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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Felix to talk about letting go of control and finding the real path to growth. We dive into growing up Asian and terrified of failure, how that turns into perfectionism and overthinking as adults, and why so many of us would rather not try than risk finding out we’re “not good enough.”

We get into: using pain as a path to growth, breaking out of the “emotional home” of fear and victimhood, and how fitness/bodybuilding became a testing ground for building self-belief. Felix opens up about indecision, temptation, exploring faith, and why he’s slowly stepping away from the “safe” corporate path to pursue food and service.

We also talk fatherhood, leadership vs being a “boss,” social media, comparison, and why you can’t tell your kids to chase their dreams if you never chased yours. If you’ve ever felt stuck, scared to fail, or obsessed with staying in control, this one’s gonna hit.

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