Ever feel like you're putting way more into a friendship than you're getting back? Like you're always remembering their birthday, showing up for their milestones, and making time for deep hangs—while they barely text back or only want to hang in big groups?

In this episode, we talk about what it feels like when friendships become unbalanced and how to stop taking it personally. I introduce the “friend shelf system”—a way to honor different types of friendships without expecting every friend to be everything. I share how I stopped making other people’s preferences mean something about me, and how you can start seeing those moments as neutral instead of personal.

If you’ve been feeling drained by a friendship or questioning whether you matter to someone, this one’s for you.

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210. When You’re Putting Too Much Into a Friendship