Konnected Minds Podcast
Host: Derrick Abaitey
Episode Segment: No One Got Me Here But God and Me – I Left for Accra Against My Mum’s Wishes
Date: March 25, 2026

Episode Overview

This segment of the Konnected Minds Podcast features a deep, authentic conversation between host Derrick Abaitey and guest Charity, delving into the personal origins of Charity’s drive for success. The discussion centers on childhood neglect, the search for freedom and validation, breaking away to build a new life in Accra, and the mindset it takes to overcome adversity. Charity’s journey illustrates how pain and lack of attention shaped her relentless ambition and desire for financial independence.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Early Struggles and the Quest for Independence

• Charity left home at 14 (SHS) to live with her older sister, seeking the freedom denied to her at home.
  • [00:00] “From 14 years... I went to my big sister... She was mostly not at home. So I had the freedom to be alone, do things on my own.”
• Lack of parental attention became a core pain point.
  • [00:30] “I never had any attention from parents, from the people I stayed with... So I used to crave for it so much...”

2. The Impact of Neglect on Ambition

• Charity connects her drive for success and recognition directly to her lack of attention growing up.
  • [01:24] Derrick: “Your desire to want attention has translated to you wanting to become financially successful.”
  • Charity: “Yes. I think a little bit of attention seeking has helped here because it made me push myself more. I want to be seen, I want to be heard.” [01:45]
• This need propelled her into teaching, business, and content creation.
  • [01:55] Charity: “I like setting the camera and, you know, talking about stuff. So when I found out I can do this business, I was like, I’ve learned it honestly, people don’t even have what is in my head I want to pour out to people.”

3. The Emotional Cost of Independence

• No adult ever listened to her problems as a child, and fear of her mother isolated her further.
  • [02:23] Charity: “Never. And I wish someone did, honestly, I wish someone did, but never. No one listened... my mom was a very hard person to deal with. We were so scared of her.”
• Charity’s need for freedom also led to isolation.
  • [03:26] “One of my biggest problems is networking... I always keep to myself and my two friends.”

4. Building Resilience Through Pain

• Charity is proud of her achievements given the adversity faced. She emphasizes self-reliance and faith.
  • [03:58] “I am so proud. I never thought I’d get here because... no one got me here except me and God.”
• Concrete examples of her resilience:
  • [04:14] “I’ve sold food by the roadside. I’ve carried water on my head... I’ve been through it and I know how it feels like. So I want to be somewhere that I don’t have to remember those times again.”

5. The Role of Family After Success

• Charity describes how newfound success shifted her status within the family.
  • [05:56] “Right now, when they want to make a decision, they call me. It wasn’t like that at first... no decision goes in the family without it passing through me. And sometimes I’m not interested, but I just have to put my one or two there.”

6. Parenting Philosophies Shaped by Personal Experience

• Charity reflects on what she would do differently as a parent.
  • [06:19] “I think I’ll show my kids how to love themselves. I’ll pour into my kids... and support them... I don’t want my kids to be afraid of me. I’ll make my kids my friend.”

7. The Leap to Accra: Against Family Advice

• Charity’s move to Accra was solely supported by her father; her mother was adamantly against it.
  • [07:08] “My dad was the only one with me... She [mom] said no, but I said yes because I felt like she doesn’t know me like she thinks she does... I knew what I wanted and I wasn’t going to get it in Kumasi.”
• Her bold step involved significant risk and uncertainty.
  • [07:44] “I didn’t know where I was going. I was supposed to go to a friend. Until today I’ve not seen my friend. She never picked up my call after I got to... So I had to lodge in a total stranger’s house.”

8. Motivation Behind the Move

• Desire for distance from family motivated her relocation.
  • [08:35] “I wanted to be away from my family... I wanted to be alone. Like if they want to get to me, they have to pick a car and come.”

9. The Start of Charity’s Career Journey in Accra

• First opportunities, setbacks, and pivots in Charity’s Accra journey.
  • [09:44] Got a job managing an Apple shop, left due to inappropriate advances, completed service early, tried construction work without pay/mentorship, relied on savings, and eventually stayed home for two years, supported by a relationship that eventually also ended.
  • [09:44] “So instead of going to the field to work like my colleagues, I went to work in an apple shop... things were getting weird, you know, men and women stuff, so I was like, no, I want to end it.”
  • [10:27] “I wasn’t getting much from [construction job]... I’m spending about 20 cedis daily, that was like a lot of money for me. And I’m not getting paid. Just I saved a lot from my previous work. So I was surviving on that... I cried... and I never showed up again.”

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Charity, on resilience:
  “I am so proud. I never thought I would get here because... no one got me here except me and God.” [03:58]
• On craving attention:
  “I want to be seen. I want to be heard.” [01:55]
• On the family finally listening:
  “No decision goes in the family without it passing through me. And sometimes I’m not interested, but... I just have to put my one or two there.” [05:56]
• On the role of a parent:
  “I’ll make my kids my friend, not for them to be afraid of me.” [06:25]
• On the journey’s difficulty:
  “I’ve sold by the roadside... carried water on my head... I’ve been through it and I know how it feels like.” [04:14]
• Host Derrick, on patterns in entrepreneur journeys:
  “There’s always neglect, superiority complex, wanting to be seen... Feeling like they have a voice.” [05:15]

Timestamps of Key Segments

• 00:00 – 01:18: Charity’s early quest for independence and the absence of attention
• 01:24 – 01:55: Link between craving attention and drive for success
• 02:20 – 03:08: Never feeling heard or validated at home
• 03:24 – 03:47: Effects of self-imposed isolation, networking challenges
• 03:58 – 04:40: Resilience, sense of pride, and detailed struggles
• 05:56 – 06:15: Changes in family dynamic due to her accomplishments
• 06:19 – 07:04: Charity’s philosophy for future parenting
• 07:08 – 08:11: Moving to Accra in defiance of maternal wishes
• 08:35 – 09:22: Motivation to distance herself from family, university experience
• 09:44 – END: First jobs in Accra, initial business attempts, setbacks and perseverance

Tone & Takeaways

The conversation is raw, vulnerable, and reflective, offering listeners a real-world blueprint for turning adversity into ambition. Charity narrates her journey with humility and honesty, while Derrick’s probing questions add therapeutic depth, making this segment both inspiring and relatable for anyone wrestling with familial expectations, neglect, or the pursuit of purpose.

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