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Marielle Segata
You're listening to Life Kit from NPR. Hey everybody, it's Marielle. When reporter Julia Furlan and her spouse had a baby, they knew they wanted their child to be able to connect with Julia's Brazilian family and to grow up speaking both English and Portuguese. But Julia is the only Portuguese speaker in the house, and for whatever reason, she felt a little weird speaking Portuguese to a baby who couldn't talk back until she did. Julia says it was exhilarating to watch her kid light up like this.
Julia Furlan
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Farwah Hussain
Even though I was the one who was actively trying to make it happen, my mind was still blown when Leo started speaking Portuguese. It also made me kind of emotional in a way that I did not expect. It's like all of a sudden I remembered being a kid in Brazil in a different way. And I think that one of the things that's really wonderful about it is that there's so much Brazilian ness in Portuguese. So there are these like little diminutives. Like you say instead of pong, which is bread, you say ponzinho, which is like little bread. And to hear her doing these tiny little things that are so Brazilian really excites me.
Marielle Segata
About 22% of people in the US ages 5 and older speak a language other than English at home. Now, if you're thinking, hey, I want my kids to be bilingual too, you're in luck. Today on Life Kit, raising kids who speak more than one language. Reporter Julia Furlan talks with speech therapists about how to fold the learning into your kid's day to day life. She also busts a common myth about teaching kids a second language. And she has a lot of fun.
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Khan
Being a parent can already feel like life on hard mode. And sometimes when there's a mountain of laundry and you're not sure if you're going to be able to afford college because of the sheer number of berries you're having to buy, it's hard to imagine adding any layer of complication to the mix. But raising a child in a bilingual or multilingual household actually isn't a burden. It's a key that unlocks an entire world. Farwah Hussain is a bilingual speech pathologist who speaks Urdu, Hindi and English.
Farwah Hussain
So speech language pathology falls into this huge, wonderful umbrella of things that we can do when we work with children and adults. So across the lifespan, she's also raising.
Khan
Three children multilingually, so she gets it. Side note that in this episode I'm using bilingual and multilingual interchangeably because there are plenty of families who speak three or more languages at home. Basically, we're talking about learning more than one language. Farwa says that there's a whole laundry list of benefits to bilingualism.
Farwah Hussain
First of all, it's so fun to be able to speak another language.
Yeah, think about the job opportunities that can open up down the line for.
Your kid, and then you have better cognitive function, you're able to multitask better.
And these are real skills that your kids are going to need. Research has also shown that being bilingual has benefits not only for children, but throughout a person's entire life.
There are better problem solving skills and actually, research says it delays the onset of dementia as well if you are bilingual.
The study that Farwa is referencing says that bilingualism may delay the onset of dementia by up to five years. Though for all you monolinguals who might be looking up a language learning app right now, the results are inconclusive about the protective benefits of learning a language much later in life.
Khan
But don't let that stop you.
Farwah Hussain
And when it comes to kids they're taking it all in.
They are like sponges, absorbing everything that they're hearing and they're seeing.
Khan
Liliana Diaz is a bilingual speech pathologist who works in Spanish and English. And she says she's seen bilingualism open up worlds for the kids she works with as well as her own two kids.
Liliana Diaz
The fact that your child can go to another country and speak another language and speak fluently, connect with so many other people, connect with, you know, extended family members, and later down the road get a job that, you know, because you speak more than one language, you know, there's, there's just so much to it.
Khan
Okay, so now that we're clear that there are benefits, how do families go about bilingualism? The answer to this question is a rich and varied tapestry.
Liliana Diaz
You know, it's going to be different in every family and that's okay. That's totally fine. No bilingual is the same. Like there literally will not be a bilingual person that is the same as the next. So it's totally fine is usually what I tell parents.
Khan
And that brings us to our first takeaway. Pick a style. Even though there are a million ways to be multilingual, let's start off by going through some of the most common ones. So there's one parent, one language, which is what I do with Leo. I speak to her in Portuguese, but my spouse speaks to her in English. There's also minority language at home, which is where everybody will say speak or do. And then as the child goes to school, they're exposed to the majority language, which if this is the US is English. Time and place is another way to do it. Here's Farwa again.
Farwah Hussain
You block the day where in the mornings maybe you're speaking one language, then you're speaking another.
Khan
The last of these more commonly used techniques is called mixed language at home, which is pretty self explanatory. The caregivers speak all the languages simultaneously, which may sound confusing, but really is not a problem.
Farwah Hussain
Children are wonderfully resilient and they will start picking up on how you are providing them that input. And they are so great at being able to tease apart the ways and the languages together.
Both Farwa and our other speech language pathologist, Liliana, agreed that when you're choosing a style, there's no one way that's going to be best for everyone. The best style of bilingual learning is the one that your family can do consistently and meaningfully.
Khan
Take my family growing up where we mostly spoke English at home, but once or twice a year we went to Brazil to visit my family. I would show up feeling awkward, and I remember whispering things to my parents. How do you say this or how do you say that in Portuguese? I'd open my mouth, and my Portuguese would feel halting and rusty. And I would use last year's slang, which felt very uncool, but I was so desperate to be liked by my pack of cousins, I would carefully copy their slang. And by the time we left Brazil, my fluency was so back that I was actually dreaming in Portuguese. Khan's pretty. Grew up speaking Portuguese, English, and Spanish. She's a deputy editor at Business Insider who's been writing about parenting for about seven years. She's raising her three children, two of whom are twins, which I feel like I need to say just to give her so much credit. Anyway, she's raising the three of them bilingually with English and Spanish.
Julia Furlan
Yeah. So there's words that they only say in Spanish. Like, today, we're talking about getting a lollipop. If they were nice and got their shoes and coats quickly and got in the car, and so they use the word chupetin instead of lollipop.
Khan
Cons and her husband are doing one parent, one language where she speaks to her children in Spanish and her husband speaks to them in English. She says she doesn't really keep track of what language they're using to respond to her. She sees it as her job to use the Spanish and just trust that it's getting in there.
Julia Furlan
I have friends who have told me, like, I don't know how to get my kid to answer to me in my native language. I don't make them. I don't force them. I don't tell them to respond in Spanish. They can respond to me in whatever language they want, but I know that they get it.
Khan
The first time she and her husband brought all three children to Argentina to visit family, she was actually shocked from the moment they landed. Her oldest, who was 4 at the time, just lit up, and he just.
Julia Furlan
Started fluently speaking in Spanish with all my family with, like, no hesitation, no mistakes. Like, suddenly it clicked, and it was just, like, absolutely fluid. And I was like, he never talked to me in Spanish. But it's all in there.
Khan
Kids are sponges. And Cons is modeling something that is our second takeaway. No matter what method you're using to bring bilingualism into your family, the most important thing is to do it consistently. Liliana, one of our speech therapists, says that there are a lot of different ways to achieve that. Consistency, too.
Liliana Diaz
Consistency, not perfection. Whether that's like listening to music in the car, watching those cartoon characters on TV in Spanish. Whether that's doing play dates, whether it's reading time during a certain time of the day, whether it's a family conversation during a certain time of the day, but being consistent with it so that they constantly get that exposure to that language.
Khan
I think as caregivers, it's easy to get a little lost in the sauce or overwhelmed when you think about having to do something all the time, every day, forever. But staying consistent with little habits really does add up.
Liliana Diaz
That's what it takes to learn a language. It's consistency and exposure and practice. So it's all about just practice, practice, practice, and exposing your little one to it as well, too.
Khan
What consistency looks like in practice will be different for each family, too. For me and my family, it means I almost always translate the books I read to Leo into Portuguese, even when they're in English. I asked Khans for her advice to parents trying to stay consistent.
Julia Furlan
I think the most important thing is do what you can. Feels right, right? Like, if you can afford expensive language lessons, by all means do it. If you can send your kid to, like, an immersion school, great, do it. But if you can't, like, don't feel limited by that because you can still read books in Spanish or whatever language.
Khan
Kahn says that even something as simple as making sure the shows they watch are all in another language can add to that consistency. Though I should note that when it comes to screen time, research shows that it needs to be just one of many ways that the child is exposed to language. Not the only thing. But while we're talking about screen time, one thing that has proven to be beneficial is FaceTiming relatives, says Farwa.
Farwah Hussain
So being able to FaceTime a grandparent or a sibling or a cousin or even an aunt and uncle and have that back and forth with them in another language. In the home, language is so important, and you're building those same skills in as if you were doing it in person.
Khan
And as you build that consistency, your child will get to a point like Kanza's kids did.
Julia Furlan
It's really interesting because sometimes they say, like, oh, I don't understand Spanish. And I'm like, but you understand what I'm saying right now. And they're like, yeah. And I'm like, well, this is Spanish. And they're like, oh, I feel like they don't have yet. Sort of like the consciousness of, like, these are two languages that you understand at the same time.
Khan
It's sort of like that saying, does a fish know it's in water? And look, I've been trying to create at least a few new habits for several months now. I'm looking at you New Year's resolutions. And that consistency part is really difficult. In Liliana's family, they modeled something that I think is really important to highlight, which is to find the way that's most natural for your family so that you can keep up with the habit. As a speech language pathologist, Liliana was really dedicated to the idea of having her son speak Spanish. Her husband was also raised bilingual with Spanish and English. And before her son was born, they spoke Spanglish between the two of them. But when Itza was born, they decided to go only Spanish.
Liliana Diaz
And so I was like, no, if we're gonna, you know, really try to raise our kiddo to speak Spanish, we have to really only speak Spanish at home.
Khan
But it didn't entirely feel right.
Liliana Diaz
I would find myself a lot of the times kind of being like, how do you say? Like, how do you say this? Or, how do you say that in Spanish? And then grabbing my phone really quick.
Khan
Picking up her phone all the time to check certain words wasn't working because it took them out of the flow of normal conversation.
Liliana Diaz
And I was like, no, that's too much pausing. That's, like, not natural. And so I told my husband, I was like, it's okay if we don't know the word. Like, say it in English.
Khan
So they changed tactics later down the.
Liliana Diaz
Road, I was like, nope, it's okay. We can speak Spanglish at home. Because then we were, like, really trying to force it.
Khan
Being consistent isn't about being completely rigid. It's about finding the easiest way to stay true to your goal of having a multilingual family. And now it's time for us to do a little myth busting. One of the biggest misconceptions that people have is that learning another language can cause a kid to start speaking later or that it can be confusing for them. But here's the thing. That's total bunk. Not true at all. And that is takeaway. 3. Growing up bilingual or multilingual does not cause a speech delay or confuse a kid.
Farwah Hussain
That's one of the biggest fears parents have, that they're going to mess up their child in everything.
Khan
Farwa sees it all the time where parents are worried that being multilingual will somehow set a child back, especially with the children that she works with, who are often neurodivergent.
Farwah Hussain
That myth of bilingualism creating a Language delay is totally false.
Khan
But Farwa says that despite this myth being so prevalent, the research doesn't back it up.
Farwah Hussain
It may happen that the child is quiet because they're taking in both languages, but what research says is when the child acquires those, both those languages, they're at age level with their monolingual peers.
Khan
Liliana Diaz says that this idea of bilingual learning setting students back is so insidious, she even encountered it from a caseworker at a school she was working at.
Liliana Diaz
My case manager kind of chimed in at the time and was like, and by the way, make sure you only speak English to them, because if you start speaking in Spanish, you're going to confuse your child and she's not going to make progress.
Khan
This was almost a decade ago when Liliana was still fairly new to her career. And it felt awful.
Liliana Diaz
My heart sank and it just sank into my stomach. The fact that now someone at the table in front of me said this to the parent. And I tried to remain as professional as possible, but I, like, immediately interfered and I was like, no, that is not true.
Khan
Liliana tried to fight back and make sure that the parent would still work bilingually, but the caseworker had already planted that insidious myth.
Liliana Diaz
I still think back to that day and I'm just like, I wonder what happened with that parent.
Khan
The thing is, research doesn't just suggest that bilingualism doesn't hinder speech or cause confusion. Don't forget, all those benefits we talked about earlier will come along with the language because remember, this can be fun. And that brings us to our fourth takeaway, which is to find the joy. One family Farwell was working with was from India and their home language was Telugu.
Farwah Hussain
We had a non speaking child. He didn't have any words and all he was doing is opening closing doors.
Khan
Farwell works with a lot of children who are neurodivergent or on the autism spectrum. She made a point to meet the child where he was at. She got right down there on the floor and started opening and closing the doors.
Farwah Hussain
And we realized one of the beautiful songs in Telugu is a nursery rhyme. That's a peekaboo song. So it has this beautiful beat to it. So we started opening and closing the door with the beat. Now I don't speak the language and if I butcher the song. I'm sorry, guys, but it was such a beautiful connection that we made sure that we added the song into the child's AAC device.
Khan
That's an augmentative and alternative communication device which is A fancy way of saying, a device that helps a person communicate without speaking. It can look like a tablet or a button. But even texting or using sign language is considered aac.
Farwah Hussain
So he anytime he wanted to come play, that's the song that he would press. And before you know it, he started singing, which then turned to words. And it's those beautiful connections in any language that we can start with.
Khan
Bringing joy to the task of learning the language is fun for both the caregiver and the child. And to any parent that has listened to Wheels on the Bus more than they ever thought possible. Don't despair.
Farwah Hussain
It doesn't just have to be nursery rhymes in English and being able to go, row, row, row your boat. You can make sure that you're singing, you know, any Bollywood song that you want. And music is very joyful.
Khan
Now, if only I could get Leo back into Beyonce. But when I was talking to Farwa, she cited research that children learn through play. And when I dug into it, I found a clinical report from the American Academy of Pediatrics that says, quote, play is not frivolous. It enhances brain structure and function and promotes executive function. In other words, play is essential to how children learn and it literally helps their brains. And the good news is that because children are always learning, you don't have to do or buy anything special to make the learning happen. Liliana says that with her three year old son, that looks like strengthening his connection to his culture every chance she gets.
Liliana Diaz
I really try to tie it to our culture all the time. And whether that is like celebrating like certain holidays like Dia de los Muertos and being able to take him to Mexico and talking about Las ofrendas and.
Khan
Celebrating his connection to Mexico is paying off. Yitzael knows where he comes from.
Liliana Diaz
I really enjoy that. And trying to create that connection for him as well too, so that he knows that language is his culture, which is his identity.
Khan
Being bilingual isn't some massive other thing that's outside of your life. It can just be part of everyday existence. And I should say too, that it's never too late to start. Sure, it might be easier when a child is younger, but finding fun and playing with language is a lifelong thing and you can start whenever it feels right. Hell, you don't even have to have a kid fire up that language learning app and give it a shot. The fun is there for everybody. And one tip that Liliana had is if you're speaking one language and your child is code mixing, which is mixing languages in conversation, to see that as a yes and opportunity instead of correcting it.
Liliana Diaz
The best part is watching my son kind of learn these two languages and then trying to, like, carry it over into the other. And he'll say sometimes these, like, really mixed English Spanish words where I'm like, oh, that's a good one. I never thought of, you know, saying it that way.
Khan
Liliana said that watching her son's little light bulb flicker on as he learned new words made her so unbelievably happy. And I could not agree more. When I had a child, I knew it would be exciting and challenging in all kinds of new ways. But when I started speaking with her in Portuguese, I don't think I realized it would kick up so many emotions for me. All of a sudden, when talking to Leo, I'll remember how my vavo. My grandmother would tell me to have juizu, or good judgment. When I left the house, I sing pauma, pauma, pauma pe pe, pe. And boom. I'm on the playground singing it with my cousin Tarita. My parents raised me bilingual, which means I understand inherently the gift that it was. I mean, I'm not gonna lie. I kind of made it my entire personality at various points in my life. But in a real way, I understand that being bilingual made my world so much bigger, and I want that for my kid. This month, we're going to Sao Paulo to visit my family, and I cannot wait to see everybody and eat ponji queijo and have a churrasco. But the thing I'm most excited about is watching her run around in a pack of cousins and friends, understanding it all and taking it in. There aren't a lot of moments in parenting where you get confirmation that you're doing the right thing. There's always a little bit of doubt, but in that moment, I gotta say I think I'll know. Gracias. Adios. So let's recap our takeaways so you can start that bilingual life, shall we? Takeaway 1. Pick a style. Whether it's one parent, one language, time and place, or mixed languages at home, find the thing that works for your family. Takeaway 2. Consistency is key. Find a way to keep it up. Then we have takeaway 3. Bilingualism doesn't cause a delay or confusion. Kids are sponges. And finally, we have takeaway four, which is find the joy. Language learning is actually a lot of fun.
Marielle Segata
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Podcast Details
In this insightful episode of Life Kit, host Marielle Segarra delves into the world of raising children in multilingual households. Drawing from personal anecdotes and expert opinions, the episode provides a comprehensive guide for parents aspiring to nurture bilingual or multilingual children. The discussion covers the benefits of multilingualism, practical strategies for integrating multiple languages into daily life, and debunks common myths associated with raising bilingual kids.
The episode opens with Julia Furlan sharing her journey of raising a bilingual child. Julia and her spouse intentionally created an environment where their child could connect with Julia's Brazilian heritage by speaking both English and Portuguese at home.
Farwah Hussain, a bilingual speech pathologist who speaks Urdu, Hindi, and English, echoes similar sentiments. She highlights the emotional and cultural fulfillment that comes with hearing her child speak their heritage language.
Farwah Hussain outlines a myriad of benefits associated with bilingualism:
Cognitive Advantages: Enhanced problem-solving skills and better multitasking abilities.
Long-Term Health Benefits: Research suggests bilingualism can delay the onset of dementia by up to five years.
Cultural and Social Opportunities: Ability to connect with a broader range of people and access diverse cultural experiences.
Farwah Hussain: "Being bilingual has benefits not only for children but throughout a person's entire life." ([04:53])
Liliana Diaz, another bilingual speech pathologist, emphasizes the global opportunities that come with speaking multiple languages.
Marielle Segarra introduces various methods families can adopt to integrate multiple languages into their children's lives effectively.
Choosing a consistent approach is crucial. Common strategies include:
One Parent, One Language (OPOL): Each parent consistently speaks a different language to the child.
Minority Language at Home: Families speak a non-dominant language at home while the child is exposed to the dominant language outside.
Time and Place: Allocating specific times or settings for each language.
Mixed Language at Home: Caregivers speak all languages interchangeably.
Maintaining regular exposure to each language reinforces learning. Liliana Diaz suggests incorporating languages into daily routines without striving for perfection.
Marielle shares her practice of reading books in Portuguese to her child, ensuring consistent language exposure.
A significant portion of the episode addresses the misconception that raising bilingual children can lead to speech delays or confusion.
Farwah Hussain dismisses the myth that bilingualism causes language delays, citing research that shows bilingual children develop language skills on par with monolingual peers once both languages are acquired.
Liliana Diaz shares a personal story where a caseworker incorrectly advised against bilingual upbringing, reinforcing the importance of debunking such myths.
Studies referenced in the podcast indicate that while bilingual children might be temporarily quieter as they process multiple languages, they catch up to their peers without any long-term delays.
Integrating fun and cultural elements into language learning makes the process enjoyable and sustainable for both parents and children.
Farwah Hussain shares a heartwarming example of using a Telugu nursery rhyme to engage a non-speaking child, which eventually led to word formation.
Liliana Diaz emphasizes tying language to cultural identity, enhancing the child’s connection to their heritage.
Celebrate Cultural Holidays: Incorporate traditions and celebrations that align with the languages being learned.
Use Music and Songs: Singing in the target language makes learning enjoyable and memorable.
The episode wraps up with four essential takeaways for parents aiming to raise multilingual children:
Pick a Style: Choose a language strategy that aligns with your family dynamics, whether it's OPOL, minority language at home, time and place, or mixed language approaches.
Consistency is Key: Regular and meaningful exposure to each language through daily activities ensures effective language acquisition.
Bilingualism Doesn't Cause Delays: Contrary to common myths, raising bilingual children does not lead to speech delays or confusion. Research supports that bilingualism fosters cognitive and social benefits.
Find the Joy: Integrate fun and cultural elements into language learning to make the process enjoyable for both parents and children.
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This episode of Life Kit serves as an empowering resource for parents, demystifying the process of raising multilingual children and highlighting the profound benefits it brings to both personal and cognitive development. By embracing consistency, debunking myths, and finding joy in language learning, parents can successfully cultivate a rich multilingual environment for their children.