Podcast
Lit AF Relationships
Hosted by Sarah Cohan · EN
Lit AF podcast is your resource for healing and transforming attachment styles. Sarah Cohan is a relationship and communication coach. She helps folx end old relationship patterns like people-pleasing and codependency in order to show up confidently in secure relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style. Tune in to start healing today.
Website: [Sarahcohan.com](https://www.sarahcohan.com/)
Instagram: [@itsmesarahcohan](https://www.instagram.com/itsmesarahcohan/)
Email: hello@sarahcohan.com
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246. Why Arguing is Important for Healthy Relationships
4d ago00:21:28Tap to summarizeDiscover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Transcribe →245. Forgiving old hurts in your relationship
2w ago00:19:59Tap to summarizeIf you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you likely have some past hurts that you’ve experienced in your relationship. This could be betrayal, disappointment, grief, or heartache. After many years, they start to add up. And, eventually, we start resenting our partner because of the backlog of issues that have occurred. We see each other as adversaries instead of partners. In this episode, I talk about how to start forgiving your partner without feeling like you’re letting them off the hook. Tune in to start feeling supported by your partner again.Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Transcribe →244. Why secure people share their needs
4w ago00:18:58Tap to summarizeIf you think you’re a burden for having needs or are worried people will leave if you have them, this episode is for you. I talk about why personal needs are inherently neutral for people who are securely attached. I explain how they view them, communicate them, and feel when they are met or sometimes not met. I explain why needs feel impossible if you have an insecure attachment style and how to inch closer to sharing them so you feel more supported and seen in your relationship. Tune in to start having a safe and secure relationship.Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Transcribe →243. Why Regulating Our Emotions Helps Us Fight Better
Apr 1500:22:04Tap to summarizeIf you don’t know how to have conflict without it escalating into a big fight, this episode is for you. I talk about my secret weapon to helping you have a productive fight that stays on topic, and that secret is regulating emotions. I know, emotions are scary. But when you learn how to regulate them it makes a world of difference to showing up for your partner and feeling like your fights are safe and getting resolved. Tune in to learn how to start fighting better and feeling safer in your relationship. Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Transcribe →242. Stop controlling your partner and get what you want
Apr 800:26:39Tap to summarizeIn this episode, I talk about how to stop using control in romantic relationships. Two insecure attachment types have a high need for control and I break down why so you can understand where this pattern comes from. I also share what to do instead in order to get what you want from your partner.And I also share what to do if your partner can’t meet your need. It is possible to drop control and still get your needs met. Tune in to start using unconditional love in your relationship.Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Transcribe →241. An Inside Look at Healthy Relationships with Secure Attachment
Apr 100:27:46Tap to summarizeAre you curious about what a healthy relationship looks like? Do you have an inkling that something in your relationship is off? This episode peels back the curtain to show you what a healthy and secure relationship looks like. I talk about what arguments look and feel like, how it feels to come home to your person, and the deep belief that comes from knowing you’re with the right person. Tune in to learn more about what secure attachment looks like.Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Transcribe →240. Should I break up or should I stay?
Mar 2500:19:25Tap to summarizeIf you’re not sure if your partner is the right person, this episode is for you. It’s going to help you understand how to make the decision to stay or leave. I share about common patterns that pop up when we make these types of decisions and how to move through them so you don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis. I finish the episode talking about how you figure out how to make a healthy relationship work or decision to walk away. It’s time to get rid of the confusion and indecision. And start finding or making safe relationships where you feel supported.Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Transcribe →239. Want More Reassurance from Your Partner?
Mar 1800:22:27Tap to summarizeDo you want more reassurance from your partner? Do you feel like they’re always trying to take space away from you or you’re not sure if they want to be in a relationship with you? This episode will help you understand how to get what you need from your partner without having to be someone different. This is not about getting rid of your need for reassurance but instead knowing how to get them on board to meet your needs while you are also meeting their needs. Tune in to finally feel reassured in your relationship.Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Transcribe →238. Do you want your partner to share more?
Mar 1100:18:46Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Lit AF Relationships, Sarah Cohan breaks down the real reason your partner might not be sharing and the surprising thing you might be doing that makes it harder for them to open up.Through personal stories from her own marriage and powerful client examples, Sarah explains how certain patterns like criticism, emotional reactions, and “weaponized curiosity” can unintentionally shut down the very vulnerability you’re craving. She also shares the mindset shift that transformed her own relationship after betrayal and helped couples she works with move from distance and doubt to deep connection where both partners feel seen and heard.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Transcribe →237. When Emotions Feel Unsafe: Inside the Dismissive Avoidant Mind
Mar 400:16:43Tap to summarizeDo you feel like you can only rely on yourself or that it’s a sign of weakness to share your feelings? If so, this episode is for you. I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style is brought up to think they need to be independent. I also share why the dismissive-avoidant is cut off from their emotions. If you’re in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant this will help you understand why they need so much space and why feelings are so hard for them.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
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