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Okay, we're going. So today I wanted to do a little bit of a different type of podcast recording. So I did an ask me anything. Is your whale phobia real? God, I'm like having all these visuals in my head. Like my heart is racing right now talking about it, actually. Gosh, I have to calm down. What is a weird food combo that I swear by? It's such a strange combination. I think it's like highly processed and not good and I devour it. You feel really gross afterwards, but it's worth every minute. Do I believe in life out in space? And have I ever had an encounter or paranormal activity? Okay, you guys, that's a whole episode. Because I've had tons of take your chance, discover chance, au splendid, the new fragrance Chanel. As long as I want it so I'll be more comfortable. Cause I take a chance she won't go. I wouldn't play among the stars a little more. A little more foreign. So today I wanted to do a little bit of a different type of podcast recording. Normally I have a guest and we get really deep and we talk about really anything and everything. And it's normally the guest that is chit chatting a lot. And I wanted to do a solo taping. And so I did an Ask me anything and I have a bunch of questions here in my hand and I'm going to answer them to the best I know how. I want to do something different. I just, I'm. I wanted to hear from you guys. You guys have been so loyal and great to me, so I figured why don't I bring you guys into my podcast world with me? Okay, so let's get into it. When I let you guys know that I was gonna be doing an ask me anything, we've been bombarded with questions, but amazing questions. Some are ridiculous and whatever, but most of them are amazing. And so I'm going to get started. Okay. Is your whale phobia real? I don't know why someone would fake a whale phobia, but yes. It's not even just whales, but whales. I just don't understand. The size really makes me uncomfortable. I, like, my heart is racing right now talking about it, actually thinking about God, I'm like having all these visual, like, visuals in my head thinking about being in an ocean. There's no warning, there's no ripples. All of a sudden, a fucking whale comes out of the water. That's horrifying. Some of the whales, their hearts are as big as a small school bus. Not sure if that's true, but Snapple told me it was, and it fucking freaks me out. The blowhole. The eyeball. The eyeball that is bigger than the size of my head. I just don't want to be around them. You do you. I'll do me. We're good. Don't want to hurt them. Just don't need to be in the water. But I also just don't like large bodies of water. I don't like dark water. Don't like a lot of sea animals. Like, they're just strange. And you don't know what's down there. 80% of our waters are unchartered, undocumented. We don't know. Don't tell me there's not mermaids, by the way. We don't know. 80% is not chartered, unmapped, undocumented. You're telling me planes crash and we can't find debris from big planes, and you're going to tell me, oh, there's no sharks in this water. Like, whenever you're on vacation and people tell you there's no sharks around you, how the do you know? You don't know. You just want me to pay for whatever water activity this is, and then I'm going to die. No. So my whale phobia is real. Thinking about it, like, my heart's really racing. I don't like this. I could go on. This could be a whole episode just on the whales or the water. Gosh, I have to calm down. Okay, that's that. How do I stay so flawless? Good transition. How do I stay so flawless? And what's my skin care regimen? Oh, my. My gosh. Well, I don't think anyone thinks that they are flawless. I don't think anyone's like, I have the best skin. I have no pores. No. I will sit there with a magnifying mirror and overanalyze my skin. But I love skin care. But I like to keep it simple. I used to do, like, the eight step programs or whatever, and I think that sometimes in this circumstance, I do think too much is too much. And normally I'm a more is more type of girl, but I think sometimes we just have to simplify things and whatever that is for you. Everyone has different skin. You have to find what's the perfect combination for you. But I do believe in facials or even, like, you just have to wash your face every night before you go to bed. People that sleep in makeup, I don't believe in that stuff. And just I believe in hydration for your skin. Moisturizers at night. I love beef tallow that I put specifically, like, around my eyes. Or aquaphor. Like any petroleum, something that makes your eyes. It could be an oil, vitamin E oil, anything that makes your eyes really lubricated so when you sleep, you don't get wrinkles around your eyes. I like that. But really, just take care of yourself. I love a laser. I love skincare. Anything like a facial, anything like that, I will do. But I think don't overdo it. Know your skin type and just do what's best for you. But sometimes less is more. What is the biggest lesson that being a mother has taught me? Wow. I feel like I. I learn lessons every day about myself from being a mom. I really do. But I will say, I think my. My most favorite thing about becoming a mother, besides my relationship with my kids and being able to have the most ultimate love in the world, is the different level of respect and appreciation that I now have for my mother. And although I knew my mom was amazing before I had kids, it's a different feeling because once you have kids, you realize, wow, okay, we really do make all these sacrifices. Or you understand, like, silly things. Like, I get why my mom wouldn't let me have a puppy at a certain age. It's a lot of work. Kids are a lot of work. Like, they do so much. And you don't realize when someone says, I want to have a pool party or a sleepover, how much more work that is on your parent. There's like, the smallest things to the biggest things. It could be birthday parties or Christmases, like, how much effort and work that takes. And when you think back at your childhood and you're like, everything was so magical or the best my parent knew how to do for me, it makes me appreciate mine so much more. And my mom was always such an incredible mom. And for me to say, I want to be. I've learned so much from my mom, but I want to be like her times 100. Like, that says a lot. Any pop music artists that I'm obsessed with right now. I'm not great with music these days. This is not relatable. But I don't feel like whenever I'm in the car, I'm with kids and so I'm listening to what they're listening to. That part's probably relatable. But I'm not in the car that much by myself anymore, and I don't know how relatable that is. And I feel like I used to turn on the radio. It's probably something I miss so much and sing my heart out. In la, we had the fires in January and I remember we had to evacuate to Palm Springs and I had to go at a later time than my kids. And I was in the. The car, not kidding, for seven hours to get to Palm Springs because everyone was evacuating. I didn't care. I had a concert for seven hours. I was the lead performer. It was amazing. I thought I was Mariah Carey, I was Ariana Grande. It was. Everybody loved it. And I miss moments like that. But it was all oldies music. Like, not oldies oldies, but just music that's not current right now. What makes me super happy? Oh my gosh. I feel like I am the happiest when I'm surrounded by my family. I love being at home. I. And I don't. I love people like coming to me. I had a pool party the other day. It was their first day of summer party for all the cousins and my kids and just a few other kids. And I love stuff like that. Like, for me, that makes my heart happy. I love being the home that's the hub. And everyone comes to my house. I take pride in that. So that stuff makes me happy, even if I'm complaining and I'm exhausted at the end of the day. That's fun. And I love those memories. And I hope my kids are gonna have those memories forever. And then also what makes me really happy is laying in my bed and binge watching TV and no one talking to me.
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So there's definitely two very different sides and they both make me equally happy. What is a weird food combo that I swear by my Aunt Shelly, ever since I was a kid, I used to lay in bed with her and she would have Wheat Thins and port wine spreadable cheese. I don't think it's real cheese. I think it's like highly processed and not good. And I keep that in my fridge at all times. Cause it's so nostalgic for me. And sometimes I'm like, I'm just in a funk and I want to pig out. And you literally scoop the port wine cheese with the Wheat Thins and that's your spoon and you eat it. And it's such a strange combination. And it's the saltiest cheese in the world and I love it. But it's also the memories of my childhood, I think what's wrapped up in it and it's just amazing. Be honest. How many alarms do I set in the morning? I set one alarm in the morning and what's really demented? Sometimes I don't even need the alarm. Like, sometimes I'm up a few minutes before, and I almost get angry with myself. I'm like, you had 10 more minutes to sleep, and those 10 minutes matter. But my body clock, it's so used to getting up at a certain time, and if I don't have to set an alarm, I'll still wake up at that time. I'm not someone that can sleep in, even since I was a kid, but that's because of my mom. My mom didn't allow us to sleep in, and as a kid, I obviously didn't like that. But as an adult, I'm so grateful that she instilled certain qualities and traits in us because, I mean, we're very productive people, and I feel like we're that way because we seize the day. I do believe in that. How do I fight my fears? Well, I feel like fears are fears because they're unknown. I think you have to just familiarize yourself with them or maybe name your fear. Like, okay, for example, if I'm on a roller coaster. Don't like roller coasters. But I've literally said to myself, it's not like I'm gonna die, right? You might actually, in today's world, you might die being on a roller coaster. So just don't go. That's how I would feel now, but when I was younger, you'd be like, no, I'm not gonna die, so let's just get this over with and go on the ride. You have to, like, acknowledge your fears. Name your fears. I would say a prayer. That's what I would do. But fears are fears. Like, I don't like whales or big bodies of water. And if I ask myself, can I possibly die? Yes. Yes, I can. So it's irrational fear. Except right now, being in this podcast room, it's irrational because it's not like a whale can walk in the door. But for some reason, my heart still races. What moment of my life made me feel like the strongest version of myself? I don't know if there was one particular moment. I mean, I feel like I've had many moments that sort of prepared me for other situations in my life where I was able to endure them. So I feel like everything that happens in our lives is meant to happen. And even if they're not all positive situations, I do think that everything. There's steps in why things happen to you. For example, with me and my ex husband, me going through such a public divorce and handling that and yes, it was between him and I and it was a great love that was now lost. And that whole thing, it was so public, so public that I've never dealt with something like that before. But I dealt with it and I had my family support and all of that, that was sort of a stepping stone, if you will, for the next big traumatic thing that happened to me was when Tristan cheated on me right before I gave birth. And I don't, I've. Obviously no one can prepare you for something like that. And it wasn't the cheating that's like, oh, like people get cheated on, but it was more that I was nine months pregnant, I was having a baby two days later, and it was so public and it was everywhere. But I think I handled it the best that I knew how because I almost got a little experience of it or a lot of experience of it from my divorce with Lamar. So it sort of prepared me. But if it was maybe just the one off situation, and while you're have these newly fresh hormones and you're just trying to even be a first time mom or be present in this moment and experience this moment, I don't know if I would have been able just to handle that isolated incident. And so everything prepared me for each experience in my life. And I think when you overcome those experiences, you feel really strong. And also for how I handled so many of those moments in my life, I'm really proud of myself for the way I handled them. What is a habit that I'm proud of developing lately? I love that I take time for myself every morning. I love that I've like, I realized how good that makes me feel throughout my day. I love that I wake up early, but I have my coffee, I have my bible time, my prayer time, and the way I set the tone for my day, it just makes me feel really good and my day functions better and I love that I've done that and I've done it long enough that I've noticed such a change within myself or how my day feels that I continue to do that. Because consistency is key and it's easy to do something for a few days, but to do it religiously, it's harder work to do. Like we had a sleepover last night and I had all these little kids in my room and it wasn't as easy to make that time for myself, but I made sure I made it. It was a little later than normal, but I made sure I made it. And it just makes me feel better. So I'm proud of myself for developing that habit.
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So you've probably heard of a little thing called Venmo, but did you know that Venmo can be used for more than paying your friends back? It's true. Allow me to introduce you to the Venmo debit card which lets you spend your Venmo balance in so many ways. You can literally Venmo anything and everything. If you can shop for it, you can pay for it. With the Venmo debit card. I can Venmo this mic I'm speaking into these headphones, the rent for the studio space, the coffee sitting next to me, the giant delivery order en route, my workout gear, the hair mask for my recovery everything shower and the TV subscription for my couch right after the Venmo Debit Card unlocks all new ways to use Venmo Got paid back for drinks Use your balance to pay for your ride home. Sold a pair of shoes. Use your balance to buy new shoes. Not to mention, the debit card comes in a whole bunch of colors so you can pick one that matches your aesthetic. And we love that Venmo Everything with Venmo Debit Card. Visit Venmo Me Debit to learn more and sign up today. Venmo purchase restrictions apply. The Venmo MasterCard is issued by the Bancorp Bank N.A. pursuant to license by MasterCard International Incorporated. Card may be used everywhere. MasterCard is accepted. What does home mean to me right now? Is it a place, a person or a feeling? You know, home? For me, it's really my family and I feel like it's always been my family. And for me, it's my very big family. It's not just my kids and myself. Yes, that is a version of home. But I think when I think of my like, ultimate home, it's my kids and myself and then my mom and my siblings and all of their kids that come with it. It's the best and it's the best, craziest chaos. But I love it and I'm so grateful and blessed that I have that. And it's something that makes me feel safe and comfortable and happy and yes, there might be fighting and drama, but it's also the best kind and kind that you know, like you. I think when you're family, you fight the hardest because at least for us, we're always going to talk to each other again. We're never not gonna not speak to each other. So it's where you can be your complete self and not feel like you have to perform for anybody. I guess. What's a boundary you've set recently that's changed your piece? I am very much a people pleaser and I for years have always said yes or I've done things just because I felt guilty to not do them. And I don't know, maybe the past two years or so, it could be longer, but I've made a very strong conscious effort to no means no. I'm allowed to say no. No is a complete sentence. Of course I'm not good at just being no. With a smile. I have to explain why I Don't want to do something, but I'm working on it. If I'm truly uncomfortable being somewhere or just not happy or if it messes me up for the next day, you're allowed to say no. And that has made a huge difference. Even on my mental health is an overused word. But yes, on my mental health. I feel like I used to feel so pressured or insecure sometimes just doing some of these commitments, and I feel really great that I have such power in. No, no. Would I have another baby? I get that question a lot. So I. Right now, no, I am. It's not about age. I'm going to be 41 shortly, and it's not about age. I know women can have babies later. Now, I would consider having another baby if I was married, but otherwise, no, I don't want to just have another kid and be a single mom. I have a great system right now with my kids, and I also take care of a lot of other children, too. So there's a lot on my plate. But if. When. Not if. When I meet my husband and if it's something that he wants, then we can talk about it. I'm not like, I. I don't feel that I'm missing anything in my life. I know some women are like, I want a third baby or a fourth, and that's amazing. But I feel so happy. I love my life. I love my kids. I feel like I. There's enough of me right now that can go around for everyone. And I'm sure I'll make you find the energy for all your children. So if I do have a third, one day I'll find the energy that I need for that child. But right now, I just think everything's great. But we'll have to see for when I find that husband. And if that's something. If it's something he wants, I would consider it.
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People are also asking if you're dating.
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I am not dating. I know. Very exciting news. I'm not dating. But I'm. I love it here. I really do. I feel like my life has been so happy and light, and it's really sad, but, like, enjoyable. And maybe that's because I haven't been dating. I feel like a lot of the drama is out of my life, and I love that. For me, like, I haven't had that in a long time, and I'm enjoying this space where I'm in. I love my routine. I love that I'm really focused on work and my kids right now. And then, of course, My extended family. And also, I do have fears about dating with kids. I. I don't know why these are my fears, but, like, I would never want to change who I am for my children because another person came into my life, and I don't know if these fears are rational or I'm making everything up in my head. But, like, that's a big fear of mine. I never want to be taken away from my kids, even emotionally. Like, that's just not what I'm about right now. My kids are so young. They're three and seven. And that's a fear of mine. Just changing my routine, changing how much time I spend with my kids. I just don't want that to be a factor. That's one. You also. People are fucking scary. Like, I don't know if I. I don't know how long it would take for me to feel comfortable with someone else around my kids. I don't trust anyone. I don't. I don't know. I just see and read crazy shit, and I'm like, I don't know what anyone's about, what anyone does in their private time. So I don't. That really scares me. Having, like, a man around my kids, that's. I don't. I don't know. I don't think I can do that. I love my life right now, and I'm happy. I feel great every day. And if I meet someone. If someone walks in this podcast room right now and is like, hey, and I get. I love that person's energy, then I would think about it. But I'm not actively trying to go on dates. Do I believe in life out in space? And have I ever had an encounter or paranormal activity? Okay, well, is paranormal activity like ghosts? Yes. You guys, that's a whole episode, because I've had tons, but. Okay. Do I believe in life out in space? Duh. You guys, we can't be that narcissistic to think that we're the only living planet out there. There's. When you're in school, you're taught. I think there was, like, eight or nine planets. This is your solar system? Yes, this is our solar system. There's black hole after black hole and there's planets after planets that we're discovering all the time. So I'm not saying that there's another planet out there that can support human life, but there are other living organisms on another planet somewhere. That's my opinion. And just because. Hello. Feel like that has to be. And have I ever had an encounter or paranormal Activity. I have seen a ufo. Have. I was with Malika. This was ages ago. And I was. I remember where I was driving. I saw a ufo, and she never saw it. But my reaction. She's always believed me because we were driving to. It was for keeping up. We were not filming at the time, but I was driving to my interview session, and I know exactly where I was. And I remember I, like, screamed and I said, oh, my gosh, Malika. Like, I couldn't get the words out. And the thing just disappeared. And Malika believed me because she was, like, how sure and confident I was. The shriek in my voice. She was like, I know you saw something. And that was it. And we didn't really talk about it. And I've definitely seen things I've never seen, like an alien or anything like that, but I do believe in that. And paranormal activity happens all the time to me. It's pretty creepy, but I'm also okay with it at the same time. My last house, I've had a few situations happen. I think we even filmed some of them. Like a energy clearer. Ghost clearer. Someone came to my house because I was sleeping. And I remember it was in the day, and something happened that night where I couldn't sleep. So I text my sister because I never take naps in the day. And Court lived, like, a block away from me. And I remember saying, I'm going to take a nap, so if you need me, I'm just not, like, come over. I'm not going to answer the phone. And that was weird for me. And something whispered in my ear and was saying, chloe, wake up. And it said it. And I was like. And I remember closing my eyes, and I said, I'm gonna open my eyes now. Please don't be there. Because it was a man's voice, and it freaked me out. And I opened my eyes slowly. Nothing was there. I was like, thank God. And then my bedroom door opened and shut. And I remember, Alexa, you know, this. This is crazy. I have chills again. And I was. I called Courtney, and I was like, you need to get the fuck over here. There's some. It was. It freaked me out. I lived alone at the time. It was horrible. We had someone come over and did, like, an energy reading. I did not tell them where this situation happened. They knew exactly where the spirit was. They said, did your door open and shut? Like, this person knew everything. His name is Jerry. That's his name. That's what? Well, Rip. His name's Geraldo, but we nicknamed him Jerry. Jerry's nice. He just wanted to be acknowledged once I acknowledged. And the door would open and shut from time to time. And I would hate it. And it would freak me out. And that was sort of that. But I always had. They say spirits speak through electronics and your tv, that kind of stuff. And so I always was having problems with my music. Like, it was. There was tons of shit. Then I had a rental house while I was building my last house. And there was a little girl in the house. I mean, like a paranormal little girl. And I. She was horrible. She was horrible. We do not like her. I don't know her. Don't know her name. I never had anyone come to detect her. But even True. Tru noticed her. True never had nightmares in her life. And then this girl would go in her room. She would wake her up. Tru would tell me about her. I would never let Tru sleep in there. And I would sleep on True's floor. She was still in a crib. 1. My one nanny is so against anything paranormal. She would be like, don't talk to me about it. I don't believe in this shit, none of it. When we were moving out, she said, I'm. I want to tell you something. I'm so glad that we're finally leaving. Because I saw the shadows that Tru speaks of. And I didn't want to admit it, but we need to get out of here. It's horrible. And I'm like, now you're telling me. Like, I've. Because I knew the shadows were there. And this little girl. I remember at this rental, I had my bedroom. And there's like a hallway and the floor's wood. And you know, if someone. You could hear someone's footsteps. And you could sort of hear the weight of their footsteps. Like, you know, oh, that's a little kids footsteps versus an adult. I was in my room and I heard somebody walking down the hallway. And I was like, did Tru get out of her crib? Cause it was a little kid's footsteps. Tru was still sleeping. It was a little girl. I remember she brushed my hair when I was laying down. That was horrifying. And I never slept with the light off in that room. Because I asked someone and they were like, she likes when the lights are off. And I was like, no, you don't. And the pool. We had a Jacuzzi. The Jacuzzi was. One day I looked out, so there was a little window. And there was. I can see the Jacuzzi. I look. This was like, probably the next Day after, this girl brushed my hair. And I just heard her humming. Like, I could have chills. And there was a Barbie or a doll in the Jacuzzi. And the whole Jacuzzi was drained. And a toy was at the bottom of it. And we were. I was so freaked out. Alexa is in here. She. We were all freaked out. I don't know if they follow me. We don't know, guys. But I don't think Jerry's come with us anywhere. But this little girl. Thank God she doesn't come with us anywhere. True. And Tatum, they both have a little gift. They are able. So when Tristan's mom is Jamaican. So Jamaican, you have a thick accent. True. At the time, maybe four and a half or five. When Tristan's mom passed away and she lived in Canada during COVID the border was closed. So Trudy didn't get to see her very much. But we spoke to her on the phone. But Tru didn't get to be with her as much as we would have liked. But they were still very connected. Her name is Andrea. Andrea passed away in the morning. But that night, Tru was up the entire night. She kept saying, mommy, Mommy, there's a lady in my room. And I was like, oh, okay. But I always believe her because I believe in this stuff. So I was like, okay, where's the lady? She's like, she's there. She has a silly voice, but she's laughing. And Tristan's mom is the funniest. Like, jolliest person. Like, all she does is laugh. And she. Tru was like, I never put two and two together. But Tru was telling me about this lady who was keeping her up at night. And the lady told her how much she loved her and she was going home. And Andrea is very religious. So now, in hindsight, all this makes sense. Anyways, that the next morning we get the call that Tristan's mom passed away. And I said, can someone. I had to fly to Canada that day to be with Tristan and do funeral arrangements for Andrea. And I said, I need someone to go pick up Tru. I can't just leave the country and not say bye to her while she's at school. So they did. And my nanny said, you know, in the car ride home. She kept talking about this lady that she saw last night in her room. And was saying about the funny voice. I'm like, I. I don't know. I'm still like, I don't know what she's talking about. We'll deal with the lady later. And they Were like, I think she's talking about Andrea. And her accent is the funny voice. Because everything she's describing and she. Everything she's describing is Andrea. And she said, I love you, and I want you to know I'm going home. And home being heaven. And Andrea would have that ability that she would know. Like, Andrea was so connected to God. And I believe that. And true Tru just has stayed with this story. I believe her story. I believe all my kids. When they tell me they see things or hear things. I never want to put doubt in them. Because that's why people stop seeing things or believing things. I have a pair of boots in my closet that my dad gave me. It was my first designer thing. My dad was, like, really big on not giving us designer things. And I remember Neiman Marcus had, like, a double sale. And my dad was like, I'll buy you a pair of designer boots. Was my first pair. I think it was like, 14 or 15. And anyways, they're these Dolce and Gabbana boots. But they were, like, probably $50. Because he got them at, like, this crazy sale and felt like he was. It was amazing. I, like, idol. I still have the boots because they're so special to me. These boots, they're on display, like, in my closet. Because they're not to be worn. It's just a memory. And they'll fall over all the time. Like, if I'm thinking about my. Something about my dad. And I'm like. And I've learned to be like, okay, hi, dad. And, like, I'll talk to him, but no other time do these boots move. Unless it's something to do with my. Like, you. It's hard to explain and give an example for it. But I believe in that stuff. So I don't think spirits are bad. Besides, that girl. That girl did not feel good. That little girl. But everything else, I'm like. I always will say out loud because I was told, like, acknowledge that I see you or I hear you, but I'm a believer of God. You don't have power. I only give power to God. I'm not here to take over your space. You just say whatever. Something like, that you acknowledge them, but tell them with you and, like, who you believe in. Like. But it is crazy. And I believe in all of that. Does your dad visit the kids? You know, I get. I feel like my dad visits Tatum, but he can't really articulate it. But I just feel like that it could be wishful thinking. I don't know. My dad I get frustrated with because I don't feel him as much as I would like. And sometimes I'm like, come on, come and visit us. But I know he's always there. Sometimes I just want a stronger presence of him. And I don't. I don't know if he visits. True. Not that she says, but they will all talk about him like they all talk about their grandpa, as if they've met him. And none of them have met him. So I feel like he makes his presence known even if they don't realize it. Not in a scary way or anything. But to be gone 21 years, he's gone longer than I've known him for. I knew my dad for 19 years and he's been gone longer than that. So for you to be gone for that many years, normally, which is a sad reality of life. But normally the stories sort of fade away. Maybe you're spoken about on certain holidays or certain days. But my dad gets spoken about a few times a week, which makes me so happy. It brings all of us joy. The kids speak about him and that's a beautiful thing because, you know, none of them have met him and normally that wouldn't be the case. So I don't know if my dad visits the kids, but I feel like he does because he's spoken about so often. What's your favorite memory? With my mom, I have so many amazing memories with my mom. I don't know if I have a favorite. I just know I love her and she's the best. And I have such, such great memories. And Kim said something really interesting that I never thought of that it for our family. My dad was such an incredible dad. We had such a great relationship. And my mom. That doesn't make our relationship or her less. She was equally as incredible and is as incredible. But sometimes when you lose a parent, they become this hero. He always was. But you speak about them so much and sometimes that your living parent, which is so sad. Kim made this point. They sort of get overshadowed and like they don't get enough recognition. Like we're always like my dad, my dad, my dad and my mom is equally as great. I know I'm supposed to talk about a memory, but sometimes I think about that that. Not that she would ever be jealous. That's like crazy. I'm not suggesting that, but we do sort of isolate sometimes and say my dad did all of this for our childhood. And she's what about me? Like, she's right. It is. It's a tough position for I think Any parent to be in, because you can't be jealous either. Like, that's a very weird emotion. But I'm sure she might feel, like, left out. When we tell these stories and we focus on my dad so much because we're trying to honor him and keep his memory alive, but we sort of take away that she was there, too, and we don't mean to. Does my life feel normal, or do you still feel the difference between pre fame and now? Oh, there's such a big difference. I mean, the things and I don't know if. Also just time. I think it's both. So there's a huge difference. I mean, I used to be able to, like, go anywhere and do anything and have the fucking time of my life and not worry about how I looked, how I have to, like, present myself, because no one knew who I was. You can just do whatever and. But I also lived in a time where there wasn't camera phones like that, so I don't know if it's a mix. I feel like I grew up in, like, the best era because it was my childhood, and teenage and young twenties didn't have camera phones, and I also wasn't famous, and then both came at similar times. But there's a huge difference. And I do, like, I love where I am now, but I also miss certain simple pleasures of, like, just running into the store. You don't have to worry about, like, how you look or just if you're just, like, in a hurry, having to do something. Like, those things are gone. Or if I want to just go to a bar or go dancing or do something. Like, you can't do those things anymore unless you want to be videotaped the entire time. It's just a different thing. Going out, having a wild night in Vegas or Miami and just, like, having fun with your girlfriends. Like, that you can't do unless it's in a very controlled setting. But maybe people feel that way more now because of camera phones. Like, just in general. I don't know. How do you deal with protecting your kids from things that have happened in your relationships or the media? Well, my kids don't have social media, so I'm really lucky that my kids are at an age where I can control those things still. Tatum's gonna be three at the end of July. True. Seven. And so they don't have, like, their phones are. They don't have phones, but their iPads are, you know, to watch YouTube or whatever. It's not. They don't have a social media app. None of that stuff. So I'm lucky in that regard. A lot of people were fascinated and wanted to know a lot about you consuming cereal. Oh, I love cereal. Questions stop. Well, I do love cereal. I didn't realize this was such a big question. I love cereal. It's interesting. I would rather have cereal at night. Like I think it tastes so much better. I don't really care. I'm not a huge breakfast girl, but I don't really care for. I don't think I go for cereal in the morning. I want cereal at night. No one's around me and I'm like watching a TV show and I want it to be a sugary kids cereal, I. E. Fruit Loops, Lucky Charms, Cinnamon Toast Crunch. I can do Honey Nut. Cheers. But it's not as exciting as the other ones. Sometimes I'm like, God, I want to vibe with Cocoa Puffs again and just see what it's like because it's nostalgic. I used to like Trix as a kid. Haven't had tricks in a long time. I would try that again. Frosted Flakes. That's a vibe. People asked, what are you watching while you're like what are your shows right now? Gosh, I don't have. I'm not very exciting with the shows I watch. So what I did watch this weekend was the Pee Wee Herman documentary. So fucking sad. He we treated him so unfairly. And all of us shame to us all. That's that the Osama bin Laden documentary. Top tier. Amazing. I've been promoting it to everyone. It's great. I might watch it a second time. So great. So those are my documentaries Kim just told me about. I want to say it's torn of a documentary. I want to see that. And then for shows I'm gonna start Love island maybe tonight. Cause I should be kid free. Love island isn't really my jam. I got into last season because of Kim and we went to India. So I had like a 20 hour flight got into Love Island. I didn't realize that all these competitions are for nothing though. Like I think I have to watch it live. I thought they voted each other out. I just thought. I think I thought something different. So I'm get. I'm going to try to watch Love island again. Kim and Kendall love it. I love Bravo shows. I like Housewives, some of them. It's just too much fighting sometimes. But I'm trying to stick with some of them because it's good tv. But I love true makes fun of me. I love watching Cooking shows I love watching, especially like Kids Baking Championship, Top Chef Junior. They're so calming. So at night, I watch those. At night, I don't want to watch anything that is stressing me out. I need to chill and go to sleep. And I will watch nostalgic things like I love Seinfeld because it was my dad's favorite show. Friends, those types of things. Sex in the City, Easy. You know what you're getting, and I can fall asleep, and I love them and I feel good. So, you guys, I have so many questions that I didn't even get to today, and I feel like I can do this for hours. So I imagine I will do an Ask me Anything again because I didn't even get to a handful of my cards. And I realized that you guys have tons of very interesting questions for me, which I love. And this didn't feel as weird as I thought it was going to feel because I was like, how am I going to talk to myself for this long? It wasn't that strange. So I'm going to do an Ask me Anything again, and hopefully you guys enjoy this solo episode because there's going to be a few more. Thank you guys for chatting with me today and submitting your questions, and if for anyone that I missed, I will get to those questions very soon.