"Just be yourself" might be the worst advice you've ever been given.

In this episode of the Life Habits Podcast, we're taking apart the myths running modern life — and the research that actually helps you navigate it.

Suzanne makes the case for why "being yourself" has become a shield for bad behavior and what to do instead. MJ unpacks the quiet rise of incivility, it’s causes, and what we can do about it. Mandy takes on the perfection trap, and Karel digs into the Dark Triad of narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy and how to survive these toxic personalities showing up in our workplaces and lives.

Tell us in the comments which trap has had the strongest grip on you? And please rate and follow us plus share us with your friends and colleagues.

Dr. Leanne ten Brinke’s “Dirty Dozen” checklist from her book “Poisonous People”.

The "Dirty Dozen" Checklist

1. Do they tend to manipulate others to get their way?

2. Have they used deceit or "white lies" to get what they want?

3. Do they use flattery or "love bombing" for ulterior motives?

4. Do they tend to exploit others for their own gain?

5. Do they lack remorse or seem indifferent after hurting someone's feelings?

6. Do they seem unconcerned with the morality of their actions?

7. Are they often callous or insensitive to the needs of others?

8. Do they lean toward being cynical or distrustful of everyone’s motives?

9. Do they have a constant need for others to admire them?

10. Do they want others to pay attention to them at all times?

11. Do they frequently seek prestige or status, even at the cost of relationships?

12. Do they expect special favors from others as if it’s their right?

LH166—Don’t be Yourself - Dark Personalities, Incivility, and Perfectionism