La Plática Podcast Summary

Episode: Your Relationship Won’t Last! (Statistically)
Date: January 19, 2026
Hosts: Josh Leyva & Sebastian “Saul” Robles (with Jessica)
Podcast: LA PLATICA by Sonoro

Episode Overview

In this episode, Josh, Saul, and Jessica dive into tricky relationship dynamics, drawing on candid listener-submitted “Am I The Asshole?” scenarios. They touch on vulnerability, confidence, traditional and modern gender roles, relationship insecurities, age gaps in dating, and the messy realities of cohabitation. Throughout, the hosts bring a balanced mix of humor, candid advice, personal stories, and genuine emotional intelligence—aiming to dismantle machismo and champion emotionally mature masculinity, especially from a Latino perspective.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Confidence, Dress, and Relationship Power Dynamics

• Listener Question: Is it wrong for a woman to dress sexy if her boyfriend objects?

• Hosts’ Take:

  • Women should dress how they want if it’s appropriate for the occasion (08:06).
  • Men’s discomfort often reflects their own insecurity rather than a woman’s intent.
  • Honest communication is vital; partners should validate each other’s feelings but not at the expense of self-expression.
  • Having big boobs shouldn’t restrict a woman’s dress; oversexualization is a cultural issue, largely male-driven (08:06–09:15).
  • Both men and women must avoid controlling tendencies.

  Quote:

  “If you are telling me that this is the way you feel comfortable dressing … you gotta let them know, ‘This is me.’” – Saul (09:15)
  “He liked those big chichis before—and now he wants them covered up?” – Josh (13:42)

2. Age-Gap Relationships and Double Standards

• Listener Question: Should an older woman dating a much younger man feel embarrassed?

• Hosts’ Take:

  • The societal double standard is real: older men with younger women are less scrutinized.
  • As long as both are consenting adults, there’s no shame in age-gap relationships (16:47–19:36).
  • Once people reach their 30s and 40s, a 10-year difference is minor (“Other than tighter skin,” Saul jokes at 18:28).
  • Authentic happiness and consent are what matter.

  Quote:

  “If you’re doing something that makes you happy and fulfills you, you should never be embarrassed about that.” – Saul (19:30)

3. Dishonesty, Cheating, and Emotional Boundaries

• Listener Question: Am I an asshole for confronting my cheating ex and his baby mama?

• Hosts’ Take:

  • Absolutely not. The onus is on the cheater, not the deceived.
  • Even non-official relationships can hurt deeply due to emotional investment.
  • Time reveals true character; it takes years, not months, to truly know someone.

  Quote:

  “He deceived you… but 10 months is still long enough to create false expectations.” – Josh (22:52)
  “Guard your heart. Not just for a couple years… for life.” – Josh (25:53)
  “Isn’t it crazy how guarding your heart is a double-edged sword? You’re protective—but it means you’re not fully yourself yet.” – Josh (25:51)

4. Gender Roles, Protection, and Same-Sex Relationships

• Hosts’ Personal Reflections:

  • Both Saul and Josh embrace the role of “protector” but acknowledge that dynamics can differ, especially in same-sex relationships.
  • Jessica notes that in LGBTQ+ couples, the “protector” or “provider” role isn’t bound by gender, but by personal temperament and relationship needs (32:20–33:53).
  • The importance of discussing and choosing roles consciously rather than defaulting to tradition was highlighted.

  Quote:

  “If you feel like you are a protector, you’re going to step into that role no matter what your gender is.” – Saul (30:38)
  “It comes down to each relationship is different. Sometimes roles swing back and forth; it depends on what works for those two people.” – Jessica (33:53)

5. Cohabitation & Chores: Source of Fights or Connection?

• Listener Question: Am I the asshole for picking a fight every day because my husband won’t pick up after himself?

• Hosts’ Take:

  • Communication is key—fight less, talk more.
  • Respect each other’s living styles but compromise is necessary.
  • Persistent neglect is a turn-off; splitting domestic responsibilities isn’t about gender but about respect.
  • Thoughtful gestures (like cleaning up) matter more than grand ones.

  Quote:

  “Happy wife, happy life—but both have to respect each other.” – Josh (40:16)
  “If you care for me that much, it’s so easy to just fling your calzoncillo into the hamper!” – Saul (48:08)
  “Cleanliness is godliness.” – Saul (45:37)

6. The Power of Reassurance & Relationship Insecurity

• Listener Question: I’m insecure because my girlfriend used to prefer a different “type” of guy; now I compare myself to her past.

• Hosts’ Take:

  • At 21, insecurities are normal, but don’t let them define you.
  • Open up to your partner; ask for reassurance about what she likes about you specifically.
  • Never radically change yourself to fit an imagined “type.”
  • Statistically, most people won’t stay with their early 20s partners, so focus on growth and authenticity.
  • Reframing helps: instead of dwelling on what you’re not, focus on your strengths and how you connect to your partner.

  Quote:

  “Just don’t change who you are… you are her type, she’s with you now.” – Saul (62:19)
  “Statistically… you’re probably not going to be with that girl forever. Just being honest.” – Josh (62:25)
  “If you’re going to overthink what’s going wrong, make sure you overthink everything that’s right in your life.” – Saul (65:03)
  “Ask her what she likes about you. Focus on the good.” – Jessica (64:32)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments (with Timestamps)

• On sexualization and confidence:
  • “If men have oversexualized big boobs, that’s on us.” – Josh (08:33)
• On societal expectations:
  • “If a guy can date younger, why can’t a woman?” – Josh (18:07)
• On cleaning and domestic peace:
  • “My wife is type A, and I had to get used to that. If I’m done eating, I’m washing up—out of respect.” – Josh (41:02)
  • “Cleanliness is godliness.” – Saul (45:37)
• On emotional maturity:
  • “Guard your heart—not just for a couple years, for life.” – Josh (25:53)
• On reassurance:
  • “What are some things you like about me?” – Jessica (64:32)
  • “Focus on what you are and what you contribute.” – Jessica (64:47)
• On advice for young listeners:
  • “You’re 21—don’t stress too much, just enjoy your life right now and your partner.” – Josh (58:55)
  • “Don't change yourself. Don’t become your girlfriend’s ‘type’—be your best you.” – Josh (62:03)
• On statistics and reality:
  • “Sadly, statistically, you’re probably not going to be with that girl forever.” – Josh (62:24)

Practical Relationship Exercises

(From Jessica, Couples Therapy Tips, 69:40)

• Regularly ask each other: “What are three things you like about me?”
• Share them on a date night to strengthen mutual appreciation.
• “Do that with your friends, too, or with anybody you value a relationship with.” – Jessica (70:27)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Sexy Dress and Partner’s Insecurity: 07:42–16:32
• Older Woman/Younger Man Dating: 16:38–20:37
• Cheating, Confrontation & Emotional Guard: 20:43–27:57
• Gender Roles & Same-Sex Couples: 27:57–35:00
• Chores, Living Together, Resentment: 39:51–48:45
• Healthcare, Work Boundaries & Social Media: 50:51–54:26
• Reassurance, Types, Relationship Anxiety: 56:45–68:49
• Couples Therapy Tips: 69:40–70:30

Final Thoughts

This episode captures La Plática at its best: heartfelt, direct, sometimes irreverent, but always striving to encourage emotional growth, respect, and self-acceptance. Whether answering questions about jealousy, cleaning duties, or deep-seated insecurities, the hosts’ message is consistent—healthy relationships are built on honest conversation, mutual respect, and the courage to be your true self.
“Enjoy your life, focus on what’s good, talk honestly, and don’t try to fit anyone’s ‘type’ but your own.”