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On this episode of Life Kit, I talked to Sandra about those seven types of rest, what they look like, and how to know which ones you need right now and this is a helpful framework you can use to think through your needs. But as always, when you have medical concerns, talk to your doctor.

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B (5:13)

You talk about seven different kinds of rest in the book. Let's go through them. The first one, as you mentioned, is physical rest. What does that look like other than just lying down?

C (5:24)

Yeah, so physical rest has two components. You have the passive, which does include things like sleeping and napping. And then physical rest also includes those things that actually help improve your circulation. Your lymphatic drainage, your flexibility, the way your muscles and your. Your body feels. So it includes things like going for a leisure walk or getting a massage, or like using a foam roller. It also includes things like your body ergonomics, how you function with your workstation and your desk and your chair and the height of your computer monitors. And so it takes into account all the things that can have a negative impact on how your physical body feels. And what are some of the restorative practices and activities that help your body to restore itself and to get to a stronger position and feel more energized?

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All right, takeaway 1. Physical rest can be passive sleeping, lying down on the couch, or it can be active. You could go for a walk, get a massage, stretch, do yoga, get. Keep your body flexible and in motion. Some signs that you have a physical rest deficit. You feel tired, but you can't fall asleep. You're getting sick all the time. Your muscles are always sore or painful. You're relying on substances like caffeine and sugar to keep you going, or like alcohol and pills to help you get to sleep. The next ones you talk about are mental rest and emotional rest. I wonder how are those two things different?

C (6:58)

Yeah, I separate mental and emotional rest because mental rest, we focus primarily on mental processes, Decision making, memory function, the ability to have recall, to concentrate. And so someone with a mental rest deficit is this person who lays down at night and can't turn their brain off. Let's say they're super tired, but they lay down in the bed and they're ruminating over all of the things that happen in the day. Or it's a person who finds that they are very forgetful or can't seem to focus their attention to get a job done. And so that's the mental part of it. The decision focus aspect of the brain, the emotional rest part of it is looking at how you process your emotions. And it tends to be one that I find that a lot of people struggle greatly with because many of us have jobs and careers and lifestyles where we carry a large amount of professional emotional labor in the process of staying at a high level of customer service or performance where you don't have the ability to authentically express your emotions in that moment, that can lead to an emotional rest deficit.

B (8:09)

What are some ways to get emotional rest when you realize you need it?

C (8:14)

So the three main Ways are either expressing your emotions with someone else. And so that could be anyone from a trusted friend to a counselor to a therapist. The. The trick there is to make sure that you're not doing what a lot of us do, which is trauma dumping rather than emotional rest. Often when someone says they're doing emotional rest, what they're doing is they're actually, rather than processing their emotions and being able to express them, they're actually expressing the event without talking about their emotions. So they may tell all the details of what happened in the situation, but actually never get to what that situation made them feel. Because that's really what emotional rest is about. It's that level of. Of transparency and vulnerability where you can share not just what happened, but how it impacted your emotions, how it made you personally feel, and the impact it had on your heart. And so being able to do that with someone that you where you feel safe and there's a level of trust. That's one way. Emotional rest can also be done through journaling. And some people process through emotional rest through actually some type of creative expression. So, for example, my son, he doesn't particularly like to talk about his feelings, but he plays guitar. And so I'll hear him up in his room sometimes drumming. And depending on what he's playing, I can pretty much let you know what type of emotion he's processing through. And so there's various ways of emoting, and it's a matter of determining what allows you to be able to be your most authentic in expressing how your emotions are impacting you.

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Takeaway to we all need mental rest sometimes. A chance to tune out the mental chatter that exhausts and drains us. Mental rest can look like meditation or simply putting down your devices and quieting your mind for a few minutes. It can also look like time blocking, scheduling blocks of time on your calendar to do particular kinds of tasks. Like, in this hour, I'm gonna make all those phone calls to my doctor's offices and set up appointments. And in this hour, I'm finally gonna make those returns. This can help when you're feeling scattered. Some signs you might need mental rest. You're getting irritated when you think about everything on your to do list. You feel like you're in a mental fog. You're snapping at people over small inconveniences, or you feel overwhelmed all the time. Then there's emotional rest that might look like talking to someone you trust about your feelings. Journaling or processing your emotions through another form of creativity, or even body movement. Signs that you might need emotional rest. You tend to focus on your failures and flaws. You're always apologizing or you feel depressed, angry or anxious when you're thinking about your life. We'll have more types of sacred rest after the break.

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C (13:00)

Spiritual rest. At the very core of it is the need that we all have to have a sense of belonging to know that our life has meaning and has purpose. Some people are able to experience that through a faith based type system. Others who maybe don't have a faith based concept or or pattern that they follow can experience that as well through things like volunteerism. Any type of specific causes that they feel connected to. Places where they feel like they are part of something greater than themselves and that they're giving back to the greater good. It's the increase of just goodwill and feeling of connection that happens when we do something for others with no ability for them to do back to us.

B (13:44)

Okay, tell me about social rest. Does this mean taking a break from socializing or resting through socializing?

C (13:50)

It includes both. So many introverts will automatically go to the thought process, I get to get away from people, so that's a part of it. But the part of social rest that most people are actually most in need of is the rest that they experience when they're around life giving people. Most of the people in our lives are negatively pulling from our social energy. And that doesn't mean they're negative people. It could be your, your spouse, your kids, your elderly parents, your clients. It just means they're people who need things from you, so they're socially pulling from you. And then you have to take a look at the other side of your relationships and determine who in my life actually pours back into me. And so it takes a level of intentionality to be aware of how much giving and receiving is happening in the relationships. And I think it's also important to have people in your life where you, you just enjoy being around them. There isn't this huge expectation of each other other than the expectation of I enjoy your presence and allowing those relationships to also have some place in our lives.

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Takeaway 3. Though Sandra is Christian, she says spiritual rest doesn't necessarily mean religious devotion. It can include prayer, but also helping others and being part of something bigger than yourself. You may need spiritual rest if you're feeling numb and apathetic, hopeless, trapped or defeated. Social rest is about resting through community, prioritizing face to face time, listening to others instead of just talking, being around people who pour into you as much as you pour into them, and doing things as a collective. You may have a social rest deficit if you find yourself feeling alone, isolated and detached from family and friends. Well, okay, let's talk about sensory rest. So what does this mean, sensory rest, and why do we need it?

C (15:55)

Our world is highly sensory overwhelmed. Everything from just the ambient sounds. I mean, our gadgets make sounds, the lights have sounds depending on the buildings that you're in, elevators are going off, phones are ringing all the time. Our cell phones, our notifications are vibrating. So there's this non stop movement, noise, action that's always going and it's having an effect on us. I think a lot of us seem to think that we are tuning out many of the sensory inputs that we're experiencing. But if you really think about that process, you're not able to tune something out without your brain filtering it. And so if the brain is working to filter it, then by doing that work, it can become exhausted, it can have a level of fatigue that results from it. And what we find is that many people develop sensory overwhelm throughout their day. And then they have a sensory overwhelm response that presents itself as a psychological outburst. And they were not aware that all day their brain's been filtering through sensory inputs from all the things I just mentioned. And that something as simple as taking a couple of sensory rest breaks throughout the day, whether it's noise cancellation earphones, or if it's something like having a sensory break, if you're having teams meetings back and forth all day, have moments where you actually shut the screen, close your eyes, 5, 10 minutes. It's similar to the reboot we do on our computers. When it gets frozen and and won't respond to us anymore. We do a hard reset. Five minutes, everything's back to normal.

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Yeah. This is really huge for me. I get overwhelmed being in Manhattan sometimes. And you're always navigating all these other people and what they're trying to do. So that's like one form of stuff, sensory overload. Because I feel like I'm too attentive to what other people are doing. I guess you're on high alert. Exactly. And then I start to feel really overwhelmed. And once I get into our office, I'll go into a quiet room and sit alone with the lights off for like five minutes or 10 minutes. And that really helps me.

C (18:15)

And that's the thing. It sounds so simple. And I think that's the beauty of it. It doesn't require like some major million dollar sensory deprivation tank. Right?

B (18:25)

Yeah.

C (18:26)

To be able to accomplish that. It is actually very simple. It's the level of intentionality I find that most people struggle with. It's not that it's hard, but you have to have a level of self awareness first. You have to recognize something's not right. I don't feel my best. What's wrong with me?

B (18:48)

Takeaway 4 sensory rest. I find myself needing this one a lot. This might look similar to mental rest for me. It's about sitting in a quiet room for a few minutes, sometimes in the dark. You could also try setting aside all your devices for 20 minutes a day. Another way to do this is think about a sensory stressor you experience every day. The screeching of the train on the tracks. The smell of the automated air freshener in the office bathroom. Is there anything you can do to limit your exposure or undo its effects? Also think about what sounds, smells, tastes and textures make you feel relaxed and at ease. I like the feeling of velvet, silk and chenille and the smell of my hair conditioner. You may need sensory rest if you find yourself highly sensitive to noises. Or smells or the opposite. You're desensitized to smells or flavors or. Or you're just generally overwhelmed by the sensory inputs in your environment. Okay, well, let's talk about the final type of rest in the book. It's creative rest. And you say that's allowing white space in your life and giving room for creativity to show up. It seems important here to not turn this into a compulsion to produce some perfect work of art.

C (20:05)

Oh, absolutely not. That's actually just what you said. Create. Create a work of art. That's work. Yeah, it's actually the opposite of creative rest. I did mention you can have an artistic release for emotional rest. Some people do use art as a way to emotionally express themselves, but that's not creative rest. Creative rest is when you allow what's already been created to really unlock creativity inside of you. It's going to a museum or and maybe looking at a type of art you never look at before and letting it awaken something inside of you. For a lot of people, it can be listening to music or it can even be natural beauty, like going to Central park or maybe going to the water. It could be looking at a beautiful sunset even, or sunrise.

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Lastly, we have creative rest. Sandra says in her book that we should allow room in our calendars to be wooed by creation. Allow yourself to experience awe looking at the natural world, at the built environment, at the work of an artist or performer, and see what that stirs in you. Sometimes you may need creative rest. You rarely feel that your work is of value. You find it difficult to enjoy nature, and you don't allow yourself to do anything that's just for you. So how can we know what kinds of rest we need? We've talked about some of the signs. Sandra also created a free assessment tool@restquiz.com and she says you could start by simply looking at the past 24 hours.

C (21:43)

What did you do? And then what kind of energy was required to do that activity? And did you do something to pour back into the place where you used energy? I always say start with the area that you have the greatest deficit and pick a restorative practice that fits your personality, your likes, your background, where you live, all those kind of things. It actually puts you back into a place where you. You don't feel like you are constantly on the hamster wheel, constantly kind of revving up, constantly on edge, and you can actually begin to enjoy some of what you're producing.

B (22:19)

So if you don't want to be a hamster on a hamster wheel. What kind of animal would you rather be?

C (22:25)

This is going to be a strange answer probably, but my dog, Rosie, because I love it. Every time she gets up from her seated position or wherever she happens to be laying around, she does downward dog. She does reverse downward dog. And I'm like, you know what? That's restorative rest right there. Totally. Whenever you move, you make sure you put everything back into proper alignment. Then you set off for your day.

B (22:51)

Oh, I love that. Thank you so much for this. I learned a lot.

C (22:55)

Oh, thanks so much for having me. It's been a joy.

B (23:02)

Okay, time for a quick recap. Sandra has identified seven types of rest that we all need. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, sensory, and creative. There are a lot of different ways to get each, and they don't all involve sitting quietly in a room or lying down on your couch. Some will look quite active. You may notice that the seven types of rest overlap. Something that counts as physical rest can also be emotional rest. For instance, consider the signs that you might need each kind of rest. And also think about your last 24 hours. What kind of energy did you expend? Did you replenish it in some way? If not, give yourself that kind of rest. And that's our show. Before we go, are you looking to get into strength training? We have a special newsletter series to help you start your own routine. You can sign up@npr.org stronger this episode of Life Kit was produced by Lennon Sherburne. Our visuals editor is Beck Harlan, and our digital editor is Malika Garib. Megan Kane is our senior supervising editor and Beth Donovan is our executive producer. Our production team also includes Andy Taegle, Claire Marie Schneider, Margaret Serino, and Sylvie Douglas. Engineering support comes from Kwesi Lee. Fact Checking by Tyler Jones. I'm Mariel Segarra. Thanks for listening.