesn't matter, their life doesn't matter, and that they're miserable in their existence. They disqualify themselves from the game of life. Life. And that's what most people do, right? I have. I know people like that. They're like, oh, I want to get a paycheck. Nothing wrong with wanting to get a paycheck, by the way. But they're like, I want to get a paycheck. I want to work nine to five, and then I want to go home, and then I want to drink beer or I want to eat some cheap place, because that's it. But that's where you end up. And when I packed my dogs in my car and I said, I'm gonna move back to Beverly Hills and start my life over, same thing, the few people that are around me were like, are you crazy? Beverly Hills is one of the most expensive places in the world. You don't have money. You don't have anything. You lost everything. And I said, no, I'm actually not crazy. I'm going to immediately start trying to upgrade my life again. I'm going to be in a place with people that are way more successful than me, that are way more intelligent, or no, more than me, that are happier than me, that have the life that I want. Maybe I can start opening doors for me again. And sure enough, I know it sounds absurd, but step by step by step, that's how I rebuild. And by the way, I literally designed a bunch of courses that you guys can go there. And I think 99 of them are free. I think only 1. You have to pay, like, maybe 29 bucks or 39 bucks for it like full disclosure. But I have a lot of free resources on my stand store. You guys can go to Stan store slash Catalina, get on the loose. And all the links are all over my social media. Download this crap for free because there you can read in detail. What does she mean? The upgrade method, how do you do it? I literally dissect step by step by step of how I did it. I. I have a course called how to become a Phoenix because that was a big analogy. Same thing that happened in my life and happened helps me in my life to this day. If you guys don't know the story, right, The Phoenix, that is the bird that rises from the ashes, always stronger. I always have that analogy in my head. I have a tattoo. I. I made a tattoo of a phoenix on my leg when this was all going down. I rescued the dog, by the way. Phoenix, my bestie, he's turning. He is turning six tomorrow. I rescue him right when he was born in the shelter. And I always think about this analogy. I'm a Phoenix. I'm a Phoenix. No matter what people try to do to me, I rise a million times stronger. And anybody can learn how to become a Phoenix. It's not me. I'm not better than anybody else. I'm not stronger than anybody else. Maybe I, I was more resilient than a lot of people. Maybe I had a few more resources than some people. Maybe I had this Delulu method of the upgrade method, but it works. But you can become a Phoenix as well. So if you feel you're in the ashes right now, again, don't disqualify yourself from the game of life. Become a freaking Phoenix and show everybody what you are capable of. And this is one thing that I want to mention as by the way guys, as you know, you know, cut on the loose is like 100 organic. It's never scripted. I did not script this. It's all coming to my mind. So forgive me if I jump in there back and forth because I did take notes. But I want it to put pack up as much information as I possibly can here. What worked for me to take my power back. Because I want you to take your power back too. So I keep remembering stories and, and bringing that, bringing them up as I go. So being a Phoenix is something that always, always, always helps me. And what I want to mention is that when something does something to you, somebody does something to you, right? In my case, the people that my husband and I trusted the most in this world that were responsible for the will betrayed us. And Decided, no, Catherine is not going to inherit all her. We're going to take over, we're going to take everything. Usually people that do that, anything that they take from you and it could be your case, it could be any case, you can apply that to anything. Let's say you are in a relationship and you found out your significant or cheated on you. Whatever it is that they do to you, they're actually doing it to themselves. It means if somebody took money from you, they took a job from you, they took an opportunity for you, they are not capable of creating their own opportunities. These people that, that took everything from me and my dead husband, they are so freaking incompetent losers. They were never capable of building anything on their own. So they go, oh, I'm gonna take it from somebody else. Why do you think a thief is a thief? That's exactly why. Because they're so freaking lame. That person is such a loser that they're like, oh, the only way I'm ever gonna have this watch, the only way I'm ever gonna have this car is if I forcibly take it from someone. You have to be such a delusional loser to decide you should take something that's not yours. But that's why people do it. And it's the same thing with cheaters. Why do you think they cheat? It has nothing to do with you. You can, you can be the most wonderful person in the world, the most gorgeous, the most loyal, the sweete, dedicated. The cheater thinks he's never going to be good enough. That person has no ethics. Whatever it is that's going on in their head, sometimes they're a narcissist. Sometimes they think, whatever the hell it is that they think that is not good enough. The cheating problem is on them. It's never on you. They are simply not capable of being a loyal, responsible, ethical adult. It's really, really that simple. We complicated. I know. Especially women, right? When somebody cheats on you, like, oh my God, did I do something wrong? Is she better than me? Is she prettier than me? It has nothing to do with you. The cheater cheats because they don't have those characteristics that make people not cheat. Even if you don't want to be in a relationship anymore, somebody who is loyal, somebody who is honest, somebody who has ethics, they look you in the eyes and they say, look, this is what's going on. A, B, C, D, la la. And I need to be out of this relationship. They don't go and do behind your back and lie behind your back. So remember that before you blame yourself for anything that somebody did to you, they do it simply because they're not capable of being any better. And unfortunately, it's something that happens a lot. Right. So I'm. I move back to Beverly Hills, and as I am rebuilding my life bit by bit by bit, and this is what I want to say. I do. I believe in overnight success. Yeah. But it's kind of like winning the lottery, right? Does it happen? Of course. But it's very, very, very, very rare. Most people that build anything significant is because they keep going. They do one baby step at a time without ever, ever, ever stopping and not giving up. On the same token, the main reason why most people don't achieve their goals, don't achieve their dreams, is because they get started, and the first month they're super excited. And the second month they're excited, and the third month, they're like, oh, this is really hard. And then maybe on the fourth Monday, like, I'm done. I cannot deal with this. That's it. So the key is, no matter what anybody tells you, you have to keep going. And I say that in my journey because I don't want to sit here, like, today. You guys see the. The. We always post on social media the final product, right? We post the beautiful photos, the beautiful videos. Look what I did. Oh, look at my show. I have this audience. No, no, no. But I don't want to give anybody this phony illusion. Oh, yeah. I showed up here and I look fabulous. And I had all the success and I had all these clients. No, I showed up here and I went through hell and high water for a really, really, really, really long time. I started. When I started the show, I started Cat on the Loose when Covet had just hit. I was sitting in my teeny, teeny, teeny tiny apartment, and I was like, what the am I gonna do? Nobody's hiring. There is no jobs. I don't. I literally don't know what to do. And I remember there was a Brazilian radio station, the largest Brazilian radio station in the United States. And the owner of the radio station gave me an opportunity. This was just before COVID He was like, oh, you can come every Tuesday afternoon and you can do a live show for four hours, and you can bring in the sponsors and you get, like, whatever, 20 of the sponsorship. So he gave me a platform. So there I go to the. To the Brazilian radio station, and I am so excited. And sure enough, I brought in all kinds of fantastic sponsors. Great, great guests, super Famous people from the Brazilian community all the way to the ambassador of Brazil in the United States, celebrities, you name it. So my show, within a few months was the number one show of this Brazilian radio station. We had about 65,000 listeners on Tuesday's afternoon. So one day we're sitting there having some kind of a meeting, like a creative meeting. And I said something that I wanted to do on the show and the owner of the the radio station didn't like it. And he looked at me, he said, listen to me, you are a useless piece of. All of you girls that work here are useless, talentless pieces of. The only reason you're here is because I'm giving you the chance. So shut the up. So that day I got up, I did the show, I swallowed my tears and I left and I said, I'm not gonna put up ever again with a man telling me to shut the up, telling me I'm an useless piece of. Because I already put up with this for 15 years from my husband. This is what taking your power back means. You need to make a decision for yourself regarding things that you will never accept accept in your life again. And once you do that, you lift a huge, huge weight off of your shoulders. You simply don't accept it. It's like a non negotiable. For me to this day, a non negotiable is I will never accept ever again a man calling me names or telling me to go myself and anything like that. So I left and I'm sitting in my apartment and I remember seeing something like an ad from Spotify, from podcasters, and I'm like, oh, wow. I had no idea what a podcast was. I don't think they were that big back then, six years ago, as they are big now. There were a few people doing them, but we didn't talk a lot about them. And I was so frustrated and I was feeling so alone and I was feeling so lost. I'm like, I'm gonna vent about all this that is happening to me. I am trying to rebuild my life again. I am trying to make money, I am trying to find my voice. And I'm back into dating. And I think because I was so abused for so long, I kept dating creep after creep after creep. I kept repeating the pattern. I kept dating men that were liars, narcissists, that cheated on me, that lied to me, that call me names like one after the other. That was always the energy that I was attracting. So anyhow, I come up with this name, cat on the loose, because I'm, like, literally on the loser. I have no idea where I'm gonna end up with my life. And I'm venting, and I'm talking about it. And I decided my style is to be very real. And this is what means to be organic. I don't want a script. This is not acting. It's not a TV show. I'm. I don't want to cut parts. If I say something stupid, I'm gonna run with it, and I'm gonna make it 100 organic and. And never edited, never scripted. I had no idea it could become a business. I just did it from a place of my heart. I started talking and talking and talking and venting and venting and venting. And if you go to the first episodes I did six years ago and you listen to the stories, of course I'm not the same. I'm not the same person that I was six years ago, but I cringe because I listen to all the stories. Like what this man did to me. The dude that cheated on me on Valentine's Day because he was spending Valentine's Day with his ex girlfriend the whole day in bed. The dude that cheated on me on my birthday. The dude that did this. But as I was venting and telling my stories out loud, I realized I started getting messages from you guys, from women and men from different countries saying, oh, my God, I have something similar that happened to me. Oh, my God. I'm like, wow. So if I am venting and giving voice to other people to be able to tell their stories and take back their narrative and take back their power and change their life and go after their dreams, I'm gonna run with this. So I kept going and going and going and going. And by the way, if you are an aspiring podcaster on. Or an aspiring anything for that matter, right? Aspiring actor, aspiring director, whatever it is that your dream is. Again, most people give up because they're like, oh, I'm gonna try. And I get that message a lot. How do you monetize the podcast? How do you get so many sponsors? It was not overnight. The only reason why the show is where it is today is because I kept showing up week after week after week after week after week. Of course, nobody saw what I was going through behind the scenes. Nobody saw my struggles. Nobody saw where I was living. Nobody saw my pain. I always kept that, like, bottled up. But I kept showing up for my audience week after week after week after week. So I want to remind you, whatever your dream is, your dream is very, very valid. Nobody's better than you. Even if you say my dream is to become an actor and win an Oscar, anybody deserves to have that dream. And your dream is very valid. But you cannot give up on it. Remember that if you want to take anything from this episode, you need to keep going. And when it gets gets crazy, crazy, crazy hard, they're like, ah, I can't do this today. I'm having the shittiest day I ever did. 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They met on Bumble, they fell in love, they got married and they built this this empire. But she's super real and she's insanely inspirational. I try to follow very inspirational people that know a lot more than me and make a Lot more money than me. And Layla always says she even made like a sweatshirt with this phrase, your mood, do the work. And I always live by that. I can be feeling like absolute. We all have problems, right? We all go through something horrible. Like I'm, I share with you guys. I've been through so much tragedy. Can you imagine losing your mom a year later, losing your husband? Then you go down to your bank account like everything you had is gone. I mean, I've been through so much, but my mood, yeah. If you want to eat, if you want to put a roof of your head, if you want to do this, show up, show up. No matter what it is that you're going through, please don't disqualify yourself. So the answer to how do you make a project success successful? Don't give your project an expiration date. I took a one second pause to have a sip of love because I don't have a guest. And. And I'm talking, talking, talking, and I'm almost running out of time. There's still so many more, more things that I want to tell you guys, but I want to squeeze a few more things in here. Remember that people show up here in Hollywood every day. Like, oh, I'm gonna try to be an actor for a year. I'm gonna give this a year. What? There's a famous phrase here in Hollywood. Overnight success takes 10 years. Not everybody has overnight success in a year. If you have a dream, make a commitment to your dream for yourself. Prove everybody wrong. In my case, when those people that took everything from me, they actually called me and said, we took over the company, we took over everything. And if you don't do exactly what we want, you are going to end up on the street with nothing. This phrase is tattooed in my brain. This phrase has been fueled to my fire every single day of my life. When my mom said to me, what makes you think that you can. You're better than anybody else you can be in the United States? And I thought, I'm not better than anybody else at all. But I am determined, and I want to build my life in the United States. I want to build my life in a place that makes me happy. And that phrase was tattooed in my brain and every single day fed my fire to keep me going. So find a pain point, something that really, really hurts you. Maybe something that somebody said to you, maybe something horrible that happened to you. Maybe a dream that you think, oh, that person has that dream. But I really want that dream as well to myself. Find something that Keeps you going. And remember that every single day. But the key for whatever it is that we want to do in life, the only expiration date is when we're dead, right? I think that's the only. We can all agree that the only guarantee we have in this life is that we are going to die. But as long as we're alive and as long as we have our health, that nothing is impossible. You can keep going and going and going. In my journey again, I always use the upgrade method. To this day, I try to put myself in positions and situations with people that know a lot more than me. I'm a freaking sponge. I'm always trying to soak up. Even when you're following on social media. I know so many women follow other women on social media. They're like, oh, she's so much thinner than me. She's richer than me. I'm never gonna be good enough. I can't. And then they leave nasty comments, right? A lot of people like to trash celebrities. I see so many nasty comments about Kim Kardashian. She's a horrible actress. She's this, oh, JLo is that. Why are they trashing? Because they're unhappy with their own lives? Because happy, successful people don't have time to throw anybody online. I think there is space for everyone. I'm a huge advocate for women empowering women, and for people empowering people for that matter. I think there is space for everyone, and I think together we are so much stronger that I don't see the need. If I see something on social media that I don't like, I literally just scroll past it. There's like billions of active accounts, right? And if I see something that really inspires me, like Layla that I just mentioned to you guys, I follow her every day, and I put a nice comment there. I know my show is not for everybody. And so when I see the trolls leaving a nasty comment, I'm like, well, thank you so much that you actually spend time of your life to leave a nasty comment. And when I see a positive comment, I'm like, okay, this is amazing. You cannot please everybody. So there is no point in trying to make the entire world happy. At the end of the day, we do the best we can. And if you love it, if it resonates with you, everything that I'm saying by opening up my story, if you get a. If you finish watching this episode or listening to the audio episode and you say, yes, amazing, I'm gonna take a baby step towards my dream. Fantastic. Let me know Send me a message and I want to share if there is anything I. I can help to make you, help you make your dreams come true, I am 1 million percent all for it. I think he obviously, needless to say, right, if everybody had a positive attitude towards helping everyone, the world would be a much better place. And I think we need so much love right now because of everything that is going on. And again, how do you break patterns? You need to make a decision for yourself that you don't want that in your life anymore, whatever the pattern is. In my case, my pattern was dating horrible, horrible, toxic man. And one day I woke up and I said, I'm a nice person. I'm loyal, I'm kind, I'm intelligent. I deserve better. That's it. That's it. I took my power back. I will never date any one of these men again. I will never date a narcissist again. I will never do that. Take your power back if you're going through any kind of financial hardship, right? A lot of us, I was coaching this girl the other day, and she found me on Tick Tock and we did a coaching session and she said to me, oh, my dream was always to have this and that and that business, but I have everything on paper and I never did it, anything about it. I said, girl, run with it. Run. Her business was really good, by the way. So now, two weeks later, she has a website. She started a LinkedIn account, she started an Instagram account. She's out there. So having a dream in our head, we. And I'm a huge advocate for manifestation, of course, and manifesting is amazing, but we gotta take action, right? Things only happen if we take action. So as you're listening to this episode, run with it. I always say, I know a lot of people are planners. I'm not much of a planner. After everything that happened to me, I'm more like, let's do it. Let's just do it. Because we learn as we go, right? Nobody knows everything, whatever businesses that you want to start. Like I said, if you want to start a podcast. When I started podcast, I didn't know about podcasting. To this day, I'm trying to learn and, and be as best as I can and listen to your messages and. And try to bring content that resonates with you. At the end of the day, this is a show for us to learn together. And people ask me that all the time. Are you a coach? No, I'm not a coach. I just tell you what worked for me. Rebuilding my life. And my successful businesses. And hopefully I can give you the power and the tools to go out there and just run with it and do the same. So if you're a planner, great. I love vision boards, all that stuff, right? I do lists. I write a lot of notes on my phone. But you gotta take baby steps. I remember a few years ago, maybe two years ago, another person that I adore, Giselle Benchen, the Brazilian supermodel. She wrote on her social media, she was like, every single day, before you go to sleep, ask yourself, did I take at least one baby step, step towards the direction of my dreams? If the answer is yes, amazing. Maybe tomorrow you can take two baby steps and then three and then four, because it's the famous snowball effect, right? But if you're just dreaming in your head and doing nothing, I don't think somebody's gonna knock on your door and say, hey, hi. I know you're fantastic, and here's a million dollars, right? We need to take action. And I really hope this episode empowers you. And this is why I said, take your power back. We never lose our power. Maybe somebody tries to suck it away from you. Maybe we forget we have that power within us. Like I forgot during my marriage, I forgot. I literally forgot my voice. I forgot how intelligent I was. I forgot a lot of things. But our power is always inside us. And the way you take it back is putting yourself first, never being in an abusive relationship, never letting anybody disrespect you, never letting anybody tell you that your dreams are not valid. Hey, look, if you have a support system, fantastic. I wish everybody had a support system, right? If you have relatives, a spouse, a friend, that. That is rooting for you, amazing. But if you don't, like, it was my case, it doesn't matter. Be your biggest support system. Look at yourself in the mirror. Say, I know you can do it. Go for it. This is what it means. Take your power back. Take every step you possibly can to make your dreams come true. Because at the end of our life, I'm sure we want to look back and say, you know what? Maybe I wasn't the richest. Maybe I was the most successful, but I tried. I was working towards my dreams. I love you guys so much. I am bringing so many amazing guests this season. I am trying to read every single message. I am so grateful for every single one of you that keeps tuning in and growing. Our incredible, incredible, incredible cat on the loose community. This is a kingdom where we are all kings, we are all queens, we all respect each other. We do not tolerate any bs. So keep sending your messages. Be safe out there. Never, ever, ever give up on love. Remember, even if somebody hurt you, if somebody broke your heart, if somebody disrespected you, it does not mean everybody coming after then is going to do the same. Because the right person for you is out there trying to find you. Okay? I love you and I'll come back very soon with another great episode. And if you enjoyed the show, please share with your friends. Thank you, Love you drink love. Thank you, love. Thank you, Beverly Hills Content Studio, Content Creation Studios for our beautiful new set. I really appreciate you guys. I'll see you very soon. Thank you.