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A listener writes in about something she has never fully admitted before. She

was never physically attracted to her husband. She chose him because he loved

Jesus and she believed he would be a good husband and father. They have never

had a good sex life. And now, after his infidelity, the attraction is completely

gone and she does not know where to go from here.

Carl and Laura break down the two pillars that build genuine sexual attraction,

security and mystery, and explain exactly how infidelity destroys both. Carl

shares why your wife's nervous system is a direct mirror of your tone and

consistency over time. Laura walks through her four-question matrix for

identifying exactly why attraction is gone, because the reason determines the

path. From the difference between companionate love and erotic love, to why

admiration is the most underrated on-ramp to desire, this episode delivers the

kind of counsel most people cannot find anywhere else.

This episode will challenge anyone who has ever confused being a good person

with being a desirable partner.

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I Love My Husband But I Am Not Attracted To Him