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When you feel isolated and alone and like you're the only one this is happening to, like a victim, then that's when you can become overpowered.
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Oh, yeah.
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You know, the connection with God keeps you from being overrun.
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Emily Wilkes is a resilient visionary and empowering entrepreneur, consultant and the founder of Limitless Consulting and co creator of Next Level Shop Owners. She helps automotive business owners grow through leadership strategy and mentorship.
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I was in a pretty traumatic accident, actually died. Came back to life. I had to overcome a mental battle with what I feel like was demons. Now my mind is stronger than ever, and I had that at a very young age happen to me now, like I said, I feel limitless. I experienced something when I past one of my first experiences with God. That kind of the afterlife. And my name's Rudy Moore, host of Living the Red Life Podcast, and I'm
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here to change the way you see your life in your earpiece every single week. If you're ready to start living the
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red life, ditch the blue pill.
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Take the red pill.
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Join me in wonderland and change your life.
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Welcome back to another amazing episode of the Living youg Legacy podcast, the Red Life edition. For Inside Success. I am Reagan Tierras. Joining me today as I scroll through my notes is Emma Lee Wilkes.
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Thanks.
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You're very welcome. Our Women in power of today. Emily, we just finished filming your episode. Well, actually, Jason did. How do you feel?
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I feel good. I've never been filmed before, so I was a little nervous.
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Right on.
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Yeah.
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Is this your first podcast?
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This is also my first podcast.
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Right on. How does it feel?
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It feels good. I mean, do you want to sit.
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Do you want to sit in awkward silence for a moment?
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No. I mean, I can if you want to.
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I was just gonna say that's just
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the cardinal good at, like, just staring at people, which some people find intimidating.
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No, I'm not intimidated at all. We can stare at each other in silence in this podcast for 20 minutes.
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It's called the Confront Drill. You just, like, front person by just staring at them. Yeah.
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All right. How am I doing so far? Are we confronting each other?
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We're good. We're connecting really well.
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Right on.
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Cool.
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Love. What are we going to learn about you in your. In your episode for Women in Power?
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What you can learn is that you're limitless. That's my company name. And, like, that's what I believe about people, is that we have limitless potential. And even if you come from a family like mine or a background like mine or something better or worse, like you can, you can get where you want to go.
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So limitless potential, where does that begin? You've, I'm sure where you began was very constrained and not very limitless.
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Yeah, no, I definitely came from a place of fear, actually really young age. I was in a pretty traumatic accident, actually died, came back to life, flatlined several times, and that fear kind of consumed me for a little while. I felt afraid of a lot of the world. And then one day I just was healed and I realize that, you know, this world is what I want it to be. And I guess I do, you know, quote scripture sometimes and say, you know, if God is for me, then who can stand against me?
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Yeah.
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So absolutely makes me feel limitless.
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Absolutely. Amen to that. Let's rewind a little bit and talk about this, this near death experience, or some would say near life experience.
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Yeah.
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Do you mind walking us through that? What's it like experiencing this?
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Well, at 11 years old, I. It was a huge shock. Obviously. It happened on the 4th of July. We were hit by a drunk driver going 80 miles an hour in his Porsche and needless to say, wrecked me. I had massive internal bleeding. I took the brunt of the force. My family was injured, but not as severely. And my sister who was sitting closest to me, her pelvic bone actually snapped in half due to the pressure that was on the side of the vehicle that I was on.
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Wow.
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So, yeah, I had my spleen exploded. My liver and intestine had to be reattached. I lost my spleen permanently. I don't have it. So after that I battled really a lot with my health because spleen is kind of important when it comes to fighting infection and bacteria and things. So. But, you know, the grace of God, I. I lived. In fact, there was an off duty paramedic and MP that just happened to be right there during the accident and they called in Lifelight and that's, you know, ultimately that saved me because without that I would have. I would have died.
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So do you remember all of this? Were you unconscious? Were you knocked out cold during.
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When the accident first happened? I was asleep, luckily. They say that when you get impact, if you can see something coming, you actually tense more and can actually exaggerate your injuries and time slows down. Right. Yes, I luckily was asleep and my injuries were still very severe. I do remember waking up. I do remember being pulled out of the vehicle and I was vomiting blood. And then I do remember being in the hospital waking up. The first time time I actually woke fully, I was actually sleepwalking. I was trying to find my little sister and brother. I'm the oldest, so, like, kind of the caregiver. And for some reason, I thought my sister was needing my help. So I got up out of bed, out of a hospital bed. I had tubes all in me, and I ripped them out and was sleepwalking and just was trying to get to my sister. And the next thing I knew, like, my grandmother was there in front of me and waking me and. And the nurses were, like, you know, putting me back to bed and, like, sedating me. And that was my first, like, conscious moment, like, fully conscious after the accident. And the next morning, of course, they were like, well, you know, these tubes you pulled out, those have to go back in. So that was a little unpleasant. But it was a long journey after that to recovery. I was in the hospital for a little over two weeks, and when I left, I couldn't walk. I had to be wheelchaired. I had to sleep on the couch downstairs because I couldn't go up and down the stairs or anything. And, you know, I have a massive scar. People are like, is that a C section? And I'm like, no, that's not normally where that would be. But, yeah, you know, something that I overcame and physically, the mental toll that took many more years, the anxiety and stress and worry of, like, even being in a car.
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Oh, for sure.
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Was for me, like, I would freeze. Like, panic. Panic attacks.
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You said you flatlined several times.
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Yeah.
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What was that? Like, does. Does the vessel ever feel the heart stop? Does this. Does the soul know that the vessel's not clicking?
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You know, I. I experienced something when I passed, and I, you know, talked about it when I first came to, and that was a lot of the times explained away, you know. Oh, you're experiencing the side effects of medication. Sure.
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Heavily.
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Heavily medicated. And, you know, you are experiencing trauma. People who have trauma, like, see things, and it was kind of explained away to me, but I feel like that was, like, for me, one of my first experiences with God and that kind of the afterlife. And I was a little embarrassed to admit it for a long time.
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No, no way.
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But, yeah, I know that God saved my life for a purpose, and he basically been chasing after me ever since. And I didn't become. I didn't become a Christian, actually, until about nine years ago. And that's when my life got really good. So, yeah.
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Was there a moment a doctor walked in and gave you the statistics and go, if it wasn't for you sitting here your entire Family would not be like you took the blunt of this force. Something tells me that if it wasn't for you calculated sitting in that moment, take that impact, your entire family would not be here.
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You know, if I was in the seat or not in the seat, I don't know statistically what, what would have come of my family, you know, my sister maybe would have been a little more injured. She was the one directly next to me.
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But I guess what I'm trying to rely on, what I'm trying to land on, is that you took the blunt force for a reason. You. You were divinely, I think that I
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had to die before I could live. If that's. There you go. That's, you know, kind of what you're getting at is like, who knows who I would have been as a person or been shaped into.
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Sure.
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I had to overcome a mental battle with what I feel like was demons and now my mind is stronger than ever. And I had that at a very young age happen to me. And now, you know, like I said, I feel limitless. So.
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No, that's great.
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My fear, my worry, I don't worry. I don't have. I haven't had panic. I haven't had a panic attack like probably 12 years.
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Wow.
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Or longer. Like it was bad. Like every day kind of thing sure was there.
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How would you describe bad? Was it just very noisy in your head?
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Were you always anxiety ridden as a child? I would reference it as like the devil whispers. Like I would just feel like everyone was out to get me that I was gonna die basically. Like everything was scary and I was triggered by a lot of things, even fireworks. I couldn't watch fireworks for years because it would remind me of that night. And it wasn't just an accident. This man, he deliberately got drunk, got in his car and wanted to kill himself. And he wanted to take people with him. So to have that, like there are evil people that want to hurt you as a child, it's a little unearthing. You just. You just feel like you don't know anything anymore. Like nothing is certain. And yeah, I. I struggled with that for a really long time.
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So tell me about, about what's certain today. What's. What's your day to day life today?
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Certainty today. You know, I have four beautiful children.
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Amazing.
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I've been married. In fact, I've been married for almost seven years. My anniversary is coming up here. Congratulations. I have a great husband who also is a business owner and just has. He's got a great work ethic. He's one of the hardest workers I know. Had to do a little training on working hard versus working smart.
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Sure.
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So he's always been kind of more of a laborer and now he's becoming an owner and he's learning a lot of the things that some of my new clients learn as business owners. He's really transforming and he went from like a one man show to like he has a whole team of people. Yeah, he's in the tech industry and he just loves, he loves satellite. He does like satellite stuff and, you know, stuff that's beyond me. But as far as the business aspect and knowing your product and knowing your promotion and having good people, that's where I step in. And I've really, you know, kind of helped him with that step, one step at a time. And he really appreciates me for that. Like we see each other's strengths and both in business and as parents and that's, you know, really been helpful for us.
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So some folks that are entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, witchpreneurs, they all have their secret powers. Your power is seeing the other side, or at least feeling the other side. What do you think you came back with? What knowledge, what, what divine download kind of gave you the upper hand to do what you do so well today?
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You know, I think God reveals his secrets to those that he trusts in and that trust in him.
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Sure.
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And he's always been there for me, rather you want to call it like an intuition or some type of feeling or something. I feel like it's the guidance there, that connection that I have. And not to say that you need to die to get that, but I think that, you know, coming from my life, and I don't come from a religious background, none of my family is Christian. So to go from, from that to where I am today, you know, like, not to say that that needed to happen, but God used it to become close to me.
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I was just gonna say. Yeah, I was just gonna say either God's a magician, a musician or a comedian, but there's always a divine path, a divine plan. Can you talk to folks that don't quite see through the darkness and they need to hear that some light. For someone that has actually stepped into the darkness and pulled out.
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Yeah, being in the darkness is hard and things fester in the darkness. And that's, I think, the number one thing that keeps you there is not talking about it or sharing it with others. Bringing things to the light is what will set you free. Like there's, there's freedom in words and, and sharing and connecting with others. And when you feel isolated and alone and like you're the only one this is happening to or like a victim, then that's when you can become overpowered.
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Oh yeah.
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You know, the connection is what with others and with God keeps you from being overrun for sure.
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So what do you do and what's your daily affirmations? Do you journal, jump in an ice bath?
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Actually, I do have an ice bath, believe it or not.
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Do you really?
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I have an ice bath. I love it. It's great. My husband goes a lot colder, which I guess scientifically they say that's better. It's good for men to go really cold.
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Sure.
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I'm about a 40 degree person. I don't go to that 30 level.
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Right on.
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But, but. And like right now I have a sauna that's being put into my house. Like just because I'm a Christian doesn't mean I don't believe in like mainstream medicine or you know, some of these things.
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Rudy's got a sauna.
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Our physical body.
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Yes.
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So sauna. I, I take my vitamins.
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Light therapy, I'm sure. Light therapy?
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Yeah, light therapy. I eat very healthy. I, you know, work out. I was telling Jason, you know, I used to compete just natural bikini shirts and things like that. You wouldn't know now. Cause I just had a baby like 12 weeks ago, so congrats. So I gotta lose a little of that baby weight. But yeah, I mean, I do go to church every Sunday. I do read scripture. I'm actually writing a book kind of about my life and, and how I basically am breaking it down into what I was feeling and going through at the time, how I perceived it then and how I perceive it now. And I also relate scripture to each of those phases of my life. And I'm hoping that when I do release it, like there's other women or people in the world that can relate to that story and again feel connected. Because if you feel alone and in the darkness, like that's where bad things happen.
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Oh yeah, no, for sure. What's your day to day like? Like, are you on social media? Are you live streaming? How are you getting your name out there? Like, how are you getting your message across?
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You know, I'm bad about really promoting myself as an individual, which is why this is the first podcast I've ever had. I do promote, you know, my auto repair shop, my clients shops. I do have a social media, so I am on Instagram. I do post on there quite often or sometimes. I'll go live on Instagram, Facebook. You know, I have a Twitter account.
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Right on.
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So, yeah, if you want to follow me, you sure can. It's, it's an interesting, we do a lot of fun stuff. I live the farm life though. Like I have an acre of land and I have chickens and goats and, you know, turkeys. And my four children, sometimes they act like animals. They're great, they're real feral, but they're going to be unstoppable. Like, I very much take that into my parenting life. Like, I don't want to stifle my children. Sometimes I have to tell them no for their own protection. But like my 4 year old, he, I feel like he knows how to do more than most 10 year olds. Like, he, he's great. And my 14 year old, like, he, he works with my husband in his business and has a lot of ambitions to be his own business owner one day. And yeah, they're, they're great. And my daughter, she's the kindest, you know, little cheerleader. She's just, you're the greatest mommy. They're the prettiest mommy. And I just, I love her. She's, she has, she got the, the Character award for kindness and love in school. So.
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Amazing.
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Yeah, I just, my day to day is them and helping as many people as I can. Whether that's, you know, day to day life, helping somebody or even in business. Because I really do feel like small business ownership is very important here in America and across the world. Like, it helps us connect to each other and be proud and just have a sense of community. So.
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Yeah, I lived in Switzerland for a year and it takes about six months to start an LLC there.
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Oh, wow.
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It's like six minutes. You start when.
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Yeah, I was going to say can make you one right now.
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Yeah, yeah. And Switzerland's like, if you don't belong here, get the hell out.
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Yeah, yeah. Like six, seven seconds.
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Yeah, pretty much. So talk about your journey today. What is the name of your company?
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Limitless Consulting is the name of my company. The Limitless. Obviously I'm passionate about that. I became a consultant because I want to help other businesses get to where they want to go. And having worked, you know, with some other really amazing business owners and being kind of a key instrument in where they were going and what they were doing, kind of seeing behind the scenes, that really helped me grow. And then that's why I was like, this is what I want to do. And you know, it's great and grand being an executive. Assistant to, you know, a millionaire billionaire who owns a bunch of businesses. But if I can help multiple owners and, you know, really just get out there, that's kind of like what I start. That's why I started Limitless.
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So that's awesome. What's your. What's the first day like when you onboard a client, you kick in the door, you're like, let me tell you the thing about death. Like, no work.
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No, it's. It's really. I'm watching, I'm doing a lot of observation. I'm seeing, like, their environment, their team, their product, kind of like what their customers would go through. And they always have their idea of what their problem is. They might think it's one thing, in reality it's another. And kind of just getting immersed in that and then showing them, okay, this is where I'm seeing some pain points and asking just the right questions, too. Well, have you ever had a problem with this? Or what do you think about that? And then, you know, they sometimes manifest themselves. Oh, yeah, that. That would be better. Or, oh, yeah, no, we shouldn't do that. Or. So it's. It's more of a guidance rather than I, like, bust in there, like, tell them, like, you suck at this and you better do this different. And like, that's. No one would want to work with somebody like that.
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No. For sure. Executive coaches are very much a thing. You're speaking to someone that was very skeptical about it. Because I come from the traditional mad way, Mad Men way of doing things where it's like, you just yell at things. Things happen. Coffee.
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Coffee. As a girl. Yeah, copy that. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Stop. Stop crying, Peggy.
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Yeah.
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Stop being a little girl. Every time you get a client, you lose them anyways. And, and, And I worked at Patreon. I was a 22nd employee. And all these fresh college kids are like, execs.
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Yeah.
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And they're in these private rooms with coaches that are much older and like, peeking through, jealous of, of course, going, why do they get coaches and execs? And I'm here kind of figuring out on my own, and now that I'm sitting across from, like, it's very much a thing, and it's very helpful. Like, figuring on your own is, Is great. And yeah, pat yourself on the back as I knock my mic. But having a coach to kind of like, lead the way and kind of help you make mistakes and help you fall and rise is also fucking fantastic.
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Yeah.
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Talk about what, what, what your approach is. How your approach is so unique and, and why Is it your approach?
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I think it's just the care factor. And it's also about not just giving solutions, but helping others so that they can eventually create their own solution.
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Right on.
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You know that saying, like, you can lead a man to the water and give him a fish, but if you teach him to fish, like there's also
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like a horse in there life.
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Yeah, there's a horse somewhere. Like, you know, it's a great proverb, horse to water. Is it a man? I don't remember. But, you know, you give a man a fish or you teach him to fish. And it's like if you can get somebody in the mindset of problem solving. So on average, an average human being will spend one hour of the day thinking about solutions or the future. The rest of it is present time or past problems. An entrepreneur or somebody with a solution mindset actually spends six to eight hours a day on that. That's six times more than the average person. So it is a way of thinking. It is something you can train somebody to do. So having somebody who knows how to do it, it's called yoking. Back in the day, they used to take an old ox that could plow the field and they'd put it with a young ox and they'd yoke them together so that the old bull could teach or the old ox could teach the new ox how to plow the field properly. And it's something that's a little bit lost in our culture. We think, again, I should just be able to figure it out by myself and trial and fail and, you know, and there can be a lot of lost time and a lot of lost productivity and efficient efficiency loss with that method. Whereas as a consultant, as somebody who has a solution mindset, a different way of thinking, we can help train somebody to do that. Even myself, I never stop learning. I still do training. When I get back from here, back to Idaho, I'm flying in a coach to come see me, to teach me how to do more things like how to be a better executive and how to get more results for my people and then train them and so on and so forth. So that's kind of what's different about our approach. I definitely don't know everything, and I definitely can't do everything by myself. But I'm gonna, I'm going to keep learning and growing every single day until I can for sure.
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No, that's great. It's. It's awesome that you mentioned some modeling in there because a lot of on camera coaching is very necessary. Like a lot of folks don't understand how to speak in sound bites, how to get their message across clearly and confidently in a proper way. Because the CEO is, is much more than just pushing papers. It's. It's really an image. You're really a superhero. There's the Bruce Wayne Superman CEOs, especially
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now everything you do is also magnified.
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Absolutely.
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If you were in the front, if you were. The spotlight is on you. The smallest mistake is now this huge catastrophe.
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Don't scratch your nose. Don't do anything.
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Just don't, don't make it look like you're picking a book or happy accidents.
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Everything was meant to be.
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Exactly.
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So which is why it's so important to, to walk in some sort of divine route, because you really can't just let the human psychology and the 10% of what we are as humans could take control of this. It's, it's very much a divine, supernatural power to be an entrepreneur, to be a leader, to lead a tribe. It's. It, it takes it.
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A good friend of mine calls me the unicorn. Yeah, no, that's like you're a unicorn. You're basically a make believe preacher. Like, you don't come up very often.
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It's a very much a term used in, in my world. You're a unicorn. Like. Yeah, yeah.
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You find a unicorn too. You just like when you get one of those as an employee or.
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Yeah.
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You find out what their passions are and what they want and you help them get to it. Otherwise, quickly, they'll go somewhere where they can get to it quickly.
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And folks need to understand that. When you work with folks like you and I, we're not to toot our own horn, but it's very much. We're blessing the company with our energy because we are Christian. We come from a certain guideline of rules that define our surroundings. So when we enter into an establishment that lacks these rules, energies, we're blessing the environment, the frequency starts to shift and change. We call it the Christian superpower, but you call it something greater.
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Yeah. And even with my clients, I come to them and talk to them about their values and their core values and what it is they want to represent to their company. And that's one of the exercises sometimes we'll do. If they don't have that already set in place. It's like your culture's lacking. So here's why. No one knows what your core values are. Nobody knows what you stand for. How are they supposed to emulate that culture and what you are? If they don't even know. So we do have their posted core values. And like, no, it sounds silly, but it's like we're interviewing somebody. They walk in, they see that. It's like, there they are. If you can't abide by these things, do you can be a part of the group?
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Yeah. Core values are very important. Put that front and center in the lobby as you walk in.
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Yeah.
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It's almost like putting that third eye in my culture. It's like put it over your door.
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You want to keep that break room, training room, wherever.
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Yeah, yeah, wherever it is. It's very important. It's just once you realize we're really just these rooms on. On ground, you'll start understanding. Like, you can really create a. Based on lighting, atmosphere, smell. You can create a whole journey for not just yourself, but your clients to experience whatever you want them experiencing.
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Yep.
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It's that simple.
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It's kind of like this room right here. I hope you feel experience.
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I hope you feel powerful and confident.
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I do. I love it. My son would go crazy over this. Like, the cotton LED light things he wants to do that he showed me just like recently on YouTube or something. He's like, this is how they do it. The tutorial.
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Yep, Yep, yep. Yeah. YouTube University. Rudy is a. A fellow gamer and he's also a counter strike world champion, so.
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Oh, awesome.
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Video games.
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There is.
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There is a future in video games. Don't, don't, don't.
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I. I believe it. My son, he. He makes people probably lots of Money watching those YouTube video.
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B
It is a real thing. How can folks continue learning more about you and find out more about you?
- [26:20]
A
Well, I did write a book that is actually published. It's called you'd be batshit crazy if you didn't implement this in your business. And it just talks about some. It's a real quick read. You know, I don't. I feel like business owners need solutions and they don't need to waste 10 hours reading a book.
- [26:38]
B
Yep.
- [26:38]
A
So I made it, you know, very quick read. It's on Amazon and it's just like six tips on how you can help your business grow and like, basically establish a process. So amazing. If you want to know more about me, you can read that. And you can also follow me on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter and also TikTok, because apparently I'm on that too.
- [27:02]
B
Apparently. Emily Wicks. It's Emily Wilkes. Thank you so much for your time and energy. Your legacy is literally crying out for you.
- [27:08]
A
Yes. I have a baby here in the studio.
- [27:11]
B
We got to prioritize here. This is Emily, and I'm Ray. And we. We are inside. Success.