EP300: Surviving Family Holiday Dynamics, Happy Thanksgiving!

Summary

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Know Your Aura with Mystic Michaela

Episode 300: Surviving Family Holiday Dynamics, Happy Thanksgiving!
Release Date: November 27, 2025

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Episode Overview

This milestone episode dives into one of the most requested topics: how our aura colors shape the ways we react to intense family dynamics, particularly during the holiday season. Mystic Michaela explores the reasons for common feelings of anxiety, tension, and regression when surrounded by family. She guides listeners through family roles based on aura colors, explains their energetic patterns, and shares practical advice for healthy boundaries and growth during holiday gatherings.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Navigating Holiday Family Stress

• Common Feelings Pre-Holiday Gatherings ([00:23]):

  • Anticipatory anxiety, dread, physical stress responses, and rehearsed avoidance strategies.
  • Memorable Quote (Michaela):

    "You might be feeling anxious before these events...or angry even. Maybe resentful. You might start getting obsessive...Worried you're gonna disappoint somebody." ([01:24])

• Physical Manifestations of Stress ([02:47]):

  • Symptoms include stomach issues, sweating, and feeling stuck or frozen during family gatherings.
  • Scotty's Relatable Moment: He admits to freezing up even during the discussion, showing the realness of these anxieties.

Family Roles as Energetic Time Capsules

• Regression Into Old Roles ([03:29]):
  • Michaela discusses how being around family can trigger the old roles we grew up with and how others’ expectations “time capsule” us to versions of ourselves we have outgrown.
  • The same applies in reverse: we might not acknowledge the growth in our family members.
  • Quote (Michaela):

    "It's like walking—it's like an energy time capsule for your aura. You can revert immediately back into an old role."

Personal Anecdotes & Humor

• Family Lore Example: The Broken Chair ([05:29]):
  • Michaela and Scotty laugh about family stories—specifically, the lingering myth that Scotty always broke antique chairs.
  • Quote (Michaela):

    "My dad, like, knows these chairs like they're his children. It's almost like they speak to him at night and they tattle, they're like, 'Scott broke me.'"

Why Boundary Changes Trigger Us

• On Evolving Roles and Boundaries ([06:25]):
  • Discussing how boundaries set by us or family (e.g., choosing not to host or attend) can feel triggering because they disrupt family patterns.
  • The expectation to stay in one’s familiar “role” is often perpetuated unconsciously.
  • Quote:

    "They take a snapshot of a version of you, and it's so almost effortless to just fall back into whatever that snapshot is, even though you're so past it...it's stressful, but it's effortless, which is really weird."

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Main Segment: Aura Colors and Family Roles

Michaela provides an energetic map of family roles through the lens of aura colors ([13:40]):

Red Auras – “The Bad Guy”

• Expected to blow up or cause drama; may be unfairly labeled.
• Quote (Michaela):

  "They're expected to be the person who blows up...It's a no win situation."

Yellow Auras – “The Tradition Enforcer”

• Designated as the holiday organizer/magic-maker; often feel used or underappreciated.
• Quote:

  "Don't people like me for me? Or is it just that I can provide this experience for them?"

Green Auras – “The Unconsidered/Disregarded”

• Seen as consistent and non-reactive; emotions or changes often overlooked.
• May feel invisible or frustrated when their growth is ignored.

Blue Auras – “The Peacemaker”

• Feel responsible for soothing all conflicts, leaving them drained.
• Quote:

  "You go into it expecting to be exhausted...you might just come home and just feel sick and sad and depressed and tired and hungry."

Indigo Auras – “The Wallflower”

• Tend toward flight or withdrawal; escape to quiet spaces.
• Memorable Moment: Michaela’s nostalgic mention of "the coat room" as her personal family-gathering refuge ([16:50]).

Purple Auras – “The Button Pusher”

• Keenly sense inauthenticity and often can’t help but speak up or provoke.
• Quote:

  "I'd rather a rough truth than a pretty lie. I think when you're a purple, that's a big deal in a family situation."

Turquoise Auras – “The Invisible Outsider”

• Often feel fringe or ghost-like within the family; shocked when others realize they have strong opinions or a voice.

Pink Auras – “The Mascot”

• Propped up for show or comic relief; sometimes the subject of ridicule.
• Quote:

  "They can feel like a commodity of the family...you can be the mascot in, okay, everybody pile on the pink aura."

Notable Segment ([13:40] – [21:35]):

Direct run-through of all aura colors and their associated family roles—great primer for newcomers!

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Tips & Spiritual Advice for Coping

Use Family Events as Self-Reflection ([21:36]):

• Observe your own reactions, recognize emotions and triggers, and reframe experiences as opportunities for spiritual growth.
• Set realistic goals, make conversation with non-triggering individuals, and have exit strategies (like a bathroom break, a walk, or hiding in the coat room).
• Use energy management techniques: sage, crystals, and healing music before/after gatherings.

Permission to Prioritize Yourself ([24:20]):

• Strong affirmation from Michaela for anyone with a truly toxic or abusive family role: you do not have to attend.
• Quote (Michaela):

  "If you are walking into a situation where your family role was to be the abused in any way, shape, or form, you do not have to go. And I told you so. If nobody else is telling you so, I'm telling you so."

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

| Timestamp | Quote | Speaker | |-----------|-------|---------| | 01:24 | "You might be feeling anxious before these events... Worried you're gonna disappoint somebody." | Michaela | | 03:29 | "It's like an energy time capsule for your aura. You can revert immediately back into an old role." | Michaela | | 05:37 | "My dad, like, knows these chairs like they're his children...they tattle, they're like, 'Scott broke me.'" | Michaela | | 08:53 | "They'll dig at you...they'll try to get you to be that way. Almost a part of you wants to give them it because it's the flow of the family." | Scotty | | 13:40 | "Let's start with red auras..." (begins aura color segment—a practical guide to identifying your family role) | Michaela | | 21:36 | "My goal with this is to be kind of like a little pep talk before you go into an intense family situation." | Michaela | | 24:20 | "If you are walking into a situation where your family role was to be the abused in any way, shape, or form, you do not have to go." | Michaela |

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Resources and Recommendations

• Aura Quiz: Listeners encouraged to discover their aura type [https://knowyouraura.com/quizzes/]
• Self-Care Tools: Saging, healing music, and preplanned retreat strategies.
• Further Learning: “What’s My Aura Workshop 1” for deeper family role and aura work.

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Tone and Approach

Mystic Michaela and co-host Scotty maintain a warm, candid, and gently humorous tone—balancing empathy with practical wisdom. Listeners are encouraged to validate their feelings, recognize old patterns, be gentle with themselves, and embrace personal growth, whether they’re heading into a family gauntlet or giving themselves permission to opt out.

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This episode is recommended for anyone feeling anxious or out-of-place with their family this holiday season, or those curious about how spiritual energy and aura colors affect our most enduring (and sometimes most challenging) relationships.

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Transcript

[A]

Foreign. Michaela spiritual family. Welcome to know your aura with mystic Michaela today, home for the holidays in aura color. How does your aura react to being in intensive family environments? Much of what is coming with the holiday season? But first. Hey, Scotty.

[B]

Hey, guys. Well, at this moment, you might be feeling dread, you might be feeling. How do I get out of what is going to happen today?

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Are you going to basically call in sick?

[A]

Right.

[B]

Are you coming up with some sort of excuse? Your car doesn't work? Flat tire? I have no idea.

[A]

Well, if you're listening to this, on the day of release, it's Thanksgiving, correct? Yeah.

[B]

And if you're like me, you're trying to think, how do I get out of this?

[A]

You're looking around, you're like, plumbing issue. Are the kids sick? You know, there's so many Covid. Are there so many. Does that one still work?

[B]

Many years? It did.

[A]

That still still works. If you say Covid, everyone's like, okay.

[B]

So you're telling me that Covid stands.

[A]

The test of time for some reason? It does. Gastro issues sure do, too. Nobody wants to deal. Like, the second you're like, listen, I have a stomach bug, everyone's like, stay away.

[B]

Yeah, that one. That's a go to.

[A]

Yeah. You can't use it too much.

[B]

Right.

[A]

That's the pro. You really have to, like. You gotta space these out.

[B]

Space that one out.

[A]

But anyways, why are we feeling all these things? And for real, like, you might be feeling anxious before these events or. Or angry even. Maybe resentful. You might start getting obsessive, like, okay, I can't forget this. I can't forget this. Okay. I. Da, da, da. Worried you're gonna disappoint somebody you might be. If you're like me, you play over hypothetical situations over and over and over and over again, trying to prep yourself, trying to get lines. Okay, what if they say this, though? But what if they say this? But what if they, you know, how do I. How do I handle that? And you might be. And this is a big one. I don't think people talk about this enough. Nervous that you can't protect yourself or, like, your kids or your partner from what's about to happen. That. That in the moment, you'll freeze or something. Would you. Can you add to any of these, like, how you feel sometimes in intensive family situations?

[B]

Yeah, I mean, I. I definitely feel some of these to me. Yeah. I don't know. I. Yeah. Yeah.

[A]

You're freezing.

[B]

Yeah, I'm freezing up.

[A]

Yeah. I think a Lot of people do freeze up and they get stuck.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And so what happens is then you go into it, no pun intended, cold turkey. And then you freak out, you blow, you blow your top.

[B]

And that's what I try to avoid.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like I do. I had. Yeah, I just froze up. And actually that was like a real reaction I saw.

[A]

You were having a physical.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And that. We should talk about that too. There's physical reactions. Like people's tummies can hurt. You can start getting sweaty, you can, you can feel just like stuck. Like you can't. You don't know what to do.

[B]

Yeah, I guess I go into it like you said. You do? The hypothetical situation.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I just go into it like I will be like, nothing will get to me. Nothing will get like, I'm not going to blow up. I'm not going to blow up. I'm not going to say anything. I'm not going to say anything. That's how I prepare, I guess.

[A]

I think I can see, like with the higher emotional colors, like that could be a problem. Like, I think purples have a hard time with not blowing up and reds have a hard time with that blowing up. But. And I'm not saying every family situation is horrific, you know, And I think no family's perfect, that's for sure. And maybe you're blessed with a family that's like, everybody gets along and it's great, but there's always like a little something, you know, there's always like some. But then some of us do have families that we have to go into and it's like, oh my gosh, like it's reliving a certain type of trauma. And why, why do we feel this way and what does it have to do with our energy? So when you're around your family unit, it's like, it's like walking. It's like an energy time capsule for your aura. Like you can revert immediately back into an old role. Well, so you got to ask yourself, what was my role growing up? Because that's the version that they expect from you, the one in which their perception of you has not evolved. Like, you've grown and evolved and changed and, and they don't have that version of you in their heads now. You might be doing it to them too, by the way. So it's good to kind of reflect. Okay, like, how has dad changed? How has sister changed? How has my brother in law changed? Like they might have changed too, you know, and maybe you have a version of them in their head. So when they differ or they change or they change something up that could trigger you. So it's kind of like it's always good to be self aware in these situations. So asking yourself, what was my role in the family? Also, this can happen with in laws too. Like, if you're like me, you've been married a really long time. What's the version they met of you? Like, who were you back then? Because they did the same thing. They snapshotted you, you know, of the, you know, not everybody sees your growth and, and all that spiritual growth we do is very much on the inside. So sometimes. And I, I hate when people bring stuff up. That is like my pet peeve.

[B]

What do you mean?

[A]

Like calling out like specific people in.

[B]

My own life, like from the past, you mean?

[A]

Like, I don't like when people like, do what you do, you know, like, because we've been together so long. So for example, like when my family is like. And like they have, they have some like. And it's like, oh my God, like he was 24, you know, like, he's not messy like that anymore. You know, he was. Now he's not. Like, he's had so much time to grow and evolve. He's not a messy person any, like, you know, because they always got mad that you would break chairs. Remember that?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like they.

[B]

Did I ever really break a chair?

[A]

To be fair?

[B]

Did I break chairs?

[A]

Well, okay, so my, my dad loves antiques.

[B]

He does.

[A]

And we were taught growing up to sit softly. This isn't even like a bad thing, by the way. I'm, I'm like picking one of the, one of the soft ones that to talk about. It's like you sit softly in the chair. Well, Scotty here flops. He flop. And you, they have it in your head like you broke a chair once and now they'll never get over it. Now I don't remember you breaking a chair, but my dad, like, knows these chairs like they're his children. It's almost like they speak to him at night and they tattle. They're like, Scott broke me. And he's like, oh.

[B]

I mean, I don't remember ever breaking a chair.

[C]

But.

[B]

But that is the lore.

[A]

That's the lore in my household. But that's, that's a soft one. I threw a soft one on them.

[B]

Well, why do you, why do you think it like. And then you said sometimes it could be you too, thinking them that. Of them that way. Why do you think that is? Is there.

[A]

You got to think about it like you're playing a role in the family, right? And you're like, okay, I'm the one that does, I don't know, pick. Pick your thing. I'm the one that hosts everything. And then maybe your sister is like, well, guess what? I'm not coming this year. I'm doing my own thing, and I'll come for cake, I'll come for pie, but I'm not coming. And it's like, oh, my gosh, she's leaving me alone. She's making me do everything. She's not dealing with mom and dad together. You know, she's taking time with her family. Wow. So selfish. She's always. No, it sounds like sister made a boundary. You know, it sounds like sister is like, I'm not doing this no more, and it's not about you. So she's changed her role, and that can trigger you because you feel unable to do the same thing.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Or vice versa. Or you could have made that boundary and they all hate you for it, you know? So it's just a lot of people don't take the time to sit there and be like, why am I upset? Why am I triggered? And most likely, if you're listening to this, you are that person that's sitting there and wondering it. And you can respect when other people do it, but you can't expect them to always do it for you. So it's like you're walking into to that energy of expectation. It's almost like they take a snapshot of a version of you, and it's so almost effortless to just fall back into whatever that snapshot is, even though you're so past it. It's stressful, but it's effortless, which is really weird. And you don't want to. So when you're prepping to go back into it, you're like, I don't want to be that person. I really don't. I grew past it. Oh, my gosh. That wasn't a great time for me. I did so much work. It's like putting on really old shoes or putting yourself in the same outfit you wore in seventh grade. You know what I mean? It's like. Like, I'll do it, but it's so awkward and I don't like it. And it also brings up a lot of stuff. Yeah. So it's stressful.

[B]

It is. Yeah. I. I understand. Yeah, I understand that they have a.

[A]

Version of you and you just don't.

[B]

Want to be that version of you anymore.

[A]

No, Like, I don't want to Be that.

[B]

So then when this event comes, let's say today's Thanksgiving, then you know that you're going to go back into that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Or you're going to be put into that. But you don't want to be put into that.

[A]

Right.

[B]

And then you know, you're going to have to sit there for hours trying to avoid being like that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And that's stressful.

[A]

And they'll dig at you and they don't.

[B]

And they'll try to get you to be that way. And they're gonna. Oh, yeah. You hit the nail on the head with this one.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

And almost a part of you wants to give them it because it's like that's the flow of the family. So it's like fighting against it in a very concentrated amount of time with like food all over.

[B]

Yeah. It's like that's what it is. You can't escape it. You can't escape it. That's okay. That's when I froze. That's all. You flushed it out.

[A]

So today I'm gonna talk about family roles in aura color and you know, let's see the gift in this. Let's see where we might be coming out into our older versions of ourselves and where we can stop that and reflect. I know the perfect gift to give to the ones who all they want for this holiday season is you. Let me tell you about aura frames. I have an aura frame and I give gave it as a gift last year to my in laws. It was so touching. It was the first they celebrate Hanukkah and it was the first Hanukkah that all their kids and grandkids were together. And we gave them an aura frame. Let me tell you about how cool and easy this is. Okay. It's unlimited photos and video on the aura frame. It's all connected to WI Fi and you just download the Aura app and add it. Literally all you do is get the aura app on your phone, take the pictures from your camera roll and add it to the aura app. It goes directly onto their or a frame. I do it from home and it shows up at their house. The kids, all, all the grandkids put the app on their phones and guess what they do? They send grandma and grandpa photos from their phone all the time. They're constantly uploading it. And what we were able to do was pre load the aura frame with pictures even before they opened the box. So I put all the photos of this lovely time we had had together. You know, the celebrating the d, the beach Trip we went on and they have it on their mantle and they are always playing it, always looking at it. The picture that comes onto the Aura frame is. It's. It's gorgeous. It actually looks like a high quality, high resolution photo, but it changes, it moves and it shifts. And you can do videos too, which is really cool. And listen to this. For a limited time, visit aura frames.com and get $45 off Aura's bestselling Carver Matte frames named number one by Wirecutter using promo code KYA at checkout. That's Aura A U R A frames.com promo code KYA. This exclusive black Friday Cyber Monday deal is their best of the year. So order now before it ends and support the show by mentioning us at checkout. It means a whole lot. Terms and conditions apply. Let's talk about your family role and how it affects your aura, how it shows up in aura color. And my goal with this is to be kind of like a little pep talk before you go into an intense family situation. Also, just a note, side note, I read so many families. Not every family is perfect. That's impossible. You know, every family has their thing. And I feel like the families that I read, because sometimes I'll read families and it's like, I just want it. Could I be part of your family, please? Like, their families are just awesome. And the. What I know, the. I guess what I see in common with these types of energy situations where families at work, it's, everybody lets everyone else grow. I mean, yeah, they're still gonna razz on you. They're still gonna have their jokes, they're still gonna bring up stuff. You're like, okay. But overall, they see you as a person, not just a player in their play that they need to constantly have going on repeat over and over again. You know, I think around this time of year, we're always watching holiday movies. And part of the comfort of that is, you know, everybody does the same thing when you're watching it, you're watching Christmas vacation. Like, you know, everybody acts the same way because you put it on repeat every year. There's comfort in that. But you're not that character in their life. They want you to be. They want you to provide them comfort by being on repeat, by being that show that they press play. And the same thing, like watching Friends. You know what I mean? The same thing happens. I know this episode well. You're not that person for them. And the families that tend to work better understand that. Understand that the script is constantly changing. So that's my metaphor for that. But I think that going through the aura colors in this way will help you identify. Ooh, that is a trigger. Because underneath the triggers, that is a wound and that is the gold. That is what we want to uncover. And when we do that, that's where the soul growth happens. So if you've done what's my Aura Workshop 1 with me, we really get into family roles. But this is like a little cliff, like I said, little cliff notes, little short version where I give every aura color kind of a label. So in the family. So here we go. Let's start with red auras. Red auras in the family, they can tend to be what I call the bad guy. They're the one that's gonna blow up. So when there's somebody who just slams their fist on the table and freaks out at Uncle Joe, chances are they're the red one, you know, and. And they're expected to be the person who blows up, who gets inappropriate, who gets a little zero to 60 intense. And you know, if you were put in that role your whole life and you don't do that anymore, it can be really hard to bite your tongue or, or just sit there and not necessarily you're going to do it, but you know, the Alex expect it from you and it's just kind of like, what is it? You're damned if you do, damned if you don't like. It's a no win situation because they just assume that's who you are. It's annoying to feel that Yellow auras, the tradition enforcer. That's what I called you guys. Yellows are oftentimes in holiday situations used as the magic maker. Okay, dinner. Cool. You're doing it, obviously, and when and how. And you know, everybody has expectations and oh, you're not making your high this year. That has 800 steps. Oh, you know, there's all that you can feel you loosed in the family. You're like, oh my gosh, I'm always doing this. I'm always hosting. I'm always, don't people like me for me? You know, or is it just like that I can provide this experience for them. It can be annoying. Green auras, I call them the unconsidered, the disregarded. You know, green or is in a family, people just expect you to be that consistent person that kind of like doesn't always react to anything. And all this stuff can be said and done around you and. And chances are you've changed to the point where you're like well, actually, I changed my thought on that, or I have something to say or that's incorrect or, you know, and they. They don't like to hear you talk. They're like, oh, wait, what? You're just supposed to be, like, furniture. And it's like, well, I'm not furniture. Maybe I was in the past to survive, but now I'm not. And I. I talk more. You can get. You can feel, like, just annoyed at it. And also a little bit just, like I said, disregarded. Like. Like you don't matter. Like, you're not allowed to talk. You're just supposed to, like, be a stable presence. Blue auras. The peacemakers. No matter what conflict is going on, even if it's between, like, two second cousins you never even talk to except for once a year, you can feel somehow I have to fix it. I have to make sure so and so doesn't talk to so and so. Oh, I have to get into this situation. She's looking. It's draining. So at the end, you feel drained, and you go in to it expecting to be exhausted. And it's physically draining too. Like, you might just come home and just feel, why do I feel sick and sad and depressed and tired and hungry, you know, and all that. So peacemaker. Indigos, the wallflower. The flight response is such a real thing for Indigos. You know, you walk into the situation, it's already too many people, and you just need to. When I was a kid, I feel like I always used to go into the coat room. And maybe because I'm in Buffalo and any other cold areas versus warm areas, because I live in Florida, there's always a coat room. Remember the coat room? It was someone's bed. You were going to their house, and all the coats and the purses was just flapped all over the place. The coat room, man, I loved the coat room. How many of you were in the coat room with me? That is, like, the best place to go. And you just hide. So anyway, so flight response. So you might just be the one that's like, hey, where is so and so? Where'd she go? She just disappears like a second. The second anything goes on, it's like, huh, Poof. That made me laugh. Purples. The button pusher. It's really hard when you're a purple because you feel when people are just, like, lying or being unauthentic or they're just, like, spinning a tail and you're, like, listening, and it's just like, oh, it's just, ooh, that bugs Me, you know, like that. And so purples can get in trouble for pushing the button, saying the thing that's going to get somebody else to react, doing the thing that's going to get somebody else to react. It's. It's kind of like passive aggressive, but not so passive, you know, just bringing something up or doing something in a certain way where, you know you're going to get that person that needs to just express themselves, to express themselves so you can get a little bit button push. Also, like, I think with purples, too, in intense family situations is. It's really exhausting to see people that aren't being real with themselves, especially if you've done a lot being real with yourself. So it's like, just say the thing, you know, just say. Just say what's going on. Say the thing. Tell us the truth. I'd rather a rough truth than a pretty lie. I think when you're a purple, that's a big deal in a family situation. Turquoises, I call them the invisible outsider turquoise. You know, if you're turquoise in the family, you already might feel a little fringe. Like you're there, but you're kind of like on the outskirts already. And. And so it really depends on where you're at in your turquoise journey. You know, I think a lot in the, in your family role might just be somebody that's invisible, like, kind of like the ghost at the table, kind of like the invisible friend that everybody has. You know, you're there, but you don't react or you don't say anything or you kind of space out. But now in your turquoise journey, you might be, you know, you talk more and you say stuff and you, you retort. You know, when Uncle Joe says XYZ about what's going on, you just are like, actually, no. You know, and everyone's like, she speaks. So you can kind of get angry or feel annoyed that people even are like, oh, my gosh, you have thoughts. Like that's, you know, it's annoying to feel people surprised that you have a brain. And so I think that that's a big turquoise issue when they go into families. Not invisible. I am a physical, solid presence here. And finally, pinks, and I call them this a lot. I do this in the workshop, too. It's like they. Their family role, the mascot. I, I just. It's just so accurate. I have to say it. They can feel like a commodity of the family. You know, pink auras are like little living dolls, and the family is like, oh, you know, no matter what's going on with the family? Usually the pink aura is propped up to be like. But, you know, we have so and so. And she's doing xyz. See? And she looks cute. Or you can be the mascot in. Okay, everybody pile on the pink aura. We'll call her Julie. Pile on Julie. Julie, go. Go for it. Tell her she's, you know, judge her for what she's wearing. Judge her for what she just said. Make fun of her. You know, insinuate that she's stupid. Like, go for it. And, like, your old family role might have been like, okay, ha, ha ha. And, like, the new yous probably, like, actually don't. And they're like, wait a second. You're no fun. You know, And. And that's very triggering. So. So I wanted to go through these in case any of those resonate with you. I feel like when something resonates, it is a spiritual download. You know, if something's like, oh, hang on. It opens a catalyst for more growth and for more spiritual connection with your guides, who can then feed you more information in how to elevate and grow and step out of it. So, you know all this right now. What do you do? How do we work with this? A lot of us, we don't go. No contact with family, or we love our family. They just trigger us, you know, or it's just, like, I don't want to deal with. It's just easier just to go, you know, like that. And that's fine. Depends where you're at. Anywhere you're at is fine. So let's say you have to go. I would say use it as a reflection, Reframe the experience. So, okay, today's the day. It's hours with these people. Cool. How do I see it in a different. Like, how can I observe myself and observe my feelings, observe my emotions and reactions, and use it as almost kind of like. Like, okay, a spiritual, a therapeutic moment. And my other advice is go in with a goal and a realistic mindset. Like, it is Thanksgiving. It is Christmas dinner. It is Hanukkah dinner, like, whatever it is. And my goal is to eat, to make nice conversation with the following people who I don't find it difficult to talk to, to avoid any situation where I start to feel uncomfortable, and these will be my ways of getting at it. I will excuse myself to use the bathroom. I will go outside and take a walk. I will go to the coat room and be there with mystic Michaela. You know, like, whatever it is. Like, have your exit strategy and you know, be. But be realistic about it. Like you're going to go in and like chances are nothing's changed, like you know what's about to happen and just like be like, okay, like you know, treat it like a job obviously staging yourself crystals and before and after, you know, Hz frequency music which you can find on YouTube or Spotify or whatever app you like to use. And big thing is the days which follow, you're going to get a lot of spiritual downloads as you kind of go through like what's going on, you're like, oh wow, okay, that's interesting. Notice the insight that comes. These are gifts from spirit. See it that way. These are gifts from spirit for your own self growth. I mean under the annoyance there's a wound. Like what is that wound? That is the gold, the gold of it. And just because I read so many of you and you know, there's a lot of situations, sometimes we put ourselves in that like we honestly shouldn't. If you're. And I just want to give you this permission because maybe nobody else is. So here we are. If you are walking into a situation where your family role was to be the abused in any way, shape or form, you do not have to go and I told you so. If nobody else is telling you so, I'm telling you so. If your role is to be berated, hurt, abused, if your role is to sit next to the person that did that to you and serve them and, and be nice because somebody else's feelings will get hurt or you'll embarrass somebody, I'm telling you right now, guess what? You don't have to go. You call in sick. I said so. And I love all of you so much and I'm so grateful for every single one of you and I hope you feel that from my heart to yours. You are beautiful balls of Auric light. And this podcast is for you and about you. And I'm so glad you spent some time with us today. Today.

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