Know Your Aura with Mystic Michaela

Episode 293: Loving in Layers, The Empath’s Aura and the Allure of the Wounded
Date: September 11, 2025

Episode Overview

In this insightful episode, Mystic Michaela explores how those with empath auras tend to "love in layers," especially in relationships with wounded or toxic individuals. The conversation dives deep into why empaths often find themselves making excuses for others, remaining loyal despite mistreatment, and continually seeking the good in people—even at great personal cost. The episode also breaks down how each empath aura color (blue, indigo, purple, turquoise) uniquely navigates these relational dynamics.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Pattern of Loving in Layers

• Main Theme: Empathic individuals are often "programmed" (both naturally and through early life experiences) to see beneath the surface of people's actions, fixating on their wounded or hidden "good" parts rather than acknowledging hurtful behaviors.
  • "They piece it together to salvage some sort of relationship or idea of who this person is... Empath auras are naturally hardwired to do this but a lot of times ... they can get programmed to do it as well." (Mystic Michaela, 02:30)
• Impact: This pattern can lead to a lifetime of toxic dynamics, including repeated abuse, boundary violations, and emotional exhaustion.
• Knowledge as Power: Recognizing this tendency is the first step to breaking the cycle.
  • "It unravels immediately, like, the second you see it under a microscope, which is what I hope we can do today." (Mystic Michaela, 03:14)

2. When Others Can't Understand

• Scott's Perspective: As a "red" aura type, Scott expresses frustration at people who stay in obviously abusive situations, emphasizing action-based boundaries and logic.
  • "If someone's continuously doing the same action over and over, if they were doing it to me, I would just be like, I'm out of here..." (Scott, 01:21)
• Michaela's Response: For empaths, advice from non-empaths (e.g., “Why don’t you just leave?”) feels like noise until they become fully aware and decide to set their own boundaries.
  • "Once you see it, you can't unring a bell. There's no going backwards.” (Mystic Michaela, 04:46)

3. Origins & Reinforcement of the "Loving in Layers" Program

• Natural Ability: Empath auras can sense the soul or "real" parts of others buried beneath trauma and ego.
  • "Empath auras have this innate ability to feel the real parts hidden beneath all the constructs." (Mystic Michaela, 11:15)
• Weaponizing Vulnerability: Some wounded individuals use their brokenness as “bait” to keep the empath enmeshed, knowing the empath cannot turn away from pain.
  • "Some people know they have those broken bits and they use them as bait... They know you can't resist that."
• The Danger of Normalization: For those raised in such conditions, abuse and love become intertwined and undifferentiable, which is "utterly exhausting, and ... deletes your own agency and your own voice." (Mystic Michaela, 13:10)

Empath Aura Colors: How Each Loves in Layers

Blue Auras

• Traits: Exceptionally selfless, natural helpers, moldable, often unaware they are enduring abuse.
• Pattern: Only recognize the need to leave when witnessing the abuser hurt others they love—not only themselves.
  • "Blue auras have the hardest time letting go ... usually they don't realize they're doing it until they notice others suffering from it too." (16:40)
• Example: Becoming a “buffer” not just for oneself, but for other victims in the environment.

Indigo Auras

• Traits: Patient, introspective, but once boundaries are crossed, they cut people off completely—“door slamming.”
• Pattern: Linger longer if the abuser feigns introspection or validates their perception of brokenness, but once done, it's permanent.
  • "Indigos will kill a memory quicker than anyone else... If the abuser is like, 'I see them too,' Indigo stays longer. But just because somebody validates you doesn't mean anything if they're not making it better." (19:50)

Purple Auras

• Traits: Thrive on chaos, creative, can tolerate oddity but sometimes romanticize or explain away abuse.
• Pattern: Absorb abuse by thinking they are “special" or uniquely strong, until they see the abuser treating others the same way, sparking disillusionment and prompting departure.
  • "When they see this abusive person abusing other people...they're like, 'I thought this was just a me and you relation...'" (21:10)
  • "If you ever have that feeling—'hey, wait a second, now they're abusing somebody else'—and feel jealousy or envy, you have been programmed to love in layers." (Mystic Michaela, 21:47)

Turquoise Auras

• Traits: Natural mirrors, try to heal abusers by becoming what they think is needed.
• Pattern: Unconsciously reenact the abuser's original wounds ("mommy issues," etc.), usually get blamed for triggering pain. Once they realize this, they can detach quickly and often go into healing professions.
  • "When the turquoise knows they're really good at picking up triggers, they don't have time to do that for people who don't want to get well, so they just shrug and walk away." (Mystic Michaela, 24:28)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On the essence of loving in layers:
  "Loving in layers is when I see someone digging ... into a person’s broken aura bits, their broken soul, and they salvage what they can for continuing a relationship." (10:44, Mystic Michaela)
• The “buffering” awakening for blue auras:
  "They don’t even realize they are walking on eggshells ... until they notice others around them suffering from it, too." (17:25, Mystic Michaela)
• Indigo’s line in the sand:
  "Once an indigo door ... slams, they are done. That door does not open." (18:51, Mystic Michaela)
• On the “special” sickness for purples:
  “When you have a relationship with somebody and it’s mostly abuse, you begin to think that’s your special connection. So when they start abusing somebody else...you can actually be sick enough to be jealous about it.” (21:27, Mystic Michaela)
• Turquoises and mirroring:
  “Turquoises can become the place that actually triggers the abuser most ... They’ll reenact the exact triggers ... only to get blamed and accused.” (23:43, Mystic Michaela)
• Humorous reflection on cat ownership as ‘loving in layers’:
  “It’s like living with a perpetual newborn. He wakes me up in the middle of the night to eat and I listen because he’s hungry…” (Mystic Michaela, 27:45)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:00–03:30: Introduction to the episode theme & context: Why do empaths stay in harmful relationships?
• 03:34–05:20: Discussion on boundaries and the empath’s internal line—when is enough, enough?
• 11:00–16:20: Mystic Michaela explains the energetic dynamics behind loving in layers and how abusers weaponize vulnerability.
• 16:20–24:50: Deep dive into each empath aura color—Blue, Indigo, Purple, Turquoise—and how each uniquely interacts with the loving in layers pattern.
• 27:10–32:00: Lighthearted personal anecdotes about how this dynamic manifests in pet ownership.
• 32:18–41:00: “Overtime” segment: humorous personal story about getting ripped off by a refrigerator repairman, analogies to personal boundaries, and playful banter about spirit guides.
• 41:04–end: Closing thoughts, wrapping up the episode.

Listener Engagement

• Mystic Michaela invites listeners to share their experiences with "loving in layers" in the Mystic Michaela Spiritual Family Facebook group and on her Substack.

Overall Tone

The conversation weaves spiritual insight with personal vulnerability, gentle humor (especially about pets and spirit guides), and a nurturing call for self-awareness and boundary-setting. Michaela balances direct advice (“run away from it. Walk away...”) with compassion for those caught in these painful patterns.

This episode offers both validation and practical wisdom for empaths—and those who love them—on recognizing, understanding, and healing the compulsion to “love in layers.”