Raising Modern Men: A Mother's Perspective

Summary

Podcast Summary: Lost Boys – Episode: "Raising Modern Men: A Mother's Perspective"

Release Date: June 19, 2025
Hosts: Anthony Scaramucci and Scott Galloway
Guest: Deirdre Scaramucci

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1. Introduction to the Discussion

In this episode of Lost Boys, hosts Anthony Scaramucci and Scott Galloway delve into the pressing challenges young men face in contemporary America. Focusing on professional, social, and financial struggles, the hosts aim to uncover the roots of these issues and explore strategies to foster resilience and success among young men.

2. Guest Introduction: Deirdre Scaramucci’s Background

Deirdre Scaramucci, Anthony's wife, joins the conversation to provide a maternal perspective on raising boys in today's society. With a successful career in business and the experience of raising two boys, Deirdre offers valuable insights into balancing traditional and modern parenting approaches.

3. Shifting Gender Roles and Parenting Styles

The discussion begins with an exploration of how gender roles have evolved over the decades. Deirdre recounts her upbringing in a traditional household where limited career options were presented to women, starting her career as a secretary before advancing on Wall Street.

Notable Quote:
"I'm trying to teach them to embrace their masculinity, but also be kind, have manners."
— Deirdre Scaramucci [06:07]

She emphasizes the importance of maintaining both masculine and feminine energies in parenting, fostering an environment where boys can develop strength without losing their gentleness.

4. Educational System and Its Impact on Boys

Scott Galloway references Richard Reeves' work, suggesting that the K-12 education system may inherently disadvantage boys. With the majority of teachers being women, boys often lack male role models and face expectations that align more closely with female students.

Notable Quote:
"The school system is just an extension of it. But really, your kid's personality is shaped at home."
— Deirdre Scaramucci [11:20]

Deirdre agrees but points out that when schools do include male principals and teachers, as in her children's school, it can positively influence boys' behaviors and self-perception.

5. Screen Time and Technology Challenges

A significant portion of the conversation addresses the pervasive influence of screens and technology on children. Deirdre discusses the difficulty of managing screen time, the exposure to inappropriate content, and the resulting impact on attention spans and social skills.

Notable Quote:
"They're on a screen. That's the God's honest truth. So we did this crazy thing where we literally installed a full court basketball."
— Deirdre Scaramucci [15:09]

To combat excessive screen time, the Scaramucci family implemented creative solutions like installing a basketball court at home, encouraging physical activity as an alternative to digital distractions.

6. Balancing Parenting: Masculine and Feminine Energy

Deirdre and Anthony explore the balance between enforcing discipline and nurturing kindness. While Deirdre naturally leans towards a more nurturing approach, Anthony contributes a more authoritative stance, creating a balanced dynamic that benefits their children.

Notable Quote:
"We need more of that balance. It's a fine balance."
— Deirdre Scaramucci [09:17]

This balance ensures that boys understand the importance of both strength and empathy, preparing them for the complexities of adult life.

7. The Role of Sports in Raising Boys

Both Deirdre and Anthony highlight the crucial role sports play in their children's lives. Sports not only promote physical health but also teach teamwork, discipline, and resilience.

Notable Quote:
"Sports has been massive. I would tell people, get your kids in sports."
— Anthony Scaramucci [40:26]

Deirdre adds that sports serve as an effective means to reduce screen time and provide purpose and structure to their children's daily routines.

8. Financial Support and Instilling Grit

The hosts discuss the delicate balance between providing financial support and encouraging independence. While economic security allows children to pursue their passions without the fear of failure, it also raises concerns about a lack of resilience and self-sufficiency.

Notable Quote:
"If you had the resources my kids have, the only thing I know I would have is a Range Rover and a cocaine habit."
— Scott Galloway [43:16]

Deirdre expresses concern that financial ease might reduce their children's drive to overcome challenges, highlighting the importance of instilling grit and perseverance.

9. Reflections on Parenting and Character Development

The conversation culminates with personal reflections on parenting styles and their long-term effects on children's character. Deirdre acknowledges the necessity of occasional strictness to teach consequences, while Anthony emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and passion.

Notable Quote:
"Life is short. Relax. ... pick something you really want to do."
— Anthony Scaramucci [43:16]

Scott adds that fostering healthy relationships and being a positive role model are essential for raising well-rounded men.

10. Conclusion and Key Takeaways

Lost Boys wraps up with the hosts and Deirdre summarizing the key insights:

• Balanced Parenting: Combining authority with empathy helps boys develop into strong yet compassionate men.
• Role of Sports: Encourages physical health, teamwork, and discipline, providing an effective counterbalance to screen time.
• Instilling Grit: Balancing financial support with opportunities to face and overcome challenges is crucial for building resilience.
• Importance of Role Models: Both at home and in educational settings, male role models play a significant role in shaping boys' behaviors and self-esteem.
• Managing Technology: Implementing creative strategies to limit screen time can foster healthier attention spans and social interactions.

Notable Quotes Recap:

• "I'm trying to teach them to embrace their masculinity, but also be kind, have manners." — Deirdre Scaramucci [06:07]
• "We need more of that balance. It's a fine balance." — Deirdre Scaramucci [09:17]
• "Sports has been massive. I would tell people, get your kids in sports." — Anthony Scaramucci [40:26]

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Transcript

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

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[Scott Galloway]

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[Deirdre Scaramucci]

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[Scott Galloway]

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[Anthony Scaramucci]

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[Deirdre Scaramucci]

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[Scott Galloway]

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[Deirdre Scaramucci]

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[Anthony Scaramucci]

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[Deirdre Scaramucci]

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[Scott Galloway]

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[Scott Galloway]

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[Deirdre Scaramucci]

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[Anthony Scaramucci]

Welcome to our podcast Lost Boys, where my friend Scott Galloway and I dig into the challenges young men are facing today. We're both very concerned that young men are failing to thrive professionally, socially, and financially. And so we've been exploring this problem with some very smart people and trying to find suggestions of what we can all do about it.

[Scott Galloway]

So, yeah, we've decided, and we're going to try and look at this through the lens of women and mothers who obviously have a vested interest in ensuring their sons and brothers or potential spouses have the resources and the support to succeed. And, and this is, we believe, a big part of the reason that we elected a convicted felon, that there's still a lot of women in America who will vote for a candidate who they perceive as best for their husband and their son. So today we're going to talk to a woman who's had a successful career in business before she started raising two boys. Someone who's benefited from kind of the tearing up of old scripts and as Richard Reeves describes it, and who is now helping figure out how to write a new script for men as she raises her own boys. And just to make things more relevant and odd at the same time, she's doing it while married to our friend Anthony Scaramucci. That's right. Today we're talking to Deidre Scaramucci, Anthony's wife. So in addition to learning about the challenges young men are facing from a mother's perspective, we can also learn about just how incredibly strange our gut feeling is about Anthony. She can validate or nullify that. Welcome, Deidre.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Thank you. Thanks for having me.

[Scott Galloway]

It's good to have you here. So we've talked a lot about how women today have more opportunities in the past. Richard Reeves tells us that the old script for women has been ripped up. You had a successful business career when you were growing up. Did you believe, you know, how from your perspective, how have things evolved with respect to the expectation and kind of the traditional roles of women in today's America?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Right. Well, I was growing up in a very traditional household. My dad was a blue collar worker and my mom was a secretary. So basically they told me, you can do whatever you want to do, but this is kind of what you need to do. These are limited positions in the world for women. And they kind of steered me into, to the traditional ones. So I actually started off as a secretary, a very traditional role, and I worked my way up. But in the beginning, no, I actually really didn't think there was much opportunity for me. But I think that's basically because of where I was starting from. And my household was very old school. So I was kind of following their lead. And I assumed I would kind of go into the same role my mother had, which was, like I said, a secretarial role. So things have very much changed. And I proved myself over the years, so I moved up in the world and on Wall Street. But I was very nervous in the beginning. It wasn't a comfortable situation for me.

[Scott Galloway]

Yeah, by the way, my mother lived and died as secretary, which was a very respectable role.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

I mean, it helped everybody, but it just wasn't like a challenging role or something that stretched you out of your comfort zone. It was a very kind of comfortable role for me.

[Scott Galloway]

You know, growing up in the 70s, you know, my mother was a single mother, raised me on her own. And if you're a woman without a college education, my mom was pulled out of school at the age of 13. You could do one of three things. You could be a secretary, you could be a real estate agent, or you could be a travel agent. That was the universe of employment opportunities for women who weren't, you know, weren't blessed with the opportunity to get some sort of educational certification. That was it. You. You could be a real estate agent or basically a secretary. You couldn't even be a teacher. Right. Because teachers require a certain level of certification.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

You had to be self taught in whatever role you were assuming, right?

[Scott Galloway]

Yeah. But you also just couldn't, quite frankly, you might be handy. You couldn't be a plumber. No one was going to take a female plumber seriously. I mean, I don't think people really give us enough credit. And then we'll move to the topic here, around how far we've come or just, or quite frankly, how fucked up we were with respect to the expectation around what women could do or not do. Anyways, let's pivot to talking a little bit about raising boys. What do you see out there as you raise, we'll say raising two men, what do you see as the biggest challenges as it relates to. I mean, obviously there's a lot of challenges raising boys just in among itself, but in terms of what society expects from them, some of the pressures that are placed on them. What are your thoughts or what surprised you? What observations do you have about raising men in today's America?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Well, as we all know, I think parenting is an experiment, so I've not yet cracked the code on all of it. But in terms of our household, like I said, our kids are very young, but I think we are also carrying over the kind of traditional home that we both grew up in here a bit. And I think that's the foundation for our parenting. So there's still a feminine energy, there's still a masculine energy, because I believe the masculine energy right now is kind of something that people are poo pooing for whatever reason. So I'm still trying to keep that like a constant thing in my boy's life. Like it's okay to be a man. Like you can, you can have that masculine energy, but you also have to be a gentle man. So I'm trying to teach them to embrace their masculinity, but also be kind, have manners. I think also people don't make their kids do things that make them uncomfortable anymore. Like today, our son had to do the Pledge of allegiance. He's in fifth grade, he's 11. He was freaking out on the way to school. And I was like, nick, I know you want to run away right now and sit in the parking lot with me, but I'm going to make you go in there and do it. And then after the two minutes of you saying that, that pledge, you'll feel so much better. You'll have faced the uncomfortable feeling and the nature. I told him I was doing this podcast, which I'm rusty at and Anthony excels at, and I said, I have to go do that. I'm afraid to do that with dad, but I'm gonna do it. And I think that people don't push their kids to do these things anymore. They let them out of everything. And I feel like it affects their personality, it affects their lives, because, as we all know, when you're never uncomfortable, you never grow. And I feel like you have to push, especially boys, which probably sounds terrible. You have to make them do things they don't wanna do, so. So they can become comfortable and men and be confident. And I feel like there's a lot of that lacking. I feel like that's why women my age love to watch Yellowstone or 1923, because we're all missing the John Duttons or the Spencer Duttons. There's this lack of this masculine energy where people are looking for that. And on my end, I try to exude femininity to my kids so that they see what it is to be a mom, what it is to be a woman. And I can be strong and I can be fierce, but I also can be soft, you know, so I'm trying to teach them the balance. And I think Anthony is a great role model. He's still. He's obviously born in the 60s, raised in the 70s, and he is very masculine, but he will also change a diaper. He'll also burp a baby. Like, that's a. That's also a shift. Like, my dad was the best dad, but he never did any of that stuff. Like, my brothers Anthony, you know, they've embraced, like, this softer side, which is okay too. And it plays off nicely of the masculine energy, how he goes out to work and he brings home the bacon and I stay home, but he'll also help me with the kids. I feel like it's a balance, you know, it's a fine. A fine balance. So I feel like we need more of that, you know?

[Anthony Scaramucci]

Yep.

[Scott Galloway]

Let's talk a little bit about school. So Richard Reeves, some of his work has shown that he believes that K through 12, that the educational system is kind of inherently biased against boys. 60 to 80%, depending on the school district, of the teachers are women. That there's just not a lot of male role models for boys, K through 12. And if you think about the behaviors that we endorse in school. Sit down, be organized, sit still, be a pleaser, raise your hand. You're basically describing the activities that, quite frankly, girls have an easier time with than boys.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Yeah.

[Scott Galloway]

What is your observation as a mother with boys in school, around the school system how the school system interfaces with boys.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Well, that's interesting because my school, the school that our kids go to, they actually had a male principal, and they've each had at least two male teachers, and they're only in fifth grade, so we happen to be lucky with that. But I think, yeah, when it's mostly women, it's more like you're being mothered again at home. You know, it's probably less modeling for how they should behave or how they should strive to be, and more, just like you said, sit down, don't talk. You know, be polite, and all those things that your parents are already trying to teach you. So there's probably less example to follow. So that probably is an issue. But I don't know. I think that's just how it's always been and what people are used to. And I think a lot of the stuff that needs to be taught should really start at home. School is just an extension of it. But really, your kid's personality is shaped at home. You know, friends and school are all outside influences, but they shouldn't be the main influence. You know, I'm not hoping my kids go to school and take on exactly what their teacher models or examples or says to them. I'm hoping that they go by us. It would be nice to have it reinforced at school, but if not, it's our job to do it, you know.

[Scott Galloway]

What'S the Scaramucci approach to screens with your kids? How old are your sons? Dietra?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

It's a rough time to raise a child. So 7. He'll be 8, and our other son just turned 11. And I think, like I always tell Anthony, we got totally punked at the time. We have to raise these kids. Because in 2014, when I had Nick, screens were not this prevalent. Right now I'm like, is this real life? Like, every day I wish I could go back and parent with my parents. I have to fight with them about screens. I have to fight with them about social media. And these are young, young kids, right? So. So our youngest one has an iPad, so he'll play games or he'll watch YouTube. A lot of it is sports related. But then sometimes I'm like, what is that? Like, it goes down the rabbit hole of totally inappropriate. And there are topics that are completely age inappropriate, and I have to then explain to them or reel it back in. And they've been exposed to a lot of things that people their age never would have known about, seen, heard of unless their parents were talking about it 20 years ago. And that's a big challenge, I think. You know, I've had to have the conversation Anthony too about gender anonymity or. But even in the school we have that because there's, you know, all gender bathrooms. There's this and this is elementary school. But we've had really tough conversations about sexuality and all types of things that at 7 years old I never knew about 11, maybe a friend here or there that was from like, you know, a different kind of household would have mentioned and you'd be curious about. But it is at an all time high. I think kids are growing.

[Scott Galloway]

But just to press pause Diedre. As it relates specifically to screens.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Yep.

[Scott Galloway]

Do you guys. And let me, let me come out of the closet. As someone who's written books on technology considers is considered a thought leader in technology. We have not figured this out. My kid is addicted or at various times been addicted to devices. I have situations where my son will pretend to be in the bathroom so he can go in there with his phone and watch TikTok for an hour and I have to bang on the door and tell him to start masturbating and get out of the bathroom and to do what he's supposed to be doing.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

How old is your son?

[Scott Galloway]

Well, mine are 14 and 17. And by the way, I actually think that you might, your kids might end up with a healthier environment because I do think legislation is coming down the pike. But what do you guys have rules in terms of screen time? Do you have certain periods where they're not allowed to have their phone? Have you kind of done what most of us have done and given up? Like, what are the rules? What are the guardrails in the Scaramucci household Around. Around screenshots?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Well, I am a complete and total pushover in many ways. So the screens, I would say, are a problem, a big problem. Just like you. They're young enough now where I could still control it. Like, they don't have screens at school. There's no phones going to school. There's no iPads going to school. But the minute they come home from school, they're running to the screen, running, running, running, running. And I really, I look at them and I know that it's doing brain damage because they go from one to video to the next. They just swipe up, swipe up. Their attention span is getting completely wrecked by these videos. And by the way, it's total nonsense what they're watching. It's nothing helpful. So yes, I try to cut it off during the week. You know, then there's homework to do. There's sports. Fortunately, my kids, our kids love sports. So that's a great way to get them off the screens. They're gone for most of the afternoon, into the evening with either practice or games. So that's really, really good. And that's the only thing that keeps them, unless they're sleeping or playing sports or at school, they're on a screen. That's the God's honest truth. So we did this crazy thing where we literally installed a full court basketball. I know that this is ridiculous and not many people can do this, probably out of touch, but we put a basketball hoop in the front entrance of our house so that because our kids love basketball, they literally have cut down their screen time, I would say by half because they're constantly just playing basketball in the front of the house, whether their friends are over or the two of them together or the minute Anthony comes home, they ask him to play. So I kind of like did something ridiculous and put that there to try to coax them off the devices. I don't know. I think we just have to find other things for them to be doing.

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[Scott Galloway]

Anthony, I want to bring you in just for a second because just in the spirit of candor, you've kind of. This is your second round. You've locked and loaded again, right?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Yeah, I do. I duped him into having a whole nother set of kids.

[Scott Galloway]

Another brood, poor thing. So my question for you, Anthony, is how are, what is your, how has your approach to raising kids changed as someone who's a little bit older, probably a little bit more financially secure, hopefully a little bit wiser. How are you? How are you editing, altering, changing your approach to parenting in round two.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

So I mean, it's, it's seminal question Scott. I had my first kids My first son was born when I was 28. And just to set the scene, I had maybe still $100,000 of school debt. I was working at Goldman Sachs as a junior associate there. The money was okay, but I was living in a apartment in Tarrytown, New York, above a nail salon, because I, frankly, didn't have any money. And so I was living outside of the city, taking the train into the city. And so the level of financial anxiety I had raising my first set of kids on a scale of 1 to 10, was probably a 15. And so I was a workaholic. I was obsessed with work in an effort to pay bills. And, you know, I did my best, and I did, you know. But I would say I was probably being brutally honest. I would say more focused and obsessed on work than I was. Okay, stay calm. Here's the gate. Also, I was an overreactor. One of the things my dad. And I don't mean to say anything untoward towards my dad, because I have enormous amount of respect for him. He's now passed. But he was very overreactive as a parent. So he would beat the daylights out of us, Scott, if we did. If I left the light on. I don't know if you had this in your family, but my dad was like, we have no money, so make sure every light is shut in the house unless you're actually in that room. There was corporal punishment for that stuff. So I never hit anybody. But I used to get bombastic and overreactive and overly emotional. And I think my daughter said, okay, here he goes. He's going Zulu again. That was their. I don't know.

[Scott Galloway]

Probably.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

That's probably not even allowed to say that. It's like a derogatory. But, I mean, I would say in a war mode. And I think I'm a calmer parent now. I think I'm wiser. I think I'm a better listener. I'm not perfect. Sure. I'm distracted as well. I'm tired. Sometimes I come home from work exhausted. But I think what I want to ask both of you is 1964 is a big year for Scott and I. That's when we were born. And so we both got raised in the 70s and the 80s. You got raised, frankly, Deirdre, in the 80s and the 90s. What's different today? Like, for me, the seminal difference is that we're apologists now to our kids, okay? You know, like in the 18th charge, in the 1800s, the kids got sent out into the field. Shut up and don't speak until we tell you to speak. If you drop dead in the field, no problem, we're gonna make another one. And in the 80s, I was a latchkey kid. I don't know if you were, Scott, but, I mean, my parents didn't even know where the hell I was half the time. You know, I was run out of paper route at age 11. My mother had no idea I was taking the train to Met Games by myself. My mother had no idea. And now we're like, the kids are in control. They're our bosses. We're subordinate to them in every step of the way. That's my difference. What are your differences, Scott?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

You want to answer?

[Scott Galloway]

Sure. So it sounds like we had similar upbringing. And some of it's good, some of it's bad. And that is. I was raised, like I said, by a single immigrant mother. Lived and died as secretary a lot of my life. We didn't have a lot of money. But it's not a sob story. It was fine. I had what I call a remarkably unremarkable childhood. And that is from the age of 8. My mom couldn't find babysitters. It was expensive for her. One was a religious freak and used to make me stand in the corner with my arms raised like Jesus Christ if I said the word God. The next. I remember, the next lady I had, when the ice cream truck would come, she'd give her kids 35 cents and me 10 cents. And my mom went crazy when she heard that. And so I said to my mom, I'll take the two bucks a week and I'll take care of myself. And I used. My mom used to leave the house before I got up and get home. You know, an hour before I went to sleep. The television raised me. I was raised by I Dream of Jeannie and the Partridge Family. And I always say that whenever, you know, my wife or anyone accuses me of being a sexist, I'm like, you got to keep in mind, I grew up on yes Master and Jeannie, go to your bottle. I have come really far. I was raised on television. I used to come home at 3 and watch TV until 8pm till my mom got home. I would make her a cup of tea. I'd already eaten dinner, not eaten dinner. So I had. But what I had, like you, Anthony, was, I'm not exaggerating. Saturday morning, I leave the house at 9am with an Abu Zaba bar, a Schwinn bike and 35 cents. And I would come home 13 hours later. My mom had no idea where I was. I was negotiating with older kids who would beat you up if you didn't have a big brother or something. They would run after you. We would go to 711 and my friends would shoplift. I mean, we were just like total hooligans. But some of that, quite frankly, was good. You negotiated your peer group, you figured out social capital. My mom was worried I was going to get into too much trouble. I'm worried my kids aren't going to get into enough trouble. If my kid is 10 minutes late home from school, we call MI6. And I don't think a lot of that is good. You learn a lot when you're kind of have that type of, type of freedom. Was some of it not productive? Was my. I went to public schools that quite frankly were just warehousing me. They weren't very good. But you know, like you, Anthony, you grew up. I think what we share is I very early connected the dots between a better life and money and wanting to take care of my mom and then ultimately wanting to have kids with success. And that really created embers or fire of desire to try and make money. I wasn't, and I've said this very openly, I didn't want to be a better person. I didn't want to save the whales. I didn't want to find my passion. I wanted to make money. Because the biggest stress in my, in my mom's life, hands down, wasn't that my dad wasn't around. You know, it wasn't that we didn't have enough time together. It wasn't any of that or there was an emotional support. The biggest stress in our life was we just didn't have enough fucking money. It was just like a ghost following us around. Like my mom being stressed because we couldn't find the first month deposit to find a new month, a new apartment. You know, it just something. The vacuum cleaner would break and so we'd had a rake and we would rake our shag carpet because we couldn't afford to fix the vacuum cleaner. So those things were very seminal. But the difference today is the over parenting. I'm worried we use so many sanitary wipes on my kid's life that he's not going to. They're not going to develop their own immunities. So much is done for them. There's a problem at school. I constantly have to say to my wife, you know, oh, he hasn't signed up for the act. He's gonna miss it. I have to say, let him, let him Figure out this shit has consequences, that we're just not there to save him every time. Unfortunately, they're pretty good kids, but it is entirely different. Deidre, had things gotten different by the 80s or 90s when you were raised?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

No, I was raised like you guys. It's interesting, the gap between. There's 15 years between us, but I was in the same kind generation, the way we were raised. I went home after school. My grandmother was there. But then after she passed away, I was a latchkey kid. I did my own homework, I made my own snacks. You know, my kids come home and they literally. At the bus stop, they hand me their book bags and I'm like. But what I can't figure out is where is the breakdown? Like, when did we decide that we're so worried about our kids liking us that we don't want to enforce anything? Like, and I'm so guilty of this. I just don't really know. What happened was like, our parents were too hard on us or was it too uncomfortable or did we make it in life? So now we think that they can just enjoy life because we know have temporary. Like, what is the actual basis for this shift in behavior? I can't figure it out. And it seems like nobody our age can figure it out because we're all doing it. But it's such a stark contrast from what happened in our lives. But I think, like you said, we're so much more, you know, put together. I don't know. I think we're just literally have zero expectations and we do everything for them and we are crippling them. But I can't stop. And I don't know. I need therapy. I don't know how. I don't know how to gear up to especially. It seems like your wife has the same issues as I do. Like, natural consequences should be good enough. You know, like, oh, you don't have your Chromebook. You don't have your laptop. You have a test today. You were supposed to do it on the test. I'm not bringing it. That would be somebody from, you know, our parents generation. I'm running to the school, you know, every night I'm charging this stupid laptop for him. Like he, you know, it's just. I don't know how it started and I'm not sure how it'll end. So.

[Scott Galloway]

So I want to hear both of you, your best example of how different things were. And something that strikes me, my mom didn't even sign my report cards. I signed them for her, so she had no idea Even what grades I was doing. I decided in the sixth grade to stay home from school. And she didn't know. And I just stopped going to school. And two weeks later, this red Mustang parked outside of our condo and I recognized it and it was the principal. And he came and knocked on my door and he said, scott, you need to come back to school. He never called my mom. My mom never knew. I took two weeks off of sixth grade and my mom never had any idea. Your turn, Anthony.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

I was at the Landmark Diner, the station diner, at 2 o' clock in the morning, eating pancakes with my cousins. And then I would slip in through the sliding glass door in the back of the house. I was probably 11, probably 12, and no one knew. And I used to do that. I don't know. I was in the fifth grade, I was doing that. Nobody knew. I probably shouldn't tell people this, but, I mean, there was a place called the Salem Inn, and it was a strip joint, believe it or not. We had our local strip joint in town. And my uncle was a motorcycle owner of a motorcycle shop. At the age of 14, we were up there watching topless dancers. Okay, so that's 1978 and a smoke filled strip joint. It's now an auto parts store in Port Washington Boulevard. So, I mean, I.

[Scott Galloway]

You win, you win.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

I'm not trying to win. I mean, I haven't even scratched the surface. Okay, but I'm just saying that we were so unparented.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

But it all goes back to technology, right?

[Anthony Scaramucci]

See, this is me. So you asked a question. I would love to hear Scott's answer. I was so unparented. And if I'm being brutally honest, as a child, I was scared a lot of the time. And I was like, what the hell? You know? And I was driving around delivering newspapers and I was scared some of the time. So when I became a parent, I was like, okay, I don't want my kids to feel scared. I'm gonna put this safety umbrella around them because that scary feeling created a lot of cortisol in my body and probably a quasi eating disorder and all kinds of other shit that happened to me. So I'm gonna try to not do that to my kids. But then I swung the pendulum too far and it has a more perverse effect.

[Scott Galloway]

We've all done it. Deirdre, what you said really resonated that we know the Princess and the Pea syndrome we're creating for our kids where they get to college. And I see this, at NYU their freshman year, they get their heart broken they get their first D and they literally freak out because. Because we have cleared out all the obstacles for them. We've figured out the tutors, we've figured out the ADHD medication if your kid's struggling. We figured out the right school such that they can at least get a B average. And then they face the real world that is full of real obstacles that we can't clear for them. And they haven't developed the scar tissue or the immunities or the calluses and something I'm not proud of. You know, I'm the pushover. But once, about every three months, I lose my shit.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Yeah, that's happened. Yep.

[Scott Galloway]

And I've grabbed my son by the scruff of his shirt and lifted him out of bed. I have physically kicked one of them in the butt. I'm not proud of that, but, you know, just, like, kick them.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

I'm, like, proud to know you. Well, I mean, did they threaten to report you?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Because our kids did.

[Scott Galloway]

Yeah. Call child services. I make sure I never leave a mark. But my partner, my wife has said to me, dad is out of control. You're having an outsize reaction. And I'm like, you know what? Their life is going to be filled with out of control, outsize reactions. I don't want to traumatize them. I don't want to scar them, but they need to understand that occasionally someone is going to have an outsized reaction to their bullshit. And I look back on it, and I'm not proud of it, but I wonder if some of that is needed. And I'm just not one of these guys that wants to sit down with his boys and ask them how he feels about stuff when they're just behaving really inappropriately. I'm not a yeller, but I do yell. And I'm curious. Diedre, as someone who observes, I think Anthony's probably more is a little bit like me. Like, what is the balance between a dad, quite frankly, having that sort of dad energy sometimes that, quite frankly, can be a little bit scary, intimidating, and also. But ensuring you don't traumatize your kids.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Well, I just. That's the thing that I'm going back to is, like, I don't think my parents were ever like, oh, I'm traumatized. I know for shit sure. I was traumatized plenty of times, and I think I'm fine today. I'm a functioning adult. I don't know why we're so worried about traumatizing them, if they'll like us, but we are. So I Can't figure that out. But so I have the. My brother. I have two brothers. One of them has kids. He will. He's a principal, by the way. He will lose his shit on my nephews who are a little older than our kids, rightfully so. And I get so nervous and so uncomfortable. I don't know what it is. You know, my dad was kind of like you guys, he was so calm until he wasn't. Then it was like calm until the bomb went off. And then we were all like running for the hills because he exploded. And also we felt bad that we disappointed him. But when my brother does that, I'm like, wow. Because he will get physical. He will not, like, hurt them, but he'll be like, you don't. You don't get to do that. Or like, he will pull them aside. And my sister in law and I are like. Or Anthony will sometimes get really strict and yell and raise his voice. One time he kicked a box of Bisquick and it exploded everywhere. My kids always say, now, oh my God, Dad's about to kick the Bisquick.

[Scott Galloway]

Like, he's about to go Bisquick.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

He's about to go Bisquick. So we use that to like, say like.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

But I knew this was a bad idea, pairing the two of you together. But go ahead, keep going. Ani.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

The bottom line is it makes me so uncomfortable. I hate conflict, I hate yelling, I hate all that. So maybe my parents did traumatize me and now my reaction is to shy away from it all. But I do think that they need that sometimes. Like a wake up call. And Anthony pushes me to do things that I would let my kids slide on all the time. Like last night again, Nick, fifth grade, spring concert. He's coming to me with a thermometer. He's showing me that it says 99. I'm doing, you know, I'm working, I'm on a call. He's showing me 99 on the thermometer. Okay, cool. He's showing me he has a bloody nose. Cool. Like, he tried every which way to Sunday to get out of that concert, and I let him out of the Christmas one. So I was like, you have to go. You cannot miss both of these concerts. And I had Anthony's voice in my mind. Like, sometimes they have to do things they have to do, you know? So we made him go. And not only did he go, but he actually sang. Because a few concerts ago, he just stood there with an absolute face and attitude and we went ballistic on him after. So, like, These are the kinds of things that they need to do. Like you need to sing in the chorus. You need to say the stupid pledge. And I feel like sometimes I would totally let them slide. And Anthony's like, no, they have to do it, Deirdre. They have to do it. Like you're making them into weenies. You gotta have them do it. So if not for him, I think that's where the whole masculine feminine energy comes in. I feel like I'd be raising probably less than stellar people because I need Anthony's balance to help me. And I think that's a challenge because a lot of people are a single parent household and like, they have to be both. And that's really hard. So I appreciate, appreciate that about him and your wife probably will in the long run. When your kids are doing the right thing and have some sort of like, you know, meat and substance to them and they can make it make their way in life, you'll probably look back and say that she appreciated the balance. So.

[Scott Galloway]

I hope so. A question for both of you. Something that was hugely important for me growing up is in terms of male mentorship and having male energy in my life was I played sports my whole life and it gave me something to do. It gave me a certain amount. I wasn't a great athlete, but I was an athlete. It gave me confidence, kept me out of trouble, introduced me to some coaches. At one point, I peaked athletically at like 14, but the coach used to come pick me up at my house and take me to the grounds and practice with me because he saw potential in me and it gave me a sense of worth. Competition, playing with a team. What role does sports play in your children's lives?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Huge. Huge. Like I said, that's the only thing that gets us out of the house and off the screens. And they love it. And it's not a forced thing. Cause I see a lot of that going on in our. In our neighborhood or in our lives. They voluntarily want to go and it motivates them and I think it gives them purpose exercise, which they need. After all those hours on a screen, you need to like, physically move your body and clear your head from all of that nonsense. So it's a daily thing. Like if you see our schedule, it's probably over scheduled with sports, but I'll take it because if they want to go to five basketball games and play in three football games, I'm going because that means we're outside, we're moving, and we're not on a screen. So it Plays a huge role, and I hope it always does. I always wonder what we would be doing if they didn't like sports. So it plays a big role. I know that Anthony's older kids had different interests, more musical and more creative and artsy, but they were still involved in things. Also, screens really weren't a thing then, so.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

No, there were no screens. I mean, there was, for my older kids, fat screen computers and there were some video games that they played, but they weren't as sophisticated as, like the Fortnite 4K video. So they weren't as heavily addicted, you know. And I would just say that sports has been massive. I would tell people, get your kids in sports. I mean, you know, I don't love. And Deirdre can tell you this, I don't love the over saturation where there's some kids at our town, Scott, they're 7:00am Playing sports on a Saturday, and they're playing sports at 11pm on a Sunday, and they go to school Monday exhausted. I'm not for that. I want the kids to play sports. But not to be overdone to the point where they're. I mean, we do a lot of extremis, I think, particularly in our town with the sports. So I just.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Scott, do your kids play? So your kids like sports?

[Scott Galloway]

Oh, yeah, they have. I always say they have just the right amount of athletic ability, and that is they're good enough to play on their sports teams, but not good enough to have any delusions of grandeur. And they play well enough to play on the team, but they're never gonna. At one point, I rode crew at UCLA and the kids who were just amazing athletes. I almost think it's a bit of a curse because I have a lot of friends who spent the majority of their 20s training for the Olympics and got a bronze medal in Seoul and then were calling me at 29 looking for a job. Anyway, I want to ask the two of you parenting questions I get, and I can never answer. I haven't figured out the answer to the first is, you know, Anthony, I know you. I don't know you well, but I know you enough to make an assumption here. And that is, we're both economically successful. We both recognize that being born in the 60s, a white heterosexual male gave us kind of unearned wind at our back. Not that we're not talented, but we were able to really capitalize on that talent to an extent that other people with the same levels of talent get the same opportunity as us. So let me just put that out for there, no question. But now having some of that economic success, it is really difficult. The reason I'm here with you right now and I get to lead the life I lead was, and I always say this, if I had what my kids have, I wouldn't have what I have. If I had the resources my kids have, the only thing I know I would have is a Range Rover and a cocaine habit. I was not born with natural grit and I worry that my kids, I face this age old question of how do I instill those same fires that were ignited in me because of a lack of economic security. The old question of how do you instill grit in kids when the reality is I say to my, I got upset at my wife, I said, my kids are in business class. And I had this terrible moment where my, you know, this was like 5 years ago. My 9 year old son is playing with his seat, going back flat and up and this very elderly woman goes rolling by on her way to coach and I'm like, okay, we got to put the kids in coach. And she said, all right, you're flying with them in coach because they won't let them fly alone in coach. And I work so hard, I'm not flying in coach. And so it's impossible not to let your kids enjoy some of the fruits of your hard, hard work and economic security. At the same time, recognizing that's probably not good for them. So long winded way of saying, what do you do to try and instill that same sense of grit that we had and I think we've really benefited from?

[Anthony Scaramucci]

I'm going to take a stab at that, hon. And then I'd like to hear you say something, but I'm going to say something about you, Scott, Again, we're getting closer. We know each other to some extent, but there's something that you do that I admire. And so I'm gonna tell you what it is. You expose your vulnerability. And I listen to your podcast, you're on my Google Alert, your podcast comes in, I listen whether it's pivot, the one you do with Ed, which I really love, and you expose your vulnerability. And this is a gift you're giving your children. Because I hang out with very, very rich people that do not expose their vulnerability. And Deirdre hates the word rich, but I just said it. But. Because what happens is they write this story about themselves about a 45 degree angle up and to the right. Their lives have been perfect and they've made every decision, right? And I look at Their kids, Scott. And they're overshadowed by that, and they never reach their fruition. And so you may be giving them creature comforts, but you're also providing space for them to fail. You're providing them. Wait a minute. My dad, he had this upbringing, or he did this wrong or he did this right. And there's a humanity and an authenticity that you're exposing your kids to that I admire. And I've said this to Deirdre. I've tried to do that. I've tried to say, okay, look, got fired from the White House. I failed at this venture. My portfolio did this, or I had a setback here or there, because I think that's one thing. And then the other thing I would say is that you're very passionate about what you do. And I think that's the gift that I can give to my kids. And I tell my older kids, life is short. Mel Brooks said, relax. None of us are getting out of here alive. Enjoy your life, but pick something you really want to do. And so I think you've met one of my sons. He's very passionate about his fund, and therefore he ended up going to Stanford Business School. I couldn't get him in there. I don't know anybody there, but he worked his ass off. My other son is into the film industry. I could have told him, no, you got to go to Wall street like your old man. I said, go to the film industry. He just got his film into the Tribeca Film Festival. By the way, I'd love to have you come to the premiere if you're in New York. But my point is, and my daughter's singing. And so to me, if you tell your two sons, I want you to pick the thing that you really love and go crazy doing it, but also understand you have space to fail, they're going to be very passionate and very energized. What do you think of that, babe? Am I saying anything you disagree with?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

No, but the interesting thing is the space to fail is what probably makes them less resilient, because most of the things our kids are able to do is because of the road that you guys have paved for them to do it, right? So we didn't have a choice. It was like, yeah, we kind of found something we like to do, but we also had to do it because you had to, like, pay your rent and you had to, if anything, you.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

Know, provide some different generation, though, babe, right?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

So I'm just saying the irony is that we. They. They can find something. They're very passionate about and pursue it and have the room to fail because it literally doesn't mean they'll be living on the street like it might have been for somebody else, you know, when we were growing up. But I think, yeah, being vulnerable. Scott, I actually really do appreciate that about you. I enjoy your personality. And I think the only way that our kids will succeed is if they do find something that differentiates themselves from their parents that they're very passionate about and interested in. Because I see like, and with myself also, when I really like something, I really like it and I'll do anything to do that. When I'm meh about something or I really don't care, I, I could be the biggest bum and not do anything. So I think they have to like what they, what they get into, whatever that may be. I don't know. But I think that would be my suggestion for our kids because obviously we've already sold, you know, sold the bag on not providing everything for them. They already have all of the stuff that someone would strive to attain. So I don't think it's about any monetary gain. I think it's about fulfilling themselves and feeling good about what they do and making their own way in life, which I know is a challenge when you have a parent who's, whatever you want to call it, a trailblazer. So I don't know, I haven't figured that far.

[Scott Galloway]

Now the second question I get behind closed doors and we haven't figured it out is okay, when is money? When they're older. When are do you plan? I mean, most of my friends have the following, say the following, when the kids are young, okay, I'm going to pay for their college. But once they're through college, they're on their own. Because one of the most rewarding things about money is making it. And they need to have that reward and that opportunity and also that pressure. And then this is what has happened with almost every one of my friends that has resources. Kid's a good kid, graduates from college, Their dream is to be on Broadway, but they can't live in New York. There's no way. So you help them out, you help them out. We want them to pursue their passion. Things have gotten so expensive, I don't want to deny them of their dream. And then it's three, five years in and they're still not self sustaining in New York. So they give them a little bit of money and then they meet someone and fall in love. And you think, well, I want them to live near us and they can't afford a house near us. No young person can live near us. And I selfishly want my kids and my grandkids near them. So I give them enough money for the house and then they can't afford that lifestyle. And they're good people. These aren't bad people. They're jobs. Making good money, trying hard, but can't live the life we lead. And I have friends who in a creeping, slow, benign way, have kids in their 40s and 50s who they are still supporting substantially. So one, what is your thoughts about financially supporting your children when they're adults and then the big one when you guys pass, Will you give it all to your kids or will you give some of it, most of it away? What is your approach to your, as you think about your estate and your approach to financially supporting your adult children?

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Well, Anthony thinks he's going to live to 150, so he hasn't thought about any of that.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

I don't think that that's not true. I got the whole thing. I got everything. Scott, don't listen to this. I have a file when I'm dead file, you open it up, everything is there. All you got to do is call the attorney. Lots of money flowing, you'll be just fine. But Scott, if I do, if I do die early, you know, there's a lot of life insurance, there's suspects about.

[Scott Galloway]

We know where to look.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

Just letting you know there's suspects out there.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Okay, Answer the question, hun.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

No, I plan on. Obviously I've got some earmarked for universities that I went to and some charities that are important to us as people. But I do have a blue collar family, Scott. And so Deirdre will tell you that throughout my life I have paid for tuitions, I've purchased cars, given down payments on houses, someone has an emergency medical situation, I have provided money to overcompensate for potentially lack of healthcare, insurance and things like that. And so when you're from a family like mine, you want to take everybody with you, Scott, you're trying to help everybody in the equation. As I often say to Deirdre, you know, charity begins at the home. So if one of her siblings or one of my siblings needs something, and again, I differentiate between want, I want, a Rolls Royce need, you know, here's a beautiful Subaru. You follow what I'm saying? My point is, so I will definitely make sure that they get.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Is there anything as such as a beautiful Subaru?

[Scott Galloway]

No.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

Right. I mean, all right, I know you don't like Subarus, but I mean, she's upscale, Scott. She's an uptown girl. But. But the point I'm making is I'm going to leave a reservoir of money for people that if they need something, there's going to be some availability. I see that as part of the mission and I see that. And this is another thing I love about you. You don't need to work, but you're working. And it creates vitality in you and it also creates intellectual fulfillment. And I want to work. I want to hopefully stay vital and healthy where I can work longer than my dad. You know, my dad could not have made a day past 65. Scott on a crane, 41 years, very physical, very hard work. At 65, by the way. At 55, they took him off the crane and the union gave him a dispatcher's job where he was weighing trucks because it was just too physically demanding. But we're beneficiaries of a white collar experience as opposed to a blue collar one. So I have a lot of empathy for people that are not situated but for the grace of God. You and I have been blessed by that hard work industry, of course, but we've also been blessed with some levels of intellect and some levels of industry that have made it happen. So, yeah, I plan on helping the people around me first and then the charities. But in my mind, charity begins at the home.

[Scott Galloway]

Kedra, what's your approach to.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

Well, my thing is this, I think because of how we grew up and who we really are, fundamentally. Anthony and I kind of grew up very similarly in my mind. We're just still the same people. Anthony just happened to be successful and is able to help everybody, but, um, I think I'm just along with him for the ride, really. So what I try to remember, what I don't really need much help remembering is we try to live below our means. So. And we live in a town where we can kind of, you know, people are pretty successful. It's an affluent town, so we kind of blend in. So we kind of keep it at the rate of our surroundings. So our kids don't see much of a difference between them and their friends. Like, we live in a neighborhood where we have a lot of friends that all go to the same school. And, you know, the houses are all pretty similar. So it's not like, you know, we live on this giant, wicked estate where people are going up, you know, this long driveway to see us. We, I think that we kind of see ourselves as the people we are and how we Grew up. And we kind of keep it at that level. Of course, there are things that we do that are probably a little bit suspect if our kids were wondering if we're different. But we really do try to keep it low key. Like, I was laughing about Anthony this morning because I opened an Amazon package for the seventh day in a row, and it was an Amazon Superman T shirt that he happens to be wearing. And I'm like, okay, this guy is 61 years old. He's permanently 12, apparently, and he shops on Amazon, that's his favorite marketplace for his wardrobe. So I feel like there's just very normal things that we can.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

It's a big year for Superman. Scott Galloway. Okay, this is July 11th is the return of Superman. Okay, if you're around, you want to come to the movies with me, Galloway, I'll buy you a bucket of popcorn. Okay? I was a big year for Superman.

[Scott Galloway]

You can take the boy out of Long island, but you can't take the Long island out of the boy.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

That's the thing. That's what Anthony exudes. And so I think our kids appreciate that we're just kind of living the way we grew up in a little bit nicer of a home. But nothing, nothing too extravagant.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

I always say that to Deirdre. Those guys. I don't want to go to a big estate somewhere because there's a paradox to this, okay? There's a paradox to wealth. You give the big estate 15 acres. Now your kids are lonely. You're going to fly privately everywhere. Okay, great. But now you're into. You're going to go on the yacht. Okay, great. But you're by yourself. I want the kids socially connected to other kids because I think there's a paradox of wealth. I think it creates loneliness, and then it creates. I mean, I'm eccentric enough. I don't want to be, you know, living that lifestyle where I'm going to be even more crazy.

[Scott Galloway]

Yeah, I respect that. But I don't do that. I think it's. I really respect the fact that you've maintained some semblance of where you come from and are still in your old neighborhood and living what sounds like below your means. We do not do that. And I'm not proud of that. But the way I rationalize it is I had a number and I thought, okay, I could work 12, 14 hours. I have such a desperate need for relevance and affirmation and economic security. I could easily work for 14 hours a day for the rest of my life. And I said, I'm Going to set a number, and once I hit that number, I'm going to slow down, and I hit that number. And now every year I meet with my folks and they tell me how much above that number I have that year. And we're very analytical about it. And I take that money and I either spend it or I give it away. I think hoarding wealth is a virus. I don't think anyone should have. I'm a socialist this way. If you look at Daniel Kahneman, the Israeli American psychologist, he's done so much good work on the relationship between money and happiness. And there is a relationship. Middle income or happier than lower income, upper happier than middle. But once you get above a certain level of wealth, there's no incremental happiness. So I'm a material, consumptive person. I love to spend money. I'm really good at it. I'm outstanding at spending money. I really enjoy things. I think there's amazing things you can do with your kids, with your wife and I. So I spend a ton of money, and then whatever's left, I give away. And every year I'm determined to maintaining the same number in terms of my wealth because I think anything above a certain number is really infecting America in terms of income inequality. Spend money, it puts it back into the economy. Give money away. There's a lot of amazing charities out there. And I. I don't even do it out of ethics. I do it because it makes me feel masculine and relevant and like a baller. I love it because it makes me feel strong and like I'm important. I don't give money away anonymously. I'm not that nice. I want people to know I want to show up. I want to shake their hand. I want them to be impressed and laugh at my jokes or I spend it. But I have not taken. I am not living in my old neighborhood. We live a crazy lifestyle. And I think the downside of that is I'm setting the bar too high for my kids. So I have. And I don't know. I don't know if it's the right way. Sometimes I worry maybe I've screwed up. But we take a. My attitude is, you know, I'm going to squeeze so much juice out of this lemon, I'm just going to. I'm really going to consume. That sounds awful. I hear myself talking and it sounds terrible. But, yeah, we're not. We're not back in Tarzana where I grew up. We're just not. We're just not.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I think that's the whole thing.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

And you're real about it.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

Yeah. And I know, I know, I know you have to hop. But what resonating message before we go, Scott?

[Scott Galloway]

What?

[Anthony Scaramucci]

You know, when you reflect on your way you were parented and you reflect on your parenting, what's the resonating message? What's the observation? What's the teachable moment?

[Scott Galloway]

It's a generous question, and it's an obvious question. I don't know. The first thing that popped into my mind, Anthony, is that I'm trying to be. I think some of my shortcomings as a man, some of my sexism, some of my real failures with relationships, including failing my first wife, come from a Just a lack of character I can't blame on anyone else. But some of it is my dad did not treat my mother very well. And so as I think about trying to raise good men, a lot of that is real motivation to just be really good to their mother. And I try to go out of my way to, you know, just be very supportive of her, be very loving, be very affectionate, talk her up to them, give her her own stages where she can get applause because dad gets so many applause on different stages. Because I think if you want your sons to have healthy relationships, you know, one of the fastest blue line paths to making sure that they can achieve what I think is the most rewarding thing, and that is to partner with someone and have kids. That the upward spiral is to develop a practice of it just being really kind and generous. And I'm doing a lot of virtue signaling now, but I do try and practice it. Just be really good to their mom, because my dad wasn't good to my mom. And I think that that set a bad example for me. That haunted me through my younger years as a man. My approach to relationships with women, I just wasn't as generous or as kind as I should have been. And so I've learned later in life that if you want to raise good men, one of the real hacks, even if you end up getting divorced, is just to be really good to their mom.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

I think it's very well said. I think we can end it there. This episode of Lost Boys with Deirdre Scaramucci. Right. Soon to replace me as the co host of Everything that I Do.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

I don't think so.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

Deirdre Scaramucci.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

As I was once told, Anthony's the flower and I'm the gardener.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

Okay, that is such bullshit. Scott. Don't listen to this bullshit. Okay?

[Scott Galloway]

Fly on the wall here. This has gotta be. It's gotta be a weird. They're definitely. I see. If Anthony's whole crypto thing doesn't work out or if things hit, I can tell you a reality TV show is coming our way. I can just feel it.

[Deirdre Scaramucci]

No, thank you. I am unbelievably boring, believe it or not.

[Anthony Scaramucci]

Scott, thank you, man. Thanks for joining us for this episode of Lost Boys. If you'd like more information, please go to our website, www.lostboys.net. be sure to, like, follow and subscribe to Lost Boys wherever you get your podcast. And please share it with someone who cares about this or should care about this. And let's spread the word. Lost Boys is a production of Salt Media and the Casablanca Strategy Group. Barbara Fedida and Keith Summa are executive producers. Tanya Salati is our researcher. Holly Duncan Quinn and Stanley Goldberg our editors. Special thanks to Christina Kasese, Mary Jean Rivas and Drew Burroughs.