Podcast
Love and Abuse
Hosted by Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert · EN
Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of difficult behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse offers the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage.
You'll learn about covert abusive communication that takes away your power. And you'll discover how to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors, such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse, before you are dragged into a psychological game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.
Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Get the guide that will tell you exactly what's happening in your relationship over at loveandabuse.com.
https://loveandabuse.com/
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I don't want to hurt the person who hurts me by leaving them
6d ago00:35:53Tap to summarizeYour heart is big. And your kindness and compassion, though amazing qualities, can also keep you in situations that are unhealthy for you. When you're afraid you're going to hurt someone by leaving them, there's a bigger picture to keep in mind.
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The feeling that you lost a big chunk of your life to the abusive person
2w ago00:24:54Tap to summarizeIt's hard enough to be in a difficult relationship, but when your boundaries are shot, your adrenals are through the roof, and lots of years have passed, you might be wondering if this entire relationship was a giant waste of time, thinking about all the things you could have or should have done instead.
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Leaving an abusive person isn't easy and sometimes isn't over
3w ago00:44:05Tap to summarizeIt can be hard to be in an emotionally abusive relationship. The challenge is real! But what about leaving one? It might be just as hard or harder because of the unknown of what happens next.
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The trauma bond keeps you lovesick and broken
4w ago00:30:49Tap to summarizeA trauma bond is like being addicted to both the highs and lows, just waiting for your next fix. It's not impossible to break a trauma bond, but it can be hard as hell.
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Can you still like someone who hurt you but not love them?
May 2800:40:53Tap to summarizeCan the victim of emotional abuse accept the former abuser as a friend after a lot of time has passed? I received this question from someone who used to be emotionally abusive, feels awful about it, but has been out of that relationship for years. Then she met up with her ex again, and things are different, but not in the way she expected.
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Are your children being manipulated, too?
May 1800:43:56Tap to summarizeYou're watching your child mirror a narcissistic parent and it feels like you're losing ground. Arguing with the lies they're being told feels pointless, but asking the right questions might just be what helps you keep your connection to your children, helping them choose empathy over manipulation.
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If you don't draw the line on how much is too much, you won't have a line
May 700:39:51Tap to summarizeHow much mistreatment is too much? When your boundaries are violated over and over again, there will be a point where you have none and the sky will be the limit on someone else's hurtful and controlling behaviors.
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How does an abusive person become an abusive person?
Apr 3000:18:02Tap to summarizeThere's got to be a reason someone becomes abusive, right? All abusers abused as children... is that it? Maybe it's a mental health issue. Maybe it's none, some, or all of the above. Or maybe it's something else.
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Getting conned into taking an unhealed abuser back
Apr 2800:25:25Tap to summarizeThey've changed! They've really seemed to change. They seem like a new person so you take them back. Then you find out they were just playing the long game. Emotionally abusive people can heal if they want to. Those who don't may just come back to fool you again.
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Do mutually abusive relationships have a chance?
Apr 2100:38:49Tap to summarizeSometimes both people in the relationship are hurtful, controlling and manipulative. When that's the case, it's going to take more than one person stopping the behaviors, and that presents a few challenges in itself.
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