Your Relationship Won’t Last! (Statistically)

Summary

La Plática Podcast Summary

Episode: Your Relationship Won’t Last! (Statistically)
Date: January 19, 2026
Hosts: Josh Leyva & Sebastian “Saul” Robles (with Jessica)
Podcast: LA PLATICA by Sonoro

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Episode Overview

In this episode, Josh, Saul, and Jessica dive into tricky relationship dynamics, drawing on candid listener-submitted “Am I The Asshole?” scenarios. They touch on vulnerability, confidence, traditional and modern gender roles, relationship insecurities, age gaps in dating, and the messy realities of cohabitation. Throughout, the hosts bring a balanced mix of humor, candid advice, personal stories, and genuine emotional intelligence—aiming to dismantle machismo and champion emotionally mature masculinity, especially from a Latino perspective.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Confidence, Dress, and Relationship Power Dynamics

• Listener Question: Is it wrong for a woman to dress sexy if her boyfriend objects?

• Hosts’ Take:

  • Women should dress how they want if it’s appropriate for the occasion (08:06).
  • Men’s discomfort often reflects their own insecurity rather than a woman’s intent.
  • Honest communication is vital; partners should validate each other’s feelings but not at the expense of self-expression.
  • Having big boobs shouldn’t restrict a woman’s dress; oversexualization is a cultural issue, largely male-driven (08:06–09:15).
  • Both men and women must avoid controlling tendencies.

  Quote:

  “If you are telling me that this is the way you feel comfortable dressing … you gotta let them know, ‘This is me.’” – Saul (09:15)
  “He liked those big chichis before—and now he wants them covered up?” – Josh (13:42)

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2. Age-Gap Relationships and Double Standards

• Listener Question: Should an older woman dating a much younger man feel embarrassed?

• Hosts’ Take:

  • The societal double standard is real: older men with younger women are less scrutinized.
  • As long as both are consenting adults, there’s no shame in age-gap relationships (16:47–19:36).
  • Once people reach their 30s and 40s, a 10-year difference is minor (“Other than tighter skin,” Saul jokes at 18:28).
  • Authentic happiness and consent are what matter.

  Quote:

  “If you’re doing something that makes you happy and fulfills you, you should never be embarrassed about that.” – Saul (19:30)

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3. Dishonesty, Cheating, and Emotional Boundaries

• Listener Question: Am I an asshole for confronting my cheating ex and his baby mama?

• Hosts’ Take:

  • Absolutely not. The onus is on the cheater, not the deceived.
  • Even non-official relationships can hurt deeply due to emotional investment.
  • Time reveals true character; it takes years, not months, to truly know someone.

  Quote:

  “He deceived you… but 10 months is still long enough to create false expectations.” – Josh (22:52)
  “Guard your heart. Not just for a couple years… for life.” – Josh (25:53)
  “Isn’t it crazy how guarding your heart is a double-edged sword? You’re protective—but it means you’re not fully yourself yet.” – Josh (25:51)

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4. Gender Roles, Protection, and Same-Sex Relationships

• Hosts’ Personal Reflections:

  • Both Saul and Josh embrace the role of “protector” but acknowledge that dynamics can differ, especially in same-sex relationships.
  • Jessica notes that in LGBTQ+ couples, the “protector” or “provider” role isn’t bound by gender, but by personal temperament and relationship needs (32:20–33:53).
  • The importance of discussing and choosing roles consciously rather than defaulting to tradition was highlighted.

  Quote:

  “If you feel like you are a protector, you’re going to step into that role no matter what your gender is.” – Saul (30:38)
  “It comes down to each relationship is different. Sometimes roles swing back and forth; it depends on what works for those two people.” – Jessica (33:53)

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5. Cohabitation & Chores: Source of Fights or Connection?

• Listener Question: Am I the asshole for picking a fight every day because my husband won’t pick up after himself?

• Hosts’ Take:

  • Communication is key—fight less, talk more.
  • Respect each other’s living styles but compromise is necessary.
  • Persistent neglect is a turn-off; splitting domestic responsibilities isn’t about gender but about respect.
  • Thoughtful gestures (like cleaning up) matter more than grand ones.

  Quote:

  “Happy wife, happy life—but both have to respect each other.” – Josh (40:16)
  “If you care for me that much, it’s so easy to just fling your calzoncillo into the hamper!” – Saul (48:08)
  “Cleanliness is godliness.” – Saul (45:37)

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6. The Power of Reassurance & Relationship Insecurity

• Listener Question: I’m insecure because my girlfriend used to prefer a different “type” of guy; now I compare myself to her past.

• Hosts’ Take:

  • At 21, insecurities are normal, but don’t let them define you.
  • Open up to your partner; ask for reassurance about what she likes about you specifically.
  • Never radically change yourself to fit an imagined “type.”
  • Statistically, most people won’t stay with their early 20s partners, so focus on growth and authenticity.
  • Reframing helps: instead of dwelling on what you’re not, focus on your strengths and how you connect to your partner.

  Quote:

  “Just don’t change who you are… you are her type, she’s with you now.” – Saul (62:19)
  “Statistically… you’re probably not going to be with that girl forever. Just being honest.” – Josh (62:25)
  “If you’re going to overthink what’s going wrong, make sure you overthink everything that’s right in your life.” – Saul (65:03)
  “Ask her what she likes about you. Focus on the good.” – Jessica (64:32)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments (with Timestamps)

• On sexualization and confidence:
  • “If men have oversexualized big boobs, that’s on us.” – Josh (08:33)
• On societal expectations:
  • “If a guy can date younger, why can’t a woman?” – Josh (18:07)
• On cleaning and domestic peace:
  • “My wife is type A, and I had to get used to that. If I’m done eating, I’m washing up—out of respect.” – Josh (41:02)
  • “Cleanliness is godliness.” – Saul (45:37)
• On emotional maturity:
  • “Guard your heart—not just for a couple years, for life.” – Josh (25:53)
• On reassurance:
  • “What are some things you like about me?” – Jessica (64:32)
  • “Focus on what you are and what you contribute.” – Jessica (64:47)
• On advice for young listeners:
  • “You’re 21—don’t stress too much, just enjoy your life right now and your partner.” – Josh (58:55)
  • “Don't change yourself. Don’t become your girlfriend’s ‘type’—be your best you.” – Josh (62:03)
• On statistics and reality:
  • “Sadly, statistically, you’re probably not going to be with that girl forever.” – Josh (62:24)

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Practical Relationship Exercises

(From Jessica, Couples Therapy Tips, 69:40)

• Regularly ask each other: “What are three things you like about me?”
• Share them on a date night to strengthen mutual appreciation.
• “Do that with your friends, too, or with anybody you value a relationship with.” – Jessica (70:27)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Sexy Dress and Partner’s Insecurity: 07:42–16:32
• Older Woman/Younger Man Dating: 16:38–20:37
• Cheating, Confrontation & Emotional Guard: 20:43–27:57
• Gender Roles & Same-Sex Couples: 27:57–35:00
• Chores, Living Together, Resentment: 39:51–48:45
• Healthcare, Work Boundaries & Social Media: 50:51–54:26
• Reassurance, Types, Relationship Anxiety: 56:45–68:49
• Couples Therapy Tips: 69:40–70:30

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Final Thoughts

This episode captures La Plática at its best: heartfelt, direct, sometimes irreverent, but always striving to encourage emotional growth, respect, and self-acceptance. Whether answering questions about jealousy, cleaning duties, or deep-seated insecurities, the hosts’ message is consistent—healthy relationships are built on honest conversation, mutual respect, and the courage to be your true self.
“Enjoy your life, focus on what’s good, talk honestly, and don’t try to fit anyone’s ‘type’ but your own.”

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Transcript

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[Josh Leyva]

So sorry I'm going to say this, but you're probably not going to be with that girl forever. As a man, like I said, be the protector. Just fucking do what your wife tells you to do. Okay?

[Saul]

We're going to go to this thing and it's like, basically it's like some of my guy friends are hanging out, right? And I want you to come because we're going to watch a game that you want to watch, too, but you're wearing like this shirt that, like your boobs are all out. Like, I know that's going to draw, like, attention and stuff because I'll be honest with you, I'm kind of the same way. And I think there is that machismo in me where like, I, I, bro, I love being a man. I, I get off on that. Yeah, like that, that fulfills me. When my girl tells me something like, very heartfelt, like, this means a lot to me, dude, she, you have my attention when she starts yelling at me and just to yell at me, you lose me.

[Josh Leyva]

You can't be mad at shit like this.

[Saul]

No, I don't think they should be fighting either.

[Josh Leyva]

No, there's no fighting. It's a conversation.

[Saul]

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[Josh Leyva]

No, I didn't. Kind of, yeah.

[Saul]

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[Josh Leyva]

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[Saul]

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[Josh Leyva]

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[Saul]

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[Josh Leyva]

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[Saul]

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[Josh Leyva]

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[Saul]

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[Josh Leyva]

The world is Cup. Vamos Mexico. Viva Mexico. That's right. I'm scared. We not as we should be.

[Saul]

We ready. We gonna be all right.

[Josh Leyva]

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[Saul]

We're going to all of them. But look, it can get a little pricey. Which is why we're gonna hook you all up. Look, use the code LA PLATICA10 at checkout for 10 off your ticketed purchase. And it doesn't just have to be the World cup and any live event you're looking for. Date night, sporting event, concert, pop open the SE gap, see what's cracking. Use the code LA10 say you some money. Get yourself something drink. Yeah, something eat.

[Josh Leyva]

Guys, I ain't going to lie. You guys got to go to at least one World cup if you can. It's there. It's. It's. It's a once in a once in a lifetime experience.

[Saul]

We won't be there.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, you know, we going to do some giveaways too, but we talk about that later. You see Geek go on date night. LA Kings. The. The Anaheim Mighty Ducks. Yeah. So we'll see you in, what, in 12.4?

[Saul]

Say, who knows?

[Josh Leyva]

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[Saul]

I'm gonna use it.

[Jessica]

Let me be honest.

[Josh Leyva]

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[Saul]

Do we want to go there?

[Josh Leyva]

Get jolly? Cuz I'm on a podcast with Josh Labor. Hell yeah. You have too. Ladies and.

[Saul]

No, man, let me just tell you. Yo, we good.

[Josh Leyva]

Yep.

[Jessica]

This is la Platica, episode 230.

[Josh Leyva]

Ooh, there's a slave.

[Saul]

30.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, man, let's go.

[Saul]

Let's.

[Josh Leyva]

Let's jump. Why don't we just jump right into it, My boy. I'm feeling good. You in the All Black, you remind me of a character. His name is Batman. And Batman is Bruce Wayne. You are Bruce Wayne. I'mma call you.

[Saul]

Come on, man.

[Josh Leyva]

Bruce Lame. Oh, you do got the Bruce Wayne.

[Saul]

You know what they call this one right here? They call this one the Bruce Wayne.

[Josh Leyva]

Hey, yo. Happy, happy Monday, everybody. Mondays don't suck. Welcome to La Platica. Thank you guys so much for all support the team. We're in a really good space right now. We all happy. The energies are up. Jessica doing her thing.

[Saul]

And she dressed super fresh too.

[Josh Leyva]

I know. I told her that. I told her that. Straight L. You looking good. Her.

[Jessica]

My last email had asked.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, bro, you look like your emails, bro. I was talking about s. He did an amazing, dramatic trailer the other day. I love that because it. The episode was dramatic.

[Saul]

It was.

[Josh Leyva]

And it was great. It was great. It was great. And if you guys don't know, I will let you guys know. But YouTube videos get ranked from 1 to 10, right?

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Like your own YouTube videos, like, on the back end. YouTube analytics tells you, like, yo, this video was ranked number one or number three out of like, I don't know, however many videos. You know, I think it's a seven day period. Yes. The past ten episodes. Something like that. And last episode we were ranked number one. So shout out to Saul because his editing was really good. So we good? Yo, we in the building today. I'm excited because we're gonna jump right into it and it's gonna be. But before we. Oh, yeah, you're right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Seeking. Thank you for sponsoring this video, broski.

[Saul]

Come on, man.

[Josh Leyva]

I appreciate you. And if you guys don't know, we already gave away tickets to Monster Jam on last week's episode. Who knows, next episode we might be giving away more stuff.

[Saul]

Yeah, guys, we asked you guys on La Platiga Instagram, which, if you're not following, hello, you don't have to. But what we did was ask you guys some, you know, am I the asshole perspective of a man? We're going back to our roots, baby. We love doing these kind of episodes. And we got some questions lined up that you guys submitted. Just pulled up. Yeah, some questions. A lot of these we're going to keep anonymous because it's Instagram. It's your guys's public profile. We're not. Not trying to do y' all like that. Say we're not. But we're here to do y' all like that. By helping y' all out. By doing y' all like that.

[Josh Leyva]

If anything, we can just put, like, captions or something, right?

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

So. So we can see the actual question. But yeah, let's let it rip, man.

[Saul]

Yo, let's let it rip.

[Josh Leyva]

Yo.

[Saul]

We did these in real life at the live show. And I'll never forget that. That. That time that happened, and that was kind of crazy. Have we ever talked about it on the podcast? Yeah, okay.

[Josh Leyva]

Okay, cool.

[Saul]

So we don't need to dive into that.

[Josh Leyva]

I think it was one of the ones where we, like, spoil the show.

[Saul]

Yeah. What's going on? Are we okay over here, Tim? We're falling apart. All right, what's happening.

[Josh Leyva]

Okay.

[Saul]

Episode 232.

[Josh Leyva]

32, 30, man. What's.

[Saul]

That's the dentist's favorite time to go to the dentist.

[Josh Leyva]

Isn't it crazy? Like, if you actually take a step back and look at yourself in third person like a fly on the wall, right? And you look into your life and you would have told yourself, like, when did we start? Episode 30, 40, 50, something like that.

[Saul]

30, bro.

[Josh Leyva]

And if you. And if you can go back into time and you can go to the future at the same time, and you ask yourself, damn, how do I look like on episode 30? And how am I gonna look like on episode 300?

[Saul]

Oh, can we start?

[Josh Leyva]

But we can't relate because we look damn good. I feel like we just keep getting. We. We looking better per episode. Per episode, my boy.

[Saul]

It's just. We just upgrading up in this.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, but let's get it started, man.

[Saul]

Official. Jess, are we ready to proceed?

[Jessica]

We are indeed. So this one. Shout out to the person that sent this one in.

[Saul]

Shout out to you.

[Jessica]

I. 26 years old. She was a woman. I like to dress sexy. My man, who's 27, tells me I need to tone it down.

[Josh Leyva]

Whoa.

[Jessica]

But when he met me, I dressed worse.

[Saul]

Whoa.

[Jessica]

Am I the asshole for wanting to wear what I want? I dress appropriate to the occasion, but I still want to be sexy. Mind you, I also have big boobs, and my chest is going to make any top look provocative whether I try to or not.

[Saul]

Isn't that so funny? I want to answer this question, but isn't it funny how, like, a girl. Two girls can wear the same outfit, but if one has bigger boobs, naturally it just looks more provocative. Naturally. It's just what it is. And I think it's just like, our minds have, like, we've just over sexualized big boobs. Is that what it is?

[Josh Leyva]

I don't know.

[Saul]

Why are you staring at me? Back me up.

[Josh Leyva]

No. Yeah, yeah, Right.

[Saul]

Jess, do you agree? Okay, that's not, like, inappropriate, right? It's true.

[Josh Leyva]

I would say especially men. No, I said especially men with huge tits. Over. I said especially men have over sexualized big boobs. Right, right, right, right, right, right, right. Because if you put. The guys are going to be going crazy. Crazy.

[Saul]

If there's somebody's fault, it's men's fault.

[Josh Leyva]

It's men's fault. It's always the guy's fault. Yeah, yeah.

[Saul]

Look, I am a huge advocate of, you know, really listening to your partner.

[Josh Leyva]

Right.

[Saul]

And being able to feel comfortable with, like, letting them know how you feel how they feel having that kind of conversation, but you also need to be yourself.

[Josh Leyva]

Right.

[Saul]

And if you are telling me that this is the way you feel comfortable dressing, you dress to the occasion. You're not dressing inappropriately when the time is inappropriate or appropriate. When. When it's appropriate to dress inappropriate. Yeah, when it's inappropriate to dress appropriate, I think you gotta, like, let them know, like, look, look, man. Like, this is. I. I feel comfortable. I understand how you feel, and I. I will consider your feelings. And if there's really something, a specific outfit that I'm wearing out that makes you feel uncomfortable, and I think we can, like, talk about it, but I don't know, this is like a. It's like a tough one.

[Josh Leyva]

Like. Yeah, she says she dresses for the occasion. So my next question, when I was reading that was okay, but are you, like, really dressing provocative? Maybe where it's like, it's getting too much attention, making the guy feel uncomfortable, which still shouldn't be a problem, but just kind of like, maybe the guy feels uncomfortable with all the attention.

[Saul]

Oh, so you're kind of siding with the guy here.

[Josh Leyva]

Not really. But she said she dresses for the occasion because there's some girls. Quesan. Right. Like, some girls wear super mini skirts and leva. You know what I mean?

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

So, like. But that's not the case because she said that she dresses for the occasion. But she's sexy. Dress is sexy.

[Saul]

She dresses appropriate to the occasion.

[Josh Leyva]

To the occasion.

[Saul]

So if she's going to, like, a rave, so to say, she might wear the bikini fish line outfit, but if she's going to a meeting, she gonna dress like Jess.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Which is fine.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

I think that if you're. First of all, if you're a woman who has the confidence to even be dressing like that girl. Clock it.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Do your thing.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Dress like that. Be sexy. Be who you. Be who you want to be. Dress the way that you want. I think if you're passing the limits, then maybe there's a conversation. But if you're already dressing just sexy, what's wrong with that? That's the only reason why. Why your guy fell and fell for you in the beginning, right?

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Because you're sexy.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

And now that he has you, he wants you to tone it down.

[Saul]

Yeah, for sure. I. I think though, like, since this is almost like a perspective of a man.

[Josh Leyva]

Right.

[Saul]

I will say we are well aware of how men operate and how their mind works and how their eyes wander and how certain outfits can draw more attention to the woman.

[Josh Leyva]

Right?

[Saul]

So this is where it kind of gets a little, like, tricky, right? Because like, if. If his. His intentions are good, like, hey, we're gonna go to this thing, and it's like, basically it's like a. Some of my guy friends are hanging out, Right. And I want you to come because we're gonna watch a game that you want to watch, too, but you're wearing, like, this shirt that, like, your boobs are all out. Like, I know that's gonna draw, like, attention and stuff, and it would make me feel more comfortable if you were just to put something a little bit different on. Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

How they respond to that is very telling, by the way.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

In my opinion, how they respond to that is very telling. You know what I mean? They start flipping out. Like, I. You just. How you met me. This is how I like to dress. It's because I have big boobs. It's like, whoa. Like, you're not. You're not.

[Josh Leyva]

Now you're just screaming for attention.

[Saul]

Yeah. Now you're just yelling. And I'm telling you how I feel. And I'm trying to be respectful with how I'm telling you this. And it would just mean a lot to me if you can just. If you would just change your out shirt.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

Right.

[Josh Leyva]

If it's for that occasion.

[Saul]

If it's very specific, but if it's, like, all the time and this fool's just telling her, like, no, you can't wear that, I don't like that. Blah, blah. That's insane.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. I am getting the feeling that he just doesn't like that when she's dressing sexy. I don't even think she's dressing that crazy provocative. I just think she dresses very sexy as a woman, and I think that's fine.

[Saul]

What are your thoughts, Jess?

[Jessica]

There's a fine line, right?

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Jessica]

Like, we. If her partner is trying to be controlling and telling her, like, not does not have, like, a valid reason more than just, like, I don't want you to.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Jessica]

Like, then that's kind of like, an issue, right?

[Saul]

Yes.

[Jessica]

And I. I'm sure, like, again, she dresses to the occasion appropriate. Like, she can't help the fact that she has big boobs. You know what I mean? So it doesn't matter if she wears a button down. If, like, there's like, an open button. Like, it's going to be like, whoa, like, what's going on there? Um, so I think, Yeah, I think that there's. It's just a conversation that she needs, that they need to have like her.

[Saul]

She'S got to be willing to listen to her partner's reasoning.

[Jessica]

Yeah.

[Saul]

Like why is it that this outfit is making you feel uncomfortable? I want to, I want to know.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Jessica]

But also her partner has to understand that this is the person he fell in love with.

[Josh Leyva]

And like that's what I'm saying. That's what you liked in the beginning, I bet, I bet anything you like those. You're big chichis. Whoa. Right, Right. But now it's like cover them up.

[Saul]

Y, yeah, no, you're right.

[Josh Leyva]

You know what I mean? But if it is where like it's very provocative and it's only your guy friends around. Yeah. There's, there's a fine line. But is she saying, but she also said she can't hide her chichis. Yeah, yeah, no, but she's saying she dresses for the occasion. She basically said like I'm not like dressing crazy slutty. She's just a sexy individual. Sofia Vergara, always dressing sexy. That guy must have a problem with her.

[Saul]

That's true.

[Josh Leyva]

I, I like you. I, I, I, I think if, if women, there's so many women out there that don't even have the web to be dressing like that. And if you do, I, I applaud you. That's amazing.

[Jessica]

One more thing. Just because she dresses sexy and she is a sexy woman doesn't mean that she is seeking attention or validation who she is. And she is confident.

[Josh Leyva]

Amen.

[Jessica]

Feels good in despite what anybody else is going to think.

[Josh Leyva]

Cuz the guy is like, don't dress like that cuz you make me feel some type of way. Instead he should be like, yo, I like that you dress like that because I can tell a lot by your confidence and good for you.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Jessica]

So is he insecure?

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, yeah. I, I believe, I believe he is not.

[Saul]

I don't want to go as far as calling, but to a degree.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, yeah.

[Saul]

He's showing glimpses of it.

[Josh Leyva]

His perspective is off. Cuz he can be like, oh yeah, that's my girlfriend.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Or he can like have more girl. That's my girlfriend, bro. If my girl is super sexy and everyone's looking at her and even to the fact that I want that, that's a compliment. And isn't it like, like, I know, I know, I know. The reasoning behind why my wife or anyone's girlfriend is dressing like that is because they're confident. It's not like they're the, they're, they're like Jess said they're seeking Attention from another man.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

They, they want to be that strong, sexy, confident woman. And I applaud that.

[Saul]

Here's my rule. I want my girl to look good and confident all the time.

[Josh Leyva]

Exactly.

[Saul]

And if she's happy, I'm happy.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

And if she's confident, I'm confident.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

You know what I mean?

[Josh Leyva]

Like if we rocking around, that's a different story. I just don't think it's this story.

[Saul]

You know, I'm mad at that either though.

[Josh Leyva]

I'm, I'm mad at that either. But now I can see. Or maybe some guys can be. And then I'll be like outside with you.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

You know what I mean? But I don't think that's the case. I think she's just a very strong, confident woman.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

With chichis. And now they're problems. Right.

[Saul]

Two big problems.

[Josh Leyva]

Two big problems. Yes. Yeah. No, you are not the stamp of approval.

[Saul]

Not an. Not today, sweetheart.

[Josh Leyva]

Not today, sweetheart.

[Jessica]

This next one. Should an older woman dating a younger man feel embarrassed to be seen in public today together? Mind you, there's a 10 year age gap.

[Saul]

Should an older woman dating a younger man.

[Josh Leyva]

Ooh. Nah, I, I don't embarrass. I don't think so. I don't think so. Cuz it's the same thing with guys. Yeah. Like a lot of people have this perspective of now. I don't know, some intentions might be different, but there's a lot of guys who date younger girls and a lot of people look at it sometimes as a way. It's like kind of creepy, whoopty wop. Like why can't you find somebody your age?

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Honestly, if there's a 60 year old man or a 50 year old man and he's with a 30 year old. What are you thinking inside your head? Me personally, props to you bro. For you to be like, like.

[Saul]

Are you questioning the girl's intention though?

[Josh Leyva]

Sometimes. Yeah, but like your automatic dog doesn't.

[Saul]

Go, oh, they're so in love naturally. You can't think like there's no way, you know?

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, correct. Yeah, but why the did I do it doesn't matter.

[Saul]

No, it doesn't.

[Josh Leyva]

To me. It's like that, that guy has a very beautiful young lady. Beautiful or not. And he's doing this thing.

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

You know, so why can't it be the same thing? Flipped around with a woman. It's the same thing. Yo, that lady has a, a 30 year old guy. Blah blah, she's 50, 60 or whatever. The 10, 10 age at a certain degree.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

It's not even. That's nothing like if it was like 20, 30 year old and then a 20 year old or like, like a, like hold on, 35 is 25. 18 to 28 maybe. But once you start hitting the 30s and the 40s, 10 years, what the is the difference? Yeah, honestly, that's kind of true. Other than tighter skin.

[Saul]

Yeah. Yeah. I will say though, like the truth is women mature faster than men.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

So if like a 22 year old man is dating like a 35 year old, they're going to be a little off. I think so.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Yeah. But sometimes I think sometimes that's fine. It works. I personally think sometimes guys or I believe it's. It can be the other way around, but I' ma just speak with for a guy. I think sometimes guys like the, the woman to be a little bit like less knowledgeable of life, I guess, and him be the one because it's almost like he can orchestrate the relationship a lot better.

[Saul]

Sure.

[Josh Leyva]

You know what I mean? And maybe to him that's a lot easier.

[Saul]

Yeah, I agree.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Can't relate. My girl's older than me, I can't relate.

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I see what you're saying.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. But I think like, I don't know, I wish I knew their age. But 10 years, I don't think there's a big difference. Like when it, when you start hitting a certain time in your life.

[Saul]

And then also bro, if you are doing something that makes you happy and fulfills you, you should never be embarrassed about that.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

Never be. If there's nothing wrong with it. Obviously if it's not illegal. There's all like they're all consent above age. Whatever it is, you should never be embarrassed about it. You're happy, you know.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, no, it's. You're probably still dating a grown ass adult.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

You know what I mean? Like it's different when they're like in their early 20s because honestly, like me looking back now, it's like early 20s, bro, you're still a kid, man. For sure. Honestly. And I used to think once I'm 18, I'm an adult. No, you're a baby.

[Saul]

Baby.

[Josh Leyva]

Like you just graduated high school, Broski.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Like bro, I've known like it was our friend's birthday the other day and I was, I was on the phone with them, I was like, holy, I've known you for 20 years, dude.

[Saul]

Wow. Since high school.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. So like just goes to Show Like a 18 year old, you're nothing but a kid, you know. Some of you.

[Saul]

Most.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah now. But props to her, honestly. And guess what? If that's your fantasy, do it.

[Saul]

Live it out, baby.

[Josh Leyva]

You only have one life.

[Saul]

Let me get a piece.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

Broski.

[Jessica]

Alrighty, this next one. My ex partner of 10 months never made it official and I found out he was cheating on me the whole time with his baby mama. Playing two sides in his life. I decided to walk away but he still won't let me go. He still calls and reaches out to me and gets mad at me because he can't control me anymore. Am I the asshole for confronting him and his baby mama and telling her the truth after everything he's done done to me?

[Saul]

Absolutely not. Absolutely not.

[Josh Leyva]

No, you're not an. It's. It's pretty messy.

[Saul]

First of all, he deceived you. He wasn't honest with you.

[Josh Leyva]

He wasn't. And there was probably like a lot of lovey dovey talking between all of that stuff. Cuz that's what guys like to do, you know, because that's why she stuck around for 10 months. Because in. Along the road in that 10 month relationship there's. Oh my God, I can't wait to be with you. I can't wait for us to settle down, you know. You know, speaking all the, you know all the sweet things. But that's why he never asked you out because in the back of his head he knew that he still had his baby mama, they still had a thing and he didn't want to make things rocky. So he was like I'm just not going to be with you yet. But I. He probably does like you. He let her on but he did lead you on. And honestly, no, you're not an for. For. For thinking this but I. And this goes for anyone back at home. It's still. I might get for this but it lowkey kind of still is like your pedal too. Like it's not. I don't want to say it's your fault but like you said it yourself, you're not with him, you're dating. But like you need to know more about your partner.

[Saul]

Yeah but here's the thing. The words that she used, she said I found out he's cheating on me.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, that's not good.

[Saul]

So she perceived it as like sure, he didn't make it official, but he was treating me like I was his girlfriend.

[Josh Leyva]

I take that back.

[Saul]

You know what I mean? So like he led me on and maybe she had this false hope and expectations that like eventually he was going to make it official, but in the meantime, she's led in that role. I mean, 10 months, bro, of dating somebody is a long time, but it's.

[Josh Leyva]

Still like, not really.

[Saul]

But not really.

[Josh Leyva]

You don't know anybody.

[Saul]

Right. At 10, like, if you want your time. But we're getting to that territory as well where it's like, okay, are you gonna make this official?

[Josh Leyva]

You're kicking it every day for 10 months. Like, that's. You get to know somebody. Right. But like, you truly don't know who that person is yet.

[Saul]

Yeah. What's the time that you think?

[Josh Leyva]

Three years.

[Saul]

Really? That you get to see people's.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Because for a good year or two.

[Saul]

Why do you. Why do you guys make that face?

[Jessica]

I don't know. Soul's freaking out.

[Josh Leyva]

Like, you can ask her out after like three years. Is that what you mean? No, no, Genuinely, Truly, you genuinely. If. If you have the privilege knowing somebody for that long and you like them, remember it's a privilege. You will tr. I. I believe that you will somewhat truly understand who this person is, because I truly believe. And this happens in most cases in relationships. Either or side creates a front. And normally it's the guy, the guy is creating this, yes, I can do this. Yes, I can do this. And I can treat you right. I can take care of you. But when hits the fan, can you really? Or where you all talk just so I can be with you. Right. So you know, and trust me, I'm. I'm on your guys' side, guys. But that's the reality of it. And guys like to hype up game hard so they can keep the girl. Right. Because let's be real, guys are the ones who chase most of the time. So I don't think that first year is his. Him. His true self, you know, until either a, he gets with you and he truly really likes you, then he'll start showing himself a lot better. And don't get me wrong, there's so many cases where you get with a guy or you get with a girl and they're genuinely, genuinely themselves. And that is amazing. But a lot of times there's a big front and it might not be bad, but there is a front.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

And it's like, I also think, bro, you're a cool guy. Yeah.

[Saul]

To play devil's advocate, I think it's also like a protection barrier because you.

[Josh Leyva]

Don'T know that person.

[Saul]

So you can't just give somebody your all. So you got to kind of let them in little by little. And that takes time. So it's not so much of like a front that people put up all the time. I mean there's people that do, but like myself, I just like you. There's like even a scripture in the Bible that says like guard your heart, right? Like, you got to like protect yourself because people, you, you gotta see people's true intention. And like I said, yeah, time.

[Josh Leyva]

But it's crazy, isn't it crazy how.

[Saul]

Like now this guy, this guy, he was not trying to like. His intention was to like play both.

[Josh Leyva]

Fields, you know, he wanted to be, he wanted to be a player.

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And he got exposed. And look, the truth is I think if he's really harassing you and bothering you and not letting you be, I think you confronting the baby mama and telling her the truth, like, I think she needs to know that, you know what I mean? And you gotta, you know, and then you just gotta move on. And if it gets to the point, I don't, I don't know how dramatic it is, but like if he's not leaving you alone, then you, you can take some serious measures.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

You know?

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

I don't know how serious it is, but you, you get me.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. I am a true believer regarding your heart. And not just for a couple years. For life. For life. Right. But isn't it crazy how like guarding your heart and like having that protection and that shield over you for like a year or two kind of, it's kind of like a double edged sword because it's like, it's good that you're doing that, but at the same time it's like you're not allowing yourself to be fully yourself to that part, to that person either.

[Saul]

And that's okay.

[Josh Leyva]

And that is okay to. Yeah, but that's why, that's why takes a while. That's why. Because you are being protective. So for those year or two where you're guarding your heart, you're being protective, you have your guard up. That's time that not being wasted. But when you finally let go, that's when you start to get really. That's when you start to really get to know somebody. You know what I mean? Which is great. You shouldn't know somebody completely in six months.

[Saul]

You know, there's a stat that I remember hearing a long time ago that girls actually take longer to fall in love than guys do. Like, go girls. Guys fall faster. Like, you know, I don't know how they did that study, but it's like by a lot too. It's like, let's just say a girl, a guy falls in love in like a hundred days for like, you can look this up, Jesse. And it's like maybe like 200 days for girls, you know? And I think that's why girls kind of feel more heartache because they take longer.

[Josh Leyva]

Right.

[Saul]

They're protecting themselves and then they fall and the guys it up. So it's like, damn, like I worked so hard to. To get to this point.

[Josh Leyva]

Well, that makes sense, bro. Because naturally I feel like women. Is this true?

[Saul]

Was that right? Because sometimes I just be saying shit.

[Jessica]

It's not on TikTok. No. According to research for, from the Australian National University study, it suggests that men tend to fall in love faster than women, often reporting falling in love about a month sooner.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Jessica]

But women tend to experience deeper emotional intensity and commitment once love develops.

[Saul]

So they're, they're more. They tend to protect themselves a little bit more. But once they're in. They're all in, man.

[Josh Leyva]

Women are amazing, man, bro. Right?

[Saul]

Like, that's crazy.

[Josh Leyva]

There are different species in men for sure.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

But it's they, they should have that implanted in the, in their head because they need to be. Someone needs to protect them at all, at all times, you know? And I feel like the guys being. And like it's not even like nothing like, like men versus women type. I truly believe that women need to be protected by men. Like, like what? What is it? Like, like scientific? No, like, like scientifically we need to protect you. You know what I mean? And I feel like that's why women like should take a while to like let go and like, let us protect you. And we are, we are born. We are born like. And I think that's why it's easier for us to just fall in love because it's like we immediately like, yeah, I'll protect it.

[Saul]

We want to protect.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, yeah. No, I mean it's funny, but like it's kind of true.

[Saul]

No, I agree. I agree.

[Josh Leyva]

Right?

[Saul]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Do you believe if you have a son later in life, that is the protector of the daughter, that is a protector of the mom, that is a protector of his future wife, girlfriend. You protect the family, Right?

[Jessica]

So Steph, what about like in same sex couples?

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, yeah. This is a great question.

[Saul]

Whoever's wearing the sports coat.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, I have great question. I don't know.

[Saul]

You don't?

[Josh Leyva]

But no. But from experience, from every same sex couple that I've met, there's always one that is more dominant than the other. Always. That's just me. Like, I know a gay couple and one is. They're both flamboyant, but I know which one's the one that's like, I hate saying this, but like the man of the house.

[Saul]

Okay.

[Josh Leyva]

Right. And I can say that because do you know who the man in the house is in my house? Not me. No. But I don't know. I. If, if, if there's, if there's a world where they're both equal. Yeah, I guess that's a conversation that you guys would have to have. But. Or, or it's a, it's a joint thing. You know what I mean? I, I don't, I don't know. But from experience right now, there's always a more dominant partner in a same sex relationship. And, but that doesn't mean that they're the one that should be, I guess, taking care of the household or like being the protector, I guess. I don't know. It's a really good question.

[Saul]

I'm gonna be straight up with you. I don't even know how to answer that, like, really honestly thinking about it without just saying like a. Just to say, I would think that we have this, like, we're just in tune with who we are as people. And if you feel like you are a protector, you're going to step into that role no matter what your gender is.

[Josh Leyva]

Right.

[Saul]

Like, I feel the role of protector because that's just. It's innate in me. And I'm assuming that in a relationship, maybe somebody does feel that and tends to step up more or maybe one partner feels it more than the other and that's the person that steps up to the plate more often than not.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, I, I love that. For example, I know a lot of same sex couples, but one is very like. For example, I know like a lesbian. A couple. One is super girly, likes chicks, and the other one is super. I don't like to say masculine to a lesbian, but one is more. Sure. I'll say it. Dresses like a guy. Yeah, yeah.

[Saul]

That's what it's called. It's called.

[Jessica]

Yeah. They're called masks.

[Saul]

They're called masks.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Oh, I didn't know that.

[Saul]

Yeah. So it's. What you're saying is. I say it's fine.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Okay. I just like to be careful with my words.

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

But one is more femme. One is femme and one is super masculine.

[Saul]

But is. But that's not always the case.

[Jessica]

Correct.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Right.

[Jessica]

You could have femme. Femme couples.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, like, yeah, femme fan couples. Femme Mask couples. But it's normally femme mask. I would say it's sometimes rare because, yeah, I see more femme mask than femme. Femme. But I have seen femme, femme.

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

I don't know. Do you.

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[Josh Leyva]

What do you guys think?

[Saul]

Are you public about where you like your relationship? Just.

[Jessica]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Right.

[Jessica]

You know, I. I don't hide it.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

There.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Jessica]

Um, yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

So what do you know?

[Saul]

I'm asking. So we can, like. Can we ask you, like, if you feel comfortable talking about it?

[Jessica]

Yeah, I hope so. It. Honestly, it comes down, right? It comes down to each relationship is different. Yeah. Each dynamic is different. So sometimes, like, and. And sometimes just because one person might be a little bit more like, okay, like, let me take over. Let me be a little bit more dominant. Sometimes it can swing the other way too. And like, you, you know, like, there's like a balance, but ultimately it just comes down to individuals and, you know, how they discuss, like, what role works for them. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And it's not permanent, right?

[Josh Leyva]

Like, yeah.

[Jessica]

Even personally, I think sexuality is like a spectrum too. Like, some, you know, just because you like me as a bisexual woman, like, I am in a relationship with a woman, but, you know, the. The I'm still. Just because I'm in a relationship with a woman doesn't make me, like, a lesbian. Like, I'm still a bisexual woman. You know? You know what I mean? And same, like, let's say, hypothetically speaking, we were to break up and I end up with a man in my next relationship. Like, I'm still a bisexual woman. Just because I'm with a man doesn't mean that I'm a heterosexual one.

[Saul]

Wow.

[Jessica]

I'm in a heterosexual relationship. But that, like, it's still very much like, the spectrum is still there. And it's something that I still am regardless of, like, what my relationship looks like.

[Saul]

To use that as an example. Or would you. Do you have the expectation that if you were. This is all hypothetical, that if you were to jump into a relationship with a man, that he would be the protector? Is there an expectation of that?

[Josh Leyva]

Great question.

[Jessica]

To an extent, maybe. But, you know, sometimes I like to take charge too and be like, do this, do that. Like, what I mean, like, again, it just ultimately comes down to the dynamic that works with each individual person. And we can speak. Speak, like, in general, broad statements about it. But ultimately, like, that doesn't apply to everybody, you know?

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

I think that. I think the number one thing that women are attracted to is a hetero.

[Saul]

Women.

[Josh Leyva]

Hetero women. Sorry. Hetero women are attracted to manly men who know that they can take that my man is, is a protector.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

And can protect me. And I am 100 confident that he can. I think they, I think that's one of their number one traits that, that they love. I don't see why they wouldn't. But I, if I was Jess and I got with another man, I personally as a woman, I would want to be with the guy that would protect me in that form. And I know that there's still like, like, oh, obviously protector and provider.

[Saul]

They're two different things.

[Josh Leyva]

Are you just. Are you saying both More, more. More protection, not provider. That's a whole different other story.

[Saul]

Okay.

[Josh Leyva]

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[Jessica]

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[Josh Leyva]

How can I explain this? Almost kind of like a. Like she's always going to want to have her two cents in things as well. Yeah, right. Just like. And I love that. I love women who, who are like that, you know, I don't. Women who are like, yeah, I'll just go with the flow. Whatever. Whatever my man wants. That's cool too. But I love women that are strong like that. So I think. Yes, but I, I think what just said like a whole, like if I do ever get with a man, I would want my man to protect me, you know.

[Jessica]

But also there. I do know straight couples that the dynamic is the opposite.

[Josh Leyva]

Right.

[Jessica]

I was going to ask about women.

[Saul]

That was my next.

[Jessica]

A really, really strong woman. And the man is just kind of. Not that he's like a yes man or anything like that, but he fulfills a different role than the protector. Right. Sometimes the woman is a provider. Sometimes she's the head of the household. Sometimes she's the one that kind of calls the shots. And a man who is going to be a supportive partner for her doesn't make him any less of a man to not be the protector, to not be that person. Like a stay at home dad. Right. Like those exist as well. And you know, he could be a protector in a different way.

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah.

[Jessica]

It doesn't, it doesn't, it's not always like black and white.

[Saul]

It doesn't look the same. It's not, it's not. Yeah. It just depends on the dynamic of the relationship and then like how you want to be in that relationship. Like, you know how you, you see yourself in a relationship.

[Josh Leyva]

Of course, of course. Dynamic. The. Every relationship is different. Right. I'm teaching my son to be a protector.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

He can, he can take that and do whatever he wants with it. But I truly believe that the men protect. And that's not. I, I don't sound macho saying that, right?

[Saul]

Yes.

[Josh Leyva]

I don't want to sound macho.

[Saul]

You do, but that is your but I perspective, bro. That's how you conduct yourself. Cuz I'll be honest with you. I'm kind of the same way. And I think there is that mato in me where like I, I, bro, I love being a man and I love this role of my. How I've been curated of what a man looks like. Right. Protector, provider, strong leader, commander. Like, I, I get off on that.

[Josh Leyva]

Yes.

[Saul]

Like that, that fulfills me.

[Josh Leyva]

Right. I get off on you doing that. Yes, I do. And look, if someone's going to disagree with it, that's fine.

[Saul]

Yes.

[Josh Leyva]

But eight out of ten women.

[Saul]

Yes, but I don't even do it for the women.

[Josh Leyva]

I know you don't.

[Saul]

That's just who I am.

[Josh Leyva]

I know you don't. Yeah, yeah, I know. That's who you are.

[Saul]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

And that's dope. I'm. I'm sure your partner loves that too.

[Saul]

Right? But my partner does.

[Josh Leyva]

Yes.

[Saul]

My partner. Because it's very specific. Because not. I might not attract all women. Somebody. Some women might see that and be like, ill that I'm not.

[Josh Leyva]

I doubt it.

[Saul]

This man. I don't do that. There's very rare case. Like. But there are people, right?

[Josh Leyva]

Sure. And very, and there's a lot, Very rare.

[Saul]

And there's a lot that don't.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like I said, I, I am open to anything.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Anything.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Trust me, my whole life has been open to anything. I grew up with a transgender sister that I love to death. I am the most open man. I am gay. When I want to Be straight when I want to be. Yeah, right.

[Saul]

It's a catchy song.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

When I want to be straight When.

[Josh Leyva]

I want to be I will when, if, if, if if God willingly I have a. A son I will I would not teach him to be. I hate machis. Machista people. Ma. The art of ma. I hate that. I don't like that. I am not like that. I. I hope I don't come across as that, cuz I am not. And you know that I'm not.

[Saul]

Right?

[Josh Leyva]

My. My wife knows that I'm not. I wasn't taught that way, but I know people who are. And I will never teach my son to be like that, but I will teach them that. To protect.

[Saul]

I like that. Get on to the next.

[Josh Leyva]

And if he doesn't want to, okay, that's fine. I'm open to that too. But I will teach that. And I hope that he can take that because I. I do feel like it's very important for a man to be like that. Yeah, I feel like it's very important for a man to be a man.

[Jessica]

Okay. Am I the for picking a fight every day because my husband can't pick up after himself? Speaking of men being men.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Yeah, for sure. Guys.

[Saul]

Man.

[Josh Leyva]

Different species. Hold on. I live with somebody for a very long time. My wife. Okay.

[Saul]

My wife.

[Josh Leyva]

Okay. Happy life.

[Saul]

Happy wife.

[Josh Leyva]

Happy wife.

[Saul]

Happy wife.

[Josh Leyva]

Happy wife, Happy life. It's both. Is it? Yes, it is. And they both make sense.

[Saul]

Trust me. I've thought about this in the.

[Josh Leyva]

Trust me, son, as a man, like I said, be the protector. Just do what your wife tells you to do. Okay. No, this is just me. But you know there's two people living under a roof, right? One person. I don't care how much you love them, and I don't care how much they love you. You guys are different people. My wife, whenever I'm done eating normally. And it's. I'm not saying that my wife is a drill sergeant. She's not. She is a very type A. And I wish I was like her. She is very clean. And I had to get used to that.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

You know, I had to get used to if. If I'm having breakfast and that I just saw trauma.

[Saul]

And that is bro. During that pause, you're like, I had to get used to it. I just saw your whole life flash before you very rewind that he was.

[Josh Leyva]

Like, You know, I had to get used to.

[Saul]

If.

[Josh Leyva]

If I'm having breakfast and that I just saw trauma.

[Saul]

And that is bro. During that pause. You're like, I had to get used to it. I just saw your whole. Yeah. Life flash.

[Josh Leyva]

Rewind that, don't rewind that. So if I'm having breakfast, if I live by myself or I live with maybe roommates, sure. That bowl of cereal or whatever, I will leave it all day in the sink and then I'll get to it at night. Normally that wouldn't happen, but I would get to it at night. Right. Now that I live with my wife, I respect how clean she is. And immediately when I'm done, eight, nine out of ten times, I'm washing it immediately. Right. So I, I respect. Remember, you're living with somebody else. You have to respect their living situation, but they have to respect you too. Now, I'm not saying that if you're a marano. If you're a Marano, that's a different story. But if you're just a regular guy who just. Sorry. You don't wash your dish immediately after, I think that's okay. I also think that the, the, the. The. The girl, or if it's guy and guy, girl, girl, or whoever has the issue, you also need to, like, wind back and be like, yo, like, just because I like it clean immediately doesn't mean that I gotta force him or her to do it immediately too. But I think things will sway a lot better if you guys just both agree on one thing, which I lose all the time.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

So it's whatever my wife says. So I don't think it should be a fight, though.

[Saul]

It's gonna be a fight.

[Josh Leyva]

Like, no, there's no reason.

[Saul]

It's an aggressive word.

[Josh Leyva]

There's no reason, especially if you love your partner, to be fighting about like this. Because fights, if they're real fights, fights last all day. You are wasting 24 to 12 hours for the whole day to be mad at somebody that you love. You don't know what's going to happen to that person tomorrow. Imagine something happens to that person the next day. Your partner and you just got mad at him because he just didn't want to wash the dishes anymore.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

You can't be mad at. Like this.

[Saul]

No, I don't think they should be fighting either.

[Josh Leyva]

No, there's no fighting. It's a conversation.

[Saul]

Did you just call her an?

[Josh Leyva]

No, I didn't. Kind of.

[Saul]

You did?

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. I don't think you should fight. Wait, if we're picking up a fight. Yeah, that's. Don't pick. Don't do fights. You know why? Because there was a, A, A woman said this Goes, oh, you're mad that your husband doesn't do dishes. And she said the whole spiel again. It's a. That was a famous tik tok or, or real. I forgot what it was. Maybe I'll find said something like, oh, you're so mad because your husband. No. From the floor and put. And. And hung it back on the bathroom. Blah blah. And this is what's getting you mad. And something can happen to your husband tomorrow. And then what if you're so worked yourself and move on with your life? It's that easy.

[Jessica]

Sure. But you know, and my girl's defense over here, you, you do it, you start doing it for them, they're never going to do it for themselves.

[Josh Leyva]

That is very true.

[Jessica]

It's not fair for one person to be constantly picking up the slack for the other. You know what I mean?

[Josh Leyva]

Like.

[Jessica]

Like she's not your mother to be picking up after you either. Not that your mom should have to do it either. Like you're a grown ass man.

[Josh Leyva]

If it's to that degree where they're doing it all the time. Yeah, that's a problem because nobody should be picking up people's all the time.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

But if they're, but if they're. They try and you know that they're genuine about their, their, their cleanliness and they're not trying to irritate you and they forgot to do a dish that one time or even twice. Don't even say anything. Just I. There's so many times where my wife leaves dishes. Sometimes I do it for her. I don't even say anything. I just did it. And that's your life. And that's a rarity.

[Saul]

She just got caught up in life.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, she just got caught up in life. I did. I never mentioned it. That's it. But if someone is starting to pick up after yourself, you're not a little kid anymore and that's a huge turn off. And that's. And that's why we get fights. Yeah, that, that's an issue.

[Saul]

Yeah, I agree totally.

[Josh Leyva]

Again, for sure. But yeah, I don't. You shouldn't be making it a big deal unless it starts to become a big deal where it's like, you know, because everybody works, everyone's busy, everyone's doing the last thing that you want. And bro, people take their homes as temples as they should be.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

And if your temple is not the way that you want it, bro, that's.

[Saul]

A huge problem for your own life as well. For sure. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I agree. That's what we're talking about earlier. Cleanliness is godliness. You know, it goes a long way to say clean.

[Jessica]

And nothing is, like, clearly this is something that's very important to this person. I'm sure she can agree with the fact that, like, nothing is sexy than coming home to, like, a clean space, somebody putting in some effort, knowing that it's so important to you. Like, it's not about, like, I need you to do this. It's just like, bro, this is important to me and I need your help. Like, do you care about me enough to do it to take action? Like, is that, like, you know what I mean?

[Josh Leyva]

And.

[Jessica]

And nothing. Like, her mood is going to completely turn around if he puts in a little, like, 10 to climb, pick up, clean up, like, whatever that looks like. But if she's dealing with a daily.

[Saul]

Bro, the way you just said it, Jess, I'm a sucker for that. Like, when my girl tells me something like, very heartfelt, like, this means a lot to me, dude, she. You have my attention when she starts yelling at me. And just to yell at me, you lose me. And I think that's just human behavior. Right. I want to feel your heart. I want to feel the sincerity of, like, what you're saying to me.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. You know, the other day, Karen texted me and she said something really sweet, and she always. She's such a sweetheart. But she said something to me that just made me feel safe and comfortable. Right. And I thanked her. I was like, thank you for saying that because it makes me feel good. It makes me feel like I'm doing something in my life and I am protecting you in some way. Like, And I'm protecting you.

[Saul]

We get it, too. You're a protector.

[Josh Leyva]

God, no. But it made me feel like I was doing my job as a. As a husband.

[Saul]

That's good.

[Josh Leyva]

Does that make sense?

[Saul]

That reassurance?

[Josh Leyva]

It was. And like I said, it's the little things. And guys, if you're watching this back home, do the little things for your girl or for your wife, because those little things mean a lot of things. So it's the little things that count. Sometimes, for the most part, women don't want these huge, big surprises. Or. Or they're not. They don't even ask for anything. It's the little things. And I just found a keyword here. It says, for picking a. Am I the. For picking a fight? Every day. Every day this fool leaves around the house and she has to pick it up. So it is a problem. Yeah. Okay. He's the so, yeah, so that's the. And I don't care. Don't be. That guy says, well, I'm getting back from work, you know, Like, I don't need to be doing that. I'm the one that's paying for the bills. Shut the up.

[Saul]

That's my chismo. Yes, that's it right there.

[Josh Leyva]

And that's an excuse. That. That's.

[Saul]

That's where.

[Josh Leyva]

Don't do that. That's such a turn off when people say that. You know what I mean? Because, like, like just said, if you care for me that much, it's so easy instead of flinging your calcuttine that way to just roll it up and fling it inside the.

[Saul]

The bin.

[Josh Leyva]

What do the gringos call it? A hamper.

[Saul]

Oh, a hamper. Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Where's the hamper?

[Saul]

You got a hamper in this house?

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Nice hamper, bro.

[Saul]

This is the kind of hamper.

[Josh Leyva]

See, babe?

[Saul]

See this hamper?

[Josh Leyva]

That's what I like doing when people invite me to their house. I go in their bathroom and I come right outside. Hey, bro, nice hamper, bro.

[Saul]

A hamper is very telling.

[Josh Leyva]

Nice hamper.

[Saul]

A hamper says a lot, right? Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Because either you can, like, really splurge on, like a William Sonoma or, like, pottery.

[Saul]

Okay, first of all.

[Josh Leyva]

Or like me just, like, look for one on Amazon. That's me, bro.

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

I get one on Amazon. They're just for dirty clothes.

[Saul]

Yeah, yeah, but it.

[Josh Leyva]

You, you get.

[Saul]

Some people don't have hampers. Some people just put their clothes in a specific corner.

[Josh Leyva]

It tells. It tells a lot about it.

[Saul]

Is that what you do?

[Josh Leyva]

It tells a lot? I do. It tells a lot about an individual who, like, buys certain. Is that an appliance?

[Saul]

Yeah. Isn't it?

[Josh Leyva]

I don't know. It doesn't matter.

[Saul]

House, utility.

[Josh Leyva]

Sure. But it's. It's so telling when they actually go out their way and get a really nice one. You know what I mean? It's like they really care about their temple.

[Saul]

No, look, I have a solid black one that I got on Amazon. It's a big one because I'm a big guy. My clothes is big. And it has two little dividers. One for my dry cleaning and one for my clothes.

[Josh Leyva]

Me too. Me too.

[Saul]

And that's what I use.

[Josh Leyva]

Me too.

[Saul]

And I love using it.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, me too. I got one on Amazon, my hamper. It's two.

[Saul]

Are you going to repeat exactly?

[Josh Leyva]

It's for my. One is for my dirty clothes that I cat. Like this. Like, I'll Put that in that side.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

And the other side is all my cycling shit.

[Saul]

Oh, interesting.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Okay. Why is that interesting?

[Saul]

Because you cycle. This is interesting to me. I'm an athlete.

[Josh Leyva]

Okay.

[Saul]

No, that makes sense. No, the reason I say that's interesting, because maybe I need a 3A bin.

[Josh Leyva]

So you do regular clothes and then what's the other one?

[Saul]

Dry cleaning my nicer shirts. Stuff that I want to get dry cleaned. I'm a Dragon guy. What, the dry cleaning? No, like, for example, like this. Are you gonna wash this? This is Zara, dude. No, but I'm going to dry clean this, right? Yeah, like.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Saul]

Like a nice jacket. I'm going to dry clean.

[Josh Leyva]

I would dry clean that because it has the metal. Yes, bro.

[Saul]

That's what I'm saying.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

I'm not going to wash this. It's like a firefighter jacket, but no.

[Josh Leyva]

Is that the keyword that sold you on it? Nice. I think we're ready for the next one.

[Jessica]

I work in healthcare. Salud.

[Saul]

Come on, baby.

[Jessica]

But I escalated up the chain. Nurse assistant to lead to supervisor. Am I the asshole to delete my now employees off of social media? One of my friends said yes because they don't know boundaries. And it gets messy.

[Josh Leyva]

Okay.

[Jessica]

In fact, once I wrote up one of my friends due to policy, and she awkwardly brings it up in a lot of conversations.

[Josh Leyva]

Weird.

[Saul]

So now that she is higher in the food chain, if you will, right? She's saying like, maybe she wants professional, you know? Yeah, different tier. Like, you know how she's. She's now like essentially some of their bosses to keep that she.

[Josh Leyva]

To.

[Saul]

Should she unfollow? I don't think she needs to unfollow them, but I think if she is compelled to or something awkward comes up.

[Josh Leyva]

Like that, bro, it seems like you a grown ass woman, when you're a grown ass woman and you want to do something that you feel personally, that is mature in your workspace to do, do it. I wouldn't give a rat's ass about your feelings. I'm on top of the food chain now, baby. I'm looking down at you. I eat you. Yeah, no, if. You know that's all funny. But if you want to do that to keep things like a safe space. Professional, professional, bro. All for you. And honestly, if I got deleted, I'd want to get. If I got unfollowed, I'd want. I'd do anything to get followed back, bro. Like, yo, what did I do? You know, I almost give. I almost have more Respect for her. Like, whoa, yeah, that's pretty gangster. You did that. Why me? But it.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

You know what I mean? Like, I actually respect a woman that does that.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Do it. Who cares you about their feelings?

[Saul]

For sure.

[Josh Leyva]

Their feelings don't write you your checks.

[Saul]

Sure. I too, totally agree with that. I'm gonna go on a whole different tangent here. I want to give a shout out to all the healthcare workers that promote Salud. And you salute. Because there's a lot of nurses that love salud, bro. And I love it when I hear nurses DM me or see me out and about and they tell me, I'm a nurse. And I love your product because I know how they.

[Josh Leyva]

These.

[Saul]

These people are working 12 hour shifts. They're on their feet all crazy, bro. And they're dealing with people and they're dealing with sickness. Like, I have so much respect for those people. And to have a product that really just aids them and benefits them and they enjoy it, just, that's like one of the greatest compliments I get. And when I started Salud, I didn't think that I didn't know where it was gonna go, you know?

[Josh Leyva]

And you're gonna have those feelings.

[Saul]

Yeah. Those feelings from those people, then that just means a lot to me.

[Josh Leyva]

When Jess.

[Saul]

So thank you, sweetheart.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, thank you. When Jess was reading it.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

About like, I promote Salud. I ask a little bit of chain nurse assistant, blah, blah. I got a similar comment on my DMS because I recently did a giveaway for two care packages for Salu. And it was like a. A young lady, probably her, who's very similar story that all me and my co workers, we drink salu at the nursing place or I'm this or that. And I think that's her. I want to say it is so cool I choose the winners tonight. So I think I might just choose her just because our plan is aligned.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

So, yeah. But. Yeah, that. That is a cool feeling, bro. Especially wanting to be, like, in a wellness space.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

But you're not only just in a wellness space. You're in the wellness space.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Helping them facilities. Yeah. Like, and you're helping on that end too, which is really cool because you never knew that you're gonna feel that.

[Saul]

Dude. This is like, pretty deep. And sorry, I'm kind of going on, dude, go there. But we, we have our. We have weekly team calls.

[Josh Leyva]

Right.

[Saul]

And this. Everybody on our team, we get on a call every single week and we do our professional best, our personal best, and we give a thank you to somebody on the team. And today, one of our customer experience agents. Her name is Elizabeth. And shout out you if you're listening, baby girl. She was talking about this. She loves or she has. She is the sweetheart of salud, bro. She has such an amazing heart. She is so, like. She feels so much emotion for this. This product, this brand, the people that use it. She said she got, like, a message from a girl who gives salutation to one of her parents who's dealing with cancer at the moment, and this is the only thing they can consume and enjoy drinking with, like, the illness that they're feeling through chemo and stuff like that. And I'm like, dude, is so heavy like that. When I hear that, I'm like, dude, this is bigger than me, and I'm just so fortunate. But hearing those, like, just impact me in such a different way. And just seeing how it affects her. And when she says it on the call, I'm like, oh, she feels the weight of that. Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

She probably relates to it somehow as well, you know? I can relate to that as well. Yeah. This scary situation.

[Saul]

Scary, bro.

[Josh Leyva]

That's awesome.

[Saul]

It's like, what? Because when somebody's dealing with something that traumatic, any little hint of. Of. Of, like, light, like, carries, bro. You know what I mean? And it's crazy how that little stick can be that little light for somebody who's dealing with something that serious. Think about that. That's crazy. And it's not just salud, bro. It could be anything. And it's just cool that my product can be that for somebody, man. And it doesn't have to be me. Do you get me?

[Josh Leyva]

It can be such an unfortunate situation, but it's the, like that keeps you going too.

[Saul]

Yeah, bro. Yeah. Yeah. For show.

[Josh Leyva]

You think we got time for one more or more?

[Saul]

Let's do one more. Are we in an hour?

[Jessica]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Oh, 56 minutes. Yeah.

[Saul]

I mean, that was a good place to end, though. I'm not mad at that. I. We can do a part two next.

[Josh Leyva]

Week or whatever you guys want. I can do one more. I can stop. Whatever, man. I don't really have a job.

[Saul]

Too busy being a protector.

[Josh Leyva]

Is there any more? Like, am I the ass about being a protector?

[Saul]

I got some insight on that.

[Jessica]

Yeah, I got a good one.

[Josh Leyva]

Okay.

[Saul]

Okay. Let's go.

[Jessica]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Want me to do it? Okay.

[Jessica]

This last one is from a gentleman.

[Josh Leyva]

Yes.

[Jessica]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for five months. We were friends before dating, and she used to openly talk to me about how she prefers a very different type of guy than me when they were friends. Even though she's loving and says she's attracted to me now, I can't stop comparing myself to her past, and it's causing insecurity and performance anxiety. How can I move past this?

[Saul]

Yo, this question right here, this is a real one.

[Josh Leyva]

What do you mean? Performance?

[Saul]

We're talking about.

[Josh Leyva]

Oh, we're going back to that.

[Saul]

No, this is a real question, bro, shout out to you. This is, this is honest. This is truly honest. And I think this is pretty common for me for a guy to feel. I think it's normal for people to have insecurities. You don't want to let them rule you.

[Josh Leyva]

Right?

[Saul]

And I think him referring back to the type that she was describing and she him feeling like, oh, I'm not that type. I personally think if it's eating at you for you to have that conversation with your partner, I know before we started dating, you mentioned about, like, this is what your type is and this is what you look for, you know, When I hear you describe those things, I kind of feel like I'm not that fit. And it kind of has created a little bit of insecurity in me just to be open and vulnerable with you. Can you. But now you're dating me, I don't know, maybe you can kind of create some reassurance here or really let me know how you feel to, you know, potentially help me feel better. Is that fair? Is that fair to say?

[Josh Leyva]

Yes.

[Saul]

Did I totally misread the question, by the way?

[Josh Leyva]

No. Yeah, you did say fit.

[Saul]

Huh?

[Josh Leyva]

You did say fit, I think.

[Saul]

What do you mean?

[Jessica]

Yeah, like, that's a physical body.

[Saul]

No, I don't mean fit.

[Josh Leyva]

Oh, okay. Oh, fit the other one, huh?

[Saul]

Like, no, me, like, fit.

[Josh Leyva]

Like, me fit into that category.

[Saul]

Fit this description?

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, like, yeah, like, fit that description. Not like I want to be a fake guy. Right?

[Saul]

No.

[Josh Leyva]

Okay.

[Jessica]

Yeah, I thought that too.

[Josh Leyva]

Me too. Really? Your fault, dude.

[Saul]

It's because of my physique.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

You think I'm always just.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, yeah, no, no, no, I agree with you. I agree with you. Yeah, I, I, I think, bro, first of all, if you're watching this, you're 21 years old. You still have so much to, to become. To be whoever you are right now is not who you're going to be in five, eight years. I promise you.

[Saul]

That's a fact.

[Josh Leyva]

I promise you. Yeah, you might look the same, you might dress the same, you might smell the same, but up here, it'll change. I promise you So I, before I tell you something, I, I want you, I want to also tell you like, don't stress too much. Just enjoy your 21 year old life right now. And that's really all you have to be worrying about. And enjoy your partner right now.

[Saul]

And then also just because you just made me realize this too, what he's going through and knowing that he's 21. Makes a lot of sense.

[Josh Leyva]

Yes.

[Saul]

Makes a lot of sense.

[Josh Leyva]

Yes. But like, okay, if, if you're feeling a certain type of way, you should always speak with your partner about a certain type of feeling that you're feeling. I think you should always be open to, to speaking with your partner about anything.

[Saul]

That's why I'm going to cut you off. But because I love where you're going here. That's a muscle. And if you start practicing, practicing that at a young age, at this age or like, yo, you're gonna have these kind of conversations with your partner, you're gonna get better at it.

[Josh Leyva]

Yes. And the relationship works a lot better. Yeah. And even if that muscle is not with your other, with your partner, whether it be guy or girl, you just speaking about openly about things like this creates a muscle for them as well. So it's like, it's a win win. But I definitely think you should have a conversation. If she's already with you, that's cool. Right? But if me, if our you, if, if I was you out and my girl would keep telling me about this certain type.

[Saul]

This is before they were dating, by the way. This is.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

Friends.

[Josh Leyva]

But I would genuinely tell her, like, is there something that you would want me to like, work on as, as somebody who loves you? I'm down, like, there's nothing wrong with that.

[Saul]

I'm also looking at it in the girl's perspective where she's like, I'm with you. So clearly you're my type.

[Josh Leyva]

Yes.

[Saul]

And, and I'm just trying to. This insecurity now, I'm kind of like backtracking a little bit. But it's like she's dating him, she wants to be with him. So even if she talked about this other type that she has, that doesn't matter, it's kind of irrelevant now because she's with him.

[Josh Leyva]

Look, if I'm being real with you, I'm just trying to be a nice guy to this guy. But to be honest with you, if this is the, that you're worried about, Shut the up, bro.

[Saul]

But this is okay. He's a, he's a. I know that's.

[Josh Leyva]

Why I'm talking about it. But in reality, I'm like, bro, you're already with her. Yeah, like, don't. Nothing else matters. But he's 21, and it's stuck in.

[Saul]

The back of his head.

[Josh Leyva]

I'm trying to give lil bro advice right now. Yeah, but if this was you, even s like, bro, shut the up, bro. Straight up. Yeah, I get that would be nice. But you know what I mean? Like, this isn't a problem. You already have the girl.

[Saul]

But, bro, this is clearly eating him because he's having, like, performance anxiety. And, like, that's a real thing. And if it's getting to you to that point, like, you got to dig deep within yourself, right? And hopefully he can take the advice of, like, hey, bro, like, she is with you. You don't have nothing to worry about. Hopefully he can. Yeah, hopefully he can listen to big bro being like, bro, you're good. You got it. You're in the bag.

[Josh Leyva]

Right?

[Saul]

But if you can't, it's okay to have that conversation. I think it's. It works both ways.

[Josh Leyva]

But at the end of the day, I don't care what she said prior to being with you, you. When you guys were friends. What I don't want you to do is completely change who you are. That's it. I don't.

[Saul]

To fit this.

[Josh Leyva]

I don't. I don't care about your performance anxiety. I don't care about the way that you feel right now as long as you don't change who you are right now. Because that is worse than everything that you just told me.

[Saul]

Yeah, that's fair.

[Josh Leyva]

Straight up. Yeah. And sadly. Oh, sorry.

[Jessica]

No, no.

[Josh Leyva]

And sadly, statistically, and I'm so sorry I'm gonna say this, but you're probably not gonna be with that girl forever. What? Just being honest.

[Saul]

Just saying.

[Josh Leyva]

It's. It's. It's a statistic. It's a statistic at 21 years old.

[Saul]

But you beat the odds.

[Josh Leyva]

It's a statistic. I am also a statistic. Yeah, I did beat the odds. Sure. Did you have a girlfriend at 21?

[Saul]

Multiple.

[Josh Leyva]

Okay. Okay. You did it. No. Oh, so it's my first girlfriend right now. Oh, really? What a loser. A statistic. Jess, were you in a relationship at 21?

[Jessica]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

Okay, what happened exactly? So. So that's what I'm saying. Just don't change yourself. Don't change yourself. That's all I'm asking you to do. Don't change who you are, because you will either. Like I said, I believe that she already loves you and you are her type. You are her type.

[Narrator/Ad Voice]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

With her.

[Saul]

You are. You are.

[Josh Leyva]

Bro, she's already smash.

[Saul]

I don't know. Hopefully over.

[Josh Leyva]

She likes you, bro. Yeah. From what I'm saying. And if she doesn't, it's okay. Life will move on. Time is not waiting for nobody.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

You will find somebody who likes you just the way.

[Saul]

And she does. She's. I know, I know, I know.

[Jessica]

That's.

[Saul]

And I really hope, if he's listening. I really hope he's listening. I really, really want.

[Josh Leyva]

I think he will.

[Saul]

Because, bro, she is into you because she's with you. She selected you. She wants you, you know?

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

But I totally get that. Those feelings, bro. I get it.

[Josh Leyva]

I think as big bros right here, the most important thing is you are 21 years old. I don't care if you think you can go buy a six pack of Bud Light right now, but you're 21 years old and you, your mentality will change. So 10 years from now, you're going to look back at this question, say, damn, I can't even believe I asked that. Straight up, 100%. That's a statistic, too.

[Saul]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Jessica]

And in the meantime, if it is going to give you some peace of mind, maybe ask her, what are some of the things that you like most about me? You know what I mean? Kind of move away from what you're not and focus on what you are and what you contribute and what she loves about.

[Josh Leyva]

Chills.

[Saul]

Just chills.

[Josh Leyva]

You're right.

[Saul]

I like that.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

Focus on the good.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. Because I bet you anything.

[Saul]

Hold on, let me say this. There's a thing I saw on TikTok. If you're going to overthink things that are going wrong in your life, make sure you're overthinking everything that's going right in your life. So focus on why he selected. Why. Why do you think she picked the good in it?

[Josh Leyva]

That type of guy that she used to be with probably doesn't have that type of. You have. He's probably tripping, too. The other guy.

[Saul]

What other guy?

[Josh Leyva]

The type guy. Her type. Her type. Do you get what I'm saying?

[Saul]

I do, but type guy's not real, bro. The type guy's just a type.

[Josh Leyva]

He's out there and he's tripping.

[Jessica]

Right.

[Josh Leyva]

He can't get a boner because of it. So he's out there. He's out there, buddy.

[Narrator/Ad Voice]

Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

At the end of the day, as you're big bro, don't worry about this right now. Right, brother? Yeah, you enjoy that.

[Saul]

You lay down that pipe.

[Josh Leyva]

But I think it's so perfect. What Jessica said is ask her things like, what's the things that you do like about me? And honestly, be vulnerable.

[Saul]

Honestly, start there. Start there. Before you even go into that conversation.

[Josh Leyva]

What are some things I can improve? Two, how can I be that type? Low key, but without changing who you are? You know what I'm saying? Like bro. As little as. Like, as. As bro. I got some homies that their girls dress them because that is probably a type that they like. If your girl is dressing you, that is because that is her type. Is. Am I tripping or am I. I.

[Saul]

Don'T think you're tripping.

[Josh Leyva]

Is that to a degree, that is the type of guy that your girl likes, not is into likes, therefore. Because yeah, that's what it is. And that's totally fine. But you, you took that advice from her. So it's like the same thing you're taking. Like, how can I be some sort of type that you want? Whether I can dress differently, I can do this, I can do that. It's all innocent.

[Jessica]

What if your type was tall, dragon, handsome, and he's like a little shorter and like fair skinned and like, how. How can he. How. How is she gonna. Yeah, exactly.

[Josh Leyva]

There's some things in life that you have to accept that will never happen.

[Jessica]

Well, maybe that's what his dilemma is. Right?

[Josh Leyva]

Like that dilemma is a far reached dilemma. And it shouldn't be a dilemma because at the end of the day, you're already with her. Be happy if you're a short chaparito and the type.

[Saul]

She was like my type. First thing she said was, like, above six feet.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

It's like he can't do nothing about that.

[Josh Leyva]

And her type is just a picture of Josh Leyva in 2016.

[Saul]

Like, this is my type.

[Josh Leyva]

Number nine, homie. The chaparin.

[Saul]

Like this pulls out hawkeye number nine.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. You know, there's some things that are not reachable, but you have probably something that that type doesn't. And that's why she's with you. Mind you, she's with her. Can we. I'm done talking. Talking about.

[Saul]

Yeah, no, it's true. That's true.

[Josh Leyva]

And you know what? I'm done talking for the rest of the day too.

[Saul]

I do like that way you worded that, Jess. That was worded beautifully. Like, I focus on the things that are. That I'm asking her, like, what is the things that you like about me? Because I think that's going to create a lot of reassurance in his life, and I think he's missing that right now. Yeah, he's so focused on, like, what she. This. This. This idea of what she is into. Like, he's created this whole narrative in his mind that might not even be real anymore, you know? And he just needs to get that validation, that reassurance from her.

[Josh Leyva]

Bro, my wife had a type 2 in high school. That is not me. Yeah, people change the types. Like, she probably. That used to be my type. He thinks that that's still my type. That's not my type anymore. Dude, my girl was emo as back in high school. I was never like that.

[Saul]

And then also, sometimes you're just kind of saying things and there's not a lot of weight to them. Like, oh, you asked.

[Josh Leyva]

It doesn't matter.

[Saul]

And then when it's like, that's really your type. Like, I mean, yeah, I get, man, I don't know. You're my type. I like you.

[Narrator/Ad Voice]

Yeah.

[Saul]

You know? Yeah, we just be saying.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah, we just be saying. That's what I'm saying. But, yo, you 21, baby boy. You figure it out. Trust me.

[Saul]

Trust me.

[Josh Leyva]

And if you see this, please, DM me or DM Josh. We chat it up.

[Saul]

Yeah, Yeah.

[Josh Leyva]

I was gonna say something, but I forgot.

[Saul]

That was beautiful, man. I really enjoyed today's episode. I want to do more of these, and thank you guys for participating as well. I feel like it's cool to get some other POVs.

[Josh Leyva]

Yes. 100. Josh Leyva, Saul, Jessica, thank you so much. Today was a great day here in La Platica Headquarters.

[Saul]

I say headquarters like that.

[Josh Leyva]

Oh, I was gonna say this too. Like, even if you don't have a problem with your. With your relationship or you don't have this issue, I challenge you to go to your partner and say, what are some things you like about me? And then I'll say some things I like about you. Do you know how. How. How long that goes?

[Saul]

It's a good practice.

[Josh Leyva]

It's like, oh, wow, okay. Thank you. That's all you need to know.

[Saul]

Yeah, that's a good exercise.

[Josh Leyva]

It's such good exercise.

[Jessica]

I highly recommend couples therapy. Not just for if you're having issues, just in general. Learn how to be a better partner, how you can communicate your needs better with your partner. And one of the exercises that our therapist asked us to do when we first started was to write down three things that we like about our partner and go on a date and talk about them, share them with each other. And honestly, amazing. Like literally I'm gonna do that. Something to talk about.

[Saul]

Yeah.

[Jessica]

It's like really build the connection.

[Josh Leyva]

Someone's like, you're getting to know each other.

[Saul]

Yeah, that's intention.

[Jessica]

Especially after having been with them for so long. You take a lot of things for granted and it kind of helps refocus of like this is what I value from you, what I've learned from you, what I love about you. Whatever that looks like. I highly recommend for any couple.

[Josh Leyva]

I love that.

[Jessica]

Do that with your friends. Do that with anybody that you value relationship with.

[Josh Leyva]

Bro.

[Saul]

Camera four was popping today.

[Josh Leyva]

It's the coat. Okay, last question. Imagine going to couples therapy with me. Like if you were my partner and I'm right there, you think I would take it serious? I would.

[Saul]

I think you would. I think you would. I think you would. He's good.

[Josh Leyva]

See what he's saying? Good. Nice guy. Want me to go to dinner? Ok. Okay. Hey, you know at the end night clapping. Cuz that's. At the end of the day, that's what we want. Right? Sex. Right?

[Saul]

Wait, what? Dude, what happened?

[Josh Leyva]

Are we. Everything is money, bro. Right? All right, let's give it up. See? Shout out to you. Shout out to everybody back at home. Notifications on. Subscribe to the channel and tell a friend about us because.

[Saul]

Yeah, also if you're still listening. Shout out to you. We're going to be starting a broadcast channel on the La Platica Instagram. I think I've mentioned this before, but stay tuned. Be on the lookout for that. We got some exciting things coming your way that we want to get you guys involved in. Yes. Involved in.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah.

[Saul]

So yeah, that's it.

[Josh Leyva]

Yeah. South Sandro is the protector of our protector, the Josh Leyva. The hottest number nine. No, that was an approxima. Platica. Ciao lady.

[Saul]

Love you. Too busy being a protector.