LA PLATICA – "Can You Trust Her Male Best Friends?" (Episode 231)
Hosts: Sebastian “Gaso” Robles & Josh Leyva
Release Date: January 26, 2026
Producer: Sonoro
Episode Overview
This episode of La Platica dives into friendships, relationships, boundaries, and emotional maturity. Hosts Josh and Sebas (Gaso) discuss fitness journeys, give their “perspective of a man” on listener-submitted dilemmas, and debate the infamous question: "Can you trust her male best friends?" The conversation is real, unfiltered, and peppered with humor, vulnerability, and their signature positive vibes.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Fitness, Mental Health & Motivation
(03:00–13:50)
- Both hosts share updates on their fitness journeys: races, calorie deficits, and the mental aspect of transformation.
- Gaso: Almost passed out after the Rose Bowl half marathon, emphasizing the difficulty for all finishers and the importance of small wins.
- The group stresses fitness as a "lifestyle, not a diet," (08:38) and discuss the snowball effect of small habit changes.
- Jess chimes in about running inspiration and the need for discipline over fleeting motivation:
- Jess (12:01): "You have to be disciplined about it, because motivation comes and goes… Do it when you don't want to."
2. The Influence of Social Circles on Self-development
(10:14–13:06)
- Gaso highlights the importance of surrounding yourself with people who motivate you, especially when adopting new habits.
- Gaso (10:38): "If you hang out with people who run, you’re eventually going to start running... If you want something different, you’re gonna have to find that as well."
3. Perspective of a Man: Relationship Dilemmas
(14:12–66:36 – Throughout the episode, listener-submitted questions are interspersed and discussed deeply)
a. Friends with Benefits Turning Into Feelings
(14:44–19:12)
- Question: Listener starts to catch feelings for their FWB after weeks of a purely physical arrangement.
- Josh: "Friends with benefits—very dangerous territory. You're playing with fire." (15:35)
- Key takeaway: Communicate feelings early; boundaries can change, and transparency is necessary before extending things beyond sex.
b. Partner’s Toxic Friend and Setting Boundaries
(20:05–29:54)
- Question: Is it toxic to ask a boyfriend to stop talking to a manipulative friend?
- Group consensus: It’s valid to express concerns but not to make demands. Open, non-accusatory conversation is crucial.
- Josh (22:17): "It’s toxic when it’s like: ‘This is how it has to be.’ Conversation is always best."
- Gaso (27:12): "When a relationship fails is when you start parenting each other… You're with each other to be partners.”
c. Coworker with a Financially and Emotionally Unavailable Partner
(29:55–35:36)
- Question: “Stacy” is paying for her older boyfriend, who won’t divorce his ex and keeps tally of expenses.
- Josh (31:23): "Some people like being miserable… You have to let friends learn through their own situations."
- Takeaway: Sometimes, as friends, you need to step back so others can learn for themselves.
d. Can You Trust Her Male Best Friends?
(35:44–47:10 & 44:24–47:27)
- Classic debate: When does a girl’s male friend become an issue in a relationship?
- Gaso: "Statistically, guys have thoughts. Guys are guys." (36:09)
- Both hosts agree: Most men can sense another man's intentions. If a male friend predates the relationship, it's unfair to demand their removal, but it’s natural to feel wary.
- Josh (38:03): Retells a personal story where a partner wouldn't introduce her ‘best friend’—that makes it suspicious.
- On the 'kiss your guy best friend' TikTok trend
- Jess: "Rarely is it like, ‘What are you doing?’ It's more like, ‘Finally.’" (44:36)
- Hosts agree that many “guy best friends” are initially friend-zoned but maintain hope.
e. Heartbreak, Healing, and Self-Love
(47:30–54:46)
- Question: Listener can’t get over her ex, who left her for someone else after a year.
- Gaso (48:18): "Heartbreak is one of the worst pains… but it’s just life."
- Josh (50:21): "You are the priority. Focus on what fulfills you. Choose you every time."
- Group stresses: Don’t rush healing, don’t compare new relationships to old ones, and let time do its work.
f. Posting Your Partner on Social Media – Red Flag or Not?
(60:49–65:42)
- Question: Is it a red flag if he won’t post you on social?
- Josh (60:58): "Yeah, that’s a red flag for sure."
- Nuance: If he never posts anything, it’s different; but active posters dodging the topic should raise concern. Context is important, and direct conversation is recommended.
- Hosts caution against letting social media define relationship worth.
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- Jess (12:06): “You’re gonna be a much better person after. You push yourself and you’re a badass for doing it.”
- Josh (13:13): "You showing up is a win… Every time is getting closer and closer to your goal. It’s a snowball effect."
- Gaso (22:19): "If you really love your girl, you should make the adjustment."
- Josh (27:12): "The minute you start parenting each other, it's not a partnership."
- Gaso (36:09): "Statistically, guys have thoughts—guys are guys."
- Jess (44:36): Referring to TikTok trend: "Rarely is it like, ‘What are you doing?’ It's more like, ‘Finally.’"
- Josh (50:21): "Choose you every time."
- Gaso (54:46): "You can always choose you. So I would say choose you every time."
- Josh (61:03): "And the thing is, bro, we live in the age of social media—everybody over-analyzes everything."
- Josh (66:35): "Heartache is such a son of a... People can really hurt people in so many ways, bro."
Timestamps for Key Segments
- Fitness & Running: 03:00–13:50
- Friends as Motivation: 10:14–13:06
- Perspective of a Man (Relationship dilemmas): 14:12–66:36
- Friends with Benefits: 14:44–19:12
- Toxic Friends & Boundaries: 20:05–29:54
- Stacy & Steve (Financial strain/older partner): 29:55–35:36
- Male Best Friend Tension: 35:44–47:10, 44:24–47:27
- Heartbreak & Healing: 47:30–54:46
- Social Media Red Flag: 60:49–65:42
Tone & Style
- The hosts keep the conversation light but real, favoring genuine anecdotes, playful jabs, and direct honesty over sugarcoating.
- The episode is a mix of “tough love” and empathy, with honest takes shaped by their lived experiences.
Final Thoughts
La Platica continues to offer a refreshingly candid male perspective on relationships, personal development, and culture—always in service of the listeners’ real-life questions. This episode’s relationship Q&A format, peppered with vulnerable stories, laughter, and sharp observations, makes it an engaging listen—especially for anyone wrestling with trust, heartbreak, or complicated friendship boundaries.
"Choose you every time." – Josh (50:21)
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