Ever catch yourself trying to protect someone from their own emotions—like disappointment, anger, or sadness? You’re not alone. In this episode, we explore the sneaky ways many of us—especially those with fearful avoidant attachment—take on emotional responsibility that was never ours to begin with.

We break down how childhood conditioning taught us to manage other people’s feelings as a form of survival, and why that habit lingers long into adulthood. Whether you're people-pleasing, over-giving, or avoiding conflict altogether, these patterns might feel like kindness, but they come at a cost: your own emotional well-being and the other person’s ability to take ownership of their experience.

You’ll learn why trying to “protect” others from hard emotions often leads to resentment, and how choosing short-term discomfort can actually build stronger, more honest relationships.

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206. The Cost of Carrying Everyone’s Emotions