Know Your Aura with Mystic Michaela

Episode 300: Surviving Family Holiday Dynamics, Happy Thanksgiving!
Release Date: November 27, 2025

Episode Overview

This milestone episode dives into one of the most requested topics: how our aura colors shape the ways we react to intense family dynamics, particularly during the holiday season. Mystic Michaela explores the reasons for common feelings of anxiety, tension, and regression when surrounded by family. She guides listeners through family roles based on aura colors, explains their energetic patterns, and shares practical advice for healthy boundaries and growth during holiday gatherings.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Navigating Holiday Family Stress

• Common Feelings Pre-Holiday Gatherings ([00:23]):

  • Anticipatory anxiety, dread, physical stress responses, and rehearsed avoidance strategies.
  • Memorable Quote (Michaela):

    "You might be feeling anxious before these events...or angry even. Maybe resentful. You might start getting obsessive...Worried you're gonna disappoint somebody." ([01:24])

• Physical Manifestations of Stress ([02:47]):

  • Symptoms include stomach issues, sweating, and feeling stuck or frozen during family gatherings.
  • Scotty's Relatable Moment: He admits to freezing up even during the discussion, showing the realness of these anxieties.

Family Roles as Energetic Time Capsules

• Regression Into Old Roles ([03:29]):
  • Michaela discusses how being around family can trigger the old roles we grew up with and how others’ expectations “time capsule” us to versions of ourselves we have outgrown.
  • The same applies in reverse: we might not acknowledge the growth in our family members.
  • Quote (Michaela):

    "It's like walking—it's like an energy time capsule for your aura. You can revert immediately back into an old role."

Personal Anecdotes & Humor

• Family Lore Example: The Broken Chair ([05:29]):
  • Michaela and Scotty laugh about family stories—specifically, the lingering myth that Scotty always broke antique chairs.
  • Quote (Michaela):

    "My dad, like, knows these chairs like they're his children. It's almost like they speak to him at night and they tattle, they're like, 'Scott broke me.'"

Why Boundary Changes Trigger Us

• On Evolving Roles and Boundaries ([06:25]):
  • Discussing how boundaries set by us or family (e.g., choosing not to host or attend) can feel triggering because they disrupt family patterns.
  • The expectation to stay in one’s familiar “role” is often perpetuated unconsciously.
  • Quote:

    "They take a snapshot of a version of you, and it's so almost effortless to just fall back into whatever that snapshot is, even though you're so past it...it's stressful, but it's effortless, which is really weird."

Main Segment: Aura Colors and Family Roles

Michaela provides an energetic map of family roles through the lens of aura colors ([13:40]):

Red Auras – “The Bad Guy”

• Expected to blow up or cause drama; may be unfairly labeled.
• Quote (Michaela):

  "They're expected to be the person who blows up...It's a no win situation."

Yellow Auras – “The Tradition Enforcer”

• Designated as the holiday organizer/magic-maker; often feel used or underappreciated.
• Quote:

  "Don't people like me for me? Or is it just that I can provide this experience for them?"

Green Auras – “The Unconsidered/Disregarded”

• Seen as consistent and non-reactive; emotions or changes often overlooked.
• May feel invisible or frustrated when their growth is ignored.

Blue Auras – “The Peacemaker”

• Feel responsible for soothing all conflicts, leaving them drained.
• Quote:

  "You go into it expecting to be exhausted...you might just come home and just feel sick and sad and depressed and tired and hungry."

Indigo Auras – “The Wallflower”

• Tend toward flight or withdrawal; escape to quiet spaces.
• Memorable Moment: Michaela’s nostalgic mention of "the coat room" as her personal family-gathering refuge ([16:50]).

Purple Auras – “The Button Pusher”

• Keenly sense inauthenticity and often can’t help but speak up or provoke.
• Quote:

  "I'd rather a rough truth than a pretty lie. I think when you're a purple, that's a big deal in a family situation."

Turquoise Auras – “The Invisible Outsider”

• Often feel fringe or ghost-like within the family; shocked when others realize they have strong opinions or a voice.

Pink Auras – “The Mascot”

• Propped up for show or comic relief; sometimes the subject of ridicule.
• Quote:

  "They can feel like a commodity of the family...you can be the mascot in, okay, everybody pile on the pink aura."

Notable Segment ([13:40] – [21:35]):

Direct run-through of all aura colors and their associated family roles—great primer for newcomers!

Tips & Spiritual Advice for Coping

Use Family Events as Self-Reflection ([21:36]):

• Observe your own reactions, recognize emotions and triggers, and reframe experiences as opportunities for spiritual growth.
• Set realistic goals, make conversation with non-triggering individuals, and have exit strategies (like a bathroom break, a walk, or hiding in the coat room).
• Use energy management techniques: sage, crystals, and healing music before/after gatherings.

Permission to Prioritize Yourself ([24:20]):

• Strong affirmation from Michaela for anyone with a truly toxic or abusive family role: you do not have to attend.
• Quote (Michaela):

  "If you are walking into a situation where your family role was to be the abused in any way, shape, or form, you do not have to go. And I told you so. If nobody else is telling you so, I'm telling you so."

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

| Timestamp | Quote | Speaker | |-----------|-------|---------| | 01:24 | "You might be feeling anxious before these events... Worried you're gonna disappoint somebody." | Michaela | | 03:29 | "It's like an energy time capsule for your aura. You can revert immediately back into an old role." | Michaela | | 05:37 | "My dad, like, knows these chairs like they're his children...they tattle, they're like, 'Scott broke me.'" | Michaela | | 08:53 | "They'll dig at you...they'll try to get you to be that way. Almost a part of you wants to give them it because it's the flow of the family." | Scotty | | 13:40 | "Let's start with red auras..." (begins aura color segment—a practical guide to identifying your family role) | Michaela | | 21:36 | "My goal with this is to be kind of like a little pep talk before you go into an intense family situation." | Michaela | | 24:20 | "If you are walking into a situation where your family role was to be the abused in any way, shape, or form, you do not have to go." | Michaela |

Resources and Recommendations

• Aura Quiz: Listeners encouraged to discover their aura type [https://knowyouraura.com/quizzes/]
• Self-Care Tools: Saging, healing music, and preplanned retreat strategies.
• Further Learning: “What’s My Aura Workshop 1” for deeper family role and aura work.

Tone and Approach

Mystic Michaela and co-host Scotty maintain a warm, candid, and gently humorous tone—balancing empathy with practical wisdom. Listeners are encouraged to validate their feelings, recognize old patterns, be gentle with themselves, and embrace personal growth, whether they’re heading into a family gauntlet or giving themselves permission to opt out.

This episode is recommended for anyone feeling anxious or out-of-place with their family this holiday season, or those curious about how spiritual energy and aura colors affect our most enduring (and sometimes most challenging) relationships.