Your story doesn't have to end in betrayal. It doesn't have to end in addiction. It doesn't have to end in shame. In Christ, there is a path forward—one courageous step of honesty, one humble act of repentance, one powerful moment of grace at a time. What feels like the end may actually be the beginning. All you have to do is take the step.

Join us today as Scott sits down with our guest Jonathan Fisher for a raw, real discussion on pornography addiction, infidelity, its impact on a marriage and God's power to redeem, restore and rebuild.

Opening Questions

Where are you winning this week?
When you hear a story about failure, confession, and restoration, which part do you tend to focus on most and why?

Discussion Quesitons

Jonathan's struggle started in his teenage years and stayed hidden for a long time. Why do you think sexual sin (or sin in general) thrives in secrecy?

Have you ever believed the lie that a future change (marriage, a new season, more discipline) would fix something going on inside of you? What happened?

The episode says: "Sin will take you farther than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay, and cost you more than you want to pay."—Billy Graham. Where have you seen that play out in your own life or in someone close to you?

Do you know of men and marriages that have been impacted by pornography, sexual sin or infidelity? Describe the pain and carnage that it brought on?

Bible: Psalm 32:1-8

As you read those 8 verses, pay attention to the critical postures of concealing sin and finally acknowledging our sin.
What are God's responses towards us in both of these postures?
Why should our hearts be broken over the sin our lives?

Not every story ends the same way some marriages are restored, some aren't. Why is it important to pursue honesty and repentance even when the outcome isn't guaranteed?

Jonathan and Jill had to rebuild their marriage with accountability, counseling, and community. Which of those (accountability, counseling, community) do men resist the most—and why?

The episode emphasizes: "Trust is rebuilt through consistency, not words." What are some practical ways trust is rebuilt over time?

Jesus raises the standard by addressing lust, not just actions. What are some everyday situations where men tend to let their guard down (phones, work, travel, etc.)? How can we set better boundaries?

Bible: Matthew 5:27-30.

What does Jesus say about adultery and lust?
Why does He use such drastic language? What's the warning?
Scott shared a list of drastic measures. Which of those spoke to you? What are some drastic measures that you need to take?

Challenge: Do the drastic thing! What is the drastic thing that comes to mind for you and how will you act on it?

What else in the episode challenged you? How did the Holy Spirit speak to you?

Resources:

Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation, by Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker
Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken, by Cindy Beall
Finding Forgiveness and Restoration, by Cindy Beall
Forgiving What You Can't Forget, by Lysa TerKeurst
It's Not Supposed to Be This Way, by Lysa TerKeurst
Good Boundaries & Goodbyes, by Lysa TerKeurst
Winning the Battle Within, by Neil T. Anderson
The Game Plan: The Men's 30-Day Strategy for Attaining Sexual Integrity by Joe Dallas
Out of the Dog House: A Step-by-Step Relationship Guide for Men who Cheat, by Dr. Robert Weiss
Locker Room Episode: Stop Porn, May 10th, 2024
Locker Room Episode: The Power of Healthy Boundaries, October 7th, 2024.
Locker Room Series: Giants…where we talk about lies men believe, guilt & shame, resentment & bitterness (October & November 2024). Those are three episodes that might really beneficial in your marriage.
One more…In the Fire: Purity with Connor Hall. September 26th, 2025. Great episode.

Wrap Up:

If this podcast has encouraged you—We'd love to hear from you.
If you're wrestling with Christianity, interested in getting baptized or need help figuring out your next step, if you'd like to connect with Jonathan or Jill…shoot us an email at lockerroom@southland.church.
As always…if this podcast has encouraged you—share it with a friend. You never know how an episode like this can help those in your life that you care about.
Thanks for listening. Get after it! We'll catch you next time on Locker Room.