← Know Your Aura with Mystic Michaela
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Michaela spiritual family. Welcome to know your aura with mystic Michaela today. Live life like a blue aura. If you don't know by now, we've been doing this little series over here on our know your aura podcast where we talk about the life hacks, life advice, and life inspiration for from each aura color. So on episode 309, we did live life like a purple, and episode 315, we did live life like a yellow aura. But today we are talking about how to live life like a blue aura. But first. Hey, Scotty.
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Hey, guys.
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All right. So very excited to talk about the blues.
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Yes.
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Because I feel like blues in our 3D society. So that's our ego driven, you know, physical world where we have all these systems set up and it's just a lot. Blue auras always get taken for granted. They get seen as their gifts of giving and empathy are often just kind of like whatever, like, not special. So I notice right off the bat, just getting hot into the blues. I notice that blue auras often don't feel special. Like, well, I don't really have anything to give or I'm. No, I'm not special special. Or I don't stand out. But the fact that you're such a helper, that you're such a giver, that you're such a facilitator is your gift is why you stand out.
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Okay. And you're looking at this just from the purely blue standpoint. So if you do have another color. Yeah, like I'm blue.
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Yeah.
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But I have the red that balances it. So it changes it up a little bit. Right. So it's not like. I mean, I guess it's blue, but it's not like pure blue. I don't know how to explain that.
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I know what you mean. You're an aura combo. So you're saying that depending on what your other energy color is. Because most of us have two.
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Right.
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Some of us have three aura colors. Energy colors. It can kind of. Yeah. It can kind of flavor the blue. You know, it can kind of add a little seasoning to your blue. Yeah.
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Or, or. Or the. Yeah. Or like, shape with the blue.
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It can shape the blue.
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Shape the blue.
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Yeah, it totally can. Like, the combos are a whole thing. And today we're also not talking about indigos.
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Right.
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We're talking about blues. So this is just an episode for you. Blues.
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Yes. And I want to. Because right now there's a lot of nervous turquoises.
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Yes.
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We are gonna do one on turquoise.
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We are.
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Okay. Hold us to that.
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Yes.
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We're not gonna forget about you.
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And the Blue To Go's are like, what about me on Blue To Go?
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Oh, yeah, yeah.
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You're just gonna have to listen to this one. And then when we eventually one day do indigo and merge them, but today's just blue.
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Okay. So overall, let's just take just pure blue. What is it like to be a
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pure blue overall blues, and you've heard me say this before, but just to quickly review, blues are healers, helpers, naturally empathic, naturally compassionate. They just automatically see a need and move to fill it. They don't even think. They just do this. I often say with blue auras that their payment from the world is feeling God's light in others. Meaning when you give somebody some sort of validation, like, I see you, I hear you, I'm here for you. I notice you as a person, an individual. I validate you. You kind of feel God's light in them. This, this, their. Their self worth glow. That feeling of, oh, my gosh, I'm connected, I'm loved. And you feel that in them. And you know that you helped facilitate it. So you. That's your payment, like, feeling that you made sure they. They know that they are special and worth something with your time and energy. I notice that a lot with blues. That's why a lot of time blues are called to do service work or God's work or that type of healing work. They're usually in roles where. Yeah, they are helpers, healers, lightworkers.
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Okay, all right, so now let's get a little more specific.
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Yeah.
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All right. So what about blues when they're in a relationship?
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So blue aura, relationship, like, they're very good communicators. The problem with blues is they can get victimized very quickly. So. And it happened almost Scotty, you know?
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Yeah. Well, that's when the, like the red. I guess my red would come down.
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Yeah.
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And then the blue goes up.
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Yeah.
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And then the victimization goes up a little.
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Yeah. You have to pay attention to this. It's a very normal blue aura thing. Okay. Like, if you're blue or bluish, even though I said I wouldn't talk about it, it's very normal to feel like, oh, my gosh, like, I'm always thinking of everybody and they didn't think of me like that. Like, that's very, very normal. Because you go so above and beyond that every once in a while it hits you and you're like, wow, everyone's not as nice as I am. Which is true. You know, they're not, but like, you expect them to be, which is, I guess, not what you're supposed to do. So you can feel a little victimized a little bit. You can also sometimes feel victimized if you feel like you're left behind or somebody's not, you know, giving you love or attention in the way that you feel you need it right now. You can get a little needy for it sometimes when you're blue, if you feel like you give, give, give, and you'd like to kind of just receive back that same gift. If that makes sense.
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Yeah, yeah, that makes sense.
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You gotta work on the victim. The victimize y thing.
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I mean, I don't get that way often. Oh, do I? Maybe I do.
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Like, the kids complain about it with you. Cause like we talked about this earlier,
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but the blue is where they always, you know, so, like. Yeah, like, I have the red at first. Like the first wave. Like, if you're coming at me, the first wave you're gonna get. I do try to work on this, but you're gonna get the red. So the red's gonna hit you.
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You're like, no.
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And then.
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But then my ideas.
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Only if you just hold on. If you just like stick with it, then the blue's gonna start to. The red's gonna crack. The red's gonna crack and the blue's gonna go through.
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And you feel bad.
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Yeah. And then you're gonna get everything you want.
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Right.
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And they're gonna do everything for you.
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Well, right.
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That's what.
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That's how it works with you.
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That's how it works with me.
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Right? I think, yeah.
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Cuz I even mean, I told the story, I think once with the. The old lady that almost killed me in the car. I don't know.
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You did, you did.
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But like, my first reaction was I wanted to.
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Well, you have to tell the story.
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I forgot. It was just basically know that some old lady almost killed me in a car.
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You were driving.
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I was driving. And she like, cut me off and just almost kill me at all in
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the most horrible way. Like, you're not even exaggerating. She almost killed me.
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Yeah. And it would be totally her fault. And I did nothing wrong. And so my first reaction was, I'm gonna let this lady have it, you know? Right. Go. But then what. What happens is that once that gets past that and I get that out like a little bit. All right, what are you doing?
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What'd you do? Like, road rage up next to her? Like, what are you doing?
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Like I was, I think I said like, what are you doing? Yeah, and then, and then all of a sudden I'm like escorting her to her destination.
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She's like, where's the doctor's appointment?
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Yeah, you get her a doctor. And then from there like the red subsides and then all the blue comes out and I'm like, oh, I'm going to help you get to there.
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And I notice that a lot.
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You almost killed me.
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But I notice that a lot with all sorts of blues. Like even if you're like purple blue, like you might start off feisty with the purple, but then the blue prevails, you know. Or if you're yellow blue, like you might start off a little bit organized or a little kind of like, you know, obsessive or controlling with the yellow, but then the blue prevails, you know, and then you're like, oh, whatever, let me just do it for you. Like that. So, so blue is a really strong energy. If you have blue in your aura, it actually controls you so much more than your other aura color. I'm just telling you right now, like, because even. And this is taking it to an extreme, but like when I see really imbalanced blues, it's all because of the blue. Like a lot of let's, I mean, let's talk about imbalanced blues in power, for example. Like, so the people who are in power are running things and you are like, what is wrong with this man? You know, like that. And a lot of times it's. Their blue is so shoved under and so ignored that it comes out as well. I need everybody to think I'm great or I need everybody to care about me or I need everybody to give me accolades, you know, because when the blue isn't paid attention to or it's not like seen or worked on or you don't know these things about yourself, it can become like infanticized in a way and it becomes like a very like two year old baby version of it. But like in big, big boy or big girl positions and then it can. Cause you know, I only have empathy for myself now. Like that it's all about me or you know, I'm so victimized that I can do whatever I want like that. So that's where it can get really twisted. Now of course I don't see that in the mmsf. You know, this is just like if it gets out of whack.
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Right, right.
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Okay.
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All right. What else in relationships do you find?
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Well, in relationships I think like they love to Feed you. I think blue auras love to feed. You know, we're doing a workshop right now, for example, and there's so many. We were talking about career as one aspects in our, in our aura workshop. What's my aura? Part three. And so many blue auras. Food service industry, like love to feed and they love their job feeding people. And they love knowing the regulars, orders and stuff like that, you know? You know, food is validation. You know, it's like giving validation. They love to fix other people, you know, they, they like, sometimes like blues can choose people who need nurturing and then that's fine. Unless the person doesn't want to get better. They just want to continue to get fixed, you know. So blue auras can get stuck in relationships sometimes that just drain them dry because the person doesn't want to get better. They just like you did, keep fixing them over and over and over again and. And they can give more than they receive in, you know that. I think that's like normal with a blue. And blues don't need like everything they give you back, but they need something back. Like they need to at least be seen once in a while. A little goes a long way with a blue.
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So like if they feed you a meal, they need you to kind of tell them I loved it.
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Oh my God, that was great. Yeah.
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Feel so full.
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Yeah. Like, this was great. Can you make this again? You know, this is so good. This is. That's all they needed. That's all they needed. You know if you're like silent. Yeah, that hurt. It's like, come on. Like just throw them like a, like a phone there. Yeah. Okay. It goes so far with a blue aura.
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Yeah.
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right, let's, let's go to another topic. What about blues and their work life?
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Blue auras, you know, they do best in jobs, again, where they can kind of fill gaps or, you know, know, be helpers, where they can make people feel seen and validated. That's why I always see them as healthcare workers, teachers, therapists, but then like anywhere where they can kind of just be helpful. So they're great in customer service. Like they can pretty much work anywhere if they feel like they are being utilized. And the best scenario is if they feel gratitude for their work. So somebody saying like, oh my gosh, thanks, you made my day. Or, or they, they at least feel like they're helping. Like they could work with animals really well because, you know, they know that them being there, the animals always give back. Her kids, they work really good kids or the elderly, they work really good, but they don't need to have a gold star given to them and a pat on the back and they definitely don't need a walk across the stage and like, you know, they should get that, but they don't need that. They just need to know that what they are doing is making a difference and it's seen and appreciated and it's being paid forward. That's a big thing for work and blues.
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All right, what now? This next one I'm going to ask you about. Yeah, maybe this will tie maybe into the work life. Yeah, a little bit. Like blues. How do they make themselves, like heal or feel better about themselves? Like blues, I think could take a lot, like, you know, teachers. Yeah, they take a Lot of crap.
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Oh, yeah.
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Nurses.
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Oh, my God.
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They don't get treated well.
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No.
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You know, and like I said, teachers, too, you know, they don't get treated well. So a lot of these blue jobs, customer service, get treated real bad.
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Yeah.
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So I think blues can really kind of take it and take it and take it. And like you said, if they know that they're helping, maybe like, let's say a nurse, they know they're helping the patient, but yet they're getting treated poorly by the hospital.
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Right.
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They might still do it.
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Yes.
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But then there's got to be a breaking point or something where they need to kind of recharge or heal themselves.
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Yeah.
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Because. Right. Because, you know, they're human, too.
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Yeah.
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At some point, you're gonna break. So what do, like, blues do to make them feel better about themselves or heal?
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Yeah.
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Or maybe to be able to withstand some of these things at work or.
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Yeah. Blues take a long time to reach burnout, a real long time. And then they can kind of even stay in burnout for a really long time. So it takes them longer to reach burnout than other aura colors. They actually exist within burnout longer than other aura colors because they will borrow reasons to stay. Well, I'm a good person. You know, I have to stay a good person, or I have to make money for my family, or I have to keep doing this. Nobody else will. Or, you know, they'll. They'll borrow. You know, I'm working with my patients. You know, I'm just gonna take. I'm just gonna borrow all that. That's. I'm gonna ignore all the mistreatment I'm getting, and I'm just gonna borrow the good things I'm giving to them and how they feel after. Like, I'll borrow their afterglow that I provide for them, like, in order to see. Stay in it. But the longer they do it, and we'll talk about this next, like, the sicker you can get. But you know that because you stayed in teaching a really long time and a lot of it. And you were burned out. Like, you were existing in burnout. Like you were existing in burnout, but you were taking it from. I am here for the kids. I have to be here for the kids. I can't abandon these kids mid year. I'm gonna stay. Like, that was a big.
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That was my. Yeah, that was my whole thing all the time.
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Yeah. You just were borrowing it from them.
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Yeah. Because it was based on, like, the administration.
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Yes.
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I would have been out of there.
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Yeah.
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In two seconds. The worst days in teaching and teachers are all going to jump up and down and say, yes, got it. Yes. Are the staff development days. They were brutal. And all I ever did on those days was try to find a way to sneak out, hide somewhere. So. But. But you know when you're actually in the room with the kids.
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Yes.
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And, you know, you're teaching your thing and doing your thing. That was okay.
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That's what you were taken from that energy source. So I see the blues do that. So how do they heal? How do they get better? How do they. They need alone time. Like, they need time. Like, okay, I have energy left over. What can I do for me? I noticed that blues love to read. They love to read. They love to nurture their. Their people and animals in their life. So taking care of their kids or their partners or their friends, that's how they actually recharge. By giving. Still giving, but to places where they actually 100% get back. Like kids, partner, you know, in good scenarios, friends, you know, know animals. Tradition is a big thing for blues. Like, okay, do the cookie exchange every year, or, you know, we have book club or, you know, once a year we have a girls trip or whatever. Tradition's like a big deal for blues. And. And they really recharge by making sure, like, okay, I have community. I have connection. Yeah. What else they. They like. Like indigos. They. They do like to nap or recharge kind of like by themselves. I think that that's. That's a good way to do it too. But. But it's hard. You know, I think it's hard for them because they do reach burnout, and then they know how, and then they exist in it, and then they can get, like, numb, and then they forget what it even feels like to feel anything. They're so oversaturated. And that's when the health stuff.
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Okay, so what about health issues or blues?
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So obviously, I'm not a doctor. I don't diagnose. Medicine's real, you know, this is not a medical podcast. Okay. All that. But patterns, I notice with blue auras is throat. Throat chakra stuff. Like the unsaid. So, like, throat pain, ear pain, tooth pain. I mean, all of the empath clubs are gonna be like, that's me too. Like, so turquoises, purples, and indigos are like. Yeah, yeah, yeah, like, yeah, but like, blues, autoimmune stuff. What else? Migraines. Oh, my God. Blues and your migraines. Blue aura migraines, like, constant. They're like, oh, I have a migraine, like, constantly. Like laryngitis, like, losing the voice. That. A lot of throat chakra stuff and then autoimmune stuff, thyroid stuff. Like a lot of that seems to happen when, like inflammation, like when they're just living in burnout and they can't really. Their body starts just like over, like compensating for it and taking it in and holding it, holding it for them. So I see like the health stuff,
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does that happen more when they don't have a Logicolor? Like the other color is.
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No, actually, I would say. I would say if you are a double empath color, you're gonna realize it quicker.
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Okay.
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If you have a logic color, you might like, ignore it. Okay, so it's. How do I put this? I see it in everybody. I think, like, if you have a double empath color, like if you're purple blue or your turquoise blue or indigo blue or something like that one is easier for somebody to be like, hey, you know, you ever think you're health conditions are related to your burnout? And they're like, yeah, and they immediately like, get it. But if you tell a yellow blue that they're like, no, no, I'm fine. That makes no sense. Like that. Not our yellow blues, obviously in mmsf, but like outside in the world. Because the yellow ego hijacked yellow will be like, that's not real like that. So it can be easier for you to hide it from yourself. How about that? It's way easier for you to hide it from yourself if you have a logic color.
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Okay. And the other. I know you're obviously, you're not a doctor. Nope, nowhere near a doctor. But with the health issues, things like that does that doesn't seem to fit me with the blue. I tend to. I think I tend to have more like the red health issues.
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Yeah, you're more red health issue guy. Yeah, yeah, that's true.
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Does the dominant like the blood pressure. That seems like a red one to me. Right. You know, keeping that blood pressure.
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But you have the mental health issues of the.
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Thank you.
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Thank you for really talking here. Like, as you get depressed, you know, not. Not in a while, but like you get like really kind of like. Or if something you. There's an injustice happen and then it like sidewinds. It gets like, it circumnavigates the blue somehow. Like, oh my God. Like Scott is the like, man, he took this hard. Like that's kind of like. Like you'll sit there and there's Like a dark blue cloud around you, and you're like, the world shouldn't work this way, but it does. And the rest of us are like, yeah, it works. Okay.
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Yeah, I've been having some. I've been having a few of those.
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You've been having those. And that's like, kind of like the mental. And I'm not a mental health professional either, but, like, blue auras do 10 to get the blues.
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Yeah. You know, but it's nothing to do with me. This is about, like, justice for.
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Well, your red aura. Just. And you're right, and I'm not. And I'm not arguing with you. Like, what you feel is correct and what you see is real, and I validate that. But the depth in which you feel it gets kind of like, seal. Vacuum sealed by your red aura. So your red aura gives you, like, the logic that, like. No, I'll tell you. I'll give you eight reasons why this is completely actually extra worse than you think it is. Like, that kind of thing. And then your blue aura listens like, yeah, you like that. And, you know, I think we all live in a world with our own filter going on, you know, so it's like some people can take a look at something that's an injustice and not get as worked up over it as, like, other people.
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True.
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And that can be really frustrating, too, when you feel things so deeply.
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Well, that makes a lot of sense.
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When your blue's turned up, it's harder to ignore things, too.
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All right. I guess my blue's working overtime.
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Yeah. If you ignore your blue, it's kind of like if you don't think your blue aura rules you. Actually, it rules you the most.
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No, it does. And then what happens is it'll come out as red. Like, it'll lead the red to be. And then once I've done the red part, I go back to, like, you know, I just shouldn't have done that. Like. Like. Yeah, it's like I could, you know.
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I know what you mean.
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The blue leads that red.
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Well, then you're.
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Red gets out. Then it goes back to the.
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I know. Well, all. All the people I read, like, on my substack, I'll read kind of more of the. I guess, like, what's the. What would be the word for it? Like, the more controversial people in our world. Right. And. And all the problems lead back to their blow. Like, that's like every problem. It's like, what the hell happened to you in your childhood that nobody validated or hugged you or Loved you or heard you or listened to you. Like, what happened? You know, Because I think like. And not we're talking about blue kids, you know, for example, like parenting a blue kid. A lot of it is. How do you feel? Let's talk about that. Let's get it out. Like, let's not dismiss it. Let's make sure we're paying attention to it. Otherwise it'll come out in other ways, you know, like that. So.
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Yeah, and. And yeah, and I would say a large percentage of people have blue in their aura. Yeah, it's one of the more common. It's not a uncommon color.
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No.
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So a lot of people do have.
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Yes.
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And I would say in the mystic, spiritual family, at least half have blue.
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Or I would say most people have a blue aura.
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Blue or.
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Yeah, that's a very common one.
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Common. Right. All right, well, what about working out? Blues and work.
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Oh, and I have to bring this up. Yeah. The workouts. Because, like, all. I love you guys. Okay. I love blue auras. You're not a CrossFit person. It's okay. You know. Yeah, it does probably depend what other color you have. Like, I would say like a yellow blue might go to Pilates class or something. Or a red blue actually might go to CrossFit or WeightLifter. Like, you're red blue. Like, you love to work out.
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Yeah, I like the weight. Like, I like weight challenge. Like, I like. I do weights.
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B
Yeah. Like, that's what you like, but that's like kind of red. It's red. But I also think that the blue part of you loves that you have like a couple community at the gym. You know, you get to see all the same people. It's like, whatever. So blues, my point is blues need community. Like, I notice yellow blues love a group class. Like blue ores in general. If you don't know how to start a workout, go to a group class. Like one that's chill and calm. Like, we go to the ymca. We love the ymca. It's just a very normal place. But like, go to a group class that's like when you walk in, stand in the middle of the room so you know you're not going to walk out, you know, in the middle of it and stay there, you know, and then what happens is you'll make friends because you're blue. And then you're like, well, I have to go on Tuesdays because they're all waiting for me or they're expecting me now as a purple. That doesn't work for me because the Second, I feel like I'm expected to do something all of a sudden. Like, I can't do that anymore. So purple, that doesn't work for me, but, like, for blues, that does work for you, you know? Or let's say I'm walking. Well, it's. I'm going to start walking for my workouts. Because you can't kill yourself with it when you're a blue. You really got to, like. You got to take, like, calm down. You calm down. Your idea of fitness. All right? Like, you're. You're good. So it's kind of like, well, I'm gonna start walking. Okay, don't do it alone. Take the dog. You know, like, now the dog looks at you, and it's like. Like, I wanna go out, you know? And then you're gonna do it for the dog, or you're gonna do it with your neighbor who also wants to start walking. Like, I can't let Susan down, You know, like that.
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A
Basically, what you're saying is like, let's say you're gonna do tennis and it doubles, right? So there's four of you. And you don't listen. You don't want to play tennis that day. There'd only be three, and you can't do doubles with three. So if you're a blue, you might just push yourself to go. Yeah, because otherwise, then the other can't
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B
let your friend down.
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A
You can't let the three of them
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B
down unless the other ones are blue, too. And you guys are all like, let's skip tennis and just do brunch. And everyone's like, yeah,
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A
well, that makes sense. All right, let's take a quick break. We have stories. We have a lot of. Like we just said, we have a lot of blues. In the mystic McAllister spiritual family, you created a thread. They gave us life advice. They gave us hacks for being a blue. Let's talk about that next.
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B
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A
Hey, guys. All right, so we're gonna go through some of these life hacks advice that the blues gave on the mystical spiritual family page. You can go there for yourself. Check out the whole thread. All of them were fantastic.
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B
Yes.
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A
I picked the short ones because, as you know by now, I have trouble reading these.
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B
That's so sad.
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A
Yeah, it's terribly sad. All blue. There's my blue coming out. I am not good at reading these. All right.
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B
Melissa writes, obviously you can read.
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A
I can read.
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B
I don't want it to be like a Lea Michele. You ever know that? Lea Michele? No. She's like this actress from Glee. And there was this. This is totally off topic. It's just, I think I know you'll find this really funny. There was this, like, urban myth going around. This, like, conspiracy theory, really, that she couldn't read.
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A
Okay.
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B
And, like, it got so out of hand. Like, people, like, were like, she can't read. You know, like that. And then, like, she, like, was on some podcast and they gave her a piece of paper and be like, can you read that? And she's like, I can read. So it's like, you can read?
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A
Yeah. No, I could read.
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B
Some people can't read.
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A
It's hard for me to read out loud. Yeah, it's hard for me to read out loud.
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B
All right, go ahead.
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A
Um. All right. Honestly, my most favorite thing about being a blue is that when my friends come to me for advice, I don't know why, but I feel like I always know what to say intuitively. And this is why I like this part. My husband even says that I need to start charging them by the hour because this could also be mentally taxing, which is true. That's why boundaries are super important to have as a blue. So obviously you have a red or a green husband who is going to try to profit off your blue.
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B
I think it's more like a friend calls.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And then she just. She's like, oh, hi. Hey, Julia. And then she, like, goes into the other room and she's like, yeah, yeah. And her husband's like, oh, God, yeah. And like, here we go again.
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A
Yeah. And he's waiting, and they're. You know, he's waiting, and time's ticking by. She's still talking to the friend. It's like 30 minutes, 40 minutes, and now it's an hour. And the husband had plans to watch, you know, I don't know, a climbing show or something. And. Yeah, I get that. Okay, that's funny. But she obviously likes it, that she enjoys it. She always. And she knows what to say intuitively.
- [30:20]
B
I love that. Well, they're very lucky friends she has. But she's right. You have to. So you don't always have to pick up the phone. You don't always have to answer the text. That's for sure.
- [30:28]
A
Correct.
- [30:29]
B
Okay. Steph S. Gives us three pieces of advice. When someone asks you for something or to do something, an acceptable response is, can I think about it? Can I let you know? Do not get trapped by agreeing right away.
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A
Okay.
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B
This has changed my life. Life. And then she said it's also easier to say no over text. Okay. Okay. Number two, you can.
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A
So you're saying don't have something ready to go in that moment that's going to make it, like, we'll see.
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B
Yes.
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A
And you're not committing.
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B
Yeah. Like, oh, let me think about that. Let me get back to you. Like, never say yes right away.
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A
Let me check my calendar.
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B
Let me check my calendar.
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A
That's good. I love that.
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B
Okay.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Number two, you can Be the best friend you want to be to yourself. So often I would show up for people in ways that would disrupt my life. I would push my feelings and needs, a way to keep them safe, happy, healthy, etc. When I struggled, I felt like people wouldn't do the same for me. My life got a thousand times more beautiful when I recognized I could also actually must also give myself the love I gave others. All right, so that's good. And then number three, don't say sorry so much.
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A
Okay.
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B
Which is so good. I've been trying to tell the kids that, like, say excuse me instead of sorry. Like, you know, when you bump into someone, be like, excuse me. Or when you're walking by someone, excuse me. You don't have to say sorry for taking up space. All right, what do you got?
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A
All right, I have. Ernestine writes, never change the love you give or your moral compass based on others. The universe always knows karma. I love that one.
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B
Oh, that's really good.
- [31:58]
A
Yeah, that's really.
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B
Don't change your behavior because of other people and their behavior. Like, don't let your behavior be done. Yeah.
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A
And she's saying, like, if you do that.
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B
Yeah.
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A
You know, it's. You know, karma's. It's. Yeah, I get that. I love that.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Also, I don't know if this is a blue aura or just Taurus. What month is. I don't do astrology coded. But food. Food is a hobby, and it's appropriate at all stages slash events. But be wary of emotional eating.
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B
Oh, okay.
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A
So food is food. Yeah.
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B
Well, we really love food.
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A
They love food.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Like you said, they love to cook, they love to feed people they like. Yeah, yeah. And stages. You said all stages. That's why I like that one. And just be careful of emotional eating.
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B
I get that. Yeah. It's such. It's an easy thing to turn to when you're feeling like it's a bad day. I understand that. Okay. Cassandra wrote the golden rule. Do for others what you would like for them to do for you. Would I love a meal brought to my house after losing a loved one, having a baby, moving surgery, et cetera? Yes. Would I love my gift, thoughtfully wrapped? Yes. Would I love a just thinking about you text? Yes. Would I love for someone to always greet me with, hey, beautiful? Yes. The more love you give out, the more love you get back. And I think just the one that you read and the one that I just read, I think this is, like, an interesting blue one. Where you give it isn't exactly where you'll get it.
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A
Right.
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B
You know, like you could give because you're really just giving to the universe.
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A
Right, right. And that's what the one before was.
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B
Yeah, yeah, exactly. So that's how they're linked. Like you're giving to the universe and where you give it. Like, if you're giving it to one person, that person might not be the person you get it back from, but you'll get it from somewhere else.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Oh, I like that. All right, what do you got?
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A
All right, I love this one.
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B
Okay.
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A
Helen writes, you are never going to regret staying home with your dog.
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B
That's so true.
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A
Or cat.
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B
That's so, so true.
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A
I mean, that's like perfect, right?
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B
It's true.
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A
Will you ever. I'm trying to think, is there a scenario where you might regret that?
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B
I mean, maybe, I don't know, a little bit. Think about it. Well, all your friends go out. You're like, I'm not going out and staying home with the cat.
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A
Okay. Do you regret that?
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B
But then they like, I don't know, like, meet Kevin Costner. Would you regret that? Would you be like, man, I love Kevin Costner.
- [34:16]
A
I mean, it depends. Did you have a nice time with the dog?
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B
You did, but, like, it's Kevin Costner, you know? You missed that.
- [34:22]
A
Okay. You missed that. All right. Maybe. I don't know. I still like it.
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B
Yeah. But they had to eat at, like a restaurant where you had to sit next to people, like, really close.
- [34:31]
A
Oh, yeah.
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B
And was it worth it?
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A
No. Then I'd rather stay home with the cat or the dog.
- [34:35]
B
Okay. But I think with this one, right,
- [34:39]
A
maybe it's not never.
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B
Yeah. Maybe it's like 90% of the time, most likely, statistically.
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A
Stay home with the dog. You're better off.
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B
You're better off that way. Okay.
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A
All right.
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B
Shay writes, you are not a treadmill, and you do not need to let people walk all over you. People will try to take advantage of your kindness and use it in their favor. Constantly asking you for things. When you feel like it's gotten to the point where it's a one way street type of relationship, it's okay to say boundaries and say no. And as we've learned over text.
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A
Yes.
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B
What do you got?
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A
All right. Laura writes, it's okay to quit your job. I love that. You do not need to gamble your health and wellness for months or years.
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B
Yeah.
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A
For your boss to literally. Who literally doesn't care about you and will replace you anyways.
- [35:25]
B
Yeah, I love that. Yeah. Everyone's replaceable unfortunately. Yeah.
- [35:29]
A
I know it. It's so weird because when you're in the thick of it.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And you're, you know, you've been at that job for so many years or whatever, you know, you can't even fathom, like, I don't know, like, like, if you, you always think if I go, it's gonna happen.
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B
Yeah. They'll all fall apart.
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A
But the reality is, and this is, like, kind of. This. Maybe this is my blue taking over here. It's like just basically, well, it's gonna go on without you.
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B
Yeah.
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A
So if it's not making you happy and it's just not for you, just. Yeah.
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B
You have to. You have to find yourself worth. Apart from what you there.
- [36:05]
A
Yeah.
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B
You know, there's this show. I don't know. I've been watching the Pit on hbo, Max, and there's, like, a big bunch of people that are like, me, too. Like, not you, but, like, other people listening are watching the show.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And the head nurse tells, like, the head doctor, because there was, like, all this going on. She's like, it will survive without you. Like we always have. And you could tell that, like, just really, like, just killed him. He's like, how did you say that? But it's true. Like, like, just go, yeah, like, we'll be fine. Like, the place survives, you know? Like, it's. You're not as important as you think you are here, but you are important to yourself and to the people who love you and your health, you know? So I, I, It's. It's a hard thing to kind of ego separate from.
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A
Well, Laura, I love that advice.
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B
Yeah. Kathy R. Writes, I'm learning how to stop saying I'm sorry. Oh, here's another one. I think this is based on guilt from my religious upbringing. If I have nothing to be guilty about, then I do not need to say I'm sorry. For example, my partner and I were putting on our shoes to go on hike, and I tied my shoes on the chair seat. My partner was waiting to sit down. Hold on. Oh, I think she was.
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A
You got a little me in you there.
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B
I did. I think she sat down on the seat that her partner was about to sit down on.
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A
Okay.
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B
So she, like, grabbed it from him. Oh, all right. Okay. When I realized he was waiting for me, I said, I'm sorry. And he said, what for? If I had known that he had wanted the chair to sit on, then I would have not tied my shoes there. He thought it was ridiculous. And I said, this is automatically my Response. It's really hard to let little things go. But I remind myself it's not my responsibility for taking care of every little thing.
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A
Yes, I agree with it. From the guy that's sitting down. We don't really care.
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B
Right.
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A
I bet he didn't care at all.
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B
Right.
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A
Like, he would have just gotten up or whatever or.
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B
I know what you mean.
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A
Yeah.
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B
He would just wait or sit somewhere else. But I think that's a thing for blues too. With programming. Like, growing up too. Like, you're so attuned to everyone in your household. And if you grew up in a household where people expected you to be that way. And it was also kind of survival based. Like, dad gets really angry if I don't pay attention to him or mom, you know, flips out. Like, you become like a needier, more stressful person. So you can be like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. Because, like, as a kid, that was a big deal. So now your partner is like, why are you being ridiculous? And you can actually annoy your partner.
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A
Yes. Yes. And blues and Indigoes, I think both do that.
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B
I do that to you? Yeah. I'm like, are you mad? Are you okay?
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A
Head. I'm like, I didn't even think about it twice.
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B
Right.
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A
But you. The blue and. Or the indigo. Yes, you did. And I think it's like 100 times more than it really is.
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B
Yeah.
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A
But really it isn't like, yeah. I was like, oh, why did I
- [38:43]
B
figure that I don't care in myself.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Like, oh, my gosh, Scott's fine.
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A
Yeah.
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B
It's my own. That's hyper vigilance, based on my programming from growing up that makes me so over sensitive to every single mood change or silence or anything.
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A
Yeah. But in.
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B
But once you see it, then you're like, oh, okay. Yeah, it's fine.
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A
But to us Reds, we're just like, oh, whatever, doesn't matter.
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B
But I like that one because that. Yeah, that's a good point.
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A
That's a real good point.
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B
You know?
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A
Yeah, I love that one.
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B
And also, like, partners of blues maybe notice. Have to notice that, like, okay, you know, they're not trying to be annoying. They're just a little stressed.
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A
Yeah. Yeah, I agree with that. All right. Janet says don't feel bad when you need to rest. We need rest. Like, we need oxygen.
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B
It's true.
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A
Yes.
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B
Blues just burn. They do. They exist in the burnout.
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A
Just, hey, if you need a rest, rest. Do whatever you want. Don't feel bad about it.
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B
Yeah. Katie says cry when you need to cry. Otherwise it just builds up in you when the dam will burst at a super inconvenient or embarrassing time. That's true. It also starts to feel like PO as it sits waiting to come out. So just let it out. Everyone's feelings aren't your problem. Even though you deeply want to help however you can or make that person feel included or whatever it is, you don't always have to be the nice one. It feels like a responsibility, but it's not. Oh, it's true. Like, you feel like everyone's feelings are your responsibility. You know, it's such a knee jerk reaction. You don't. And then you feel like a bad person. Or am I being apathetic? Am I being mean? Am I being disconnected? It's hard to kind of rewire yourself from that, but sometimes you have to when it's just affecting you.
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A
All right, last one I picked out was from Shannon. She says, don't put out your fire to keep someone else warm.
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B
Wow, that's good.
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A
That's real good.
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B
Yeah, I like that. Here's my one liner from Anna S. Okay. She said my favorite question, which I heard from someone else but adopted because she's blue. So she had to make sure she said that.
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A
Right.
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B
Do you. So this is her favorite question. Do you want me to fix it or do you want me to just listen? That way my blue knows what to do, because my go to is definitely try to fix it, but that's not always what people want. And also makes it easier for you to, you know, not feel so stressed as you're listening to it. You're like, okay, I'm just. I'm doing my part just by listening. This is great.
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A
That's. That's a lot with Bri.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Our red. Purple.
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B
Yeah. Our oldest.
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A
Like, I always. My go to is I'll try to fix it.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And then she doesn't want me to fix it. She just wants me to listen to it and say, oh, honey. Oh, honey. That's. I don't know if anyone knows what that means, but it's just like, we
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B
just say, oh, my. On your side, we're just. We're listening.
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A
I listen to it.
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B
Yeah.
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A
She just wants me to say, oh, honey.
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B
Yeah. They just want you to listen.
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A
She doesn't want me to come up with 10 solutions.
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B
Right.
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A
Because that's what I do. I started coming up with the solutions and every solution I give, you know, she doesn't want to hear that.
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B
Right. And then in the past, it was like. And Me too. I got into this thing too. But, like, if I give a solution and then you don't want it, then I feel rejected. So, see, then it's like, oh, what do you want from me? Then it's like, just listen.
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A
Yeah.
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B
She's like, yeah.
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A
And then she'll say, thank you too. Like, actually, so if I do, like, say, oh, that's horrible or something. That's terrible. I can't believe that I hear you. She'll be like, oh, thank you for understanding. And it goes much better.
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B
It goes, I don't have to solve anything. You don't have to. Yeah, but that. So that's a great question from Anna. Just like, you know, do you want me to listen or do you want me to come up with solutions?
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A
That's right. Yeah.
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B
So that was great question. I just want you to listen, like, oh, no problem.
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A
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I can do that.
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B
And then after I also noticed, like, a blue aura solution is like, do you want to go to the drive through at McDonald's? Like, that usually solves everything in this house that really. It's like, this happened, this happened, and this happened. It's like, oh, honey, I want to
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A
get a vanilla cone.
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B
You want a cone at McDonald's? Because we found at McDonald's that actually the. The ice cream machine never goes down, Right. I'm not telling y' all where it is because this place is a gem.
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A
Gem.
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B
It's a gem.
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A
Delray Beach, Gemtown.
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B
It never goes down because that's a big problem with the McDonald's ice cream issue. Never goes down. They got the crispiest Diet Coke. Nothing like a crispy Diet Coke in a vanilla cone. And a little small fry.
- [43:17]
A
Oh, God.
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B
That solves all the problems. Everyone's with me. Yeah, except you. Like, you got one, you got any problem, Those three things will solve it in the combination. Hard to eat together, but you can do it.
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A
That definitely seems like a blue fix.
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B
All right, well, this podcast is for you and about you, and we're so glad you spent some time with us today.
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C
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