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Life Over Coffee
Hosted by Rick Thomas · EN
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master's University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).
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When Marriage Breaks: Conclusion—Ten Anchors for Your Soul
3d ago00:17:08Tap to summarizeFew battles cut deeper than the double blow of discovering your spouse has committed adultery and then facing the finality of divorce. Each one by itself can flatten the soul. But when they come together in succession, it feels like an earthquake followed by a tsunami. Your compass spins wildly, your sense of safety collapses, and God Himself can seem hard to find or understand. I write this conclusion with you in mind: the one whose heart has been ripped in two and who wonders if life will ever steady again. Maybe you are in the thick of it now, or maybe you are walking with someone who is. Either way, the counsel here is meant to give you perspective, hope, and practical handles for the long journey forward. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/when-marriage-breaks-conclusion-ten-anchors-for-your-soul/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
Transcribe →When Marriage Breaks: Chapter 7—From Adultery to Restoration
5d ago00:22:07Tap to summarizeThe path to dysfunction is unmarked and hidden. Nobody knows they’re on it until it’s too late. There are subtle indicators, but we rarely discern them. One of the clearest is the quiet mantra, “I deserve better.” That whisper hardened into a posture in Biff, and it paved the way to adultery. Biff had been frustrated with Mable for most of their marriage. They were high-school sweethearts. Everyone predicted a fairy-tale future. She was everything to him; he was the apple of her eye. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/the-path-to-adultery-and-a-plan-to-restoration-in-thirteen-steps/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
Transcribe →When Marriage Breaks: Chapter 6—Helping Your Offender
1w ago00:32:55Tap to summarizeOne of the hardest opportunities in the Christian life is learning how to help the very person who has hurt you. Everything in us recoils at the idea. The natural instinct when offended is to defend, withdraw, or retaliate. When your trust has been shattered, especially in something as devastating as adultery, the thought of leaning back in to help your spouse feels impossible, even offensive. Yet this is exactly where the gospel pushes us, not to ignore sin, not to excuse betrayal, but to look beneath the surface and begin addressing the root-level issues of the heart. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/learning-how-to-help-the-person-who-hurt-you/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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Mind Mapping Insecure Husband and Critical Wife
2w ago00:14:17Tap to summarizeThe dynamic of an insecure husband and a critical wife is one of the most common and deeply embedded relational patterns in marriage counseling. It’s a dynamic that doesn’t usually appear overnight, and it’s rarely the result of one major failure. Instead, it’s the slow erosion of trust, affection, communication, and humility over time. This kind of marriage dysfunction typically forms from a combination of personal insecurity, unresolved sin, habitual selfishness, and immature gospel application. And yet, as with all biblical counseling situations, this relational spiral is not beyond hope. The gospel is robust enough, the Spirit powerful enough, and the church necessary enough to bring healing. Read, Watch, Listen: lifeovercoffee.com/mind-mapping-in…-critical-wife/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
Transcribe →When Marriage Breaks: Chapter 5—Surviving Adultery
2w ago00:16:57Tap to summarizeThere are not many experiences in life more perplexing, destabilizing, and agonizing than discovering that your spouse has committed adultery. It feels like the ground gives way beneath your feet. The person you trusted most, the one with whom you covenanted before God, has betrayed that sacred union. The question immediately rises to the surface of the soul: How do you survive this? Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/surviving-adutlery/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
Transcribe →Mind Mapping a Marriage from Bad to Good
3w ago00:21:31Tap to summarizeOur behaviors reveal our hearts. “By their fruit, you shall know them.” If you get a discerning handle on a person’s actions, you will begin to unearth clues to what may be going on in their heart. The more biblical clarity you have, the better position you will be to care for them like Jesus would. For example, this theology of sanctification applies to many things that most folks might not consider. Let’s consider marriage. How do behaviors like laughability, tender care, and one-flesh body language form clues to help you understand the couple? Read, Watch, Listen: lifeovercoffee.com/mind-mapping-a-…om-bad-to-good/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
Transcribe →Mind Mapping Wisdom and Courage for Gossiping Friends
3w ago00:15:01Tap to summarizeIt is impossible to keep from talking about others behind their backs. We all do it in some form, whether casually, out of concern, or even in prayer. Thus, the question is not whether talking about someone will occur but how will we respond when it does? In this chapter, I’m speaking about gossip. Are we content to listen and silently participate in these conversations, or do we have the courage to redirect them toward biblical restoration? The way we handle private talk about others, especially when the information is potentially sinful, reveals not only our love for others but also our reverence for God. Read, Watch, Listen: lifeovercoffee.com/practical-wisdo…siping-friends/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
Transcribe →When Marriage Breaks: Chapter 4—Listening to Adultery
3w ago00:19:50Tap to summarizeIn the first three chapters, we explored the deceptive language of “emotional affairs,” the way secret sin hardens the conscience, and how hidden compromise can quietly rot a marriage from the inside out. We saw that adultery does not appear overnight. It is the fruit of years—sometimes decades—of unchecked desires, unconfessed sins, and unresolved guilt. What begins with private choices eventually becomes public devastation. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/interview-with-a-victim-of-adultery/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
Transcribe →Mind Mapping a Lady with a Small God
4w ago00:26:26Tap to summarizeThe path to a small god begins in childhood. It winds down a dangerous path until it finds self-reliant living, which is always destructive to the individual and their relationships. The way out of this nightmare of this soul is possible with a little help from a few competent friends and the grace of God. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mind-mapping-a-lady-with-a-small-god/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
Transcribe →When Marriage Breaks: Chapter 3—Revenge of the Conscience
Jun 2800:17:25Tap to summarizeYou don’t want to be a dull Christian. You don’t want to harden your conscience until it no longer feels or responds the way God designed it. Every believer faces a choice: you can walk in the truth—especially about yourself—or you can hide. But know this: if you choose concealment, your conscience will not stay silent. It will eventually take its revenge on you. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/be-honest-or-your-conscience-will-take-revenge-on-you/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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