B (2:28)

Is this how all your other siblings are? They're very, very open minded, very able to communicate?

A (2:34)

Yes.

B (2:35)

Wow.

A (2:35)

From my mother's side.

B (2:37)

Yeah. No, no, no. That means she did a great job. How has that influenced you as a person, that type of prevention?

A (2:44)

Yeah. It's made me confident, very confident in myself, in my beliefs. And it has. It makes me open to understanding people and everything. Yes. Because my mother takes time to understand why, like growing up, if they will make food for everybody in the house and they'll cook rice for me because it's not by force that I have to eat rice. But then I found out that they'll say it is like in other places. Yeah. So it has made me understand other people's thoughts, thoughts, processes. Like try to understand why you think like this and be like, oh, okay, so this is how some people also think. Or this is how some people also. That's how it has shaped me. I'm very confident if I think this way. Like that is what I think it is. I'm not saying that it is like that. I'm just saying that this way. I think so. If you don't think so, just see,

B (3:31)

it's like somebody will say, because I mean, the whole my grew up in there. You say you don't want to eat what we are all eating.

A (3:38)

Hey, you know, I even heard if you break a plate, they beat you for it.

B (3:43)

Oh yeah. I mean, I was beaten a few times for breaking a place.

A (3:45)

Why would you purposely want to break a place?

B (3:47)

My, my. My. My step had. Father had one of these. There's a glass like a jar, right. It has some box. Box around it. And they cherished it so much. I mean, it was only when visitors come to the house, that's when we pull it out to set them, serve them water. And you dare not play with it because if you break it, you might. You might not even stay in the house.

A (4:06)

Okay. But growing up, what has that done for you?

B (4:09)

I mean, if I look at the life I have today, right. I'm grateful for that path. Maybe if my life had turned out Differently I. Something else. But I'm really happy with my life now. So everything I've been through has not been a mistake or it hasn't been. I may not say. I can't say it's bad, even though I'm not doing the same thing for my kids. You know what I mean? Like, I'm not beating them when they break things or it's completely different. But I was really just trying to figure out. I'm sure 70 or 80% of the people you come across, they grew up in a home where they were not as open to conversations, you know, but

A (4:44)

met anybody from a home like mine. My mom is Muslim on top of that, right? Yes. And I can move about with my hair like this, like, so I'm.

B (4:53)

I'm just wondering where she learned it from.

A (4:56)

She was also very. She can tell her mother her mind and all of that, so. And I see it with my auntie and her children as well. Like, my auntie and her children have like a very great bond because they can talk to and they can have conversations with and everything. Regardless. The discipline is there, but it's best to be able to tell your mother I intend to do this rather than sneaking about, like, I've never thought about it to go and jump or like go and do something or all of those kind of things. Because if you ask for permission and they say, if your mother says go, go, at least somehow she says don't go, you know, you wouldn't go.

B (5:28)

Yeah.

A (5:28)

Because she always allows you. So why is she feeling like, nah, this time around I shouldn't, you see. And then there was. I feel like one of the reasons why my mom was like that with me was because when I was. I was in school, that was at that time. And then I used to go to school bus, like to go and pick up. Pick the bus and everything. And then there was this time I said, I don't want to go to school. And as I mentioned, I was a good student. So I liked school, but I just didn't want to go to school. And she forced me to go to school. When I went to school, I can't knock me down. I feel like it's. Guilt is part of the reasons. Yes. When the car knocked me down the next week, I was already lame pain. My leg was swollen and hospital here. So I. This whole place melted. It was so sad. She was like, oh my God. She didn't have made her go to school this. So I feel like guilt is also part of the reason, but not the Whole reason because I saw how my sister, my sisters related with her growing up and everything. She's just, yeah, cool also.

B (6:23)

Now let's talk about money. You mentioned right now that you always knew you were going to be rich but you didn't exactly have a dream of this is the type of person I want to become or I want to do this job. Which is quite weird because growing up around these areas, you know, you have to become something. You know what I mean? But for you, what made you think that you're always going to make money?

A (6:45)

I just have this feeling like that life is a movie and I'm part of the main character so things will always go well for me. I just have a positive mindset. Even if I'm going through the worst things, I just know that something good is always going to come out of it or I'm going through this because something good is going to come out of it. I'm going to give you an example. Not so long ago they were bullying me because brought me some package. They were bullying me about my body and everything. They were body shaming me. Yesterday I went for a life changing meeting. I can't see it right now because it's not yet out right. And one of the heads there, when I was being introduced to him said I know you. And he said from. And I was like, really? And he was like, yeah, I've seen you on social media. I saw when semi here brought you the package. The package in the comments was just people body shaming me and he's seen that and he finds me fit to represent them in that way. So I always feel like even if there's something bad, it's building up to something. You, you're bullying me. The head of this person maybe feels empathy for me that oh my go, how can she be going through this? Like I, I wish this and this and that. So once my name goes here that, oh, let's bring this person here on board for this and this and that people. Just because of the soft spots I have, I have gained from people because of the bullying I have gone through. It's easier for me. That is why I always say that life is a movie. I'm part of the main characters. I'm going to go through huddles but it's always going to bring something positive

B (8:09)

in your mental space. This young girl that is listening to you thinking, well what she's saying is brilliant. I can't believe that's things. How do you figure out that this is how you should navigate situations.

A (8:21)

I. I feel like it's because of things that I have been through. No. When can you hit me five times? Right now?

B (8:29)

Can I?

A (8:30)

Who hit me? Hit me. Like, keep hitting me like this. No, no, just how you do it. Yeah, just. Just not painful. Just. Just.

B (8:37)

Just the way out.

A (8:40)

So if you keep hitting me like this, right?

B (8:42)

Yeah.

A (8:42)

In the start, I feel a pain, but once it starts going, it starts feeling numb. Do you get it? So then you don't start feeling it again, and then you start realizing that, okay, that's how come in sjs, people do audacity. I used to do a de school. You hit me, you hit me, you hit me. Hit me. At the point I get, like, just. Just get over with it. And done. That's how I view life. You keep saying, you, you are this. You are this, you are this, you are this. I realize that it's not really affecting my life in a negative way. The only thing that can affect my life in a negative way is if I actually do something wrong. As long as I have not done anything wrong, you can't hold anything against me. It's just your feelings about me, but not the feeling about what I'm supposed to achieve.

B (9:25)

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