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Foreign Michaela spiritual family. Welcome to know your aura with mystic Michaela today. Why do people break up? And how can staying in your aura lane keep your relationship compatible? But first. Hey, Scotty.
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Hey, guys. Okay, so I. I do have to ask before we even get started.
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Yeah.
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What is an auralane?
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I kind of came up with this term randomly because I did a substack about Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds relationship.
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Okay.
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And in the comments, we got to talking, and I said, and it's true. Most relationships I see break up, even if they're great relationships, when somebody steps out of their aura lane. So an aura lane is just like my little way of basically saying you. You have a way of. You have a compatibility pattern with somebody, and when you step out of it or change it or change the deal, the other person might not know how to handle you anymore. Or it might kind of put pressure on more sensitive areas of the relationship that have not evolved to meet it yet. Does that make sense?
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Yeah. Okay, so let me put this in.
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It's like staying your lane, you know, like when people are like, stay in your lane. Like, you step out of it, and that can cause problems.
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All right, so let me. Let's see if we could give kind of an example. Okay. So let's say for us. Because I think pretty much what you're saying, I think we actually do pretty much stay in our lanes.
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I think you and I do.
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Yeah. And maybe that's why things work so well.
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Yeah.
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But. Okay, let's say, like. Like, I would assume finances is a huge issue for people.
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Yes.
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Like, that might be the. If I had a guess, it may be the number one issue what people have in relationships, especially as, you know, like, with family and as they grow.
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Yes.
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Right. But that's never been a problem for us.
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Right.
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We've never had that issue. We don't ever have the finance money issue. Talk.
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Yeah.
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Now why? Okay, well, I, you know, basically, you know, I handle all the. The finances.
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Right.
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You know, I pay all the bills, whatever.
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Right.
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Everything you have access to. Of course I have a card. Right. And Right. By the computer has.
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Oh, yeah.
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All the info on it.
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Right. I know what's going on.
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Right. You know what's going on. But, like, I handle everything. Like, if I asked you probably now, like, what are monthly bills? You probably wouldn't have, you know, you wouldn't know the exact number.
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Yeah.
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So. But if you.
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Let's say I don't know if that's a good thing.
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Yeah.
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Honestly, that's my purple, like, what money?
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Yeah, maybe. What's going. Does he have an offshore bank account?
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I don't know. I don't even think about that. I think more just kind of like. I don't know. It's just not anything I like thinking about.
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Yeah. So I guess, like, okay, so let's just. And then this example. So if you then, like, all of a sudden were like, hey, let me start, like, paying the bills this month and then doing, you know, the budgeting or whatever.
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Right.
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Then that would be you getting out of your oral lane.
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Yeah.
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And then into my lane.
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Your lane?
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In my lane. And then might cause, like, friction.
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That would, like. Exactly. And that would upset our balance. Because you might take it as, oh, she doesn't trust me.
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Right.
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Or she's controlling me.
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Right.
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Or I don't like to explain how I do things. I just do them.
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Right.
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And with. And I think when you don't understand that, you know, we could talk about it here in an aura context. If you don't understand that about yourself, you can start to get mad or have resentment or have bad interactions. When in a relationship where you might understand this better, this energy thing better, you might be like, oh, you know, do you want me to carve out some space for us to have a meeting every week about this? Or do you want me. You know, if we wanted to change how things worked out, we'd have to do it so it still fit in the lanes, you know, not like where I just, you know.
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Right.
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Move the car in completely into your lane. Take you over in a road rage incident. You know, like that. Like, we'd have to have a conversation about it and rework, I guess. Just the. The pattern.
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Yeah.
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And the relationship around it. But a lot of people don't.
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Right.
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Do that. And then it just causes friction and resentment and then, like, breakups.
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Yeah, okay. That'd be like. Actually, that's right. Like with stocks, you know? Cause everyone knows that. Listens. I do the stocks and stuff. Like, I never asked you for any advice with stocks or, like, use your psychic ability for stocks or anything, because it would just kind of be. That would get into the lane, I think. So I don't ever cross the lane with that.
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That's like your thing.
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Yeah, it's like my thing. So if you were actually. Were like, hey, why don't you buy. Actually, there's a funny story where you did cross the lane. Can I tell that one?
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Yeah.
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Okay, so. All right, so am I getting off topic here? So a few years back, there was this GameStop. It was like. Oh, it was like.
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There was this crazy Reddit thread.
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Yeah. It was all this social media stuff.
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Yeah. There's a documentary about it.
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Yeah. Tick tock, trend, whatever. I don't know. And then there was, like, GameStop, and then there was a few other companies that were like this. And I don't remember the company. And then, like, it was all over the news or whatever. And when I see that, I don't touch that stuff because it's just. That's gambling and it's. It's a fool's play.
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My purple world, Right?
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So I wake up in the morning and, you know, typically, I buy your. You know, the Amazon stocks, you know, those kind of things. And then I get. And she's like, oh, my God, I read it and Twitter. It's all on fire.
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Whatever.
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And she's like, you got to buy one of these. I think they were called Meme stocks, or I don't know what they called them.
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I don't know.
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But, like, one of these, like, silly stocks that was, like, shooting up because of the GameStop situation. Whatever.
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Right.
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So, of course, you know, I'm like, fine. You know, she's a psychic, trustworthy.
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It wasn't that. It was just, like, I was just having fun.
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So I did buy one of these.
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Yeah.
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Okay. That is my only loss that I have on my. My perfect stock record since 2009. Since 2009, I've had perfect record, except for this one stock.
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Stepped out of my lane.
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She stepped out of her lane. I did buy it. I didn't buy a lot of it, but I did buy it. And of course it was a disaster.
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Nothing.
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It was like, no money. Okay, okay. It's the record, you understand? It's my record, you know, that's having positive traits.
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This is. I don't know if this has anything to do with anything. I think this is just, like, my purple got distracted by.
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Right.
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It moved into my world. Like, in my world of, like, fun trends and aura colors and psychic things, the TikTok algorithm was moving towards, like, oh, look.
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Yeah.
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You know, like, people were saying, like, I'm like, oh, my gosh, let's. Let's get in on the vibe. That's so cool. Because it was, like, supposed to be this revolutionary movement for people, you know, to get back at the corporations. And I was like, that's so cool.
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Right.
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But it didn't work.
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No. So anyway. But yeah, okay. So that would be, like, kind of an example.
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Yeah. Okay. I kind of mean more bigger Ones that I'm going to talk about.
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Let's talk about soulmates.
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Okay.
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And we've discussed this before. What is a soulmate?
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A lot of people. Okay, so there's different types of relationships, and I've done lots of different podcast episodes on this, and it's up to you to define what your relationships are. Okay. Like, I always say that to people, but soulmates feel like home. Their past life relationships, that you can have more than one soulmate in this lifetime, and soulmates can get together and fall in love. Although you can also have a soulmate that's like your best friend, or you have a soulmate that's a family member. So soulmates aren't necessarily like romantic connections, but when they are romantic connections, they usually come together really nice and easy and homey, and it works really comfortably, and you feel very safe with this person. And the whole purpose of a soulmate relationship is to allow your soul to evolve on this physical plane. So you're supposed to leave a lot of room for each other to assist and support and help in this lifetime. But sometimes soulmates break up.
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Right.
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You know, and it's really sad when they do, but they do. And. And so that's what this whole episode came about from.
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Okay.
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Because I'll see people who are going through a breakup, and. And it's sad, you know, it's like, oh, man, where'd they go wrong? And usually, yeah, it's because they change the pattern on each other without having, like, a real good sit down about it.
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Okay, so now let me ask you about my favorite soulmates.
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Okay. Okay.
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Was it Ryan and Blake?
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Yes, Blake Live, Ryan Reynolds.
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They're my favorite soulmates.
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I know they are. You talk about this often.
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I do. I mean, other than us, because we're soulmates, too, and we're not twin flames. We're soulmates, by the way. So they used to be a very popular, positive couple, I believe. Right. Didn't everyone love them? They thought they were the greatest couple there was. Soulmates. They had soulmate vibes. I think you even said they were soulmates.
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Yeah, they had soulmate vibes.
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And they might still be soulmates today.
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Yeah.
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Right. Okay. So. But now you did that. Or a doodle. I think it was on your sub stack.
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Yeah.
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And think what's going on. They got out of their lanes, Right.
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They were at this, like, well, they've been going through a lot in the media. If you haven't. If you've been living under a rock like Scott, you have no idea what's going on?
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I have no idea.
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But they've been going through a lot, like publicly or whatnot. But you can tell they're, like, making an effort to step out on these red carpets together, and it's awkward. And everyone's like, this is awkward. So something's off. What is it? And if you're watching, you kind of feel it. And of course, there's probably stress in their lives, but the way I see it in aura color is this. Okay. Ryan is green and blue. The way Ryan works is he has kind of his green patterned way of dealing with work in the industry. I feel like he's usually in control. He's setting things out all the time. He's kind of the guy that is running the routes that they're going. He's planning ahead. He's projecting the, you know, map for them. He's mapping it out for her, too, and them as a couple. And Blake is a tricolor. She's purple, yellow, blue. Lately, though, her yellow has been infringing, I feel, on his green territory. How I feel like it used to work in the past was Ryan would, you know, cut out and create and make sure she was comfortable in her little world. He's like, okay, here's your movie, here's your project. Here's your line of hair stuff. Here's your whatever. Now go be yellow in that world. Okay. Like, go ahead. And he'd step out a little. He was there for maybe Ryan. What do I do about this? Oh, here, this is what you do. You know, he would be there for support or consult or whatever, but really he would let her go be yellow, which is my our way over here of saying she was in charge and she could direct and she could pay attention to details and she could be a little managing. Okay. Like that. But he would give her these, like, spots.
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Right.
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That's how I feel like it works.
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Basically what you're saying is Ryan sent her off periods of time during the day to go yellow.
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Somebody go be yellow there and then don't bring it home.
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When you came back to Ryan.
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Yeah.
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Then you wouldn't yellow him.
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No. Now he's more comfortable with her purple blue. Oh, okay, okay. Like, you were yellow there. Now you're purple blue with me like that. And I feel like since this whole lawsuit and situation with the movie and it's just been like a public relations team disaster, and then, you know, she's kind of bombed it with the way that she just talks and whatever, I think she's all over the place with her reactions. I feel like it's been affecting him now, and he's like, wow. And the way I see it is she's probably, like, anxious, and her yellow's like, I told you so yellow a little bit. So it's like arguing with his green. And I can see him just being like, this is a lot for me. Like, he's not used to dealing with her yellow. She stepped out of her aura lane.
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Right.
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The yellow is for some things, not for dealing with him and telling him what to do.
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Okay.
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I'm not saying. And. And here's the thing. I read a lot of married couples. I don't think there's one perfectly functional couple. Okay. Every marriage is freaking weird, and I do not judge. You know, like, there's always, like, a weird thing, and it can still be a lovely relationship. I think that's their thing. Like, you can tell other people what to do. I don't care what you tell the people in your projects what to do. Do not tell me what to do. I think that's, like, Ryan's thing, but I think she is now anyways, so that can cause a lot of stress in the marriage. If they. If they understood it orally and she was like, oh, my yellow got it. You know, I think she'd understand it better.
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So she's definitely stepped into his lane.
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I think she's telling him what to do.
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Has he has his. What did you say his colors were? Green.
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And he's green blue.
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Has his green? Blue Stepped into her lane?
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Now, what I noticed and I. This. What I drew over on my sub stack, I did a doodle. Like, he's got kind of a blocky aura, and it used to kind of go over her, too, like a protective, like, shelter.
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Right.
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And now it's, like, less on top of her. You know, it's more like him that concerns me. I just feel like he's kind of stepping back a little. It just might be because it's hard for him to always. I think she's been a lot lately, which I understand. There's a lot of stress, and they've got three kids, and they're.
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Oh, they do?
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Yeah. There's, like, a lot going on.
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Okay.
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And I think she's just like a ball of a lot of yellow. Like, too much.
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It's just too much.
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And he's just like, oh, and what do greens do when you push them too much? They put a wall up, an energy wall. They really do. They can kind of shut down a little. They can Step away. They're like, I let you figure this out. I'm going to go take a break, something, whatever. So I think that's what we're picking up a little. But it's sad because to me, they do feel like soulmate relationship. They feel like they really get along. You know, she feels like she definitely loves him. You know, it feels like they're a good little unit. They tried to keep themselves protected in this crazy world, and then this happened. So hopefully they can get it back on track. But I do see this a lot in married couples, you know, and it's just kind of like, ooh, if you just understand what happened, that you stepped out of your aura, Lane, you know, your partner has no idea what to do with you. And if we could just sit down and talk about it and renavigate it, then we could get back on track.
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Right. And. Well, and this, in this case, it does seem that it was born out of a crisis.
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Yeah.
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So sometimes that, you know, things are going smoothly, it's probably, you know, when you're on a highway, it's very easy to keep the lane.
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Right.
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You can keep it for miles. Miles, you know, and then maybe when a crisis hits you, then you don't know how the other people, how you're gonna react.
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It's like lost.
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And then you can get out of the. Out of the lane quite easily.
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Yes.
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And maybe that's what.
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That's a great support.
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Thank you. Thank you. Yes. All right, when we come back. Well, actually, you're going to talk first about staying in your aura. Lane.
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And a lot of this is about getting out of your lane, meaning you tend to have a way of using your aura, your energy when you're around certain people that they become accustomed to. So let's back it up. You have two to three aura colors and your partner does too. And you know, just, that's just how life is. You're going to be using your energy in different ways depending on what context you're in. There's the you at work, the you at school, the you with the family, the you with best friends, and the you with your partner. Okay, so you could be blue, yellow, but you could be throwing those energies in different ways depending on who you're with and what's going on and what role you're playing. And usually like when you're with your partner, that's when you're kind of the most. That's the role you're most comfortable in, ideally. Right? That's the role that you're like, oh, this is me. This is calm. This feels good. This is, this is the balance that I feel most authentic in. I mean, that's the goal. But things change up. Like, life changes, your goals change, you evolve. They're supposed to, by the way. And being in a partnership means that you allow for your partner to evolve and change. And the worst thing ever would be to remain the exact same people that you met. Like when you meet somebody and fall in love, you, you know that you're in love with Their soul, the part of them that is the unseen, not their pattern today. So you. When in an ideal relationship, there's movement and there's evolution and there's give and take and ebb and flow as we allow one in ourselves and our partner to move and shift in ways that are good for them and, you know, good for the partnership, too. So it's a lot of work. That's why they say, you know, marriage and partnerships and they're. Relationships are work because you're constantly. Oh, they need this. Okay, how does it. How's that going to work into the relationship? The. The relationship's an evolving thing that is constantly editing and moving and including and. And releasing. So having the stay in your or a lane thing, it's not just like in partnerships. It's in friendships and stuff, too. And you. This is. You'll never notice it more than when, let's say, like, your high school friends meet up with your college friends or something. Okay. And that, you know, one version of your friends knows one version of you, and your other group of friends knows a whole different version of you. And then all of a sudden you hear, that's so not you. Who's this girl? Who are you? Well, that's not. That's not the, you know, Megan, we know. You know, that's basically, they're saying, like, your aura combo is totally different in this context versus when you're with, you know, and that's just. That's normal. Or, you know, if you ever think, oh, my gosh, I cannot merge my co workers with my girlfriends. I cannot merge that. They will. They will have zero idea what is going on if they. I can't be me. The same me they know concurrently, you know, and that's just because you're probably just really throwing your aura around in different ways depending on where you are, you know, I hate that, like, you're so different. What's the side of you? It's just people noticing your aura. That's. Honestly, it is the way that your energy is set up. But I do notice that problems in a relationship arise when you leave the pattern you typically lead with. And that's what I call your aura lane. So that's how I see the relationship issues start. So let's back it up. Obviously, I'm not a marriage counselor by, like, any means. Obviously. And please, I welcome the mystic Michaela spiritual family professionals in that field to come forward with their language for this, because I feel like I always think it's interesting. I call it aural Lane. What's it called in, like, marriage counseling? But anyways, what I do notice is that these marriages and these partnerships, that's when they get. They really bump heads when. When someone steps out of the OR lane. And when you bump heads with your partner, chances are one or both of you has started to exhibit an aura pattern or a mix up, which differs from how you built your entire relationship up around. And you can have your aura mix up away from them or, like, in a different context. But chances are the way that you two communicate has some sort of normalized or familiar aura pattern. And if one of you changes it up, then the other person can create, like, a narrative about it, and you can too. And that's where the problems happen. So, I mean, just like, just by the way you're supposed to intersect your aural lanes, you're supposed to widen them. You're supposed to have conversations about how they're changing or differing or whatever. But if you don't have the language to talk about it, then you can just start creating a weird story. That's not true.
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So let me just give you some examples in aura colors. And these are just very basic and limited and a little general. But I just want you to get the idea so you can get started and kind of go down your own rabbit hole of your own life. So let's say you're blue and your partner's. Let's say your partner's blue. We'll keep it out. The other person. And they're in their feels. You know, maybe they're having a hard time at work and they're coming home and they're feeling victimized, you know, and you're like, oh, my gosh, like, they're never flipping happy anymore. Is it me? Wow. You come home, you're not happy for me. Whoa. Okay. They stepped out of their aura lane. You're taking it a whole different way. Okay, like that maybe they're purple. Okay? Your partner's purple. They're getting really social. They're, like, making all these plans. They want to do a weekend away from you with their friend. Like, what's that about? They're kind of jumping all over the place with what they're talking about. You know, then the narrative could be, are we growing apart? Do they not like spending time with me? You know, are they're being immature like that kind of thing? When maybe as a purple, they're just trying to find new ways to express themselves or make life feel more free and interesting and back to the blue. Maybe they're just exploring really dark emotions right now, or they're just in their feels about something that's going on and it takes them longer to process. Maybe you have a red or a partner and they just started a brand new workout routine. You know, they've been lifting. They look good, man. Oh, you're in shape. Okay. You're going to the gym. You're like a gym rat now. Like, okay, you turn the garage into a gym. You just bought that machine that costs a lot of money. Like, really? Wow. And then are they trying to look better than me? Are they trying to get somebody? Are they going to leave me once they look better than I. You know, when red auras are just trying to take control over their body and maybe they're just exploring that. These are just very limited examples, by the way, that I'm giving based off of this is just like potpourri, like drawn from a hat. Little examples of people leaving their oral lane, what that can look like and how it can affect their relationship. Maybe they're yellow and they started. They started school. I'm going back to school, getting my master's degree in something or whatever. Now nobody's cooking. They are constantly. Nobody's worried about me anymore. They're not checking in on this. Oh my gosh. There's not the right food in the pantry. Wow. They don't care what. Wow. They're just. They're just in school. This is what they're doing. This is their whole life. They have their school friends now. Oh, they have to study. I thought we were hanging out this weekend. Wow. When they're just trying to better their life so that they can better the people around them's lives. Maybe they're green and they've been wanting more alone time. They're hiking more, they're taking walks. They're kind of being a little more quiet or neutral and whatnot. Oh, are they distancing themselves from me? Wow. They don't want to talk anymore, you know, and when in actuality, they're probably just trying to find peace in themselves and trying to get comfortable with being focused. Maybe they're turquoise and they've started down a spiritual path and they've got their crystals and they're going to some retreat this weekend. That sounds really odd. And they're doing sound baths and stuff like that. Like, oh, my gosh, they're in a cult. They've completely lost their mind. There's no talking to them. They've entered the woo woo and whatnot. When again, they're just trying something new. Maybe they're pink and they're dressing differently and they're wearing sparkles. Oh, are they immature? What are they dressing like? They're six. What are they trying to get the wrong attention? You know, what is that about? They're trying to embarrass me. You know, so little things like that. And then of course, I have to do Indigo. And maybe, you know, your Indigo. It's like, dad, I want to go out. I want to be home. I'm comfortable here. You know, I don't need to do everything I used to do. I'm good. Oh, well, they're boring. They're not trying to make me happy. So you can see how in the ORA lane component thing, you or your partner could do something and it can get interpreted in a way that's kind of incorrect and can lead to really big problems. And that's what I see happen with really good, solid couples. Now, I talked about couples and evolution, okay? And I started this, but this is how I wanted to end it for this segment. You know, we have to leave room for other people to grow. And it is our ego, which is the human. The human projection of us. It's a uniquely human phenomenon. The ego likes us to stay the same, and it loves to be the negative nelly in our minds. And when somebody changes or tries to better themselves or evolve or, you know, has a new idea or whatever, the ego immediately is like, oh, this is about you, and it's personal and it's bad. Okay? So the ego, we have to remind ourselves and give our ego a little hug and be like, oop, okay? So when we start feeling these things in a relationship, you have to ask yourself. And I'm not saying dismiss your feelings. I'm just saying see if you can have a conversation with this person about it. Because your partner should be able to also recognize that what they're doing is different. Okay? This is a different pattern. I do realize I've changed it up on the way the relationship works, and they should be able to sit down and have a conversation of why, you know? Well, you know, I'M working out more because I've been feeling I need the endorphin boost and it makes me feel good and it just makes me feel in control of my body and I feel like I have more energy and this is just something that brings me joy, you know, and it's just about that. That's what it's about. Do you want to do it with me or whatever, you know, or I'll check with you or I'll work it around our schedule together or whatnot. And I think like, just by going to them and having a convo about it settles everyone down and then reminds everybody that there's you, there's me, and there's the relationship, which is really kind of the third entity. When you're in a relationship, there's the relationship, and the relationship is a body in and of itself that changes and grows and moves and evolves and needs nurturing from both of you to keep it alive. There's like you, there's your partner, and then the relationship is the thing that you're both feeding. And I think that is my point of staying in your Aura Lane. It's noticing that there's lanes in general where you've stepped out, where somebody else has stepped in, and having those conversations quickly and effectively and lovingly before we go off into whole different highways from one another. So I hope this makes sense and I'd love to hear your own stories of getting back on track after stepping out of Aura Lane's. That would be, I think, really healing for other people to read about as well. This episode of Know youw Aura is brought to you by wildgreen.
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It's your nickname.
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Yeah, they call me pb.
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I'm like, hey, Pretzel bun.
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Hey, guys.
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Well, I know one way I won't step out of my aura lane.
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Okay.
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I will not give one iota of advice when it comes to planning our summer trip.
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That's coming up, our annual summer trip road trip.
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Road trip.
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Last year, people thought I was insane.
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Yes.
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Because I planned a road trip to South Dakota and North Dakota.
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Yeah.
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A couple years ago, I planned one to Oklahoma.
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Oh, yeah.
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Yeah. Oklahoma and Texas trip, right?
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Yeah. That was fun.
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So, yeah. That is true.
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You never.
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I do plan the summer trip. You want me tell you where you're going?
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She knows.
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She knows where she's going. But yeah, I think it'll be great. Yellowstone. We're going to Grand Tetons. Rocky Mountain National Park. I actually had to bring out some yellow for this trip.
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Oh, did you?
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Yes. And there is now for if you want to go into Rocky Mountain, believe this, if you want to go into Rocky Mountain national park in the summertime, you need to have a time slot. And I actually figured out how to get a time slot that blew my.
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Mind because I forget what day it was. But you're like, at 9am today, they open up the time slots for Rocky Mountain National Park. I'm like, oh, who are you that you'd even know that?
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Right. And of course, I did not have my phone with me. Try not to bring my phone with me when I go out sometimes. And then of course, your yellow kind of like, do you want me to do it for you?
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My inauthentic yellow?
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Yeah. So you kind of stepped out of your lane a little there, I guess.
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Well, I mean, yeah, I set an alarm.
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And then, of course, the alarm. And then, of course, my red said, no, don't worry, we'll get it there's plenty of time to get the slots. Of course it's time. Don't worry.
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Right.
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And I think we got the last lot, but.
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Yeah.
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Anyway.
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We did. It was like. We were only, like 15 minutes late.
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Yeah, we were. Yeah.
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I told you they'd go fast. I'm like, I didn't know this existed, but. Because I know it exists, it'll go fast because these yellows and these greens are on it.
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Yeah.
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They set their alarm.
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Yeah.
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They got it all set up.
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That's true. But I mean, I. You know, finally. Because Abby's turning. Well, she's 10, 11, whatever. Finally. I think the kids. Because we wanted to take them. We've been to Yellowstone. It was like, what, 20 years ago? Almost more than that. 20 years ago. Something a little more than that. Okay.
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Yeah. I think 2000. Three.
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Three. Okay. So almost 20 years ago. Over. Over 20 years ago. But I've always. We've always wanted to take the kids to Yellowstone, but, you know, Abby's too little. He can't. Four or five, six. I don't know. I think it's too young. But I think now they're at the perfect age.
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They can hike.
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They can hike and they'll remember it. So we're very. I'm very excited to take the kids to Yellowstone.
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You are?
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Yeah. I think that I.
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Except for the one cabin.
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Yeah. There's the Snake river cabin. Yeah. There is one cabin.
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Where.
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I don't know how it's gonna go over. There's always, like, one stop on the trip. Like last year, it was this place in Valentine, Nebraska.
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It was okay, though.
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It was okay. We didn't know it was called the Harmony Inn.
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Yeah.
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Shout out my kids if it doesn't say Hilton. They get a little, like, stressed out.
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They sound like sp. Spoiled.
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Yeah, they do.
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And they are.
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No, they are.
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They're spoiled. They are totally spoiled. This isn't how we originally did our Yellowstone vacation together.
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No, no, no. We ate. We ate peanut butter jelly on a.
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Three days.
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Yeah, Three days. Yeah. One. One place I slept with a knife under my pillow because I thought we were gonna get killed.
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But anyway, that was really scary.
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Yeah. So last year we stayed there a place in Valentine, Nebraska, called the Harmony Inn. The kids were freaking out.
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Yeah.
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So there's always like this. Yeah. Yeah. It was okay.
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It was.
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It was fine. It was not too much complaining. Yeah. And there was nothing. There was nothing for hundreds of miles, like, except for grass. You even told the kids, you're not going to see a tree. I did for 100 miles. And the kids still mock you because there are trees. You do see trees.
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No, because we go into Nebraska, and it's like, the Arbor State.
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Yeah, the Arbor State.
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And Bree's like, okay, mom, no trees.
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Right.
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Like, it's crazy called, like, I should look this up because I'm getting it wrong, but it's called, like, the National Arbor Day State or something. She's like, okay, Mom.
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Yeah.
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I'm like, all right.
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Anyway, and as soon as, of course, we cross the border, there's a tree, and. And Bri let you have it, but. Because for a month, she was talking about. Like you were talking about no trees. But anyway, there were parts where there were no trees, by the way. There. But anyway, so there's always this one place where I can't figure out a Hilton.
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Yeah.
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You know where. You know, and this is going to be the Snake River Cabins outside of Jackson, I think, Wyoming. And it looked, you know, it looked interesting. I don't know.
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Jackson's pricey, though.
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Yeah, well, there's. There's nothing. There's nowhere to stay.
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Didn't you look. Yeah. Didn't you? Like, a Motel 6 was, like, how much a night or something?
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I think it was. I don't know if it was a Motel 6 or the Holiday Inn, but it was, like, $600.
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That's insane.
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There is no way I'm spending $600 a night for the. The Holiday Inn for.
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Yeah, I can't. So.
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So we got the Snake river cabin.
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No WI fi. Should be great.
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I think they said there was their wifi. It was, too. I think it's two rooms, right? One small.
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There's a bedroom. Look like there's a WI fi there at all. I. I got the reviews.
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The best one I could there. Because you.
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You.
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There was a lot of options for rentals. Like, you could actually just rent a sleeping bag. Yes, there was one.
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That's right. So they were like. Or just rent a sleeping bag. I'm like, so many questions. Do they wash it? I don't know what is. No, but the reviews on this place was. Don't. Don't go out without your bear spray. Oh, that's what we have to buy. Bear spray.
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That'd be cool. Yeah.
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No, that wouldn't be.
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That'd be real cool. That'd be cool.
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Yeah. You have this idea you could, like, fight off a grizzly, and I just don't. I guess I don't have that faith in you.
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Stay in your lane. I'm gonna be Able to fight. I'm gonna be able to fight off the grizzly. Stay in the lane. I got this covered.
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I'm gonna be like. And I have my bear spray everywhere. You have to practice how to use it first because I guess most people like spray themselves, unfortunately or something.
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Yeah. So we got that.
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Oh, God, the anxiety. My inauthentic yellow.
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No, I know. I mean. Well, you are getting out of your. You were getting out of your lane the other day a little bit too. Because I did book an Airbnb outside of Yellowstone.
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Yeah.
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And it's new. It's a new Airbnb. It had no reviews.
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Okay. Number one, like, everybody knows this.
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Yeah.
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You don't book an Airbnb that has.
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No reviews because they're new. They're new. They haven't had anyone stay there yet, I guess.
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But have they had anybody stay there since you booked it?
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I should check that. Yeah, actually, I should check that.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Cuz I can still change it. There's still time.
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That's like number one. And I just seen so many horror movies, you know, it's just kind of scary.
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Okay.
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I don't know. Anyways, anyway, so I do get out of my lane when it comes to safety stuff.
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Yeah.
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And then last time we were in Grand Teton, like when I was 22.
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Yep. We saw all those bear tracks. Right. Yeah.
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You. You took me off the trail again. Number one thing, they tell you off the lane, I had no bear spray and I see fresh bear tracks by water. And I was absolutely. I've never been so scared in my life.
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Yeah.
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I was a little scared before or since.
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Yeah. We got out of there and I.
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Was like, yeah, that was really scary.
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That was scary. But we are going back there. So we're going to the Teton.
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Yeah.
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So excited to take the kids. Oh, passport update. Passport update. This has been a saga. If you're still listening to this, I don't know why, but anyway, passport update. We got them.
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We got the passport.
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We got the four passports.
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I couldn't believe it.
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Yep. The only thing is we have not yet gotten back our documents to get the passport, but they claim that it's coming in the mail separately.
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I trust them so far.
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So far, pretty good.
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Yeah.
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All right, so that. That's the passport update.
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We all manifesting a character trip overseas.
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Right. I am not.
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Okay.
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Okay. And then what else? Severance. We've been watching the show Severance.
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No. No spoilers.
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No spoilers.
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Because also we're not done with season two yet.
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Yes. We've watched four episodes of season two.
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Yeah. Now you're. Don't give any spoilers.
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Okay, I'll try not to. All right, so it's in like, can we tell the premise or no?
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Yeah, that's fine.
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Are you do that? Because I'm bad at that.
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Okay. So basically I'm trying to think what's in the actual preview. If you haven't watched Severe, don't want.
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To give it away.
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Right? Yeah. And we're like midway through season two. But anyways, there's this technology, it's kind of like black mirror a little reminds me of. There's this chip in your brain and basically you go to work and when you go to work, you're severed. So there's like a separate consciousness that does work and then there's your actual consciousness that feels like they didn't go to work. And your work consciousness is called your innie. And then your separate outside consciousness is called your outie. But the thing is your innie only exists in that workspace. So every day is kind of like the same day. You don't experience sleep or outside. They just go to this weird office and every day is just kind of like they go in. It's like a loop, a never ending loop. But if, if you don't go to work, your innie doesn't exist anymore. But it's interesting because as the show progresses, the innies have kind of like thoughts. They're very separate from their outies. And it would be kind of interesting to meet your innie, I think, and then ask your innie, like, hey, what do you think of me? Because like one, one person's innie realizes that their outie is kind of a loser. Or one person's innie realize that their outtie is kind of like evil.
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So like for the most part, they're like totally different people.
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Yeah, they're like totally different people.
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Do you think it'd be like the two halves of like your aura? Like what? Like if you were an Indian Audi, like, and you were not a tricolor. Let's say you're just two colors and like your innie is purple and then your Audi is indigo. Like, is that what do you think it's going on there?
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Yeah, that might be kind of. That's, that's, I think the interesting conversation. Like who's your. Any aura?
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Who's your Audi aura? You know, this is what I'm. I don't want to talk too much about the show, but I will say I'll give My take on it, whether I think you should watch it or not.
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Okay.
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Season one, it was. I'll give it a good. It was good.
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That's a lot for. That's a lot for Scott.
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Yeah.
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That means go watch it.
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Yeah. It was a lot of suspense. Very suspenseful. This is the funniest part about the show that I've been driving Mystic Mikaela insane about. Okay. So I don't know. For whatever reason, I feel like I've watched this show before.
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Oh, my God. He's driving me absolutely insane.
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Parts of the show, I keep saying, like, have I seen this before? I know I've seen this before, but I don't think I've ever seen it before. And it's driving you insane.
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Yeah. I'm like, scott, you've never seen this.
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Before, but it seems like I've seen it.
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I think it's just because the actors are from other things you've watched.
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No, but, like, some of the. Like, the things that they do in there, I'm like, I know I've seen that before.
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Well, they do seem to take from, like, 1960s kind of stuff. Like, the style looks a little 60s. You like the set styling a little.
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What if my Audi has seen it and not my innie. Not my innie right now.
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Oh, my God. And the other thing you don't understand is the innie versus Audi.
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I know.
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I can't keep it short. You can't. We're halfway through season two, and the Audis, I'm like, scott, the Audis wouldn't know that. That's like, something the Innies know. Like that. And then, like, you have a hard time understanding that.
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I feel like it's a little confusing.
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It's interesting.
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It's interesting. It's directed by Ben Stiller, and here's here. All right, so here's my take on it. It's good. They do, like, a lot of tricks with suspense and things like that. Thank goodness there was a second season that I didn't start watching it with only when season one came out. And then there would have been no second season.
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The cliffhanger, right?
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The cliffhanger on that would have drove me insane. I would have went to Ben Stiller's house, found him, and choked his green. You know. What is he Green?
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It's green. What? You know it's green.
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You know what? Yeah, it's green. You know, Choked his.
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All right.
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Greens, you know. Okay, it's with the greens. We all got greened the other day. Why you don't Remember we got greened. Where at? When we went to the restaurant batch. We all got greened.
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What are you talking about?
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Okay, so switching topics.
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I have no idea what he's going to say.
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We went out with a group of friends.
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Yeah.
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I think there was like eight, ten of us. Whatever. And we went to watch the Kentucky Derby, which, by the way, picked the right horses.
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Yes.
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One. And there was a green guy there. Friend of ours. Yeah. And he went around.
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Oh, my God. Yeah.
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To every single one of us. So if there was 10 of us, he went around to nine of us. He even went around to himself, by the way. And he told us his green system.
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Yes.
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For getting free nights on cruise ships by playing slots at the Poke. Slots at the. At the casinos. On the cruise ships.
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A
On the cruise ship casinos. Yeah.
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B
And he went around to every single person and explained the whole system that he created and how it worked. I zoned out, too. I was. I was like, yeah, yeah, that's great. And I asked a couple questions and I, you know, just walked away. But some people got real greened. And he went on. Like, I heard him talking over and over because it's the same talking points. But is it. You know, it's interesting because it's really a passion for him.
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A
Yes, it is.
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B
It's like a green passion.
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A
He's topically interested.
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B
He's topically interested. And you always say that greens are topically interested.
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A
Greens will talk about things that they're topically interested in.
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B
Yeah. So, of course, what I did was I took his wife and said, what's going on here?
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A
Oh, she's just having a great time.
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B
And she was like, oh, my God. He does this all the time. He shows me all the sheets. He explains the mathematics to me. He does, you know, how many hours you need to play versus how much in the slots and which slot machines. And she was telling her everything, and she said it was, like, driving her a little nuts at times.
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A
Right.
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B
But I was like, yeah, you know, so we all got greened.
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A
It's interesting because he's green. Purple.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And there's a friend of ours, and nobody really. It's like kind of a group where they're like, oh, yeah, okay. My name's Megan. Right. Like, okay, mystic.
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B
Yeah. He doesn't believe he's green.
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A
He doesn't understand a lot of this stuff. But everyone in our friend group is like, okay, you're such a green dude. Yeah, you're so green. Because he. He goes around and he's found. Yeah. He's found this green system to have a purple good time, you know, which I think is really interesting. And his wife is blue. Yellow.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And they work real well because she's yellow. So, like, when he's doing his slots or whatever on this cruise ship, she's doing her yellow because yellows are very independent. So she does her things. Like she likes to go play the games or, you know, all the cruise ship activities that they do. So anyway, so it's interesting how these people.
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B
Yeah, so they're actually.
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A
They're in their lanes. Yeah, they're in their lanes.
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B
Like, he's found his casino lane. Free cruises. And he loves to get things for free, by the way.
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A
He does.
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B
Which is interesting because he got a free drink when we were there.
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A
He was explaining it.
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B
Yeah.
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A
They were like, oh, I made an extra drink. It's almost universe.
- [44:53]
B
Yeah, that's like total manifestation.
- [44:55]
A
I told him that, too, because he was explaining to me how he got this free. Yeah, Free cruises. And the bartender walks up to him, hey, she's like, oh, I made this extra drink. Yeah, Would you want it? And he's like, yeah, yeah. And I'm like, wow, she only asked you.
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B
I know.
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A
That's weird.
- [45:08]
B
I know. There was three other guys that were trying to get it.
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A
I was right there, too.
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B
But he got it.
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A
He got it because he likes free stuff.
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B
He likes it. He likes the free stuff.
- [45:16]
A
Yeah. Yeah.
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B
But. Yeah. So, yeah, they're both in their lanes, and then I guess sometimes he crosses over and explains it to her, and maybe she gets a little annoyed, but, you know.
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A
No, I think she's.
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B
She likes it because she's going on all the cruises.
- [45:27]
A
Oh, yeah.
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B
Because they're going on a lot. I think he said they go on, like, four cruises a year.
- [45:31]
A
It's crazy. Yeah, that's cool. They go on more if they didn't have the kids in school and stuff.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Work. But. Yeah. Who's the green in your life?
- [45:39]
B
Yeah, who? Did you get green this weekend?
- [45:41]
A
Did you get green?
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B
Did you get green? Because we all got green. Because it's funny because then, like, as I'm walking, because, like, you know, like, I can't sit still, so I'm walking back and forth, and I always. I'm hearing, like, the same story to every single person. And he made the rounds. He got to everybody.
- [45:53]
A
He does.
- [45:54]
B
All nine people got the thing, I think.
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A
I think it's awesome.
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B
Yeah.
- [45:57]
A
Good for him.
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B
I think we'll wrap this up.
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A
Oh, wrapping it up. All right.
- [46:03]
B
I mean, if anyone's still listening at this point. If you are.
- [46:06]
A
I don't know.
- [46:07]
B
You really like us.
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A
All right, well, this podcast is for you and about you, and we're so glad you spent some time with us today.