“Is My Mother In Law An A**hole?” Sebas and Josh Tell the Truth

Summary

LA PLATICA Podcast Episode Summary: “Is My Mother In Law An Ahole?” Sebas and Josh Tell the Truth**

Release Date: January 21, 2025

Introduction

In this engaging episode of LA PLATICA, hosts Sebas and Josh dive deep into personal relationship dilemmas, offering candid advice and heartfelt insights. The episode centers around the burning question: “Is my mother-in-law an A**hole?” Through a series of listener-submitted scenarios, the hosts explore the complexities of familial relationships, boundaries, and personal growth.

Segment 1: Navigating Mother-In-Law Relationships

The episode opens with Sebas introducing the topic of in-laws and the challenges that often arise when integrating extended family into one's personal life. Josh shares his personal experiences, highlighting the delicate balance between respect for his partner's family and maintaining personal boundaries.

Notable Quote:

Josh (15:22): "Sometimes, the best way to strengthen your relationship is by setting clear boundaries early on. It’s not about pushing them away but finding a middle ground where everyone feels respected."

Segment 2: Listener Scenario – Retiring the Mother-In-Law

A listener named Hector, aged 25 to 30, submits a scenario: “Am I the asshole for leaving family members off my wedding guest list due to not seeing nor talking to them for more than four years?” He explains that while his mother-in-law was initially helpful, providing babysitting and other assistance, she has become disengaged, spending excessive time on social media instead of engaging with the family.

Sebas and Josh dissect this situation, emphasizing the importance of communication and mutual understanding. They argue that while it's challenging to exclude family members, especially those who have been part of your life, the quality of interactions matters more than the quantity.

Notable Quote:

Sebas (51:18): “Weddings are about celebrating love and unity. If certain family members haven’t been supportive or present, it’s okay to prioritize those who genuinely contribute to your happiness.”

Segment 3: Moral Dilemmas – Am I the Asshole?

Expanding beyond the mother-in-law topic, the hosts entertain multiple listener-submitted "Am I the Asshole?" scenarios. Each scenario delves into different aspects of relationships, offering Sebas and Josh a platform to provide their unfiltered opinions.

One particular scenario involves a listener questioning whether they are in the wrong for breaking up with a long-term partner due to falling in love with someone else. Sebas and Josh provide nuanced perspectives, discussing the ethics of honest communication versus the emotional repercussions of ending a long-term relationship.

Notable Quote:

Josh (54:58): “Sometimes, the hardest decisions lead to the greatest personal growth. It’s not about who's right or wrong, but about what's best for your emotional well-being.”

Segment 4: Personal Reflections and Growth

Towards the latter part of the episode, Sebas and Josh reflect on their own journeys of personal growth and how they've managed complex family dynamics. They share anecdotes about overcoming misunderstandings with their in-laws and the lessons they've learned about empathy and patience.

Notable Quote:

Sebas (62:37): “Understanding that no family is perfect helps us approach relationships with more compassion. It’s about striving for harmony while staying true to ourselves.”

Conclusion

The episode wraps up with Sebas and Josh reiterating the importance of open communication, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing personal happiness over societal expectations. They encourage listeners to reflect on their own relationships and make decisions that align with their values and well-being.

Final Thoughts:

Josh (65:00): “At the end of the day, your happiness and peace of mind should be paramount. Don’t be afraid to make tough choices that lead to a more fulfilling life.”

Key Takeaways:

• Communication is Crucial: Clear and honest conversations can prevent misunderstandings and foster healthier relationships.
• Set Boundaries: Establishing personal boundaries helps maintain respect and balance within familial interactions.
• Prioritize Well-being: Your emotional and mental health should take precedence over societal pressures or expectations from family.
• Personal Growth: Difficult decisions often lead to significant personal development and a deeper understanding of oneself.

Join the Conversation

Listeners are encouraged to submit their own "Am I the Asshole?" scenarios and engage with Sebas and Josh on social media. Follow LA PLATICA on Instagram and other platforms to stay updated on upcoming episodes and exclusive content.

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Transcript

[A]

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Who else?

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The new bad bun, baby. Like, just like that. And I already know freaking Jessica got some tickets, and I'm kind of mad at her.

[A]

Did you really?

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Because she hasn't invited me, but that's another story.

[A]

What? In pr.

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Already know what it is. Hope you guys have an incredible week, and we will see you guys in 12.4 seconds.

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Bye. I'm gonna use it.

[C]

Let me be honest.

[B]

Every guest is a privilege.

[A]

Do we want to go there, get jolly?

[B]

Cause I'm on a podcast with Josh Labor. Yeah, you have too. Ladies and gentlemen, let me just tell.

[A]

You, you look like you belong in the movie Brink.

[B]

That's the goal. How'd you know that?

[A]

Dude, you're a soul skater.

[B]

Soul skater, baby. That movie made me.

[A]

That's one of my favorite original Disney movies.

[B]

There's a lot of movies when I was a child that, like, carved the way into who I am now. One of them being Brink second Johnny. Tsunami Johnny, the first one, of course. And yeah, a lot of movies like that. The Little Giant.

[A]

Yeah. Smart House.

[B]

Smart House was great. Yeah. You know, Halloween Town.

[A]

Luck of the Irish.

[B]

Underrated.

[A]

Super underrated.

[B]

Super underrated.

[A]

And we're here to overrate them.

[B]

Yeah. And honestly, like, back then, regardless of what I'm going to say right now, this video is sponsored by this podcast. This show that the Josh Leyva and Sebastian host is sponsored by the one and Only the number one rated ticketing app on the App Store. SeatGeek. SeatGeek, baby. SeatGeek holds everyone's tickets, and everyone's tickets like this. I'm talking Kendrick Lamar.

[A]

Kendrick Lamar.

[B]

Bad Bunny. Bad Bunny. I'm going to see Bad Bunny tonight. Remember that? Remember that trend? Yeah, that was a crazy trend.

[A]

Was that one more crazier than. But first, let me take a selfie. That one was huge, bro. You know, the fact that, like, Tick Tock is being, like, potentially being banned, I've been seeing, like, all these, like, OG Tick Tocks like, popping up and it's kind of, like, fun to watch. It kind of makes me sad, though. I really hope the band doesn't happen. Today's Monday. We will know if Tick Tock has been banned when this goes live.

[B]

So, like, if they ban it, are we just going to wake up the next day like, Black Mirror and, like, our TikTok just erases from our memory or, like, what happens? You go on the app and it says, like, sorry, yo, can I tell you something?

[A]

Look, I know this is such a first world problem, but I'm going to be genuinely sad if they ban the app. Yeah, I love TikTok.

[B]

Yeah, bro, TikTok is a great.

[A]

It's a great app, bro. And yeah, I'm gonna be sad. I really hope it doesn't happen. I. I saw this one Tick Tock, and I don't want to get too political, but this guy was, like, walking through. He was. He was the U.S. he was playing the U.S. government. Okay. And he was, like, walking through a room and he was talking about, like, he saw, like, gun control. And he's like, you're good. And then he sees, like, something else that's happening. Yeah. And he's like, you're fine.

[B]

The world we live.

[A]

And then he gets to, like, Tick Tock and he's like, get over here. And he's gonna like, arrest him and stuff like that is. That's what's happening. That's like the most active thing, thing we've seen our government do. Like they're gonna shut down this app.

[B]

And you're right, it is like a first world problem.

[A]

It's a first world problem.

[B]

People who have real problems. Look at that. And that all the US Talks about. Yeah, it does look ridiculous that we're really focused on that.

[A]

Right, right. At the end of the day, there's bigger problems again.

[B]

Of course there is. But at the end of the day too, like, there's a lot of American citizens. Well, I'm only speaking about American citizens because it's going to get banned in America that rely on Tik Tok. They make a lot of their income on Tik Tok. They boost their company, their, their platforms on Tik Tok. It's, it's a big deal. It really changed a lot of people's lives in many ways, especially for our generation and the ones coming. Yeah, it's a big deal. It really is. You know, I don't think they're going to do it, have that in the back of my pocket, but godamn, they're like, I'm kind of over just hearing about it. Everybody.

[A]

I just do it already.

[B]

Yeah. Like, just figure if you're going to.

[A]

Do it, do it.

[B]

Isn't it crazy how there's never a straight answer to anything?

[A]

Yeah, I hate that. Yeah.

[B]

Why can't we live in a world, in a civilization where like, there's straight answers? There's never straight answers to anything. Like, my wife was showing me like a Tik Tok, and, and she's like, look at this girl. She's talking about like, what's going on? I'm like, okay, I get it. But who is this girl?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

She's just giving opinions. No, that's a guy. It's like, why doesn't the President of the United States or somebody. Secretary of State. Secretary of State. Who is that guy? What does he do?

[A]

I don't know.

[B]

Maybe he can talk about state. Yeah, but like, why can't they, like, they're, you know, like, why don't they go on live like, bro. Like, oh, Jesus Christ, bro.

[A]

That's the thing. I always take, like, everything I learned with a grain of salt on Tik Tok. I've learned a lot of stuff. So I think. I don't know how much of this is actual factual. Actual factual. Wow.

[B]

I like that.

[A]

There you go. Because like, I'll, like, learn something and then I'll really just take a moment to be like, wait, who is this person? How are they credible? How. How do I.

[B]

No one is credible.

[A]

I'm not credible. Legit. Yeah, yeah.

[B]

Like, everybody on, like, they'll do, like, the skits are funny, but, like, when people actually go and like, it has thousands of views and it's like they're speaking about something that's happening, I'm like, okay, this makes sense, but who the are you and how are you credible? Actual factual.

[A]

Yeah, actual factual. How are you actual factual?

[B]

Yeah. I don't know, dude.

[A]

Yeah, yeah. Next time I see somebody, like, post something that I'm, like, very intrigued by and I think it's, like, legit, I'm going to comment, but are you actual factual? Because if you're not actual factual, get the factual out of my face. Yeah.

[B]

Just know that if you do tik toks like that, I will believe every thing that you say.

[A]

I think I could sell it.

[B]

And then I'll just envision you without your shirt and your nipples.

[A]

Not yet. Not yet, bro. I need, like, four months.

[B]

Nipples will be nice and hard.

[A]

Always perks. Always perks.

[B]

It's the sexiest look real quick, just like, straight up. Is that how you do it?

[A]

Gotta do it, baby.

[B]

Matt, make sure you add some, like, frozen wind, like some really cold wind into his nipples.

[A]

For those of you guys who are just listening via audio. Hi, how are you guys, by the way? I feel like we don't direct our conversations towards you, but what I was doing right now was I was getting my fingers and I was licking them with my tongue and then gently caressing them around my nipples. And then I was blowing cold air into them so they would perk up. So I don't know if I described that visually, but hopefully you can. I. I paint the picture there.

[B]

And thank you, Jessica, for just putting up with things like this, you know?

[A]

Oh, yeah, Jess is here real quick.

[B]

Before we start the episode, which we kind of already started, but I just want to say on the audio platforms, we are this. This year. It's going to be on the same platforms, but on the back end doing some changes. That's why you haven't seen the prior two episodes on Spotify, Apple Podcast, or.

[A]

Whatever you listen to.

[B]

It's not my fault. I guess it takes a while to transfer. They're called RSS feeds.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

You know, you don't know because you're scared, because, you know, you're the guy that talks about your nipples. You know, and how perky they are. But on the back end of things, there's. There's things called RSS feeds.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

That you have to transfer over to other, you know, platforms.

[A]

Can you stop boring me?

[B]

Okay.

[A]

No. What's your point? Get to your point.

[B]

So I believe. I think by then this episode will already be on. And if it's not, I apologize. But that's the reason why. It's not that I'm forgetting. Josh is not forgetting. He doesn't even care. But don't say that.

[A]

Don't.

[B]

Don't they know I'm playing? Do they? You do a lot for me.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

And I do a lot for you.

[A]

Well, that's the baby sexually, so that.

[B]

That's the reason why we haven't had anything on the audio platforms. I apologize, but things like this take time. They. And when I do have the platform ready to go, the audio platforms, the prior episodes will also be uploaded.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So, yeah, I just wanted to say that.

[A]

And I'm glad you did.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

I'm glad that you did.

[B]

Another thing that I want to say is I want to thank everybody that came to the donation drive. What an incredible day.

[A]

Dude, I. I'm so. I was so overwhelmed with, like, gratitude. I honestly, like, the first, like, hour of it, like, once people started, like, showing up, I got a little emotional because I was like, man, we're really all here together doing something special to serve the people around us. And I know so. So many people are so quick to talk about LA and stuff, but we really saw the community come together.

[B]

All the stories that the families would tell us, like, even if they weren't affected to. Even if they weren't affected with the fires, the fact that there's just so much beautiful people out there. Yeah. And, like, there's so many beautiful people here in LA county. And, like, a lot of people from the Inland Empire came.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

There's people from, like, Bakersfield, people from Central California. And I'm like, dang, you drove over here for all this? He goes, yeah. Like, yeah, this is an opportunity. And they were just like, thank you guys so much for doing this, you know, And I'm like, yeah, like, you know, like, you're welcome. But it was more kind of like, no, thank you.

[A]

Right.

[B]

Cuz without you coming, what am I really doing?

[A]

Right. That's a good point. That's a really good point.

[B]

You know, like, obviously we donate ourselves, but, like, it's you guys pulling up that is making all this work.

[A]

Yeah. And I also did appreciate I had, I had a few people tell us thank you because they actually trust us and they know that we're going to do good with everything that we're receiving and that we're going to do our dual diligence to make sure that it gets, you know, sent to the right people.

[B]

Yeah. One of the girls was a young lady that came. She was like, dude, I'm so happy you guys are doing this. Like, I had a bunch of stuff and I've been wanting to donate. I just didn't know where to go.

[A]

Right.

[B]

And I just trust you guys. So thank you guys for doing this. And man, the stuff, the amount of stuff that we got, bro, and it was distributed throughout of LA County. What a beautiful thing, you know, and, and I'm not saying like, let's wait for tragic moments to happen, for everybody to get together. We. All of my. All of the friends and, and shout out to all the friends that came and pulled up everybody who gave thank you so much and you know, lend their Le. Lend a hand. Is that how what you say? Lend a hand?

[A]

We can say that. We can say that, dude.

[B]

Sure, bud. You know, a big shout out to. To. To Adri. Big shout out to Rob. Big shout out to K. Jasmine. Jasmine. You know, they really, Millie, they really just kind of like I was like, Dan, you guys got this like really like, you know, Jessica was here. Thank you, Jessica. They just had it down.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

With the organizing. It wasn't just kind of like bring your stuff that your donations and we're just going to put in the corner. No, we're talking about separating things.

[A]

Organization.

[B]

Organization. Making it easier for the people that we're going to come take it to. We were checking the clothes. We were checking everything.

[A]

Absolutely.

[B]

Yeah. It was just, it was an amazing experience. And, and like I said, we can't be waiting for tragic moments like this to happen. We got to continue doing our due diligence.

[A]

There you go.

[B]

And you know, it was, it was really cool, man. It was really cool. And you know, I felt a lot.

[A]

Of love and the love was in the air.

[B]

It's not one, it's. It's not every day where you actually go to sleep at night feeling blessed and proud of yourself and the ones around you.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know, it was one of those. That was cool.

[A]

Exactly.

[B]

It was amazing.

[A]

It was one of those moments where you realize that you don't have to do it, but you get to do it. We get the opportunity to help others and, and have events like that where we have a Platform that people trust us and. And we can do our due diligence. Exactly.

[B]

Yeah. I mean, I mean, there was even people DMing Karen and ourselves and saying like, hey, I'm not even from there. Yeah, I'm not gonna be able to go, can I instacart you stuff? We were getting instacart orders.

[A]

Insane.

[B]

Insanely cool. Yeah, insanely cool.

[A]

We also have like a. We did a little recap just showing, like the event and I don't want to call it event. The donation drive. And if you guys want to check it out, it's in our Instagram, so you guys can check that at La Platica. And yeah, thank you once again to everybody. And we have more links that we're going to be adding at the bottom too, if you still want to donate and help out any way you can. Some of us mentioned this on the last podcast. This isn't something that's just here today, gone tomorrow. This is something that's going to linger and people are still affected. People are still dealing with this. And so if you haven't helped out or you want to help out and want to continue to help out, we will make sure to assist any way that we can.

[B]

Yeah, even if we're not talking about it on the pod, we'll still continue to have things down here listed on the description. Just, you know, do whatever we can. Do our due diligence.

[A]

We should have a word of the day every podcast and we just, like, overuse it, you know what I mean?

[B]

Sure.

[A]

And then. And then you want to use. But they should. Today. That's a word for the day. But every word should be like. Like a hard word.

[B]

Is it weird that I don't know how to spell word?

[A]

Yeah, it is weird.

[B]

And is it kind of weird that you're wearing a D on your half?

[A]

Do you spell like this? D U, D, E. Dude.

[B]

Cool. So, yeah, it was cool, man. Super blessed.

[A]

Such a blessing, man. Such a.

[B]

Such a great opportunity to have the. The reach to. To reach out to people and stuff like that. And yeah, it was great, man. It was really great. Changing the subject, we are going to do. Am I the asshole today?

[A]

Well, I mean, that's the way I like to. To handle my problems, bro. You know, like, in order to kind of like, forget about my problems, I like to focus on other people's problems, you know? It helps.

[B]

You said it.

[A]

It helps.

[B]

You said it, pal. Yeah, real quick, before we start, I even want, like, Jessica's input. Jess, are you mic'd up yes, she is.

[A]

She might do.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Say something to the people, Jess.

[B]

Okay. And people, what's up?

[A]

So, like, I want to get a camera on her, by the way. Sorry. Side note, I want to get. We should get, like, a camera on her.

[B]

Is that. Is that okay with Jeff?

[C]

If it's okay with you guys?

[B]

Of course.

[A]

We'll work on just, like, eight cameras.

[B]

Yeah, we'll work on that 100%. I was going to say something. I was going to, like. I'm going to fix that corner up real nice.

[A]

We need to. This corner over here.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. So my question to you. Due diligence. Boy, Jessica and everybody back at home. Is my hair getting too long?

[A]

Can I be completely honest with you without hurting your feelings?

[B]

No.

[A]

Crushing you like a bug.

[B]

This is straight up. But before you guys answer. I like the way I look right now.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

So maybe that can, like.

[A]

No. You want my honest answer?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Your hair length at this very moment in time is perfect.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Now.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Anything longer, I'm gonna start questioning you.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

In many ways.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

In all the ways.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

So hold on to that.

[B]

Just keep it here. Right?

[A]

I think that's a good. Because it looks. Dude, I. You. That takes time.

[B]

Yeah, it does.

[A]

You know what I mean? So I can respect the fact that you went through all the phases to get to this point, and that's admirable.

[B]

Well, yeah, I went through all the due diligence.

[A]

Yeah, you did. So it looks good, bro. I think it looks dope.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

It matches your aesthetic. I feel like you've kind of changed your aesthetic a bit just to, like, you know, compliment the hair, and you're that kind of guy. And for that, I thank you. I respect you.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Yeah. And for that. And for that, only Jess is a curly girl.

[B]

Mamas. So.

[A]

Oh, yeah. You see? Yes. You guys have matching hairdos.

[B]

Yeah. What do you think?

[A]

Well, she has more curls than you do.

[B]

Cut it a bit. You think it's too long?

[C]

No, I, you know, I.

[A]

Keep it real. Jess hurt his feelings.

[C]

I've never been a fan of long hair on guys. Like, I don't know. But like Josh said on yours, it kind of goes with you.

[B]

Okay.

[C]

Like, I don't think it's too long. I do agree that if it gets a little longer, it'll start to get crazy.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

But the way you style it and then, like, your braids are cool.

[B]

Like.

[A]

Yeah, with. The braids are sick. I like, we do the braids. This style is pretty sick. But anything longer than that, bro, it's.

[B]

Like, it's like, whoa, that's that guy.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[B]

Like, I don't want. That's the thing. I don't want to be that guy.

[A]

No, but you're. You're approaching.

[B]

I'm approaching.

[A]

But still in a good spot. Yeah, still in a really good spot. Okay, now when you cut it, you gotta cut it, though. Like, when you're gonna do a change. Like, really, I want you to do something drastic. Like, I want you to, like, almost buzz cut and then dye it, go crazy with it.

[B]

I mean, what else can I do not to cut it that much, you know? Like, if I cut a little bit, I look the same. It has to be drastic.

[A]

I've been lucky.

[B]

I'm scared to ask the people back at home. I should ask them, bro. Ask him, should I leave it or should I stop growing it or should I cut it? I'm not gonna cut it, though. But I want to hear people's opinions.

[A]

Yeah, you're not gonna cut it. You're not gonna cut it. I want to grow my hair out. I've always wanted to grow my hair out. Not as. As long as yours, but I want to have, like a flow. You know what I mean? Like, I want to, like. Yeah, you know?

[B]

Yeah. So there's a guy. I have longer hair than him, but I don't know if you guys have seen Yellowstone.

[A]

Yeah, but I'm not, like, deep in it.

[B]

Okay, so Yellowstone. I'm like, already, like, on season almost five. What an amazing show. And it came out in 2018. Yeah, an incredible show. Anyways, there's a guy, his name's Casey. He's the son of the Meadow metal.

[A]

Right, okay.

[B]

And his hair is sick, bro.

[A]

Can I see? Oh, see, this is kind of what I want.

[B]

That's what I'm saying. But that's mine.

[A]

Shorter than yours.

[B]

Yes, it's. I have longer hair, but I feel like if I do cut it, it's going to be like, Casey from Yellowstone.

[A]

Yeah, but even this is a little too long n. This is kind of where I want it, bro. This is. This is considered right here.

[B]

But he also. He also has, like, flow. He has weto hair, though.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, I me, I'd have to like, like do a keratin treatment or like, blow my hair out, like, you know, like with a. With a round brush. Yeah, like constantly to have that flow. Cuz that's. Do you think that guy's attractive, Jess? Like, as. As like an attractive white dude?

[C]

No, st. No, he's not ugly.

[B]

He's not ugly, right? Yeah. Yeah, bro, you got to watch that show.

[A]

No, I started watching it. I'm like on episode one, three minutes in, it's pretty sick.

[B]

Amazing show.

[A]

But. Yeah, but his hair is longer.

[B]

If I cut it, I would cut it like, like to that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So my hair is really curly, as you can tell. I do use curl products.

[A]

Yeah. Do you scrunch? Do you do a scrunch?

[B]

I got a scrunch.

[A]

You really just like, you scrunch like. That's so cute. That's so cute. You literally just sit in the mirror and just scrunch your little hair.

[B]

I do.

[A]

That's so adorable. Dude, that's so cute.

[B]

Like in a sarcastic way.

[A]

No, that's. That's how you achieve the. The crunch. The scrunch. The crunch.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So you. You think it's attractive?

[A]

Do I think it's attractive? No, I think it's cute. It's adorable. Two different things. You following? Because I don't think you are.

[B]

So my hair is curly. So.

[A]

But yeah.

[B]

So what I'm saying is technically what you see here, my hair is much longer than this when it's like when I'm in the shower.

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

My shit's like down to down, like below my collarbone.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know what a collarbone is?

[A]

I think so. I think I could figure it out.

[B]

So here's your collar.

[A]

Huh.

[B]

And then here's your bone.

[A]

That's a little high. A little low.

[B]

I mean, my collarbones are right here.

[A]

No, mine are like up here. My collarbone is not right here. Are you dumb? It's up here, dude.

[B]

Well, you're made all weird.

[A]

Maybe you're made weird.

[B]

All right, King am I the.

[A]

Before we get into this.

[B]

Oh.

[A]

I have, I have. I have a question for you guys. It was kind of like a fun fact. And then I want to hear you guys opinion. Okay. So I noticed this about me and anybody who's like close in my life has realized this, that anytime I get into my vehicle, I and I'm going to my destination, I immediately set my GPS. I don't care if I've been there 156 times. I always put on my navigation.

[B]

It's a safety net.

[A]

Yeah. And people always kind of clown on me and they're like, you don't know how to get there. You've been. You've been going there for the past. Like you're going to your mom's house. You don't know how to get to your mom's house. And I Go. It's not that I don't know how to get to my mom's house, but there's a couple things to factor in here. One, I don't want to think about where I'm driving. Like, how, where I'm, how I'm getting there, when I'm driving. I just want to drive.

[B]

Okay, you're Josh.

[A]

Two, the technology that we have in the year 2025 is way more advanced. It's in the future. It's telling me things that are happening in the future due to the navigation, because when I'm trying to get to a destination, I'm trying to get there as ASAP as possible, okay. So that tool helps me get there faster if there's a disruption in the road. Guess what, Mr. GPS, be like, hey, Josh, you should take this, you should take this alternative route.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Because you're going to get to your destination a lot faster and a lot safer.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So I'm tired of people talking mess about me that I use my, my Japanese, My Japanese to fuck shit up.

[B]

Dude, your gps.

[A]

My gps to fuck shit up. All right, I'm going to use my gps.

[B]

Mind you, when you put your gps, you know immediately how long it's going to take you to get there.

[A]

I can tell you down to the minute. Okay. I know getting to the studio from my house is probably the easiest thing to do. It's so easy, bro. Yeah. I could probably do it with my eyes closed. But guess what? I do. I set my navigation. Because if there's something in the future that I am not aware of, I can now reroute. Yes.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And am I still going to be late? Of course. Of course.

[B]

That's. What I'm about to say is like, dang. Speaking about somebody who always uses your gps. They're always late.

[A]

Yeah, I mean, you know what I mean?

[B]

You weren't late today.

[A]

No, I was on time because.

[B]

Good job, Josh.

[A]

You send a text out, like, I think last week about, like, being, like, more like punctual. Not just to me, but it was like.

[B]

Yeah, it was kind of towards you.

[A]

Yeah, exactly. And you've never really called me out on it, so I kind of felt a little convicted where I was like, let me just be on time. Let me see what this.

[B]

It was towards you. Can I tell you, like, it's not towards you.

[A]

Can I tell you my experience of being on time? Hated it.

[B]

Why?

[A]

This is so dumb. Why are we here? Why are we here on time?

[B]

I, I. Do you remember what I told you?

[A]

You know you gotta walk in with a little bit swag late, you know what I'm saying?

[B]

Do you remember what I told you?

[A]

Do I remember I said if you're.

[B]

If you're 15 minutes early, you're on time. Yeah, if you're on time, you're late.

[A]

That's such a dumb quote. Because if you're on time, you're on time.

[B]

No, if we're having a meeting at 10am yeah. And you pull up at 10 and I'm.

[A]

You're late and I'm in the building.

[B]

Yeah, you're late. You're supposed to be in the building 50 minutes prior, ready to go.

[A]

Notice how you said the word prior. That means you're early. Therefore the definition is early, not on time.

[B]

What?

[A]

Exactly. All right, so what are you guys thoughts on using GPS navigation?

[B]

I'm.

[A]

I'm with it, like no matter what.

[B]

90% of the time.

[A]

90%, Jess.

[C]

Yeah, I use it almost all the time.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. Even though you know where you're going.

[C]

I use it to get here.

[A]

Exactly. And you know how to get here, right? Like you take the same route every single time. Yeah, but there is that, like.

[B]

Well, most of. I think most of people's like, explanation is they like to see the clock go down, the time, the estimated time of arrival, which is a lot of people don't know. But when people say, hey, what's your eta? What the fuck you talking about? That means estimated time of arrival. I know that.

[A]

I'm going to give you some acronyms and you're going to tell me what they mean. Let's see how good you are at acronyms.

[B]

What's an acronym?

[A]

It's like.

[B]

Yeah, I know what it is, jackass.

[A]

All right, ready?

[B]

Eta.

[A]

Okay, what's eta?

[B]

Estimated time of arrival.

[A]

All right, what's up? Brb.

[B]

Be right back.

[A]

What's omg? Oh, my God, you're really good at this. What's. What's. What's. Oh, oh, I got you. You're so fudge. You're so fun.

[B]

Come on, bring it.

[A]

What's dtf?

[B]

Dtf?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Down a book.

[A]

Dude, you're so vulgar.

[B]

Oh, you know what? What's.

[A]

Oh, what. What's bt? I'm sorry, yeah. Btb.

[B]

Back to back.

[A]

Yeah, there's another. There's another one.

[B]

Btb.

[A]

Yeah, don't look over there, by the way.

[B]

Btb.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Back to back.

[A]

No, you could, you could. I guess you would have to use it in a sentence, but it's actually. Sorry, I was mistaken. B2B. But essentially the same thing. You're close, bro. You're on the right track.

[B]

Okay, what's another one?

[A]

Back to business.

[B]

No one uses that.

[A]

Nobody. Oh, what's. Oh, this is good. This is very corporate, though. What's eod?

[B]

End of day.

[A]

You're kind of. You're kind of iffy on that one. What is.

[B]

Yeah, like, oh, what's.

[A]

This is a good one. And I feel like a lot of people don't know this one. I think you will notice them, but a lot of people don't. What's cta?

[B]

Cta.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Call to action.

[A]

Yeah. Beautiful. Beautiful. Dude. Round of applause. You're. You're on it today, bro.

[B]

What's otw?

[A]

OT on the way.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

What's OOTD outfit of the day? Damn, you're good.

[B]

What's lol?

[A]

Laughing out loud. What's lmfao?

[B]

Laughing my effing ass off.

[A]

That's a step up of lol, right? Are you an lol? How are you laughing nowadays? Via text? Like, what's your go to? What's like your.

[B]

Oh, I do J I, J, I, J, I. Yeah, that's funny. All right, what's sb? Sb SB Be the burro. SB Be the burrito.

[A]

Son of a.

[B]

Stupid. What? What about sfb?

[A]

Stupid.

[B]

Yeah, cool, huh?

[A]

I just made that up. All right, let's do Am I the.

[B]

Okay, before we do it, we should go on a quick break.

[A]

It's been 30 minutes already.

[B]

Yeah, bro. I mean, you keep talking, bro. I wanted to do the. I want to do the. I was gonna say the outfit of the days. The. Am I the? Like, 15 minutes ago. Then you go on a rant that nobody cared about going on gps.

[A]

Nobody cared.

[B]

I don't think anybody cared, bro.

[A]

Then what's the point of having a podcast if I can't express my thoughts? Yeah, you. You little.

[B]

Just joking. Come here.

[A]

No, dude, don't. Don't come hear me. Okay.

[B]

I dare you to get on my lap right now.

[A]

You're so.

[B]

Marty.

[A]

Let's go.

[B]

Look. Come on, bro.

[A]

Go on break.

[B]

Tell me what you want for Christmas.

[A]

I already told you. Easter. I want another coffee machine. I want to start.

[B]

Hey, tell them about the coffee machine. I got you, dude.

[A]

That's. Is that what the gift was about? Oh, I figured you out, bro. I figured you out.

[B]

I want you to tell them it's a Tesla. It's the what? The te. What you say?

[A]

It's a Tesla of espresso maker. Do you say.

[B]

Did you have one today?

[A]

I always have One.

[B]

Really?

[A]

Yeah. Triple shot.

[B]

Tell them how you do it when you wake up.

[A]

Yeah, I literally just. First thing I do. Normally I used to check my Instagram, but now I just set my coffee. I'm like, oh, cuz you can set.

[B]

It on the mobile app.

[A]

Yeah, I only use the mobile app. Isn't that crazy? I only use the mobile app. Even if I'm right there. Like, you're the coffee maker. I'm. I'll just do it on my app.

[B]

Like, why go over there?

[A]

Why am I gonna do that? That's like two feet I got. So you figured energy that's wasted.

[B]

Can you let people know what's. I forgot the name that I got it for you. But what's it called?

[A]

It's like Tara Cafe.

[B]

Yeah, like the Terra. Yeah, it's like the sleekest coffee machine.

[A]

Oh, it's so sexy.

[B]

You know why I got it for you?

[A]

Yeah. Terra Cafe. Terror Cafe.

[B]

You know I got it for you.

[A]

Why not?

[B]

Because it was your birthday. Because I truly love you.

[A]

I love you, man. I love you, man. Love you, man. I L, Y m. I love you, man.

[B]

I love you more.

[A]

Okay, please, can we go on break?

[B]

Why am you. I love you more.

[A]

Okay, this is me ignoring you to go on break.

[B]

How much do you love me?

[A]

I'm not gonna.

[B]

You ever had that conversation with your girl? I love you. How much?

[A]

You have to have that conversation with your girl. You have to.

[B]

I pretend I'm your girl.

[A]

No, go on break.

[B]

Why don't you want to do stuff like that?

[A]

Because I thought you were. I thought we were on break. Does the camera shut off?

[B]

Yeah, we had a couple min minutes to spare.

[A]

So you. You led me wrong. Terrible leader. See, I would never do that.

[B]

How much you love me, bro? From the here to the moon or past it?

[A]

Past it.

[B]

Let's go on break. Or should I say a quickie?

[A]

Okay, bro. You know what I, what I've been enjoying though is doing like fasted cardio. So like today I did it. I woke up in the morning, I was like, man, I got to do my cardio. So I went to the fridge, I got a water bottle, I made my salud, right? The energy one. And then like I started the treadmill, but you know, caffeine has a delay.

[B]

Yeah, right.

[A]

It takes like 15 minutes for it to hit.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Mind you, I was fasted nothing in my tummy. So I start nothing in my tum tum. I start my cardio and I'm doing a 10, 3, 10 incline, 3 speed. Bro, I was dying. Like, I couldn't wake up. I was just like, dude, this is miserable.

[B]

What time is this at?

[A]

This is like nine.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

It's a good time to run.

[A]

Yeah. No. Yeah. Like, I just. I laid in bed for, like, 20 minutes, and then I was like, okay, I gotta do my. I gotta do my. Dude, those 10 minutes, bro, I was dying. I was huffing and puffing. I was like, dude, I cannot get into this. Then it was like. It was like 12 minutes in. Boom. That caffeine hits.

[B]

You're on it, dude.

[A]

I felt so good. I was vibrating. After I finished the cardio, I was like, this is what it's about, right? This is what life's all about.

[B]

I've been doing, obviously, a little bit more running lately, and there's two things that I've realized. Well, a lot of things, but maintenance. 4, 2. Two main things that I realized is when you start to run the first mile. Too brutal. Horrible, bro.

[A]

They're the worst.

[B]

Three, four. You're in it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And it's crazy because I'll. Because I'll. I'll log everything on Strava. Follow me on Strava. Strava is an amazing app. I'll log everything on Strava. I have a Garmin watch, you know, shout out to Garmin.

[A]

Follow me on Garmin.

[B]

And so the first mile, the second mile, heart rate's up. Yeah, I'm talking about, like, 140, 150.

[A]

Damn.

[B]

Yeah. Like, heart rate's up. But around three mile, four mile, my pace is faster and my heart rate goes down. Ain't that crazy?

[A]

Wow.

[B]

Yeah. So it's kind of like your body settles. My body. Your body starts to settle, and like, those. The mile three mile, four, you're chilling.

[A]

And then it's almost ecstasy. Once you can hit that point, you're just like.

[B]

And then you're just kind of, like, on autopilot.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And then Obviously, like, around 9, 10, you know, you'll start feeling fatigued and, like, sure. You know, you're pushing and especially if you want to keep the same pace. Right.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I love how we're so athletic. We're athletes, bro.

[A]

Can I tell you something, though? I know. I don't know if we've talked about this publicly on the podcast, but I hate running. I know it's not my thing. I think I try to force it because I. I like the idea of running. I like the swag of running. It's. And what it does mentally for you. And maybe let me Rephrase that. So that I hate running because I can do three miles, four miles. I'm having fun. Once I start pushing past six, I'm like, this is dumb. This is so dumb.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like, why are we doing this? And like. And I'm not trying to make this an excuse, but, like, I have a bigger frame.

[B]

You're a big boy.

[A]

It's harder to do. Is harder for me to run, you know? And I think, like, I just start thinking longevity, like, what that could do for my knees and stuff. Like, that might not be the best thing for me. I enjoy cardio, like, low intensity cardio. And occasionally I like doing hit high intensity interval training.

[B]

Hiit.

[A]

Hiit. And I enjoy weightlifting because I love to get a pump.

[B]

And you love going to berries.

[A]

You're not supposed to say that.

[B]

Oh, people don't know you go to berries.

[A]

I love going to berries. That's my hit. That's my highest. I'm not embarrassed.

[B]

Yeah, there's nothing to be embarrassed about. Josh goes to berries.

[A]

I love.

[B]

What's wrong with berries?

[A]

Yo.

[B]

I love going to berries. That's fine.

[A]

It's such a Feel good. It's like red light therapy. It's. It's. Yeah, it's badass, bro.

[B]

Why. Why are you turning into a berry? You're like, red as I love.

[A]

Yeah, we should go to berries.

[B]

I've been at berries.

[A]

It's cool.

[B]

Yeah, it's great. It's high intensity interval training.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Another thing that I realized as well is for cycling, I'm up at five in the morning sometimes, and I'm like, on the road going 25 to 30 miles an hour already. Like on your bike? On your bike like, already.

[A]

You got training wheels on that thing?

[B]

No. And I'm going, so, like, 6:30. I can ride a bike.

[A]

You have a little.

[B]

No, but you're whack. But when I have a green ring when I run. When I run, can you add a little green? Yes, you can. I don't want to get roasted, though.

[A]

Oh, you get roasted.

[B]

You don't put a green green on a.

[A]

So how do you alert people that's dangerous.

[B]

You yell.

[A]

You yell.

[B]

Yeah. On my bike, there's. There's things called computers. I have a computer mounted onto my bike that tells me how fast I'm going. There's GPS on that thing. It has maps. It has a speedometer. I just said that, right? Yeah.

[A]

Does it tell you, like, your breath stinks or something?

[B]

Yeah, it'll tell me that. That's pretty sick. But since mine is pretty high tech, it actually has a bell, it goes bling bling. But it's a digital little computer on the computer.

[A]

That's dope.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Can you customize it?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You can?

[B]

Yeah, you can.

[A]

That's fire.

[B]

Yeah. So I guess I do have a belt, but you do not put one of these on that kind of bike, first of all. Okay.

[A]

If you want to go for it, I would.

[B]

So what I'm telling you is that like at 6:30, I'm cool to ride a bike. I'm ready, you know, I'm cold, but I'm ready and I can do it. You don't miss 6:30 running. I can do my time when I can run, when I'm. My body is ready to run. 8:30.

[A]

Would you say running is more physically exhausting than biking?

[B]

I would say so because it requires.

[A]

More energy, like throughout your whole body.

[B]

Yeah, I feel like it's a more full body workout.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

You're completely. Yeah, I think you're using every single part of your body.

[A]

When's the last time you went into the gym consecutively to get a nasty pump, Man?

[B]

It's, it's been a while, honestly. And I'm starting to like my arms, like, you know, like when you're like genetically kind of gifted with something.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I feel like my whole life I. I feel like I have good shoulders and good arms.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

And right now I'm starting to realize that like all the cardio that I'm doing, I'm starting to kind of like lose that, be like losing the muscle. And I feel like my arms are getting slimmer. So I need to get a pump, bro.

[A]

You only need to live like twice a week and you'll still maintain muscle. You don't have to be a. Yeah. Bodybuilder.

[B]

My legs though, they're looking nice though.

[A]

Yeah, the legs have improved, but I'm.

[B]

Getting a little soft on top. But yeah, I realized that if I'm riding my bike 6:30am I can be on a bike working out.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Doing cardio.

[A]

Could you read a book at 6:30am, Buckham?

[B]

No, I, I mean, maybe I haven't tried it, but running, when I run with a group or with my wife, if I'm running at 6:37, I hate my life. I'm completely exhausted and I'm still in sleepy time.

[A]

When's the last time you read a book?

[B]

I don't know. Maybe when I was like six years.

[A]

You exercise those legs, you should be exercising your brain.

[B]

I read, I read A book called Go Dog, Go.

[A]

Is that the last time you read a book?

[B]

Yeah, actually, no. In high school, I read the Catcher in the Rye.

[A]

Bro. Let's challenge ourselves to read one book this year. We'll pick a book, we'll figure out a book. If you guys have any recommendations below that, go easy on us. Like a decent sized book and let's read it, bro. Come on. Like, that's a great goal to have. We're giving ourselves a whole year.

[B]

I have no issues on reading a book.

[A]

If you read a page a day, you'd finish it in a year. Let's do it. Come on.

[B]

What you need to do is read the Bible. You've already read it, huh?

[A]

I've read a good amount of it. Yeah.

[B]

I want to read the Bible a little bit more.

[A]

Yeah, I'll read the Bible. Do you want to? From start to finish?

[B]

I guess. I don't know. How do you read the Bible? Is there a way to read it?

[A]

Did you know the Bible?

[B]

Sounds like a stupid question.

[A]

No, that's not a stupid question. Actually, let me adjust my frames here. Did you know that the Bible is actually a book compiled of multiple books? Each chapter is actually its own book. And then they put it together and made the Holy Bible.

[B]

Got it.

[A]

It's kind of interesting. So, like, you can read any of those chapters and it's his own book. So we can read like, you know, Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, like the three disciples. Gospels. Gospels. Yeah. And then. Yeah, but it's all kind of correlated.

[B]

That's cool. Yeah, yeah, maybe that.

[A]

But bro, that's intense. Yeah, that's intense.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

It's not. It's not what you call a light read.

[B]

It's not.

[A]

No, yeah, no. It's a lot.

[B]

We'll figure it out.

[A]

All right. Well, are you down though, to read a book?

[B]

Yeah, sure. To get the same book?

[A]

Yeah, same book, bro. We're gonna be a little book club. I'm glad they got book club. Oh, we got a sick bro. People would join us if we figured out the book and we're like, yo.

[B]

I'm a good reader.

[A]

We're reading this. We're gonna take a whole year. We'll check back mid year to see how we're doing. And then at the end of the year, I feel like a year is kind of a long time. It should be. Probably be six months.

[B]

Sure.

[A]

Or less three months. You're not going to read then.

[B]

Why are you challenging me?

[A]

Can you read while you're cycling?

[B]

No.

[A]

You haven't I've seen people do that.

[B]

Maybe indoor cycling.

[A]

Nope. Outdoor. You're not that good.

[B]

Ridiculous.

[A]

You know how I know?

[B]

Can we start the. Am I the.

[A]

Sorry.

[B]

Yeah, Chess, let's. Let's do this. Wait.

[A]

Reading or. No.

[B]

Yeah, I'll read.

[A]

Why are you so scared?

[B]

I'll read. Comment down below. Books that we. That you think that we'd like.

[A]

Bro, we should do a La Platika book club. It'll be fire.

[B]

Yeah, start it up, bro. Yeah, you can be the captain of that one, I bet. All right, cool. Guys, follow Laplatica book club on Instagram because he already made the Instagram.

[A]

No, it's on the bloody. Guys, I'm gonna. I'm gonna announce the book. Once we figure out the book. I'm gonna announce the book on La Platica.

[B]

You're boring, Jess.

[A]

If you're interested in joining the book club, you're in. You're in. And we're gonna come out with sick, exclusive La Platica Book club Merch is going to be fire.

[B]

I like pictures.

[A]

Oh, God. I like turtles. Let's go. Just.

[C]

All right, this first one is from Melly. Age range 22 to 25.

[A]

Hi, Melly.

[B]

Hi, Melly.

[C]

Am I the asshole for rejecting my man from doing the morning dirty deed because he didn't pay any attention to me at all the night before? He was too focused watching shorts on YouTube.

[A]

Oh, man, let the man get some mushu.

[B]

So am I the. For rejecting my man to have sex with him in the morning? He wanted it in the morning, but she wanted it prior at night.

[A]

No, she just wanted to be paid. Paid attention to. She wanted some attention, and he was too busy watching shorts and YouTube. Oh, sorry. Did she. Did she want some.

[B]

Well, no, she didn't.

[A]

No.

[B]

Just pay attention.

[A]

She said pay attention. She just wanted some attention. Yeah. Yes, because she did it out of spite. And when you do things out of spite, you're an. And you got to be able to be okay with that. You know what I mean?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like, if you're. If you. You know, like, that's. That's mean. That's. It's not just an. That's mean. Because that's not what relationships. Relationships are about. What? You should have got to be like, look, I think you really hurt my feelings yesterday because you weren't paying attention to me, and I was. I was trying to spend some quality time.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Now that you want some musu, you're all about me.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

We're not going to do that anymore. Okay? We Got to, like, be better about that.

[B]

Yeah. And be like, now come over here.

[A]

Yeah, a little.

[B]

Yeah. Like I'm gonna give it to you, but just know that, like, that's going through my head. Right?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And like, while she's talking, she's starting to go like this.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

No, I don't think that you should, like, it's kind of like spiteful, right?

[A]

It's spiteful.

[B]

Because I'm sure there's a lot of times when that you've done that. And I'm sure he's not like, being spiteful about. About it. You know, like being on shorts or like being on like, tick tock or scrolling and you're not paying attention to him. Y. I'm sure he's not being spiteful about it. Or is he? But let's just say he's not. I don't think you should, like, not give him any, like, snooze nook because of that.

[A]

Yeah. Now if she didn't want to, that's a whole different stuff.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[A]

But she's like, did it because I wanted him to know, like, that's not how you do. That's how you grow in a relationship, you know?

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[A]

And I would be like, I think that she thinks that that's gonna show him. Oh, that'll show you. Next time, pay attention to me. We don't get that. We just think you're being mean. You know what I mean? Like, we need to, like, be told, like, hey, I didn't like that you were kind of ignoring me yesterday, you know? And now. Yeah, you know, whatever, though. Whatever that conversation looks like.

[B]

And like, when you don't give, like, your guy, like, sexy time, they take that to heart.

[A]

That's what I'm saying. We didn't learn anything from that. We weren't like, oh, it's because I didn't pay attention. Like, we didn't. We missed that.

[B]

You're making us feel unsexy and unwanted, undesired, undercharged, undershard. Yeah, I know. Like, I'm not saying, like, give it up either, you know, but, like, I think that's a little bit like. I think it's like, taking it to an extreme where it shouldn't be there.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Unless you didn't want to then. Yeah, I get it. Like in the morning, like, you know, you want to brush your teeth, you want to, like, situate yourself, you know, you want to kind of want to like, take a shower.

[A]

Not me.

[B]

Well, yeah, because you're a guy. A horny one at that.

[A]

Okay, next question. Jesse. A horny one at that.

[C]

This one's Anonymous. Age range, 22 to 25. Am I the. For moving a thousand miles away from my family for the love of my life, using the excuse of going away to college. I constantly get talk like, oh, damn, you left your family for some D for D, or your parents are old. Why would you leave? And how could you do that?

[B]

Oh, first off, I don't think you're the. I think if you're in a really steady, loving relationship, travel the world for that person. Who cares if your parents get mad, if your family gets mad. What? You can't just flap your wings. And if you want to fight, if you're raised in the Inland Empire or here in Los Angeles and you said, one day, I want to move to France or I want to move to Finland. You can't do that. You could do that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Do whatever you want. You only have one life on here, on this. On this planet called Earth now. The whole going away to college. Why lie? Just say, I'm gonna go move.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I'm gonna go move with my vato.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And, like, I'm gonna live another life.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, not living a life, but the life that I want and I deserve and I love this guy.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Now, if you're just going over there and not work and just party or just, like, not really grow, but even.

[A]

Then, bro, it's your life.

[B]

Sure, sure. But, like, make it count. Because of course, if you're gonna leave your family behind, at least make it count.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Somewhere else. You might as well do that there with your family. Right. But, like. And then they'll see you grow and succeed and like, oh, wow, you know, she did her thing. I respect my daughter.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know, she. She did her thing. I don't think you should lie about like that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I constantly get shake talk like, oh, damn, you left your family for some D. That's kind of weird and ridiculous to say. Or, how can you leave? Your parents are old. Now, I hope that you're, like, visiting or, like, keeping in touch with your parents. That's one thing. But, yeah, I would like to know, you know, how a thousand miles away, plus it's not too far.

[A]

Yeah, bro, I'm a big believer in, like, letting your heart lead you, especially at that age. She's between the ages of 22 and 25. This is the age where she can make those mistakes if you will, you know, take the chance, take the leap of faith, and she's going to learn so much from those experiences. And I think they're going to shape her to be an incredible person. But you got to be willing to take the chance, take the risk. And I like what you're saying. Like, I don't think she necessarily had a lie, but she did. And so what? Like, she's doing it, you know? And these people that are talking shit about you, they're just. They're just. But maybe potentially just hating because they wanted to do something like that and they were too scared to do it.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But you did it, so now they're trying to chop you down for it.

[B]

I don't like.

[A]

No, like, look, you did it. You're living your life. And if you're happy, then who cares?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And if that dick is good, then who cares? Too far.

[B]

Why'd you lick your lips when you said that?

[A]

I have chapped lips right now.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

The weather is kind of dry.

[B]

Josh Leyva. One thing that I realized the Josh Leva. One thing that I realized growing up myself. Your parents are not going to want you. Do a lot of. A lot of why? Because they love you. Overprotective.

[A]

Best interest.

[B]

Or that's for your best interest. Or they don't know themselves what can happen. Try to play it safe. Try to hold you down. Just stay here, do this, do that. You know, maybe live the life I wanted to do. They're not going to want you to do a lot of things in life. I'm not saying be rebellious, but definitely lead with your heart, like you said.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And prove them wrong. Because once you do things that you want to do and you prove them wrong and you create a life for yourself, guess who's not telling you what to do anymore? Them. Because now they respect you. Because you keep your word. I'm telling you in life, especially growing up in your young 20s, even now, a lot of times, don't do this, don't do that. You know, try to mold you to whatever way. No. You be your own person.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And that goes not just with your family, but everybody in life. Be your own person. Have the word that you, you know, like, be the. A man of your word. Do things that you're gonna say you do and completely do them.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And do them. Because once you start doing that, ain't nobody gonna tell you what the to do.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And excuse my language.

[A]

Yeah. You know, that's interesting because, like.

[B]

Because parents are gonna tell you not to do anything ever.

[A]

Yeah. And it just sucks that we sometimes we need. That we want to feel like, validated from our parents. And we got to show them that we. In order to, like, really show them, like, where we're good. And this isn't like, for, like, but for me, though, bro. And maybe I. I'm not a parent, so I don't know, but for me, the ultimate thing I want for my child is pure happiness. I don't need them to prove to me with a certain job or title or money. I don't need any of that. If you're happy, genuinely, purely happy, I am good. I won as a parent. Because what does it matter, you know?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

What does it matter if they're, like, you know, successful to the material world or society and stuff like that? They're like. They're happy.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And that's the ultimate. Most people, bro, are successful. They have everything they want in the world, but are miserable.

[B]

Yeah. 100 and.

[A]

Yeah. And if I had to choose for my child one or the other, I would choose happiness every time.

[B]

And, bro, I've met like, like 8 out of 10 people that have the strict parents. They're the ones doing all the bubble.

[A]

Isn't that crazy? It's so true.

[B]

They're the ones out being rebellious, getting into trouble. The ones that drink, hella. The ones that do drugs. The ones that do this.

[A]

That. It's true.

[B]

I don't know. Like, there's some science to that.

[A]

No, there is, bro. I think there's some psychological human behavior that, like, causes people to be like that.

[B]

Yeah. At the end of the day, we're humans, we're animals, and you gotta let your breed free kinda, you know, like, we gotta be on our own sometimes.

[A]

Yeah, you got to be on your own, your own adventure, you know, like.

[B]

People who have, like, overprotective parents, like, that's actually a blessing too, for sure. Because they love you to death and. But sometimes that can, like, backfire on you because then you're like, what can I do about myself? I'm scared to do things by myself, bro.

[A]

If you think about it, parenting is so.

[B]

It's crazy difficult and there's no right or wrong answer. There's no right or wrong answer, obviously, kind of.

[A]

But no, of course. Like, like, yeah. Like, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[B]

Anybody can do it any way they want.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know, but yeah, like, people like, like, I don't even want to tell you, like, make sure you do whatever you want if it's the right decision, because I want you to fail.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I want you to. To. To fail.

[A]

What a luxury that you get to fail yeah.

[B]

Like, I want you to, like, not do good. And, like, because that's gonna show you so much.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Obviously, I don't pray. I don't like on people pray on your downfall.

[A]

Right.

[B]

But it does show you a lot. It makes you realize things, you know, get into tricky situations. Because in life. Let me tell you something. In life, get you. You have to get yourself into tricky situations where you don't know if you're gonna make rent. Why? Because that makes you hustle harder. That makes you figure it out. Oh, my God. I can't believe I just paid rent. I finally did it. But the more you do it, the more you create a rhythm, the more you work harder, you. You figure it out. And then three months, you're like, oh, I'm finally doing. I'm finally figuring out the rhythm. Let's get into another uncomfortable situation. And now let's upgrade my pad. Now let's do this, let's do that, and then I'll figure it out again. Life is all about finding the rhythm. Finding the rhythm of things to do. And once you figure out that rhythm, get uncomfortable again. Figure out another rhythm just like that. Challenge yourself. Challenge yourself. Then you figure it out.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And then you become D. Josh Leva.

[A]

Maybe. If you're lucky enough. Next one, Jess.

[C]

This one's from Hector. Hector, age 25 to 30. Am I the. For leaving family members off my wedding guest list due to not seeing nor talking to them for more than four years. My family tried to guilt trip me, but I respectfully ignored them. Hopefully Sevas can share wedding experience and knowledge with me.

[A]

Drop that knowledge, my boy.

[B]

Yeah, bro. Hector, you already know weddings are very expensive. Those plates are very expensive. The seat arrangement anywhere, like any opening seat. People don't understand that you. I mean, weddings are different across the board, right? But most of the time, like, every seat there, questa dinero.

[A]

But even if it doesn't, bro, even if you do it on a budget.

[B]

That's what I'm saying.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, that's why I said weddings are different across the board. You know, even if it's a backyard wedding, for sure. But. But you're basically saying, who can have the privilege to spend this, the best day of my life with us? And if you haven't talked to somebody in four years, I don't give a if they're family. Excuse for. Excuse my cussing. I don't give a if they're your family, because if they were your family, you would be talking to them continuously. If it was that there's no obligation.

[A]

Just because I have the title.

[B]

That doesn't matter.

[A]

They deserve a seat, I should say.

[B]

Yeah. Both.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like don't, don't feel bad.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And parents are always going to feel bad because they feel like they're going to get the embarrassment. They're the ones that are going to hold on to that. That decision.

[A]

Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

Because I had this, like, you know, this life with them in the past when you weren't even born yet.

[A]

That got nothing to do.

[B]

And that has nothing to do with me or my wife. Remember, it's not just me, it's my wife too. Or wife, wife, husband, husband, it doesn't matter. It's not just me making the decision. It's also her family.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know, your partner, your partner's family. It doesn't matter. No, it's who's gonna spend the best day of my life with us.

[A]

I like that.

[B]

You know, and it's just plain and simple. Even if it's not about the money and if you haven't talked to somebody in four years. For what?

[A]

For what?

[B]

For what? Even if you gave them four years, if I haven't talked to you in a year, I don't know if you should come.

[A]

Damn.

[B]

Unless you like mad, mad family. Yeah, we keep in touch on WhatsApp for four years because keeping in touch on WhatsApp is a vibe.

[A]

That's a vibe.

[B]

You feel me?

[A]

Yeah. So I always feel like WhatsApp is like, that's the right there, bro. I feel like I'm doing something dangerous when I'm on WhatsApp. It's just going down on WhatsApp.

[B]

I see all my primos on the WhatsApp, on the WhatsApp, on the WhatsApp chat like, you know, I see you, you know who you are, you know, you know, I don't gotta see you, but I'm talking to you. Yeah. 100, bro. Like don't ever feel guilty. Remember, this isn't your parents wedding.

[A]

No.

[B]

You know, you make the decision. This is your wedding. This is your day, this is your party. This is your ceremony. This is your celebration.

[A]

Great answer, Peasy.

[B]

Yeah, straight up.

[A]

Dare I say straight up? What's next? Yes, we got another one. We on fire right now. Don't let us. Don't tame us.

[C]

Okay?

[A]

Don't tame us.

[B]

Plus, he's already 25 to 30 years old. You a man, my boy. You a man.

[C]

Okay, so this next one is Anonymous, age range 22 to 25. Am I the for breaking up with my Ex of almost four years because I accidentally fell in love with someone else. My. My ex wasn't ambitious. We were high school sweethearts. But after graduation, real life hit, and we weren't going anywhere. And I slowly detached from him and met another guy that had the same goals as me.

[B]

You're not the.

[A]

No.

[B]

Four years already. I feel bad for the guy. Like, that sucks. It's a shitty situation.

[A]

Super. But, bro, sometimes you outgrow people.

[B]

Yeah. Girl, you're 20. Let's just say you're 22 years old. You have your whole life ahead of you.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know, I even recommend being single.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But if. But if you fell in love with somebody, you're not an. I mean, he's gonna think you're an. Because he, of course, still likes you. But no, you. You cannot believe that. Just, you know, you find one person, and that's. That's the one. There's millions of fish.

[A]

And even for him, would he want to be with somebody who's not in love with him the same way he is? You know?

[B]

Great answer.

[A]

So it's like, this is the best for both of them.

[B]

Yeah. And he'll see that later.

[A]

Exactly.

[B]

No. You're 22 to 25. I must say. You're 22. Okay. There's not too much. You don't think too differently, you know?

[A]

No.

[B]

Three years, you know, so. Excuse me.

[A]

You okay?

[B]

No. And you're not an. If anything, I respect you. You're strong.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You're strong for making that. That rerouting your life like that, that's.

[A]

That.

[B]

That's major points. And like I said, later in life, that guy will probably respect you as well.

[A]

And it is a tough pill to swallow as a guy. Right.

[B]

Of course.

[A]

Just to feel like you're being outgrown by your partner. But maybe that could be the best thing that's ever going to happen.

[B]

I hope he realizes that.

[A]

Yeah. Yeah. But for herself, like, she's. No, I think she's not the for.

[B]

And let's just highlight a key word here. Ambitious. The sexiest thing in a man is his ambition to be better every day. I'll tell you what. When I was in my early years with Karen, it's not that I wasn't ambitious, but I kind of was just like. Just a normal guy. I didn't have too much goals like that. You know, she taught me. And then the more I grew up, she taught me, the more I grew up, I taught myself. You know, being a man is just not living life. It's it's being a man. It's, it's, it's growing fat ambitions, respect for yourself, shooting for the stars. You know, even if you don't reach those goals, eventually you will. But even if you don't, if you show your partner that you're being ambitious and you just want these things, it's sexy.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Don't be that guy that just has the same routine.

[A]

Sometimes you need a rude awakening, though.

[B]

You do.

[A]

And maybe this is his.

[B]

You do. But like I said, guys, back at home, I think the most sexiest thing that you can do is be ambitious and be confident and respect your partner.

[A]

Yeah, I think we crushed that one, right? I think we did an amazing job.

[B]

Well, I don't not. I don't not. I donut think you're an.

[A]

No, you're not.

[B]

You're not at all. Like I said, I respect you.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

All right. This last one's a little long.

[A]

Oh, my.

[C]

Bear with me. Okay, it's good. This is anonymous. Age range 25 to 30. My husband and I retired my mother in law so she can watch my baby when I was at work. Also, we also paid her weekly goals. Before, I would only see her on the weekends since they have a place in the valley and she was the absolute best. Now she lives with me 247 and I work from home. She lives with us for free, all living expenses paid. I even pay her to get her nails done because I want her to be nice. You know, sue grass stuff.

[B]

Oh, this is your Swagra.

[C]

A few months in, I started to notice my baby was just in her playpen while she was on Facebook all day. And I wasn't really feeling that because I expect more when I'm paying for a service. Even if she's the grandma, am I the asshole for telling my husband he needs to check his mom and tell her we can no longer pay for her nails and will not pay her weekly? Paying someone to do their laundry, be on the phone all day and kick it for free is crazy to me.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Lol. I don't know.

[A]

You guys tell me this is such a good one.

[B]

It's a good one. And when we. When Jessica, when you were reading this, I was like, oh, goals, you know, like retiring your mother in law. That's. Yeah.

[A]

Around the house, literally.

[B]

She got comfortable. But let's just kind of rewind back. This is why I do not with hiring or working with people that are close to me. Because then like this happens and then. And then it's awkward and then it's awkward. But no, you are not. The. Clearly she's sorry. Your mother in law is kind of like an. She got comfortable. You know, the sun's there. The son's not going to do. Do anything about it. But no, the. Your husband needs to respect that you have things to say about the mother in law. Clearly they're not okay. It's not okay. Even if she was doing it for free and I had a swagger that was just on Facebook live and she's just visiting and just my kids right there on the crate. I expect you to be a little bit more loving to take care of him.

[A]

I also don't think they need to cut her off cold turkey like that immediately.

[B]

No. No. But a conversation.

[A]

Yeah. And that conversation needs to be had by her son.

[B]

Don't be scared.

[A]

Her husband. Sorry. Her husband. To her mom.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. To his mom. Sorry. Yeah. Because bro, if that was the agreement that you guys had like hey mom, we're retire. We're going to take care of you. We only ask that you help us with the baby. Help us, you know, raise them. And she lives there and take care of him. Exactly.

[B]

She lives there.

[A]

Yeah. And especially the. She's over here like hey, I just want to make sure that you're really taken care of. I want to pay for your nails to get done. You feel like you're taking. You're being taken advantage of.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And that's not a good feeling. You want to be able to help people. Right. But at the same time there needs to be respect. Yeah. 100 and that needs to be reciprocated. And that's completely missing right now. And I think she just got comfortable. Yeah. And she just needs to like. She just needs to be like sometimes bro, everybody, we're all human. We're all flawed. We're. We all make mistakes. Sometimes we need that little like nudge that sometimes we need to be told like kind of be put in check. Cuz we just kind of miss it. You know, That's. That's okay.

[B]

Yeah. No, you're not an. Let me tell you something else too. When you mature in life and you are married, you will understand sometimes. That my own mother is wrong.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

That your mother is wrong. I don't like the thing that your dad did. She might tell me. I don't like what your dad did as well. You need to understand that you growing up with your parents, you always think they're right and they have a point.

[A]

It's a good point.

[B]

But when you are with somebody and you're married or even in a really, really serious relationship, you have to be okay with knowing that your side of the family may be wrong. And that's a hard pill to swallow sometimes when your own partner is telling you that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But you don't take it offensive. They're only saying that because they love you and they love the situation that you're in and they just want to fix it. But when. When I tell you if me and you were in a relationship. Right. Which I only dream about, you have to be okay with me telling you, yo, your mom is wrong 100 and that might hurt you because that's your own mom and I have to be okay with you.

[A]

Nobody wants to hear that.

[B]

Nobody wants to hear.

[A]

But you got to be mature enough to realize what they're doing.

[B]

It's not correct.

[A]

It is hard. But it also.

[B]

Because even me.

[A]

But it also depends on how you are approaching the situation.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Don't you. You shouldn't come at me all crazy.

[B]

No.

[A]

Look at the way your mother's acting. Blah, blah. That's not okay.

[B]

But what happens is, A, if I'm in a relationship with you, A, it's going to be so hard for me to tell you your mom is wrong. That's a. Right. And then B, I know that if I tell you, I don't want you to get offended. And then now you're mad at me.

[A]

Right. Which could happen.

[B]

Which is gonna happen. And this is why I'm telling you. It's a tricky situation. It's a hard pill as well. But you have to understand that growing up and being in a relationship, whether it be marriage or not, you will have to understand that your side of the family or their side of the family may be wrong. And no one's perfect.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So don't feel asshole if you're calling something out.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And if anything, it will make your relationship a lot more stronger. And honestly, if your swagra gets mad or whatever later on in life, they're going to respect you for saying that 100%. And remember, this goes back on like growing up and like doing things that you want to do and then being a man of your word and showing people up, that's how you earn respect. And it's not just when you go against the grain.

[A]

Yeah. It's not just a money thing that they retire. It's also her child that's on the line as well. Like, that's what another reason that she would respect her later down the future when she realizes, like, hey, I'm just trying to raise my child here the best way I possibly could. And this was the best way I could do it, by bringing in somebody from close family to be able to help me raise this child.

[B]

Right.

[A]

And like we're, we're. Something's missing here. Now I don't think that's a conversation she needs to have with her swagger by the way. That's. That's up to the, the husband completely first. And, and if that her, I'm gonna go back to this because I keep saying this, but it's very important how she approaches that conversation.

[B]

You gotta approach it with respect.

[A]

Yeah. You gotta like put yourself in their shoes if it was their mother that you were.

[B]

But imagine if they don't respect you back like that. Then it's gon to be a real talk. But I think, I think at the end of the day, no matter what or, or how bad you treat one another, at the end of the day when you guys do treat yourself like bad, there has to be some respect that comes out of that because there has to be a solution that is solved. But yeah, like I said, you will realize growing up your family is not perfect. And I'm not saying this for could because of my personal experiences, but I am saying this as in like as a man or as, as somebody like myself who has grown with a woman like my wife. I know sometimes maybe my mom was wrong, maybe her dad was wrong, maybe her uncle was wrong. Maybe my uncle was wrong. Right. So you start to learn like that and you start to just learn how to communicate with your partner about these types of like, like hard pill to swallow situations and that's it. But you're not an for thinking that. Yeah. At all. That this is real.

[A]

Real.

[B]

And when people find out that you the type of person that doesn't like to tippy toe around or be around.

[A]

People, they change up.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

They start acting. Right.

[B]

But when people realize that you're not a tippy toe hoe. No. And you don't beat around the bush.

[A]

Can't be no tippy toe. Huh.

[B]

And don't be scared to like be that person that calls out because then when you are that person, people understand that you're that person. Don't with you like that. Like, like they respect you.

[A]

You think I'm some tippy toe hoe? I ain't no tippy toe hoe.

[B]

No, not at all. That was a good one.

[A]

I'm the type of ho that show you how I do.

[B]

Wow. Do due diligence huh?

[A]

You see what I'm saying?

[B]

That was a show.

[A]

What an episode, man. Yeah, we back into the swing of things.

[B]

Yeah. And it feels good.

[A]

Feels good to be home, man. It feels good to be home.

[B]

Next couple weeks are going to be awesome as well.

[A]

Yeah, we got some great guests coming into the stu still.

[B]

Like I said, sorry about the audio problem. Jess, thank you so much for pulling up these questions. The audio problems about the audio platforms. Yeah, it should be up and running asap. Trust me, I wanted asap. I think I. Me and Josh wanted more than you guys, trust me.

[A]

Yeah, probably.

[B]

But, yeah, that was it. Enjoy, you guys. Monday, the Josh Leva, if you guys are still listening.

[A]

We love you guys. We appreciate you. Make sure you subscribe if you're not subscribed already. Latino podcast in the world. Social medias 10 off taste. Salud. Everything you're looking for, we got you in the links below. That description be popping if you're not clicking the description. The description that just be writing for you guys, letting you guys know how popping this episode was. I read word for word most times. Other times I expect y'all to read it.

[B]

Yeah, exciting things to come too. So stay tuned.

[A]

Love you guys.

[B]

Love you. November, San Antonio. I'm getting a little soft on top.