EP311: How to Help Your Kid or Teen Understand Their Personality

Summary

Podcast Summary: Know Your Aura with Mystic Michaela

Episode: EP311: How to Help Your Kid or Teen Understand Their Personality
Host: Mystic Michaela (and co-host Scotty)
Date: February 26, 2026
Theme: Using Aura Colors to Better Understand and Support Children and Teens

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Episode Overview

In this episode, Mystic Michaela and co-host Scotty delve deep into common kid and teen problems—from shyness and anxiety to bullies and organization—viewed through the lens of aura colors. Their goal is to help parents (and kids themselves) find compassion and insight into challenges at home, at school, and with peers by understanding personality through spiritual energy and aura colors. The episode is both practical and peppered with personal anecdotes, always circling back to the notion that knowing your child's (and your own) aura color can shape better parenting and relationships.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Aura Colors as a Parenting Lens

• Importance: Aura colors provide a framework to see and support the individuality of each child.
• Quote: “We don’t just all get the same prototype of a human. There’s so many different recipes of and flavors of a kid you can get.” – Michaela (00:56)
• Application: Knowing aura colors helps parents (and teachers) approach behavioral and emotional challenges with more empathy, appreciating that not every child reacts to the world in the same way.

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2. Emotional Regulation Problems

Shyness

• Most affected auras: Indigo, Blue, Turquoise
• Young kids lack boundaries and are “emotionally absorbent,” making them susceptible to shyness, particularly in loud or chaotic environments.
• Quote: “They’re just like a bubble without a lot of boundary…where an adult, we’re used to putting up our barriers and boundaries. Kids don’t have those yet.” – Michaela (04:21)
• Parenting Approach: Gently introduce shy children to new situations, respect their pace, and avoid unnecessary pressure.

Anxiety

• Most common in: Yellow and Purple auras
• Yellows: Crave order and can spiral when things aren’t predictable or perfect; often perfectionists.
• Purples: Feel extraordinary amounts of input and emotion, sometimes leading to shut down or dramatic exits from tasks/events.
• Quote: “Yellows are big on being organized, doing things their way…Purples, their thoughts aren’t linear…they can take it out on their own bodies to feel control again.” – Michaela (06:51)

Bullies and Being Bullied

• Bullies: Often Red or Purple aura kids (reds seek dominance; purples can be instigators or use insight to push buttons).
• Kids who get bullied: More likely to be Indigo, Blue, Green, or Turquoise.
• Green example: The “train kid” who is deeply engrossed in their interests and thus may be targeted for being different or “nerdy.”
• Quote: “I do see a lot of red bullies...for red auras, it's about power, control. I walk in, people are scared of me.” – Michaela (11:10)
• Memorable moment: Discussion of how purples can be witty class clowns or instigators, and that “pinks in high school get bullied for looks or sexuality, girls being mean to girls.” – Michaela (15:38)

Sharing Issues

• Red kids: Not natural sharers; want control over their things.
• Yellows: Natural givers—often hand out supplies, eager to help others.
• Developmental reminder: Sharing is developmental, not a flaw, but aura color can explain reluctance even at older ages.
• Quote: “Reds aren’t great sharers. It’s a lot about control…everything of theirs becomes their territory.” – Michaela (17:10)

Temper Tantrums

• Most common in: Empath auras—Indigo, Purple, Blue, Turquoise
• Often arise from emotional overwhelm and lack of emotional vocabulary, rather than willfulness or anger.

Feeling Left Out

• Pinks and Turquoises: Most likely to be outsiders in social groups or cliques; may need to find their “tribe” or “coven.”
• Leaders of cliques: Yellows (for organization/family feeling) or Purples (for social/energetic leadership).
• Quote: “For a turquoise, create a coven. When you’re a parent of a turquoise, make sure they have their own coven.” – Michaela (21:53)

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3. Functional Difficulties

Getting Dressed

• Difficult for Purples, Greens, Yellows:
  • Purples: See routine tasks as “life-sucking” and tedious.
  • Greens: Want efficiency, prefer “uniforms” to minimize time spent.
  • Yellows: Need clothes to be “just right” and can get stuck if routine is disrupted.
• Quote: “I remember as a little kid, looking at the cats and being like, you never have to get dressed. You’re so lucky.” – Michaela (26:14)

Routines & Transitions

• Purples: Struggle with too much structure and with transitions; these cause emotional overload.
• Yellows: Thrive with clear, detailed routines and enjoy helping plan them.
• Greens & Turquoises: Dislike routines imposed by others; want control over their own time and methods.
• Red kids: Want autonomy and may resist routines to exert control.

Hygiene Issues

• Greens & Turquoises: Most likely to “skip” hygiene steps, seeing them as distractions from more interesting pursuits (“earthy”).
• Yellows & Pinks: Least likely to struggle; they like order, aesthetic, and conformity.
• Middle school warning: All kids struggle to some extent, but “don’t worry, they become human again by high school.” – Scotty (34:34)

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4. Schoolwork & Organization

Study Habits

• Red/Purple kids: Often self-starters, like to be in control.
• Purple/Turquoise: More likely to delay, do homework at the last minute, or resist altogether (“you can’t control them”).
• Green kids: Might not care about assignments they consider pointless; need an explanation they buy into.
• Best parental approach: Set clear boundaries but allow freedom within them.
• Quote: “With purple kids, you give them freedom, but also a wall—a boundary…by 7 PM, if it’s not done, we’re gonna have problems, and that's it.” – Michaela (43:03)

Organization

• Greens: Famous for chaotic backpacks/lockers; may not use folders, see little point in school-driven organization.
• Yellows: Naturally organized and thrive with structured systems.
• Pinks/Indigos/Blues: Can adapt to organization if they see purpose/aesthetic.
• Quote: “You’ve gotta let them find it [their own system].” – Michaela (47:41)

Managing Screen Time & Social Media

• All auras approach screens differently:
  • Greens: Use digital worlds as an escape.
  • Purples: May be drawn to social rabbit holes or drama.
  • Blues: Very sensitive to negative comments/interactions; may need protection from toxic content.
  • Yellows: Prone to self-comparison and perfectionism fueled by social media.
• Parent solutions: Model balanced digital behavior, set boundaries, and recognize that online play is a social reality.
• Quote: “This could be a whole episode—how each aura color handles being online.” – Michaela (48:24)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Parenting Perfection:
  “Some parents say, hey, sorry, I’m human. And some say, nope, you were wrong the whole time. I’m always right. That’s the big difference.” – Michaela (00:56)

• On Finding Friendship:
  “Turquoises need to find other turquoises…the greens need to find other greens.” – Michaela (22:01)

• On School Organization:
  “Green kid backpacks. Holy cow. What are they doing? They don’t like folders…” – Michaela (45:07)

• On Adolescents' Messiness:
  “Ninth grade boys…that’s basically almost like they’re still in middle school. They just cannot handle high school their first year…And then in tenth grade, they finally figure something out.” – Scotty (34:02)

• On Teen Digital Life:
  “That is how they play. And that is their reality now. It is how they play.” – Michaela (49:54)

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Key Timestamps by Segment

• [00:00–03:43] – Introduction; Why aura colors matter for parenting
• [03:45–09:33] – Emotional regulation: shyness, anxiety, supporting sensitive auras
• [09:33–16:02] – Bullying: which auras bully or get bullied; sharing, playground stuff
• [16:05–23:31] – Issues: playdates, sharing, cliques, and who’s left out (and why)
• [25:29–33:31] – Functional difficulties: getting dressed, routine struggles, transitions by aura color
• [33:32–36:57] – Hygiene: why middle schoolers struggle, which aura colors are “earthier”
• [38:55–48:03] – Schoolwork, studying, organization: habit-building, accommodation, and challenges by color
• [48:03–52:45] – Managing screens, social media, digital life; modeling phone boundaries
• [52:48–end] – Listener call-out: inviting stories from the community (MMSF—the podcast’s “village”)

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Takeaways

• Every child is different: Aura colors are not a box but a lens for empathy; any child can have any problem, but knowing their aura helps with specific strategies.
• There is no handbook: Parenting, teaching, and supporting kids is about trial, forgiveness, humor, and finding approaches tailored to the child’s spirit.
• You are not alone: The hosts encourage parents to share their experiences, reminding listeners that “it takes a village”—or, in their community, the MMSF.

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Resource:
Find your (or your child’s) aura color at knowyouraura.com/quizzes

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(Summary by Know Your Aura with Mystic Michaela, EP311: "How to Help Your Kid or Teen Understand Their Personality")

Transcript

[Scotty]

Foreign.

[Michaela]

Michaela spiritual family, welcome to know your aura with mystic Michaela. Today we are talking about kid problems solved in aura color. Talking about problems kids have with each other, problems kids have at home, parenting struggles. Some normal everyday kid problems. But taken a look at through the lens of the aura. But first. Hey, Scotty.

[Scotty]

Hey, guys.

[Michaela]

All right, so we split these up. We split them up into like emotional regulation problems and then like functional difficulties. But like, we have to start with. Yeah. Scott and I are not parenting experts by any means.

[Scotty]

We're raising two girls.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

Two daughters. And yeah, I am no expert. You know, you mess up, you do good things.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Some things I don't know.

[Michaela]

I'm sure they'll complain.

[Scotty]

Yeah, I'm sure.

[Michaela]

I. What I have noticed in readings is, yes, everyone messes up, you know, because I read a lot of adult children and we'll talk about your parents or what? Of course everyone messes up. Your parents aren't perfect. The difference is some parents say, hey, sorry, I'm human. And some say, nope, you were wrong the whole time. I'm always right. So that's the big difference. And I feel like it does make a difference when you try. So that's why I love aura colors, because it's kind of like a way you can see your kid differently, you know, you don't. We don't just all get the same prototype of a human. There's so many different recipes of and flavors of a kid you can get.

[Scotty]

Yeah. No, they don't. They don't give you a handbook.

[Michaela]

They don't.

[Scotty]

When you take them home, they don't give you a handbook. Actually, it would be interesting if they did give you a handbook.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

And then they listed all the aura colors.

[Michaela]

Wouldn't that be great?

[Scotty]

That'd be cool. And then you could look up your. The kids aura.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

And then you could parent off of that. Right. I think it really does help if you know that your child's aura in terms of parenting and if you don't

[Michaela]

know your kids and if you don't, I have a quiz over on knowyouraura.com and then if you just follow along, you definitely can gauge it.

[Scotty]

Yeah. And then we do. You do a lot of confirmations. I do know in the sub stack people put their kids in. You know, once a month you do a giveaway in the sub stack. One of our moderators, Bridget, now has a mom group.

[Michaela]

Oh, I love that.

[Scotty]

We're gonna try to see if we can get all the moms at least, you know, Some of their kids. I don't know how many kids they all have, but some of them.

[Michaela]

Oh, that's a great idea.

[Scotty]

In readings, of course. You confirm.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

In the books. You do books? You can. Yeah, but a lot of ways to get them confirmed. Remember, my number one thing on the first episode of the year was we want to get you to confirm this.

[Michaela]

Right.

[Scotty]

If you've been listening.

[Michaela]

But just honestly, the power is yours too, you know, like, I put so much out for teaching and learning. My point is, I hope you take it and then you can apply this in your own way. All right, so let's get started. Oh, I have to give this shout out to Emily, my client who gave me this idea at the end of our reading together. She's like, I have an idea for you. She was telling me how she tells her kids about auras, you know, and how to understand each other's. Their friendships with their peers better through the lens of aura. And I'm like, what a great idea. Because hopefully this will help us understand our kids friendships.

[Scotty]

You mean like that's a great idea, by the way, by Emily. You're saying like when her kid is dealing with another kid.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

Oh, wow. Like they're on the playground and like a yellow kid says, you know, don't mess that up to a green or something.

[Michaela]

Right, Exactly.

[Scotty]

That'd be so interesting to see.

[Michaela]

Yeah, I kind of do that now with. Well, Bree, we have a 16 year old. We have a 10 year old. My 10 year old's more into it, you know, to hearing about it, but to us.

[Scotty]

She'll tell us.

[Michaela]

She'll tell us.

[Scotty]

I don't know if she's on the playground telling her friends.

[Michaela]

I don't know.

[Scotty]

That's really purple of you.

[Michaela]

Yeah, yeah. But she'll kind of use that logic to give compassion or understand how people are, you know, so you can stay friends with them, I guess, and not always just take it so personally.

[Scotty]

Right. Well, she does that because she's so yellow. So just cut her up where she

[Michaela]

just get her some cut her really

[Scotty]

pink, you know, she's doing her arts and crafts. She's real pink.

[Michaela]

Yes, exactly. All right, so let's start with some emotional regulations stuff. So a common kid problem is shyness. I mean, I was super shy. Were you shy as a kid?

[Scotty]

More shy than I am now, definitely. Yeah, I think so. I would say for shyness, I think any color.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

That could fit any. Any color could be shy.

[Michaela]

So the ones I see the most problems with are the kids that leave. Well, first of all, kids in general are very emotionally absorbent anyhow. Energetically absorbent. So they're just like a bubble without a lot of boundary. And. And when you walk into a room filled. Filled with, like, noise and people and stuff going on or a playground, you know, we're an adult, so we're used to kind of putting up our barriers and our boundaries. But kids don't have those yet. They haven't. You know, the world hasn't kicked their little parameters into submission yet. So the ones I see having the real problems with it are, like, the indigo kids, the blue kids, and sometimes the turquoise kids. Those are the ones I see having kind of, like, issues with shyness, like, where they're just behind. You know, they're hiding behind you a little bit here.

[Scotty]

So let's say you do have an indigo or turquoise or blue or whatever, or just any color. The kid shy. And then you kind of like, you know, sometimes, like, parents will, like, they'll push their kid to not be shy, like.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Like, go out there and sign up for the school play.

[Michaela]

Right. Or go play or do that. Yeah.

[Scotty]

And maybe the kid really doesn't want to.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

And. But then the parent is pushing and pushing and pushing.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

And so maybe, you know, if you knew the color, maybe you could step back and say, all right, you know, look, they're indigo. They're blue. Maybe I hold back a little bit. Maybe they do it in their time.

[Michaela]

Yes, there's different. I think, like, it depends on the developmental age, too. Like, when they're two years old and they're, like, clinging to your leg, they don't want to go into the sandbox with the other kids. Like, you have to sit next to them. And then you start playing with the kids, you know, and then all of a sudden, you see your kid, your blue kid next to you. Now they start playing, and then you back off slowly, like that kind of thing. And then how. What you're saying that looks middle school, when it's like, I don't want to join the team. Like, what if I fall? What if I fail? I don't know anybody, you know, maybe you're like, okay, well, let's. You know, that that's where it gets a little harder because you want to keep introducing it to them, but you can't drag them to it anymore. So it's a. It's a struggle because kind of when you're shy, you kind of stay shy a little bit. Like, I know I am, but my. But I think like with kids, like how I was as a kid, it was. I would, If I was with a friend, I'd do it.

[Scotty]

Yeah. You know, I mean, the best advice I could give with and as we go through these is time will solve these problems.

[Michaela]

Yes, it sure does.

[Scotty]

Time will solve those problems. You might not feel that in the moment. Yeah, but it will. What about anxiety? Oh, anxiety, that's a huge problem, especially all ages. But middle school, real anxiety. High school, High school, first year of high school. Oh my God.

[Michaela]

Yeah. And middle school, because I used to teach middle school. Like those poor kids. Okay, so I see this. Yellows, yellow auras have a lot of anxiety. I feel like. So yellows are big on or being organized, doing things the way they, you know, their vision, having a plan for something. So they like to plan ahead. And I notice with yellows, with anxiety as kids, if, if they don't, if they couldn't foresee something, or if something happens that kind of trips them up, or if they don't feel like complete on their own to actually go into something, then they just spiral. So the perfectionism with kids, for example, like a yellow or a not getting, they're struggling with a grade, okay. They keep getting like 92 in class and they want a 98 or 100. Like they go over it in their head again and again and again. Another aura color I see deal with anxiety a lot are purples. So purple is like, because they can feel so much going on, they feel everyone's opinions. They feel sometimes their thoughts aren't linear. So a lot of the energy coming at these kids is my tummy starts to hurt or they don't feel good, or now they act out or they disappear, or they just say, well, screw it, I'm not gonna do anything. Then if I can't do this right, I'm not bothering with anything. And then they make kind of an agreement with themselves, like, nevermind, this isn't for me. And then once that door is closed, it's over. So I see a lot of anxiety happening with that. Or they get home and then they start to kind of, especially with yellows and purples, I feel like they can take it out on their own bodies or they can take it out on themselves a bit to feel a semblance of feeling control again. And that always makes me, you know, as a parent, you get nervous. You're like, why are you, why'd you just cut your own hair? Like, what are you doing? You know? Or I mean, there's so many examples of this Or. Or for yellows. Like, why are you redecorating your room all the time? You know, why are you taking this apart and putting it back together? You know, so it just. You see these anxious behaviors, and I feel like that's.

[Scotty]

Yeah. And of course, this could apply to all oral colors, by the way, not just yellow and purple.

[Michaela]

Of course.

[Scotty]

Especially middle school.

[Michaela]

Yeah, but how do you deal with it? You know? Like, how do you deal with it? And I think, like, when you have a friend. When you. When your kid has a friend who is anxious, you could. They could take it personally a little bit. Like, oh, she can't. She can't go out. She says she has to study. Is she just making that up? Like, no, I think she really needs to be. Homer. She really does have to study. Or she's really stressing out right now. This isn't about you. You know, you're more carefree, and you're more chill. Like, your friend with anxiety might just have really bad anxiety, and she just needs to kind of do it. Bullies first.

[Scotty]

Okay, bullies.

[Michaela]

Let's start with bullies now again.

[Scotty]

Yeah.

[Michaela]

This isn't just a one aura color problem.

[Scotty]

And I think for all of these.

[Michaela]

Yeah. None of these are.

[Scotty]

Because I've been clarifying for the first two.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

All of these could be any colors.

[Michaela]

Yeah. Disclaimer.

[Scotty]

We're just going to pick a couple colors.

[Michaela]

There's no mean auras. All right, all right.

[Scotty]

So I would think there's mean people, not mean bullies doing the bullying.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

I'm. I mean, it would have to be the red. I would say the reds are going to be the bullies. Purple. Maybe a purple. Yeah, maybe I was gonna. Yeah, maybe a purple. And I would say the ones being bullied would be more maybe your indigos and your blues.

[Michaela]

Okay. Yeah, but so bullies. We all know that bullies are just, like, insecure people that, you know, try to make others feel bad so they feel bad about themselves. Like, we all know that by now. We've told our kids that, but the

[Scotty]

kids don't know it.

[Michaela]

And, like, they hear it, but they're like. Like. Cause you remember what it feels like to be bullied. Like, we all remember what that feels like. It's awful. So who would do that to someone? Like, what. What's the energy that they're projecting? That would be like that.

[Scotty]

Right.

[Michaela]

I feel like the bullies that are good at being bullies tend to be kind of, like, tougher. So a lot of them are like. And I. I do See a lot of red bullies, you know, so these are kids who usually at home are taught, like, you gotta be tough. You gotta kind of like, they treat, like, the recess, like, you know, the cafeteria at jail. Like, they'll pick, like, the toughest or the. The person. Like, all right, I'm going to pick on that person today just to kind of show everybody that I'm tough. I'm. I'm red.

[Scotty]

They got.

[Michaela]

I'm the big man on campus. Their dominance, exert their dominance, and they're going to pick somebody to kind of play that out on. They can't do that by themselves. Like, they need somebody to do that. So, red. Or is. It's about, like, power, control, you know, I walk in, people are scared of me. They know what I said to that kid about his glasses. So now nobody's gonna mess with me.

[Scotty]

Like, Like, I. I was not a bully, by the way. So when I was a kid. But I would take on, like, I would take on anyone in arm wrestling. Okay.

[Michaela]

That's interesting.

[Scotty]

I'd, like, be like, come on, let's go. And the good news is I'm. I'm a lefty.

[Michaela]

Oh.

[Scotty]

So I was just like, you know, I look like the karate kid in

[Michaela]

high school, Ralph Nash.

[Scotty]

I think I've already said this, but nobody could get my left hand down.

[Michaela]

Okay.

[Scotty]

Because I was a lefty, you know, Most of them were probably righties.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

So I. And I would just do curls all day long. Like.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Got home from school, I just do dumbbell curls. So I beat all these big guys in arm wrestling. And that was, like, you know, I didn't know it at the time, but that was, like, probably me being, like, a little, skinny, insecure kid.

[Michaela]

Okay.

[Scotty]

Trying to exert my dominance.

[Michaela]

Yeah. Like, look. Look at me.

[Scotty]

Look at me. Look at this. I can do it.

[Michaela]

I'm tough, too. I can do it.

[Scotty]

So you weren't mean, but I wasn't mean about it.

[Michaela]

But you were like, an instigator.

[Scotty]

But I was an instigator. Yes, but I didn't want to make anyone feel bad. I wasn't a bully.

[Michaela]

No, that wasn't. That's not. That's still not your thing. Like, you don't like doing that.

[Scotty]

No, I'm always for the. I'm always for the little guy.

[Michaela]

Yeah. Like, that's not your thing. But, like, that's interesting, too. I think red auras can be instigators.

[Scotty]

Yes.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Yeah.

[Michaela]

And purples, too. Now, purples and reds have this in common. Purples. I feel like if you're an insecure purple, you know, the gossiping or, you know, as a kid are making the click, or, you know, knowing you have this ability when you're purple to know what makes someone tick. Like, you can say the thing, push the button that you can push whatever button it is. You know what it is? And it's just. It's just sometimes if you're already in that bad headspace, it's too easy to bully someone, you know, and they. It becomes a habit, and then people are scared of you, and now you have a crew around you because it's. Oh, my God, don't say it to me. You know, So I think purples can be bullies, too. But it's funny because I think purples can be instigators, too. Kids, like, that's the kid who's not necessarily mean to anybody, but that could also be the kid in class that says the wisecrack thing to the teacher, you know, or is the talker or, like, you know, does. Does the clowny thing that everyone's like, oh, they don't care. Wow, that's so crazy. Like, that. So instigator energy, too.

[Scotty]

All right, so who are these reds and purples picking at?

[Michaela]

Yes, Pinks.

[Scotty]

The blues.

[Michaela]

Yeah. So who's getting bullied? Yeah, who's getting bullied? Okay. A lot of these would be. I would say the turquoises get bullied a lot.

[Scotty]

Okay.

[Michaela]

Which is hard because we have one of those.

[Scotty]

We do.

[Michaela]

Yeah, they do. And they don't. Like, I feel like. I feel like turquoises can get bullied, and they don't even know they're getting bullied. Yeah, that's part of it.

[Scotty]

I mean, just from our doing our turquoise. But they kind of have the comebacks.

[Michaela]

Like, I don't know if I'd want

[Scotty]

to mess with a turquoise, to be honest with you. If I was a bully, I wouldn't

[Michaela]

want to mess with our turquoise.

[Scotty]

I wouldn't know.

[Michaela]

She'll say something like, real off the wall.

[Scotty]

No, no, I know. That's what I'm saying. They're like. They're kind to me. They're kind of like a wild card.

[Michaela]

Yeah. It's like, ooh.

[Scotty]

I guess it would be more maybe

[Michaela]

the turquoise stare you down.

[Scotty]

Actually, you know, if you were probably. You could go for a green, because greens are kind of like. They could be awkward.

[Michaela]

They could be.

[Scotty]

I don't want to. I don't want to put, like. How do you say this nicely? Like. Like a little Nerdy sometimes. Forgive me?

[Michaela]

No, no, we know what you mean. There's nothing wrong with being nerdy. I think like green kids, they're like, oh, look at my train. Look at my train collection. I love trains. I talk about trains. I'm actually using this from a kid that Abby's friends was in class. It was great. He's like, look at my trains. And I'm gonna show you YouTube's about my trains. And look at my shirt about my train. You know, that's like primo target for. Oh, that, that, that insecure red bully kid that's like, all right, I gotta pick on someone today so I feel better about my train kid, you know, like, that's so easy, you know, because they're so focused. Greens can. Green kids can be so focused and in their world and usually kind of like they just want to talk about what they want to talk about, you know, and they haven't, like, worked on their other skill sets as much sharing babyish things or little things like that. Especially in elementary school.

[Scotty]

Right. But again, don't worry because the greens will grow up and they'll rule the world and they'll have the reds underneath them.

[Michaela]

Yeah. Greens usually make a lot of money.

[Scotty]

So if you are. Yes. If you are a parent of a green child, don't worry. They are gonna make it up. In the older years, I should say,

[Michaela]

like pinks in high school too. Just like a different thing with the pinks. Because I think pinks in elementary school get bullied for being too babyish. And then pinks in high school get bullied. That's when they start going after, especially with the girls, like, their sexuality or like how they look or trying to make them out to be airheads or bimbos or all those awful things that girls can attack girls for being just little things like that.

[Scotty]

What about this one? So you have a three year old, a four year old.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

And you decide, you know, they need a play date. Yeah, we're going to take them on a play date. We got to introduce them to other kids. And then becomes the biggest problem of all, which is sharing.

[Michaela]

Sharing how?

[Scotty]

What's the deal with sharing?

[Michaela]

First of all, sharing, you know, sharing is developmental. They're not supposed to share. Having said that, how come my two year old, turquoise purple, shared great.

[Scotty]

Perfect.

[Michaela]

And my two year old at the time, red purple, did not share great. Like, at all, like, was vicious.

[Scotty]

Yeah.

[Michaela]

It was like, really had me apologizing to everyone. Yeah.

[Scotty]

Like, all we did was we walked into the place and we apologized. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Sorry, sorry, sorry to you.

[Michaela]

She's not like that anymore.

[Scotty]

There's a future. Sorry.

[Michaela]

Yeah. But anyways, apparently it is developmental, so it's not really their fault, but what else? Sharing. Because sharing's past, too. Like, are you a good share at 8? Are you good to share at 12? Are you going to share at 16? You know, like, some kids are and some kids aren't. I'm gonna be honest. I think reds aren't great sharers.

[Scotty]

Yeah, I would agree. I agree with that.

[Michaela]

I just. I've been. I have so many reds in my life.

[Scotty]

Yeah.

[Michaela]

And it's kind of like. Yeah, go ahead. You explain.

[Scotty]

We'd rather you share with us.

[Michaela]

Totally.

[Scotty]

We'd rather take your thing. Let us borrow your thing.

[Michaela]

Yeah, let me borrow it back to you.

[Scotty]

Yeah, but let us borrow your thing.

[Michaela]

Yeah, you'll give it back to me after I remind you. And then you eye roll like I'm a nag or something. But yes, like, so I think with red aura kids, it's kind of like, oh, cool, scooter. Can I ride it? It's like, why are you riding it?

[Scotty]

Right.

[Michaela]

Where are you riding it to? You're writing it wrong. Stop writing it.

[Scotty]

Yeah. Or I remember I, like, let a kid borrow something, but I wanted it back right away.

[Michaela]

Yeah. Like, okay.

[Scotty]

All right. You got 20 seconds. All right.

[Michaela]

You did it. I shared. Okay, we're done. Yeah, that kind of thing. I think, like, if you. Let's say, like, an older red or a kid, they're kind of just leery. It's a lot about control. Like, if you're taking something of mine, when are you giving it back? Where's it going? I don't know. Like, everything of theirs becomes their territory. So when it leaves their field, it's a little bit stressful. It could actually cause anxiety. Sharing for red auras. But I'll say, you know who's a great sharer? Yellow auras. Okay. Yellow orbs are. They're not just great sharers. They'll just give it to you. Actually, they're like. Are like, here, let me just. Here, let me just do it for you. Give it to you. Set you up so that you never have to ask to share something again. When I was teaching, I remember, like, the yellow aura kids. Like, if. You know, there's always those kids that come in. They never have a pencil, you know? You know those kids. And then there's the kids that always have, like, a hundred pencils.

[Scotty]

Right.

[Michaela]

Like, I Swear, like the yellow aura. Kids would just like here, just here, like, don't even ask the teacher. Just. Here, just take it. Just take it. Just take it. Just keep it. Don't, you know, just. They're very giving that way. I think they just can't stand to see you in a mess or in lack of something. So they're like, here, just, just do this.

[Scotty]

Okay.

[Michaela]

Yeah, yellows are nice like that. Another good sharer. I would also say, like turquoises are really good sharers. Blues are really good sharers.

[Scotty]

I mean, reds are good sharers. Of advice. I like to share advice.

[Michaela]

Yeah, you like to tell me what to do. That's another way to say it.

[Scotty]

All right. Again, solving this problem, I think it's just time.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

Time will. Will hopefully solve it. Especially if you have a young child.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

All right. What about temper tantrums?

[Michaela]

Temper tantrums? You know, I'm going to be. It's the empath auras that have a problem with the temper tantrums. It's funny because you'd think it would be like those reds, those angry reds or something like that. Usually what gets you into the temper when I notice when I read kids or I see kids, it's their emotions that they don't have words for yet. So I think as parents we get nervous because. Especially like when you're boy moms, just because society is so mean to boys and emotion, even though there's nothing wrong with crying, there's nothing wrong with being upset or frustrated. But society tells you if you're a boy, like, that's wimpy. So they automatically get trained to turn it into anger instead of sadness. And it's okay to be sad, it's okay to express that. But a lot of the temper tantrums I see are indigo, purple, blue, turquoise related type things. Something just overwhelmed you. You do not have the words for it. You're gonna freak out. Like that kind of thing. There we go. That's. That's what I see with temper tantrums. Just a lot of empath aura overload.

[Scotty]

Yeah. All right. What about when you're left out? You know, you're. Maybe this is more on a high school, middle school, of course. You know, usually grade school kids don't leave too many people out, I don't think.

[Michaela]

Yeah, not too much.

[Scotty]

Not too bad. But let's say being you're left out or there's a, like a. What do you call it? Click or something.

[Michaela]

You're what? What? Yeah. How about your kids never in the Click. Your kid never seems to get invited to things. Like, your kid's the one that's always like, I don't know, like. And you hear the other moms, all their kids always have plans, and your kid doesn't like what's going on.

[Scotty]

What's going on there.

[Michaela]

Sometimes I'll see that in a couple of different ways.

[Scotty]

So you want to do who would be leading the clique, and then.

[Michaela]

Yeah, I'll do who's left out first. Okay. I would say, like, the left out ones. Again with the pinks.

[Scotty]

Maybe a pink.

[Michaela]

The pinks get left out a lot. People can be jealous of them. People can. Pinks kind of like to do their own thing sometimes. So they forget to be included sometimes. It. No, indigos don't get left out.

[Scotty]

They just get part of it.

[Michaela]

Like, kind of Indigoes leave themselves out. Indigoes are like. They get invited and then they're like, ah, crap, Crap. You know, I don't want to go. Like, that's a whole other thing.

[Scotty]

Turquoises.

[Michaela]

Turquoises can get left out a lot

[Scotty]

because they can find their own turquoises.

[Michaela]

Well, that's what they got to do. Like, when you're in turquoise, create a coven. When you're. Yes. Yeah. When you're a parent of a turquoise, like, make sure they have their own coven.

[Scotty]

Right.

[Michaela]

Somewhere. I think, like, the. The greens can get left out a lot, but until they find their other greens, you know, usually those. I would say, like, turquoises need to find other turquoises and, you know, greens need to find other greens.

[Scotty]

And who's creating these clicks that really annoy everybody?

[Michaela]

Yeah, I think yellows, Yellows. The purples. Purples, yellows. Some kids do need a group sometimes. And a clique doesn't mean it's not necessarily, like, super negative. Like, sometimes, like, kids need family and they create it in these, like, social groups. The social groups are bad when they start just being nasty to everyone, you know, And I think, like, that's when or when there's like a social hierarchy in it. But sometimes, like, the cliques are just kind of like, these are the kids that know each other best and they hang out all the time, you know, like that. And they're at capacity with their bandwidth of who they can have in or out. But then there's some cliques that we know of, you know, that aren't so great. But I would say, like, yellows are great organizers of these social groups. And purples can be too.

[Scotty]

As a red, I never joined any of these. I would never join in yeah, because I'd only make it myself.

[Michaela]

Right. You had your own care.

[Scotty]

You know who would be in it. Okay, like, how do I put it? Like, I didn't care to be in a popular clique in high school. Yeah, I had my own group.

[Michaela]

You had your own group.

[Scotty]

Which was. And if you wanted to join my group. We talked about this before. Like, you can get in. I'd let you in, but.

[Michaela]

Right.

[Scotty]

You know, as long as you understood that I was the leader.

[Michaela]

Wow, that sounds like a cult.

[Scotty]

Kind of like a cult.

[Michaela]

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[Scotty]

Hey, guys.

[Michaela]

All right, let's talk about some functional difficulties. So these are kind of like just the everyday things in aura color that you can find yourself having issues with with your. With your kid.

[Scotty]

Yeah, And I just also do want to clarify for the first part that we just finished for the emotional regulation, if we've missed some.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

You know, we couldn't. We couldn't do them all. We just picked. We, you know, we selected a few to do. I'm sure there's many, many other problems. Oh, gosh. Yeah. And again, I would just want to reiterate one more time. Any color can fit those.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

So if you're, you know, one of your kids doesn't fit that mold, that does not mean that they're not that color.

[Michaela]

Oh, for sure, for sure. Yeah. This is just kind of like a compassion lens in aura color.

[Scotty]

Yeah. All right. Functional.

[Michaela]

Functional difficulties. Okay, so I guess a big one's getting dressed.

[Scotty]

Getting dressed.

[Michaela]

Do you find yourself screaming at your kid like, get dressed, get dressed. Get dressed.

[Scotty]

Stop.

[Michaela]

Why are you not dressed yet? Are you serious? You're not dressed yet? Okay, so there's something with. As a purple. There's something with the process of life that can. I mean, obviously I've overcome it. I get dressed. But like, there's something about just having to do something every day that's so, like, stupid, you know? And I remember as a little kid, like looking at the cats and being like, you never have to get dressed. You know, like, how lucky are you? You know, you don't have to do anything. Like, you're always in the same outfit. Like, you're so luck. Like there's just something so just like life sucking of some of these, like, daily things that we all have to do as humans so we don't look like, gross and that's. It's hard. So I feel for kids and I do get it, but I'm still the mom that's like, get dressed. Why aren't you dressed? Yeah. So who has the issues with getting dressed? I would say, like purples, okay. You know, greens and believe it or not, yellows.

[Scotty]

Yellow. Okay. Because maybe it's like they have to have it perfect. Yes. Okay.

[Michaela]

They're like, where's my belt? You know, there's a stain on this shirt. You know this. You didn't wash my blue top. And I can only wear my blue top. Today is blue top. Friday, where is my blue top? You know, they get kind of like that. Or if you have a yellow kid and you find. And if you have a yellow kid, they're wearing what they want. You know, that's another thing, like, you might. And especially if you're yellow and you have a yellow kid, like, good luck to you. You know, if you have a purple kid, they are also wearing what they want. Good luck to you, you know, because it's just kind of like. I've gotten to the point having two purple kids, like, as long as you're covered, I guess we're good. You know, like, that's kind of.

[Scotty]

So they're doing all these experiments or something?

[Michaela]

Yes, that's right.

[Scotty]

Just don't have the time.

[Michaela]

Greens love a uniform.

[Scotty]

Just put the uniform on and. Yeah, I don't want to waste time. I want to get back to my experiments.

[Michaela]

Yeah, that's what I see a lot of. It's easier, I think, for parents of green boys than it is for parents of green girls, just because of what society says, like, you know, kids should wear based on gender, which is so stupid. But, like, I think boys is like, here's your athletic shorts and here's your coordinating shirt. Just put that on versus a girl. It's like sometimes all. It's like, you could do that too, but it can be a little bit tougher. You know, you want them to wear different things. So green kids need a uniform, Something just. It's so simple that they don't have to think about. Green. Adults need a uniform too. You know, it's like, I don't have to think about. I wear this same thing pretty much every day. It matches it coordinates. I didn't spend a lot of, you know, green. Even green kids, they don't like inefficiency. So getting dressed to them might be like, just an inefficient use of their time. It's boring. And they want to dress for function. So just having it out and available to them is just, like, done.

[Scotty]

Okay. It's interesting that. That you said it's like kind of like a mundane process to you.

[Michaela]

Yes, it really is.

[Scotty]

So as a red, that part of the process never bothered me. Getting dressed part. But, like, then what I had to go to was the part that was funny. The actual act of where you were going. That's where I got.

[Michaela]

Well, that's control. You're like, I don't want to go there.

[Scotty]

But actually putting on the outfit didn't ever.

[Michaela]

So maybe like, you not putting. Getting dressed could also. Now that's interesting. Like, some kids might see that as well. If I don't get dressed, then I don't have to go to the thing.

[Scotty]

That's true too.

[Michaela]

You know, like, that's their way of kind of controlling the time.

[Scotty]

Yeah.

[Michaela]

The timing of it, sometimes that's the

[Scotty]

hardest part, which would Be a red thing, you know, the hardest. That sometimes is the hardest part is just getting ready. Just getting ready.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Because if you can. Once you can do that, then you can do the thing. But like you said, maybe you don't want to do the thing that you have to get right for that hold you back.

[Michaela]

It does. Yeah. It could be, like, a way of controlling kids, too. Routines in general. I'm talking about, like, oh, my gosh. Just any routine. Like, okay, we're getting up and going to school, or now we're going to practice, or we have to pick up your sister from here, and then we have to go to grandma's house on Fridays. Like, routine in general, like, anything that's kind of set in stone in the family, problems with that. That can be an aura color issue, too, but for different reasons. Like, with purples, I feel like routines can be overload for them. It's. It's just too many steps. It's sometimes when you have a purple kid. How do I put this? It's kind of like we're doing step one, step two, step three, step four, and then step five. It's like, well, it sounds like we already did it, so why do we have to go do it now? You know, like, the talking about it, the knowing of what's to come, the planning of it, can cause kind of just like a breakdown or an overwhelm of a kid who's purple. And then that's when you can get. What I notice with my purple kids, my one purple kid, is transition issues. Like, when they. Like, my one always. My one purple always did awful. Whenever we're transitioning.

[Scotty]

Right.

[Michaela]

All right. We're going from the restaurant to home. We're going to home to school. We're going from the car to out of the car to back into. Like, those were, like, the worst times.

[Scotty]

You were there, she was fine.

[Michaela]

Once you were there, it's fine. The transition times were like. Like, that's when the tempers happen. That's. So if you can kind of pinpoint where these stresses are happening a lot of time, it's usually like an emotional thing. And that's. That's my thing with purples. And that's.

[Scotty]

Yeah. So yellow. What about yellows?

[Michaela]

Yellow routine for them. They like routines. I notice yellow kids enjoy knowing about the routine.

[Scotty]

Okay.

[Michaela]

Like, they actually. Whereas the purples, I can. That can, like, stress them out. Like, a yellow kid is like, okay, what are we doing after school today? All right. We're doing A, B, C, D, E, F, G, and Then if you really want to throw some more fun for your yellow kid, you say, like, hey, what street do you think I should take? Because I know yellow kids really get into, like, driving or directions. Or are you taking Maple Street? Because, like, there's a. They're eight years old. They're telling you how to get somewhere. You know, bring them in on it. You know, hey, can you check the map? Hey, can you see if this is open? Hey, can you get me the phone number for, like, have them help you with it? They love yellows, love a routine, but they like being told what the routine is. And you'd be surprised. The younger the better with a yellow or a kid. They love knowing what's going on in detail, and they like being helpers with it.

[Scotty]

Okay, what about, like, now, a routine can produce a lot of anxiety.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

What color would you say gets the most anxiety over a routine?

[Michaela]

I mean, greens can have a really hard time with routine, too. If it's not their own routine, if it's out of the routine or a different routine or they don't want, like,

[Scotty]

a turquoise might not want to do the routine.

[Michaela]

Turquoises, they have their own kind of like, timeline. So for the routine. For the routine, they don't like being like, what's that? Like, they don't like time master, you know, like, what's that somebody saying, okay, we got five minutes for this and then 10 minutes here? They don't like that. They like to take their time or move at their own pace.

[Scotty]

Yeah. As a red, I'd like to make the routine.

[Michaela]

You like to make the routine?

[Scotty]

I'll tell you the routine.

[Michaela]

Right. Sometimes it's interesting because, like, it. Depending on the energy color, the aura color, like, like, for, like I was saying, yellow auras love to hear about it. Purple or is don't you know? So it's kind of. There's like a stress either way. So you got to kind of pinpoint, like, what is it that's stressing them out, and then that can always lead you to understanding their aura a little too.

[Scotty]

What about hygiene?

[Michaela]

Oh, hygiene. Hygiene's like a middle school problem. Middle school hygiene, It's a tween problem. No matter what aura color you are, if you have a tween kid.

[Scotty]

Yes. And I will tell. I'm going to put this out there because I taught high school. You taught middle school.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

Okay. And if you're a parent of a middle schooler, right now, we're going to actually be parents of a middle schooler next year.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

Our Second one between, like, once they get to high school, all that middle school stuff, especially with the girls first.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

Goes away. And they actually, when you get to, like, 9th, 10th grade, they become, like, human again. The girls faster. The boys is probably 10th grade. By 11th grade, they're pretty much human.

[Michaela]

They're pretty much human.

[Scotty]

Yeah. So there is. Yeah. The ninth grade boys are. That's basically almost like they're still in middle school. They just not handle high school. Their first year. Ninth grade boys.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Ninth grade girls can't. They are. They're there.

[Michaela]

They mature. Quitter.

[Scotty]

Right. They've made the jump. And you're like, you're. You're in the clear. You should be in the clear.

[Michaela]

Right.

[Scotty]

Not everyone, of course, but most people are gonna be in the clear. But high school boy, like ninth grade, high school boy. Oh. Then in like, tenth grade, they finally figure something out.

[Michaela]

Right.

[Scotty]

And over that summer, I think, okay. And they become, like, human again.

[Michaela]

Are you saying that they come to school not smelly? Is that what you're saying?

[Scotty]

I'm saying all those problems that you're having right now that you're wondering, how is this person ever going to make it in life? You know, they can't even, you know, brush their teeth correctly, comb their hair, stains on their shirt. They're active, they're saying weird things. All that's going to go away. Most of it will go away by the time they get to high school. Boys again, a little bit later. Again. I taught ninth grade freshman for many, many years. Tenth graders, I taught for many years. And then juniors are a pleasure, by the way.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Once they get there. But anyway, hygiene. Yeah. Middle school hygiene.

[Michaela]

Middle school is hard. I mean, I. When I remember teaching middle school, like, the girls kind of would figure it out. And I will say that they do help each other out.

[Scotty]

Yes.

[Michaela]

And if your kid comes home and they're like, you know, Sarah told me that I need to use deodorant. You know, like, maybe we gotta, like, think that maybe Sarah was trying to help her friend out. You know what I mean? Like, maybe she just cares about you and that's. Oh, yeah, yeah. She. That's a good tip. Sarah uses deodorant, too. You know what I mean? Things like that. But like, I would say if you're having prolonged issues with the hygiene thing,

[Scotty]

it could be any color, by the

[Michaela]

way, But I'm gonna pick out a few.

[Scotty]

Pick out a couple.

[Michaela]

It's not yellow. Okay. And it's not pink.

[Scotty]

Not pinks and not yellow. Hey, I Still got hygiene issues. I'm a red.

[Michaela]

I would say, like, okay, not pick up greens.

[Scotty]

It's gotta be the greens.

[Michaela]

Poor green auras.

[Scotty]

Gotta be the greens. Greens.

[Michaela]

It really. And I think it really depends on the green. I don't mean to pick on them because these are like kids. Like I said, green auras are very focused. They're very in their world. And they don't like inefficient use of time. And sometimes it's like you got to brush your teeth. How many times a day?

[Scotty]

Come on.

[Michaela]

You know, like that. They just. It's. It's boring. You know, they're busy thinking about other things. Turquoises. I notice turquoises too. They can just live with a little bit more like earthiness, we'll call it, than other aura colors. You know, that's why turquoises are kind of. Oh, you know, just. They're not as so stressed out about the little hygiene things as quickly, I think, as the other kids are.

[Scotty]

Okay. All right, let's take a quick break. We'll do a few more.

[Michaela]

When I hear healthy eating, it's not the thought of eating healthy that bothers me. It's the thought of all the time and preparation into doing that. Also, when sometimes you're the only one in the house.

[Scotty]

House.

[Michaela]

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[Scotty]

Hey, guys.

[Michaela]

All right, so let's kind of focus on the school aspect of things with functional difficulties, but, like, in aura color. So let's do school work. School work, studying. I mean, let's be honest. It's not for everyone. Like, and I will see in aura color how that can affect different kids and why, like, you know, some kids are. And here's the thing. Like, some kids are naturally just brilliant. Like, they just pick it up immediately, and then they can get. They can get their way through it. They can get through it, you know, without needing to study or needing to focus or needing to do school work.

[Scotty]

Yeah, no, I mean, this is the one. I wish I would have known the whole time if I could have known every kid's color.

[Michaela]

Okay.

[Scotty]

You know, you could teach to that color. You can understand how they work. You can understand what you know. I tried my best to do it without knowing the colors. Obviously, I thought I was pretty good at that, understanding kids. But if you knew their colors, you would have such a superpower as a teacher.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

To be able to see how each kid functions and works to best, you know, help them get through, you know, your class.

[Michaela]

Yeah. And we did a whole episode about that. Episode 153, is your aura link to your IQ? This is, like, my favorite episode we actually did.

[Scotty]

Yeah.

[Michaela]

Yeah. Because it was about learning styles and whatnot. But the thing is, is, like, at some point, they got to know how to study.

[Scotty]

Right.

[Michaela]

And some aura colors have a harder time with that than others.

[Scotty]

Right. And I guess. Yeah. But, like, just for an example, let's say for studying time.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Our red, purple.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

Brie comes home right out, you know, school, boom. Is studying.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

Okay, so Abby, purple, turquoise, Right? This is gonna. The study time is gonna come, you know, right before she's supposed to do the hygiene routine.

[Michaela]

Right. It's like, abby, take your shower. But she's, ah, I'm gonna do homework. I'm like, oh, my gosh, now they

[Scotty]

both get it done.

[Michaela]

Yeah, they.

[Scotty]

You know, I think so.

[Michaela]

I mean, they do.

[Scotty]

Yeah. We don't hear that. They don't. You know, Brie, Brie. I've never had to ever say, get your work done. You know, Abby, sometimes we have to say, abby, get your work done. Get your work done. But so as a parent, how do you deal with this? You know, if you have that one that comes home and studies right away, you're probably like, oh, this is great. I don't have to do anything. I'm going to put my feet up and drink my coffee. But if you have that, you know, let's say that purple turquoise combo.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

And they're not going to do their homework to 8pm that might drive you insane.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

And then you're gonna drive your kid insane.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Getting them to try to do the work earlier.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

But that's just how it is. Right.

[Michaela]

I think it depends on your aura color.

[Scotty]

Right.

[Michaela]

As a parent.

[Scotty]

Okay.

[Michaela]

Like when your house is run a certain way, then there's like an expectation that you better do your homework, you know, Then that creates more anxiety and that's not good, you know, so you

[Scotty]

on top of it than I am?

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Yeah. I don't get on top. Like if for Brie, like I said, I don't think it's ever happened because

[Michaela]

she just does it.

[Scotty]

She just does it.

[Michaela]

But she's red and she's got her, like, she likes to have everything in control.

[Scotty]

Right. So we're spoiled that way.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

You know, because I. I don't even check anything of her grades or her homework because I just know it's gonna be done.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

And then, you know, once in a while just ask you and say, hey, did she get everything in? You're like, yeah, of course.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

And that's it, Abby. A couple times we've had to deal with that.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

And if it gets to me, because I'm not going to ask on the day, like, I'm assuming you're going to do it and you're going to do it your time. You got to do it at 8.

[Michaela]

That's your red parent.

[Scotty]

But then, you know, you show it to me, I say, oh, wait, what's a zero here?

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Now it's.

[Michaela]

Now it's going to be on my schedule. So I think the way that I work is until you prove me your. I'm purple indigo, until you prove to me that your system that you've devised for yourself isn't working, then I won't bother you. But once you've shown me. Now it's not now. Now I have to go into a different type of mom vibe. But it's, I think, like, okay, so if you have a purple kid, all right, and you have to kind of. It's. You can't control them. And they do not like being told what to do. So that is going to be a study, schoolwork, struggle, a huge study struggle. And I Can't even talk about this like a parent. I got to talk about this like, as a, as a teacher, because that makes more sense to me and how to deal with it. I feel like it's just like, this is what I expect from you, and it has to be done before this time. So, like, let's say the time is 7:00pm like, at 7:00pm I'm gonna look. And this is if you have a purple kid, I'm gonna look. And if it's not, and I don't care if you do it at 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, I don't care what time you do it. But by 7pm if it's not done, we're gonna have problems, and that's it. So you're giving them freedom, but also like a wall, like a boundary. And so it's. I think that's like, if you're. Because purples usually have this problem. So if you're dealing with purple, like your purple kid, who's not gonna do it, or I can see this working for a green too. It's like, I'm giving you all this freedom. I don't care how, where, or when you do it. But this time, this is where I draw the line. And then as long as you just hold the line, which they will try to. If you have a purple, they will push that. The other problem is with, like, green aura kids, if you have a green orbit study in schoolwork, like, they might just not care. Like, they. Honestly. Because they might be like, I'm never gonna know. Like, they're not doing their Spanish homework. Well, I'm never gonna use Spanish.

[Scotty]

Yeah.

[Michaela]

And they're like, so I don't care if I get a D. And you're like, yeah. And then you have to explain to them why you. They have to care. And then they're like. And then it really depends on how well you can explain that to them. Because if you can't make them care in their own ten commandments of agreeing, they're not going to care.

[Scotty]

Right.

[Michaela]

That's hard.

[Scotty]

Yeah. And just note all of middle school. For all you middle school parents, all that is is just trying to get them to get that work in on time.

[Michaela]

That's basically middle school. Yeah.

[Scotty]

For middle schoolers, it's all habits of mind. Yeah. And the boys usually, again, like, they'll catch up. Don't. Don't worry. You know, they're not getting all their stuff in.

[Michaela]

I know.

[Scotty]

There's nothing you could, you know, I don't want to say nothing. You do but, you know, they'll. They'll grow into it. Girls, like I said, do it faster. But there's hope. There's hope, you know, because we're throwing all these problems at people today, and I want everyone to feel like a failure.

[Michaela]

They won't get better, but no, they're loved and hugged.

[Scotty]

Everyone's fine. Yeah.

[Michaela]

All right. And then being organized with school. Oh, my gosh, I'm picking on greens today. Green kid backpacks. Holy cow. What are they doing? They don't, like folders. They don't. They don't bring anything to school from school. Like, you go, if you ever have the privilege of going to look at their locker, it's like, oh, my gosh. It's either nothing's in there. You're like, don't you have textbooks? Or it's like a bomb went off and it's just like a wall of papers, you know?

[Scotty]

But they're in their uniform.

[Michaela]

They're in their uniform, and they really probably like their science teacher or something. Like, they're really. They're doing great. They're, you know.

[Scotty]

Okay, well, the yellows probably. Are you organized, right? They're probably number one for organization.

[Michaela]

Yeah, yellows are really good at that.

[Scotty]

The. The.

[Michaela]

They said it's some sort of stuff symptom of, I don't know, ADHD or something. Like, where people organize things in piles. And this is me and you. Like, this is because me with my purple aura, I always put things in piles. And you always put things in piles. Like, if something's in a pile, it's like, oh, that's my doctor stuff pile. Or that's like my. My school stuff. I have to deal with pile. Or that's my phone calls I have to make pile. Like that. But apparently that's not a good method. And I say bs. That's a great method. If it works for you, it's organization.

[Scotty]

Well, look, I have my certain way of organizing everything.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

It has to do with file cards, writing things on papers, and, like you said, piles and all those things. And here's the thing, as I'm doing it.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

I know that I could save so much time. I know if I just yellowed it out or greened it out and did it and put it into, like, a system where I wouldn't have to be looking everything up and taking all the time and doing all that. I know that.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

I know my system is not.

[Michaela]

But it works, right?

[Scotty]

It works.

[Michaela]

So I think with kids in organized organization, a lot of us start them on the yellow route, you know, it's like, okay. You know, it's the beginning of the year. Let's get your folders ready. Okay. The green one will be math. You know, like, whatever it is. Like, you try to get them on a route of organization that is kind of yellow aura coated. And I think that, like, that's why yellow ores do so well in this world. And then sometimes indigos will do okay or blues will do okay because they can absorb it into it.

[Scotty]

Right.

[Michaela]

And. And they want things. Or pinks can do okay because they're like, oh, okay, well, I want things to look aesthetic or kind of work well. So you got to kind of find organization for your kid the way it makes sense to them.

[Scotty]

To them.

[Michaela]

Yeah, yeah.

[Scotty]

You gotta let them find.

[Michaela]

You gotta let them find it.

[Scotty]

Yeah. Like, if you. Yeah. If you gave me what's a Google Doc? Spreadsheet? And I'd be like, no, I'm just not doing it. It's just not gonna work.

[Michaela]

Yeah. But if you give a kid, like, okay, you pick out the funkiest, like, binder you want, you know, or the most fun agenda. Like, let's figure it out. Let's. You know, maybe that. That works for them.

[Scotty]

Yeah. What about. This is probably the number one problem that parents have today. Managing the phones and the screen time and being on the apps.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Social media, it only gets worse. Right. As they go from middle school to high school.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

And then to adulthood, it just gets worse.

[Michaela]

This could be, like a whole episode.

[Scotty]

A whole episode.

[Michaela]

Like how each aura color handles being. Being online.

[Scotty]

That could be. Yeah, that's an episode in itself.

[Michaela]

Yeah. But I think there's, like, healthy online stuff and unhealthy online stuff. So I noticed with kids like, this is how they play now, you know, like, Ro. Like, what is that? Like, Roblox, you know, like, you know, the video games. And they'll put on their headphones and talk to their friends as they're playing it together. Or like, our kids will be on FaceTime and be playing Roblox with each other.

[Scotty]

Yeah. It's. It's the weirdest thing.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

We. We live in a neighborhood.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

There's neighbors. They're not that far away.

[Michaela]

Yes.

[Scotty]

But yet they'll spend, like, two hours, three hours playing in each other's home. Like, one's in one house, one's in the other.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

And I'm always like, abby, why don't you just go over there?

[Michaela]

Right.

[Scotty]

Instead of, like, for three hours playing whatever.

[Michaela]

Abby has a pink friend and that she goes to class with. And she was playing this Roblox with her pink friend. And, you know, Abby was in her house and her pink friend was in her house. And they just lived down the street from each other. And the mom, who also happens to be pink, texts me and she's like, can they just play outside? And I'm like, yes. And then she's like, and then together we banded our mom strengths together and we were like, get out of the house.

[Scotty]

Like, just beat each other.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

Like in the amount of time you're playing. And they did. Yeah, they did.

[Michaela]

They did. And now they bike ride more because we're both like, just do this. But like outside.

[Scotty]

Yeah.

[Michaela]

But anyways, I think that is how they play. And that is a part of, like dealing with this is like, that's their reality now. It is how they play. But how do you manage it when it's starting to be too much? I feel like green kids, for example, like that kind of world can feel like an escape for them. And that's really. And then kind of depending on what games they're picking or playing, as long as they're like, good for them and like the controls are on and stuff like that, they can be like fun kind of fantasy kind of places or things that they're doing. But it's, it's really. It's hard to manage it. I think, like, purples have to be careful because they can start to kind of go into rabbit holes or the social stuff can drag the purples in more. Blues have to be really careful. They're very sensitive. Blue kids are very sensitive. Like, we're all very sensitive, but blue kids are very sensitive. So they read like one nasty thing or something.

[Scotty]

So that may be like social. You're talking like social media.

[Michaela]

Like the comments like, so maybe like limiting anything where maybe like we turn off comments like that kind of thing or anything. Yellow kids are very hard on themselves. So I worry about yellow kids and comparing themselves to other people, you know, so it's. It's hard because it kind of depends on the aura color, which is not different from adults. But with it's over, you know, you

[Scotty]

go home, you know, you do whatever, but it's over. And now this day, that's police like,

[Michaela]

and it works less so. And I've done it so much that even my 16 year old, sometimes she's like, take it away. Hide it, hide it. Don't let me find it. And I'm like, all right, like, because I. Because I'm really Good at just. At a certain time every night, I'm like, I'm collecting everything, and it's harder to do it to my high school or not. She's a junior, you know, and she does use it for homework, but even though. Even now she's like, just take it. Get rid of it. Make it go away.

[Scotty]

Yeah.

[Michaela]

Well, I think it's.

[Scotty]

That must be the red part of her. Yeah. Because I like. Me too. Like. Like, if I go out for the day and I know someone else has a phone with them, I leave mine home.

[Michaela]

Yeah.

[Scotty]

I just. I don't want.

[Michaela]

I can't do that.

[Scotty]

Yeah, I know. I'm like, does anyone have a phone? Oh, you do. Okay. I don't need to bring mine. Good. Yeah, but that could be a red. I think reds would. I know this is a whole episode. We could get into all this, but I think reds maybe have a better chance to get off the well a little bit than other colors.

[Michaela]

You're saying is you can role model it, you know, like, I don't think

[Scotty]

any of that works.

[Michaela]

I don't know.

[Scotty]

I think they're all. I think Steve Jobs just got us all addicted.

[Michaela]

Yeah, well, they just had a conference about that.

[Scotty]

Did they?

[Michaela]

Yeah, like that. They're all on trial for making kids addicted.

[Scotty]

Yeah. Zuckerberg and all those.

[Michaela]

Yeah. 100. Oh, I hate. Don't say his name. I always get nervous. He's gonna, like, shadow ban us or something. I put on my turquoise tinfoil hat and I here. Feel like we're gonna get shadow banned now.

[Scotty]

Zuckerberg.

[Michaela]

Don't say it. Okay, we realize we just threw a lot at you guys today, but you know who the real experts are? The mmsf. We need you over on the page to please tell us what are your kid problems solved in aura colors? Get descriptive. Let us know what happened.

[Scotty]

Help us out.

[Michaela]

Help us.

[Scotty]

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[Michaela]

As you can tell, we don't know. So give us ideas. And because we're all in this together and does take a village, and I really feel like the MMSF is the village, you know? So we are so grateful for you guys. You know, this podcast is for you and about you, and we're so glad that you spent some time with.