Podcast
Love and Abuse
Hosted by Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert · EN
Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of difficult behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse offers the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage.
You'll learn about covert abusive communication that takes away your power. And you'll discover how to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors, such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse, before you are dragged into a psychological game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.
Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Get the guide that will tell you exactly what's happening in your relationship over at loveandabuse.com.
https://loveandabuse.com/
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If you don't draw the line on how much is too much, you won't have a line
2w ago00:39:51Tap to summarizeHow much mistreatment is too much? When your boundaries are violated over and over again, there will be a point where you have none and the sky will be the limit on someone else's hurtful and controlling behaviors.
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How does an abusive person become an abusive person?
3w ago00:18:02Tap to summarizeThere's got to be a reason someone becomes abusive, right? All abusers abused as children... is that it? Maybe it's a mental health issue. Maybe it's none, some, or all of the above. Or maybe it's something else.
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Getting conned into taking an unhealed abuser back
3w ago00:25:25Tap to summarizeThey've changed! They've really seemed to change. They seem like a new person so you take them back. Then you find out they were just playing the long game. Emotionally abusive people can heal if they want to. Those who don't may just come back to fool you again.
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Do mutually abusive relationships have a chance?
4w ago00:38:49Tap to summarizeSometimes both people in the relationship are hurtful, controlling and manipulative. When that's the case, it's going to take more than one person stopping the behaviors, and that presents a few challenges in itself.
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The superiority complex of misogynists
Apr 1500:28:32Tap to summarizeA unique episode about the superiority complex that drives mysogny in abusive relationships, why abusive people target those they perceive as weaker, and how their insecurity fuels the need to control and dominate.
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When you won't see an emotionally abusive person change
Apr 800:37:37Tap to summarizeYou can't fix what's unwilling to be fixed. And when someone would rather you and the relationship suffer and crumble than work on improving themselves, you might have only one choice left.
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Did you sign up for a life of indentured servitude?
Apr 100:26:12Tap to summarizeIf you feel trapped in a maze of emotional manipulation, hoping for a change that never comes, you might realize you've signed up for something you didn't expect and certainly don't want. There's a history lesson in this episode that may give you all you need to know for what the future holds for your relationship.
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They say they love you but they hurt you anyway
Mar 2400:27:18Tap to summarizeSome people seem to care but then do awful things. When they do, it's hard not to question if they love you at all.
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I feel like a bad person for being abusive back
Mar 1900:24:42Tap to summarizeSometimes emotionally abusive people heal and change. Sometimes they just... change. Either way, when the victim of their behavior gets a "break", they might discover a lot of buried emotions that are just itching to come out.
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The healed emotional abuser is more than just a behavioral change
Mar 1300:51:49Tap to summarizeI've seen emotionally abusive people heal and become completely different people. You wouldn't even recognize them! And when you no longer recognize the person who's hurt you over and over again, that might be a very good thing.
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