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Nelly Sudry
Guys, thanks for helping me carry my Christmas tree.
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Santa
Zoe, this thing weighs a ton. Drew Ski, lift with your legs, man.
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Nelly Sudry
Santa. Santa, did you get my letter?
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Santa
He's talking to you britches.
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Cat Zamuto
I'm not.
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Nelly Sudry
Of course he did.
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Cat Zamuto
Right, Santa, you know my elf Drew Ski here.
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Santa
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Nelly Sudry
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Cat Zamuto
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Nelly Sudry
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Santa
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Cat Zamuto
Visit t mobile.com Here we go. New week, new episode of Cat on the Loose. Sex, dating and relationships. 100% organic. Never edited. And for those of you who are new to Cat on the Loose, welcome to our fast growing worldwide cat kingdom where we can speak freely about sex, dating and relationships with no judgment, no filters. This podcast is a little bit different than your usual podcast because like I said, it's 100% organic, meaning we do not edit our interviews at all. It's never scripted. It's a very real conversation and it's not always in studio. Many times we record in real life, sometimes at the homes of our guests, sometimes in places where we interact with our guests such as events, restaurants, etc. It is truly a window into our lives and it is meant to to open up conversations and invite everyone to join in. We have 247 open lines of communications for you guys via WhatsApp 1305332-0338 via email, contact cat on the loose.com and of course on social media at real Cat on the Loose and my social media Instagram catzamuto Z A M M U T O. So please feel free to chime in anytime. I love, love, love to hear and this is really for you. We have Audiences now in over 47 countries and growing. So thank, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, every single one of you guys for listening. I love you and I really hope you guys enjoyed this episode. My guest today, Nelly Sudri, is the number one dating coach and matchmaker for high value singles. She is so specific and so niche when it comes to her work that she actually trademarks marked the word high value. I love talking to Nelly. She is insanely intelligent. She really knows her game. She's Colombia educated. It was a really, really fun conversation and she actually explains to me really well what she considers a high value person. You may not really think what you might consider high value. I hope you guys enjoy this really fun information packed episode with Nelly. And if you guys want to see her work on Instagra, it's ask.nelly n e, l l y. But before we get going with today's episode, I want to introduce you guys to a company that I love very much here in Los Angeles. Gold Standard Builders. Your one stop shop for all your remodeling needs serving the greater Los Angeles area. So if you've been thinking about redoing your kitchen, maybe if your bathroom is outdated or you want to get your backyard ready for the summer, summer, or if your house has some damage from all this crazy rains we've been getting here in la, you can totally trust these guys. They do incredible work, very fair prices. The owner is very hands on. They're licensed, bonded, insured. You can totally trust their work. They offer free estimates and free consultations. Give them a call, 1-800-469-9189. You can check all their great work on their website. Go gold standard builders.com Big shout out to the Burrat House. One of my favorite casual dining places in the heart of West Hollywood. They make authentic, delicious, fresh Italian food, sandwiches, pasta, salads with the delicious, delicious, fresh burrata on top. On 161 South Crescent Heights. So, so if you're looking for a place that you can have a quick bite for lunch, dinner, takeout for your family, this is it. And I love, of course, supporting local businesses. So if you guys are in the Los Angeles area, West Hollywood, go check out the Burata house. If you guys want to see pictures, burata house.com on Instagram Burrata House. I love, love, love their food so much. Everything is really, really yummy.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Okay, Cat kingdom. This is going to be a very interesting conversation because I love my guest. She's very high value and we're gonna talk about what that means. Nelly Sudry, number one dating coach and matchmaker for high value singles. Hi, Nellie. Hi.
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Nelly Sudry
Wow, what an intro.
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Cat Zamuto
Thank you so much.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Welcome back to Cat on the Loose because we had you before, but I want to up the ante on this conversation because after I had you last season, I got literally dozens and dozens of questions and comments. And now your work is even bigger. Your Instagram gets so many messages because your videos are so real. So we're gonna talk about all of that. So for people. Let's rewind a little bit. For my audience that is new and for people that don't know you, can you explain a little bit what you do and what does it mean to be a high value person?
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Nelly Sudry
Absolutely. Thanks for having me back. It's always a pleasure. Pleasure, yeah. So what I do, I own a matchmaking business and I also am a dating coach. I have been featured in Forbes and Business Insider and Yahoo. Finance and lots of publications. And I have amassed over a million followers between Instagram and TikTok combined. I have gotten a degree from Columbia, certificate from Harvard Business School. Because I know, you know, in this field, a lot of people always question your credibility. And so my degrees in mediation and conflict resolution and negotiation, which I think is really important in this field because if you think about relationships, it's what about when you think about them, it's what do you bring to the table? And that within itself is negotiation. You know, I hate to make it and sum it up to, like, something transactional, but it's a lot of like, what are you going to do for me and what am I going to do for you? And are we going to be able to, like, you know, come to an agreement where both of us are mutually satisfied? Um, and then I have, you know, course as well for women called manifesting. Mr. Right. Which thousands of women have taken.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Wow.
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Nelly Sudry
It's.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I think I need to take that. But. Okay, let's pause there. So like you were saying, you have credentials, you know your game, because there are a lot of matchmakers, quote, unquote, out there. A lot of people saying, oh, my God, I'm gonna match, I'm gonna match. But very few people can back that up by credentials like you. Do you know what you're talking about?
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Nelly Sudry
Credentials and testimonials.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Credentials and testimonials. You're. And. And I am a huge fan of your work. I love your videos. I think you're very, very real. You know what you're doing now. You specialize in high value men and women. You trademarked the word high value?
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Nelly Sudry
Yeah.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
So can you explain to my audience what does that mean? Because a lot of people don't. Maybe they're like, what is she talking about? What does it mean? Maybe they think it's related to money, but it doesn't necessarily mean something related to having money.
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Nelly Sudry
So the definition is different for men than it is for women.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Oh, really?
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Nelly Sudry
Yes. Okay, so high value, when we think about it in the context of dating, is referring to the most valuable, slash, eligible bachelors and bachelorettes in the dating marketplace. It doesn't mean that someone is a more valuable person per se. But when we think about dating, you know, it's competitive. You're in a pool of singles. And so the people who are high value are the ones that honestly, there's the most demand for. Kind of like if you were in an employment marketplace, you'd have some candidates that were more qualified and had more credentials than other people, and those candidates would be more valuable to certain companies. In dating, if you're a woman and you're high value, you're going to be more desirable to the most eligible group of bachelors. And if you're a man and you're high value, you're going to be most eligible to women. So that's what it means. And you know, it is different for men and women because men and women date off of different criteria. Women tend to prioritize, and studies show this socioeconomic status and prestige as a driver in terms of mate selection. Men tend to prioritize things like is she nurturing, is she attractive, you know, appearance, femininity as things that are more important to them. Now, everyone, of course, is different, but for the most part, the studies show that these are the drivers. They're still somewhat primal. And because those are the drivers, that is part of what dictates what the definition for high value is between men and women.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Okay, so a high value man would be a guy that is successful, has money, has a good financial situation.
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Nelly Sudry
So yes, I actually sum it up in terms of four criteria. Okay, so criteria number one is definitely monetary success. Because, yes, success might mean something different to everybody, but we live in the real world. Things are quantifiable. So I believe it's $100,000 a year minimum, consistently earned over the course of at least three to five years.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Okay, so you're being very specific, so there is no, no confusion.
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Nelly Sudry
Well, this is the first pillar of four. So I'm being specific because when you ask women what you know, typically what makes a man desirable, a lot of Women, because they rank socioeconomic status and prestige, want a man who is high earning and six figures is the minimum. The second criteria is someone who's well groomed. Doesn't mean that they have to be Brad Pitt with a six pack. But you know, you can't be a.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Schlump, you can't sloppy take care of their appearance.
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Nelly Sudry
Correct. And I think, you know, even if you look in the corporate world, I come from a corporate background before I started matchmaking, the people who get promoted, the men who really are high up in the ranks and they're well put together, they're well groomed. Yeah, sometimes they might have a few extra pounds, dad bods in whatever, but for the most part you need to look, you know, well groomed because that's how you make your way up in society and that's how you're also going to be able to move and groove with other high value men. Which brings me to the third pillar. You have a network of high value men that you roll with because you know, as the saying goes, your network is your net worth, but also you need to be verifiable and signed off by other high value men. So, and you can't get to the top by yourself, you need other people to help you get there a lot of the time. So you have a network. And network can mean you've got people on LinkedIn endorsing you. Network can mean you have, you know, a circle. It's somewhat vague, but people who understand this will understand that a network plays into the definition. And then the fourth pillar is someone who is verifiable, you know, because there are a lot of people who are making over a hundred grand a year and well groomed and they, you know, maybe have a network, but they're doing shady business. And the reason that's a really important thing to mention is because women are hardwired to seek out men who are going to provide them with safety and security. Provide and protect. Right. You can't feel safe. A lot of the times when you're around someone who's jeopardizing that by engaging in shady business.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Right.
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Nelly Sudry
So, so verifiable. So I need to be able to look you up on LinkedIn or see you on a publication.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Yes. Some kind of trace. I know a lot of and I have a lot of friends here in la. They say they're very wealthy and they say, oh, I don't want to do social media, I don't have a website, blah, blah, which is fine. But somehow, somewhere you should Be able to prove who you are. Right. If you're not doing anything wrong, any illicit activities like you're saying you should.
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Cat Zamuto
Be able to prove who you are.
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Nelly Sudry
Yeah, I mean, listen, you don't have to be a public figure per, but you just, you need to be verifiable. You can't be engaging in shady business.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I totally agree. Now, for women, what consists of a high value woman? Because I know a lot of women and I want to talk about the beauty part of it in a minute because I know, especially here in la and you tell me if you agree with me, a lot of girls are beautiful and they're like, oh, I'm pretty, I'm high value, that's it, I should be dating a millionaire. But it's not that simple. It's not just about being pretty. Correct?
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Nelly Sudry
Yeah, definitely not. And I also see a lot of women on the other end of the spectrum who will say, oh, but I'm successful, I make over 100 grand a year, so I'm a high value woman. And, and I would actually beg to differ, I think, with women. Because, you know, if you think about, like I said, those drivers that play into mate selection, men don't date women for their wealth, especially high value men, because they don't have to. They already have their money. They're dating women for other reasons. So a woman's earning or earning potential is not what constitutes her as a high value woman. And I don't say that to knock the successful ladies out there. You know, I'm a business owner, I'm an educated woman. I understand the reasons why that gives us a sense of sometimes self actualization. But that doesn't make you high value in the context of dating because that's not what actually makes you attractive to men as a, as a barrier to entry. Because I know there are gonna be people who see this and say, oh, well, actually I like a woman who's independent and makes money. Cool. But that's probably not what's getting you to ask her out. Right? Which brings me to the first thing. Femininity. You know, femininity is something that is a broad word, but you know, feminine in your appearance, feminine in your manners, feminine energy, someone who's feminine, that's attractive to men especially because, you know, men like to be around women who make them feel like men. So if a man wants to feel masculine, what's the, what's the polar opposite of that femininity? Second is someone who's disciplined, because if you're disciplined, that's Going to play into all aspects of your life. Right. If you're disciplined about what you put in your body, about your workout regimen, about how you live your life, that's important, especially to high value men, because you need to add value and you need to be able to get on board with his life. And if a man is high value, he's probably disciplined. He's probably got.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Very likely. Yes.
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Nelly Sudry
So you need to have a level of discipline in your life as well. You need to be able to take care of yourself in that way. I'm going to mention fitness. You know, you don't have to be a bodybuilder. You don't even have to really be like going to the gym all the time if you are.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I think that goes for men and women, right? High value people in general, like you said, they take care of themselves, they take care of their appearance, period.
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Nelly Sudry
But there's a difference between being well groomed and being fit, right? So like I said, with men, actually, they don't need to be fit to be high value.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
You don't think so?
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Nelly Sudry
No, I don't.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Really?
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Nelly Sudry
No. Because, you know, I think they need to be well groomed, but I don't think they need to be fit. Do I think that helps their marketplace value? For sure, for sure. But, but I don't think that makes them high value because if it, you know, for example, there are lots of men who are ripped, I wouldn't consider them high value because they're simply not successful. There are also a lot of guys who are really successful. Look at, you know, the, the presidents, right? Do the presidents have six packs? No, but, yeah, I don't care if you're a Democrat or if you're Republican, by the way, but none of those guys have six packs.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I wouldn't consider them high value.
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Nelly Sudry
I would totally consider them high value.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Oh, my God. I would not. Well, I would consider them high trash. As a matter of fact, any politician in my book, I'd be like, now, I would never consider dating a politician, so.
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Nelly Sudry
Well, that's you. But I would say the majority. But I would say the majority of, you know, if you're a head of state, you're high value for sure. You know, even if, like, I don't want to get into politics really, on this podcast. But yeah, I would totally beg to differ on that point. But regardless, for women, you know, your fitness plays into your discipline. If you are taking care of yourself, that shows a man, okay, she's going to maintain herself after children, hypothetically, if they have children or she's gonna, you know, be a status symbol to me. Because your appearance, your beauty, ladies, is currency in the dating marketplace. And I know that this is kind of like against the counter culture. A lot of, there's a lot of conversation and dialogue right now about looks are not everything. I didn't say they were everything.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
No, I know you say that. And when you post these videos on your, on your social media, I know you get a lot of backlash, but you're, you're telling the truth. And I say that in different words. I always talk about it on the podcast and on my social media that the world sees us from the outside in, period. Like, it doesn't matter if you have a great heart, if you're honest, if you're loyal, if you're adorable, the first thing they see is how you look like.
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Nelly Sudry
Yes.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
So if you're in the dating mar, like you, I love this. You say marketplace like we're, we're a commodity. But it's the truth. If you're in the dating marketplace, if you're putting yourself out there, that's the first thing people are going to look at is the outside.
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Nelly Sudry
Well, and I don't want to objectify anyone, but we're always selling ourselves for sure. So, you know, commodity is one word, but we're always selling ourselves. And we want to get, we want to, you know, we want to use our bargaining power and get the best.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
But let's be honest, if you look like you should expect shitty results, you cannot look like shit and go out and try to get a date and think, oh, my God, I am going.
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Cat Zamuto
To hook up with a high value guy or a successful guy or a.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Guy that takes great care of himself. That's like insane.
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Nelly Sudry
I always say you don't attract what you want in life, you attract what you are. So if you want someone who is bringing a lot to the table, someone who takes care of themselves, someone who's successful, someone who you know is confident, and you yourself do not embody those traits, it's going to be challenging. You're going to, you know, and this is where a lot of people run into issues. And this is why I've seen so many, you know, positive testimonials in my business is if you don't know what your blind spots are and you don't know where your kind of, you know, weaker areas are in terms of dating, it's really hard to strategize and get what you want. You can't get what you want doing the same thing you've always done if it's not currently working for you. So you have to sometimes change it up. But back to the high value women. You know, I mentioned femininity, I mentioned discipline, fitness, but I also want to mention things like agreeableness, cooperativeness. You know, these are skills that a lot of modern day feminists look down on when they hear it. They say, oh, that's from the olden days. And that's, you know, that's so 1950s. Well, guess what? Men are still picking those women over the feminists. So you can look amazing, you can have, you know, a feminine appearance and feminine manners, but if you don't have the ability to also let someone lead you, then it's going to be challenging to find a high value man. Because these men got to where they are by probably leading certain areas of their life. Now everyone's different. Dating is nuanced. Some women, you know, are a little bit more leadership, bossy kind of vibes. Some women are not. Some men like that, some men don't. I'm not trying to put people in a box, but broadly speaking, in my matchmaking business and in the real world, this is, you know, that these are the types of characteristics that men say they like.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I agree.
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Nelly Sudry
This is what they choose.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I totally agree. And I know this is a little controversial and like you said, couples are different. But I think in general, men want to be men in a relationship. Men like to be around women who.
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Nelly Sudry
Make them feel like, I completely agree.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
They want to take the lead. I always say that men are hunters. Like, so when it comes to texting, planning dates, going after you, they still want to feel that they are in charge in, in many ways. And many times women are like, oh, I'll do this, I'll do that, I'll do that. Like you're, you're taking away their, the nature of the game.
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Nelly Sudry
And I totally understand why a lot of women operate from that standpoint because to a lot of the women I've coached, you know, letting a man do things for you sometimes might feel like you're obligated to do something for him, right? Like if I, I've heard women say, oh, if he, if, if he pays for a first date or if he's paying for things, then I'm going to be obligated to give up the goods. And what I say to women is you also have to stand firm in your value. You have to know what you're bringing to the table. And just because you're letting someone do something for you doesn't mean that you're obligated to do anything in return that night or whatever. You take things at your own pace and do things that make you feel comfortable. And I think a lot of women, that's the challenge because there's a lot of men also who will put that pressure on women. So I understand why ladies, certain ladies think that way. And I also think we live in a society where, you know, and there are so many reasons, modern feminism, the destruction of the family nucleus, how a lot of people are raised now, right? Culture where women feel, because they've been told and kind of indoctrinated into thinking that they have to be hyper independent boss babes, you know, they have to be wear all of these hats and they have to take care of themselves and you know, never depend on a man. That it's really difficult as they get to especially older in life, as they get to certain stages where they are more marriage minded. It's difficult to unlearn a lot of those things. So they'll go on a date and that's really, that's, that's their instinct is I'm just gonna put down my credit card. And it's not about money, by the way. It's just the principle. It's one example. Or I'm not gonna let him call me a car. I'm not gonna let him pick the place, right? They go into that kind of mindset. And that's why my course has helped so many people. Not to totally plug it, but it really has. And it's all about learning how to let a man lead you so that you can be the girl and you.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Can be the woman.
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Nelly Sudry
Because guess what? Here's what I say to women. It's more fun. It' this hat that you have to wear.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
And I totally agree. And I think it makes dating more fun. And I think most guys. Most guys, yes. They're exception most guys, that's how they like it. Now there's so many more questions I want to ask you, so let's hurry you. I know, I agree. You said most successful wealthy men, they don't care if their partner is wealthy because they don't need it. But let's switch the game because I have a friend in New York, she's super gorgeous, in her 30s and she's very, very wealthy. And just the other day I was talking to her on the phone, she was like, oh my God, I can't find a partner. Because she wants a partner that is at least as successful as she is. And I think you did a video about that the other day on your Insta. It's really hard for successful women. It's a lot harder for successful women to find a partner. Do you agree? And I'm gonna add another question into this mix. Do you think a lot of men, or most men are intimidated when it comes to dating super successful women? Because, like, in my cat, my. My friend's case, she doesn't want to date a guy that, like, you know, I'm not gonna say a bum, but, like, that doesn't make a substantial amount of money or that cannot follow up, you know, follow the. The lifestyle that she has.
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Nelly Sudry
You know what I mean?
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Like, she spends the summers in. In Europe. She. She has an apartment on the Upper east side. So she's like, I want to date a gu. Keep up. And it's super, super tough because this dating pool is very tiny. Do you think that that's tougher for.
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Cat Zamuto
Wealthy girls like her to.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
To find the right mate?
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Nelly Sudry
So that is a loaded question.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Yes, I know.
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Nelly Sudry
Yeah. So, like, addressing the first bit of it, there's something called hypergamy, meaning women like to date up in status. They typically seek out partners who, or I should say they desire, and they seek out partners who are their superior financially and intellectually as well. So women are hardwired to be that way. I don't blame your friend for having those feelings. I work with a lot of very successful women, and, you know, it's definitely the sentiment. You know, there's a difference between being wealthy and being successful. I want to just make that point because someone can inherit a lot of money, and then someone can also make a lot of money on their own. And I think sometimes the individuals who inherit their dating drivers might be different than the women who make it themselves. Like, I have some clients who are CEOs and who are, you know, they've sold their businesses for millions of dollars, and their dating criteria, I always find, is a little bit different than the women who are just, you know, pulling an alimony from an ex husband, so to speak. But yeah, I mean, lifestyle compatibility is real. If you. And that goes for all, I would say, people across all, all income levels. Like, if you like to go to concerts and you just want to kick it and like, hang out, you know, in the backyard, you're probably going to want someone who enjoys those things. If you like to ski and snowboard and, you know, you're adventurous, you're going to want someone who does those things. If you want to Kind of, you know, lead a more fancy life. Going to the south of France and going to Samuraitz and you know, stad, you're gonna want someone who probably fits into your life like a puzzle piece in that way too. So that's lifestyle compatibility. That's different than hypergamy. But yeah, most women, they do want to date up. And I think going back to what I was mentioning before with where new age feminism has kind of brought a lot of women, women are more educated than men, statistically speaking, and they're making more money than they ever have before. And so what usually happens, what I've observed is, you know, you know, as a woman, you're spending all this time building in your career, you hit your, you know, peak where maybe you feel like, okay, I finally earned my stripes, I'm making money, I can support myself. And I feel more self actualized with that. And you look around, you're ready to get married and you're older than you were 10 years ago, you're competing with younger women. And now your dating pool is smaller because the men that you're attracted to are earning the same amount of money as you or more. And so all the men earning less, you're not even really looking at. But the men who are earning more, they're probably dating women who are younger than you. And maybe we'll add this. I'm not, you know, everyone's different. But maybe those girls are prettier. Maybe they're more malleable.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Oh my God.
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Nelly Sudry
Maybe they're more feminine. Maybe they're less tainted by life. Maybe they haven't had to leverage their.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Masculine energy in their careers.
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Nelly Sudry
It's really difficult. Well, you hire a matchmaker.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
No, you all hands the matchmakers.
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Nelly Sudry
Well, you know, there, there are lots of things I think you can do, but yeah, it's challenging. I do think that successful, intelligent women have it hard right now because again, the people that they're going to be attracted to, it's a smaller dating pool, but, you know, you got to figure out your competitive edge, you got to lean into your feminine energy. You have to learn how to essentially unlearn a lot of the things that society has drilled into you. And the biggest thing I see with women who are super successful or you know, more I would consider like alpha, is the lack, the unwillingness to compromise and the lack of malleability. That's where they lose. Like, you can't treat your dating life like your job, where you're just, you know, penciling people in. And I can't like, you got to be easy going. You got to be, you know, somewhat accommodating. And that's what I said about the high value women. You know, in terms of the definition, being cooperative, being agreeable. It's something that I think a lot of these women struggle with because again, their whole life they've had to kind of work to become that way to get ahead, but it's just doing them a disservice in dating.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
The the second part of the question, which is controversial. Some people say, as some of my guests say, as in some of us say no. Do you think most men are intimidated by women who are super successful and make a lot of money, have kick ass careers, Like a lot of guys don't want to date that kind of girl? Or do you think that's baloney? I personally, I'll tell you my opinion and my personal experience. I think most guys are intimidated. They say they're not. Like in the beginning, if they meet a woman that is making a lot of money, they're like, oh, it's so cool. I think it's so great. I am so supportive, blah, blah, blah. And as the weeks and the months go by, they start feeling like, oh, maybe this is too much for me. And I've had this experience before with people I dated that in the beginning they're like, oh, I love what you do and this is so cool. And then when they see like the attention and everything, you know, they start feeling like smaller and smaller and smaller and threatened and threatened, intimidated. And a lot of my successful girlfriends have the same experience. And I think it's baloney that they tell in the beginning that, no, I want to have a girlfriend that is successful. I want to have a girlfriend that is out there. I want to have a girlfriend entrepreneur. I personally think, and I'm. Guys, don't get offended. I'm saying most men, I know they're exceptions, but I think most guys cannot take the heat of dating a kick ass, strong, successful woman. Do you agree with me or not?
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Nelly Sudry
Well, if we're talking about the majority of men, population wise, I think the average annual income in America is like under $50,000. A year. So when we talk about most men, are we really. Are we talking about all of America's population? I don't know, in terms of men.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Or are we talking population or are.
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Nelly Sudry
We just kind of like loosely saying men in general?
- [37:50]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Yeah, we're saying losing manager. I think we're saying like the men.
- [37:53]
Cat Zamuto
That we would date, I guess.
- [37:55]
Nelly Sudry
Well, the men that I would date is different than, you know, but. But yeah, I mean, I, I think is intimidating if a woman is, I think, throwing it in their face. I think it's intimidating if a woman, again, is letting that be her identity in the relationship. And I also think, yeah, I mean, I don't know. I don't. I struggle with the word intimidating. I think sometimes it might make a man feel like he has nothing to offer. And so I think rather than intimidating, perhaps emasculated, perhaps unneeded, and actually, interestingly, there was a study, statistically speaking, women who out earn their husbands are 50% more likely to get a divorce. Divorce rates already start around 45, 50%. So add on another 50%. And men who earn less than their wives, Husbands who earn less than their wives are 300% more likely to cheat. And what I've seen and observed with my coaching is women who do date men who are significantly earning less than them, typically they feel like they get to call the shots because they're making more money. And so that creates a lot of resentment in the relationship and that, you know, financial issues one of the leading causes of divorce. You know, whenever you see people file for divorce for like unresolved reasons, usually finances play a part in that.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
But even if it's not money, like you can be dating like let's say a multi millionaire millionaire, even multi millionaire guys. I've had friends and I've dated like my ex boyfriend was super, super wealthy. And in the beginning he was like, oh, I love it that you do the podcast and you do this and you do that and you that. And slowly I noticed that every time I would try to have a conversation with him, whenever it had something to do with business, certain business subjects that I knew a little more than he.
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Cat Zamuto
Did.
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Nelly Sudry
It bothered him, but that's why I said emasculated.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Yeah, but you know, guys feel like they get annoyed, quote, unquote, are irritated. And I'm not saying all guys, but many guys, because I have girlfriends that have the same problem with their boyfriends. They think like, they dream that they want this girl that is super intelligent, with college degrees, gorgeous beauty, the whole package. And Then once they have it, like, maybe they want a dumb bimbo instead of this girl because this girl is, like, too much for them, you know?
- [40:37]
Nelly Sudry
You know, I think ever. Yeah, it's tough. Everyone. Everyone's so different. But what I will say is, like, generally speaking, yeah, I think men want to be around women, like I said before, who make them feel like men. And men feel most masculine when they're able to lead, when they're able to provide, when they're able to feel like they're of service. And so if a woman is trying to kind of flex her business skills and, you know, outsmart him, it might make him feel like, you know, is she emasculating me? And that's, by the way, not to knock women for being intelligent. I don't think you should dim your light. I don't think you should make yourself smaller to make someone else feel bigger. I think the solution is date someone whose ambition exceeds yours. Date someone whose intellect exceeds yours. And, yeah, going back, does that make it harder? It sure does, because that shrinks the dating pool. You know, I always say the biggest minority is the intellectual minority, but, yeah, of course, it's more challenging.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
And I also think date someone who is supportive of everything that you do and doesn't feel intimidated by anything that you do and. And lets you speak your mind.
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Nelly Sudry
Yeah. Well, here's. I think, you know, this is one of the issues that a lot of women I seen run into is the ultra supportive guys might be more beta, and a lot of women might start to. Again, it goes back to the resentment. They might start to feel like, oh, he's just my cheerleader. The gender roles are reversed. So absolutely. Find someone who's supportive, but also find someone you respect and look up to.
- [42:07]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Oh, my God. Yeah. This dating game is exhausting.
- [42:10]
Nelly Sudry
And you're impressed by. You don't have to tell me twice.
- [42:17]
Cat Zamuto
Hand.
- [42:17]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
The man diet. Let's talk about the Man Diet for a second.
- [42:21]
Nelly Sudry
I want to introduce me to this.
- [42:22]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I want to ask you. Yeah. The Man Diet. Somebody just did a post about it, like, a few days ago. I'm like, yeah, I'm not gonna say I invented the man diet, but I think I did. But anyhow, trademark that.
- [42:33]
Cat Zamuto
Yeah.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
What is the man die or the girl diet for? Guys, if you want to participate, dating can be daunting. It can be exhausting, it can be time consuming, it can be energy consuming, and it can be frustrating, especially if you get your heart broken. I've got my heart broken so many times. Like, I lost Count. Nowadays my skin is like, so thick as an alligator, Nick and glowing. But anyways, basically, it means if you're feeling burned out and exhausted, I highly recommend it. You take a nice long break. It can be a month, two, three months, and you completely, completely focus on yourself. Pick a project. Like, oh, I'm gonna focus on my business. I'm gonna focus on the gym. I'm gonna take.
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Nelly Sudry
So it's like dry January, but for men.
- [43:18]
Cat Zamuto
Yes. Ex.
- [43:20]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I don't know if you. In your case or whatever, I'm gonna.
- [43:23]
Nelly Sudry
I'm trying really hard. You introduced me to the man diet. I'm trying really hard to, like, do it. But unfortunately, or fortunately, they just find you. They just find you.
- [43:33]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
But because I. This is what I want. Your opinion. You start. You said, I'm gonna do it in January. I am your friend. And I think it has been doing, like, now it's the end of January. It did in insanely well for your business. Your business is thriving. You're kicking ass on your videos. Some of your videos are going viral on Instagram. You guys gotta check out her Instagram page. It's fantastic.
- [43:56]
Nelly Sudry
Or My Tik Tok.
- [43:58]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Or the Tik Tok. Yeah. And you look beautiful. You've been kicking ass at the gym. You're preparing for a marathon. I mean, this girl is like, super.
- [44:07]
Nelly Sudry
We don't have to say all these things. See, when you say them, then they. Then. But no, but you are like.
- [44:12]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
And you're glowing. You're doing amazing. And so this is what the mandate is. When you start focusing on yourself, all your personal projects thrive. And all of a sudden, sometimes, yeah, people start gravitating towards you. And this is why I think many times it is a great idea instead. Because I believe in organic. I always love meeting people organically. So do you think it is a good idea sometimes if people are like. Like, just so. Because sometimes I feel people push, push, push, push, and they don't see results and they get so frustrated.
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Nelly Sudry
Well, I really appreciate you introducing me to the concept. I can't say I've been on no dates in January.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
So it was kind of like a man diet with cheat days.
- [44:59]
Nelly Sudry
I am a professional cheat day person. But. But yeah, I mean, I think what's been nice is at least you know, whether you want to go cold turkey completely or kind of like, do something like I've done. And it's just making a conscious effort to not prioritize that because you're prioritizing yourself. And the reason is when you put Yourself first. And you are able to lean into things that you've wanted to work on. Self love, self care, inner healing, getting, you know, closer to the goals that you want to achieve or achieving them. Then you're actually able to become the best version of you that's going to attract in someone who, who's your counterpart. And that's, I think this the really beautiful thing. And that's the underbelly of it, which is taking time and focus away from, I need to meet someone and I need to find a boyfriend, find a husband. Taking time and focus away from that and re shifting it onto yourself is actually what's ironically probably going to get you there. So I've enjoyed it. I mean, I've been trying to. But I do have a date Thursday.
- [46:08]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Well, but Thursday is February, so if you're doing it, isn't it?
- [46:12]
Nelly Sudry
Yeah, you're probably right.
- [46:13]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Yeah, I think so.
- [46:15]
Nelly Sudry
I think you're right. Can you believe this month's been the longest month?
- [46:18]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I love it. I love it. But, but this is what I suggest from when, when my listener send this message, oh, my God, but dating can be so exhausting. I'm tired. I'm tired. Okay, I said, I'm like, then stop.
- [46:30]
Cat Zamuto
Take a break. Focus on yourself.
- [46:32]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Because sometimes we forget that, you know, it's not a freaking competition.
- [46:38]
Nelly Sudry
I think where women in particular struggle with this is we always have this kind of looming biological clock over us. And it's really difficult, I know, for a lot of my clients, a lot of my friends, to put a pause on their dating life because they feel like if I stop dating, then I'm losing time. And the way I like to kind of think about it is if you're spending time dating the wrong people, it's only going to take you longer to meet the right one. Whereas sometimes if you reallot that time to becoming again the best version of yourself, I feel like I sound like, like a broken record. But you, you truly prioritize elevating your life, life, then it's actually going to be a lot easier to invite the right energy in. And then it's actually going to be quicker for you to meet and manifest that person. So I don't want people to think, oh, well, I'm losing time that, you know, I could be spending dating. If you're not in the right headspace to date, is it even. Is it even worth it?
- [47:43]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
No, I use. I always use this cheesy phrase, but I think it's what you just said. If you are dating the wrong person. And a lot of people settle, which breaks my heart. I think it's a horrible idea staying in bad relationships. I've done it before, of course, or settling with the wrong guy or dating the wrong person. The right person is trying to find you as much as you're trying to find them. I really believe in that. So if you're spending time with the wrong person, you're just wasting your time. And the right person is out there, you know, trying to find you. So you're much better off spending time alone and taking care of yourself. Self love projects that matter to you, taking care of your body, like you said, wellness. Take care of your business, personal interests, you know, so when you do find the right partner for you, you're gonna be completely ready.
- [48:33]
Nelly Sudry
Totally. And I also think a lot of people struggle with feelings of unworthiness, insecurities. You have to love yourself to a point where you are okay with or without someone. And that's when you're really going to be able to magnetize and manifest in the love that you're seeking. Because even if the right person, a lot of people, you know, ask yourself, if the right person walked into my life today, would I really be ready to receive them? Would I be able to let them love me? Would I be able to let them into my life? If the answer is no, you got to get to work and think about the qualities that the kind of person you would want, would want in a partner. And ask yourself too, am I embodying those qualities? Am I showing up as that version of me? The beautiful thing about life and the human experience is we can always reinvent ourselves. We can always decide to take a new course, a new path. And I think a lot of people feel sometimes stuck in their dating lives. You get to decide what kind of life you want, but it starts with you and becoming the version of you that's going to attract in the abundance you're looking for and the love that you're looking for.
- [49:48]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Oh, yeah, 1 million percent. I did a video the other day on my Insta and I got so many messages about it. I was saying that I see so many people and I have a few girlfriends that they keep saying to me that they're miserable being single. And it breaks my heart.
- [50:02]
Nelly Sudry
Smart.
- [50:03]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I literally have a girlfriend. She says that almost every day, like, oh, I hate being single. I hate being single. I can't wait to be in a relationship. I can't wait to be married. I can't wait to. I think that is heartbreaking to me. Because I truly believe if you're not happy in your own life, if you're not happy being single, you're not going to be happy in a relationship. You should not expect someone to bring all your happiness, of course not to make you happy. That's a huge, huge mistake. You need to be happy on your own.
- [50:33]
Cat Zamuto
Right. Do you agree?
- [50:34]
Nelly Sudry
A hundred percent. Because then you end up in codependent relationships. And the thing is, if that person leaves you, they're leaving with all your happiness, they're leaving with all your self of sense or your sense of self worth. So it's really important to have, I think, a feeling of wholeness within you. And I also think the best and healthiest relationships are ones where you can thrive as an individual in your own identity and the partner that you're with can have their own individual identity and you come together and you're great, but you can also be again your own people as opposed to being this, you know, you want the feeling of oneness. Yeah. But you want to still. We're all still individuals. We come to this planet alone, we leave this planet alone. Yeah. So, you know, maintaining that feeling within.
- [51:19]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Oh my God, yes. And there's nothing sexier than having your own interests, your own life. I don't think any guy is going to enjoy being around a girl that does absolutely nothing all day, sits by the pool. Right.
- [51:34]
Nelly Sudry
Oh, I know plenty of guys who want a girl like that.
- [51:37]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
You do? Well, maybe for the weekend.
- [51:40]
Nelly Sudry
Depends on the dude.
- [51:41]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Maybe for the week.
- [51:41]
Nelly Sudry
If a man, if that's all he wants.
- [51:43]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Not. Not for long term.
- [51:45]
Nelly Sudry
Yeah. I mean, listen, I think the most, I think interesting people like to be around interesting people. And if you want. Most people want someone who's I think, dynamic and, and the best. Like I said, the best way to attract the type of person you want is to become that.
- [52:01]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Yeah, totally. I think the perfect example right now that everybody's talking about is Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce. I really think they're riding the success wave together. They're both so insanely successful on their own and I think when they met it was explosive because everything is working. Everything is working. So when they get together, they're not embarrassed to showing the world. And I know it sounds cheesy, but like when you saw the. She was like jumping on the field to kiss him and say I love you. She's going to the games, he's going to the end. He's doing the little heart and they're like, I don't give a. If the Entire world wants to see it. And this is the perfect example. She had everything, the success, the career, and he's going to the Super Bowl. And I think that's the synergy of a couple that has it all on their own. And then when they come together, it just really matches.
- [52:54]
Nelly Sudry
Yeah. And I would say what's interesting and stands out to me about their relationship is he was the one pursuing her. And I think a lot of women, especially modern women, feel like they have to chase a man, convince a man and pursue him. And, you know, that's not the case. You know, shine bright on your own and then let people pursue you. Let men come to you, and the ones who are really serious will make it happen.
- [53:22]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Yes, I totally agree. Nelly, you're fabulous. I love your videos.
- [53:26]
Nelly Sudry
You're fabulous.
- [53:26]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Can you please tell my audience how they find you on your beautiful social media platforms?
- [53:31]
Nelly Sudry
Of course. My handle is Ask Nelly. You can also join my free database or apply to become my client on nellisudry.com or enroll in my manifesting Mr. Right course at. At ask-nelly co.
- [53:46]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Thank you so much. And you guys that are listening, if you want to see the video episode so you can see her beautiful face and her beautiful smile, video episodes are now available on YouTube and like always, on Spotify only. Video episodes are available on Spotify only. And you guys know the audio episodes are available on all platforms where you enjoy your podcast. Nelly, thank you so much. It's always such a pleasure having you. You're amazing and I'm on your datab.
- [54:14]
Nelly Sudry
Are you in my database?
- [54:16]
Cat Zamuto
I think so.
- [54:17]
Nelly Sudry
I think I pitched you too. I pitched. I pitched her to a matchmaking.
- [54:21]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
You know, I've had really bad experiences with other matchmakers in the past. I honestly think there are a lot of people out there that don't know what they're doing, but you really know your game and I think you're fantastic. So.
- [54:32]
Nelly Sudry
Oh, I appreciate it. Coming from you, it means even more. Thank you so much.
- [54:35]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
It was fantastic. You're always welcome to come back. And guys never give up on love.
- [54:41]
Nelly Sudry
Someone once said to me, you don't have to find love. Love will find you. But I do think I thought that was so cute. But I also think, you know, if you want something in life and you mana, you know, you want to manifest it, invite it in.
- [54:55]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
Yeah. So, love, you're very invited. You're always invited. So please find us fast. Thank you.
- [55:02]
Cat Zamuto
You're amazing.
- [55:02]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
That was a great cat on losing. I'll see you guys very soon.
- [55:05]
Cat Zamuto
And before I let you guys go, I'm going to vent a little bit here because this, that absolutely drives me crazy. And my inner circle knows my entire work, no matter what I do, is all about empowering women. I am such a girl's girl. I believe in women, supporting women. I really, really believe that there is space for everybody, there is room for everyone, and together we are stronger. If I help you, you help me, we build things together, we empower each other, each other, there is really room for everyone to do their work. So, anyways, sometimes I invite people to come to the podcast, of course, and sometimes people approach me to be on the podcast. One of my past guests, recent guests, I invited her because I found her online and I really liked her work. So anyways, she came, we did the interview. I thought it was very nice. And after I published the interview, she sent me a message through Instagram telling me that she really liked me and she really respected my work. But she wasn't going to share the interview with her audience or publish the link of her interview or anything whatsoever for her audience because she didn't think it was fit for her audience. She didn't think my work was appropriate for her audience audience. And if she had to be honest with me because she really liked me, she really liked doing the interview with me, blah, blah, blah. And if I was bothered by what she was saying, that I could totally delete the interview from my podcast and she was really sorry. But because she really liked me, she decided she needed to be honest and her work was very niche, blah, blah, blah. And if she shared the interview with her audience, she felt it was gonna, gonna degrade her engagement, whatever, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I could totally delete her interview if I didn't like what she was saying. And I read and I read again and I was like, no, please, that's fine. Thank you for your honesty. Everybody has the right to do whatever they want. And this is why I'm sharing this with you guys, because I was thinking and thinking, many times I think about something for a few days to digest, and then I thought, I didn't say anything to her, and I'm not gonna say anything to her. And I'm definitely not gonna name names. You guys can go there and, and listen to my past episodes to figure out who it is. But regardless, why in the world would you even come to a podcast? Promote your work, Invite my view, my listeners, invite my viewers from Instagram to come check you out if you think my work is not appropriate for Your audience. I mean, how do you say hypocrite in this lady's language? I think that is so bougie. That is so ridiculous. And honestly, it broke my heart a little bit because I get sick to my stomach when I see girls behaving like that. That is so pathetic. Honestly, if you're promoting your work on my platform, is. Is infinitely bigger than this latest platform.
- [58:21]
Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
But that's not even the point.
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Cat Zamuto
If her episode on my podcast gets, let's say, 150,000 downloads, 160,000 downloads. Her name is all over my social media, whatever it is. I am so happy to promote any woman's work, anybody, because like I said, I think we are all learning together. We are all in this together. I am so proud of the fact that I'm building a worldwide community where we can speak about sex, about dating, about relationships. I keep repeating over and over again that I'm not an expert by any means. I was married for a long time. I was abused for a long time. I went through a nasty divorce.
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Podcast Host (Cat on the Loose Host)
I've been rebuilding my life for the.
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Cat Zamuto
Past few years after going through. Through a nasty divorce, after losing. Losing my husband. I've been through heartbreak, through heartache, through so many horrible relationships. I've been through hell and high water, and it's been such a fun, difficult, exciting journey for me to do this podcast with all of you guys and learn with the process. So when I bring people to interview and. And we learn from them and we talk together, it's such an honor to do this. So when one of these experts comes and then like two minutes later, oh, by the way, I know I came and I know I talked to you, but I don't feel your work is appropriate to share. I'm like, then why the hell did you come? You know, and I just don't appreciate women that do that. I like girls that support girls. I like women that support women. I don't condone women like that. If she feels. Feels threatened by my work, if she feels like that we compete in any way, that's ridiculous. Obviously, I am not going to delete her episode. Her episode is there for anyone who wants to listen. Her name is there for anyone who is interested in her work. Many times my guests obviously end up making a lot of money thanks to my episodes, because some listeners do go do check them out, do use their services, and like I said, great. It's a free society. People should expose their goods and services and we decide if we want to buy them or not. But at the end of the day. I am all about women supporting women because I really, really believe that together we are stronger. So this is my little vent for the day. This never happened to me before. I have had weird guests in the past and, and kind of like disappointing guests, a little bit unsupportive guests, but a guest that came and talked and pitched her work and everything and then said, oops, I'm not gonna share anything because I don't think your podcast is for my audience. That was a first. But moving on and hopefully I'll be bringing even more fun, interesting, exciting interviews. And thanks all of you guys that listen, thanks all of you guys that participate, all of you guys that, that send your opinions. Please Remember we have 24, seven open lines of communications because Cat on the Lose is for you. We are learning how to date better, have better relationships, better sex. All of us together. 1305 332-0338 via WhatsApp if you want to chime in and contact a cat on the loose if you guys want to talk via email, much, much love and I'll see you guys the in next week. Not only I'm a huge supporter of women supporting women, but I have so many amazing guy friends in my industry. So I want to give two big shout outs to people that also do podcasts and radio stations. It's such a tough business. So big, big shout outs to other podcasts that I love very, very, very much. And I always say there is room for everybody. I think we need to stop looking at each other as competition, competition, competition and more looking at each other as co workers, looking at each other as collaborators. Because like I said, if we're authentic, we should all do our thing and there is space for everybody. So if you guys love sports, I highly recommend check out Aira on Sports, one of the top sports podcasts in the nation. By Ira Kaufman. Ira is a walking encyclopedia of sports. He follows sports no matter what it is. Football, volleyball, tennis, golf, you name it. He's there up and down the country, everywhere. Amazing guest interviews. He drops new episodes every Mondays. He is, he's incredible. He's in all the games. He always has exclusive photos, exclusive videos on Instagram, on Twitter, Ira on Sports. I highly recommend you guys check it out. I love it. And if you're a huge fan of country music, I love it. Check out Kick Ass Country Radio. You can listen everywhere you go. You can get all the links through their Instagram Kick Ass country Music so you can get your their country vibe on the go. Big shout out to them. They are my friends out of Texas and I love them. Kick ass. Many, many kisses for you guys. Last but not least, after super bowl weekend in Las Vegas. I got so many questions asking about Las Vegas. How is it there so many celebrities moving there, how is the real estate going there? How is it life there? Blah, blah, blah. So I'm gonna direct you guys to one of the top Las Vegas experts. Rob Wilner sells Vegas. Rob was born and raised in a real estate family in Las Vegas. He has decades of experience buying, selling, renting real estate in Las Vegas. He's part of the global real estate family and development. He's part of the real brokerage. He's a local luxury VIP service expert. And his top, top, top super nice guy knows everything about Las Vegas. 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