Transcript
A (0:00)
Have a mental picture. Have a picture of your wife of a certain age. Fix it in your mind. Put it as a screen, as a screen guard. So that if I see a woman and I'm attracted, the image of my wife superimposes on that image. So you have that mental image. Then the next thing is to know that your marriage is beyond two of you. This is both males and females. Now you should see your marriage as purpose and responsibility. There are millions of people that follow me all over the world. I was surprised that I got to London City Airport. The policeman saw me say, you are Dr. Charles Apoke. I was in a restaurant in Switzerland. The young man there recognized me. So I owe myself a duty that this marriage should last long because people are looking up to us, right? And I must provide that model. So we need guardrails, guardrails of the word of God, guardrails of mentors. I have had good mentors. Guardrails of models that you look up. But you also must have a psychological reorientation to face reality that the wedding ring is more than handcuff. The one you are wearing there now. Aha. This one is more than handcuff. That you have chosen your prison mate for life. You chose. And that marriage is like drinking pepper soup. Do you have pepper soup in Ghana?
B (1:24)
Here, I mean, it's pepper soup.
A (1:25)
We can. There's a craft pepper soup. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. There's pepper soup in Nigeria. It's very hot. As you are drinking it, it will be hot. You will sneeze. Tears will come from your eyes. You will see bone if it is fish, pepper soup if it is hot, drink water if you sneeze, wipe your nose. There are days you will wonder, particularly in these first few, first five years of life, you will wonder why you married this person. You will wonder, particularly you as a man. You will wonder. And then you must realize that we are in this for life. And then, like as I said, you married her assets and liabilities. One of the problems I said earlier on is that of disagreement and argumentation. Men want to be very rational and logical. Women are very emotional. That's how they were created. And that's why she agreed to marry you. If women were to really analyze, I don't think my wife will have married me.
A (2:16)
In fact, they should be paying my wife for marrying me. They should be paying her, as you have, child support. They should be paying my wife husband support. Wife support. Because it's not easy marrying a crazy man like me. So you wonder why Gaddafi was married Osama bin Laden married these women. They expand to accommodate us. We too, we need to expand our minds to realize that if I could make this woman change her father's name to answer my father's name, I have won the greatest argument in life. And I don't need to win an argument with her. You understand me, sir? You change. You. You change. Your wife changed her father's name to take my father's name. To take your father's name. You have won the greatest argument. And so you don't need to win arguments with your wife. Some men don't understand that. They want to put it to her. I put it to you. I put it to you. No, don't. You don't tell. And then we must learn to respect them as persons. You had females in your class. Not so I had girls in my class and they were the most brilliant because they didn't do the things we were doing. They didn't go and do drinking and smoking and cult and all that. They passed more than us. And if this lady is a medical doctor, you should respect a woman as a person, as an entity. It is this mutual respect between the two individuals. The Bible says when we pastors quote, wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands. The preceding verse to that one, submit yourselves one to another. If dogs fall for each other, that's how the play of dog is sweet. You will see, the mother of the dog will fall and then the child will come on top. That is the way marriage is supposed to be. Don't think that because you are older than your wife by five years that she's a small girl. Never underestimate the power of a woman. Somebody that you always kneel down for. We worship our wives. If we want to go to Jerusalem, we kneel down. If you go from front, you will kneel down. You go from behind, you kneel down. That is an altar, a shrine. And you must learn to rest. Even kings kneel down. They worship their wives before they go to Jerusalem. If you pass behind, you will kneel down. You pass in front, you will kneel down. They deserve some respect and admiration. And if this mutual respect and admiration is not there and every person is claiming rights and privileges without responsibility. Responsibility comes before rights and privileges in marriage. What is happening with young girls today and young men is the claim for rights and privileges without responsibility and appreciation in your view? Yes.