Maria Shriver (3:57)

Well, first of all, I just want to say how proud I am of you for doing this. This was a dream. This was something that was percolating in Hoda's head. And to actually make a dream come true is a really big moment in someone's life. So I just want to, like, shout that out first. And so I was sitting in my room there thinking about what I could say today that might be different, that would be something that I could offer. And I started by praying, actually, this morning, which I do every morning, and asking for what I could say that might be different or might be helpful. And what came to me was to tell all of you that it's okay that you're here, that you don't have to have guilt for being here, no shame in being here, and that you're here because something called you here in your own life, something in you spoke to you that said, I want something more. I'm deserving of more. There's more for me out there, and I'm curious about where I could take my life. And I want to applaud that because it's really brave to go and say, like, I want to take some time. For me, I'm curious about a phase of my life, a next phase of my life. I might not really like where I'm at, and I don't really know where to go, but I know if I go here, I might hear something that will help me move to this next place. And I think it's really important to actually Think about your life, this moment in your life, what matters to you, what's meaningful to you. So that's what came to me this morning to talk about. Because I think we don't do that enough.

Maria Shriver (6:03)

I think it's funny because we've used the word permission. I feel like we need permission. I need someone to tell me it's okay. You were saying, many years ago, you went to a spa of some sort, and the voice you kept hearing in your head was your mother's.

Maria Shriver (6:18)

Yeah.

Maria Shriver (6:19)

Why are you wasting your time at that spa? You should be doing something else, something for other people. You were raised to. It's better to be of service to everybody than to serve yourself.

Maria Shriver (6:31)

Yeah. I was like. I think it was 51 or 52, and I went to the Canyon Ranch with my two cousins. But when people asked me where I went and when my mother asked me where I went, I said I was on a work trip because I knew that she would be like, what the. You went to a what? And my mom was tough. She was a change agent, a force of nature, and she came from a generation where you did not complain. Self care. She would have, like, kicked me out the. If I had brought up the concept of self care, she would have, like, you know, like, whacked me over the head. She said constantly. I don't want to hear a yip out of you or one of your brothers about anything. You're lucky. You're privileged. And I get out and change the world. So I wasn't. And I was, like, five, you know, so it's like, you know, and that just kept on going until she died. But. And it's still going in my head, you know, But I think, you know, that's how she was raised. So that's how she raised my brothers and myself. But I think the idea of taking care of myself, I wasn't brought up with that at all. And self care wasn't in, you know, the vocabulary. I didn't grow up with that vocabulary.

Maria Shriver (7:52)

I remember you told me a story one time that you and Oprah were, like, relaxing on a beach or something somewhere.

Maria Shriver (7:59)

Oprah told you that story?

Maria Shriver (8:00)

Oprah told the story.

Maria Shriver (8:01)

She was on vacation.

Maria Shriver (8:02)

She was on vacation with you. They were chilling out and enjoying their time. And it was when there was a tsunami and Southeast Asia. I think it was 2006.

Maria Shriver (8:10)

I wasn't with her.

Maria Shriver (8:10)

Oh, you weren't with her?

Maria Shriver (8:12)

It was, like, over Christmas. And she was. She called me. She's like, I'm in an island. I rented a Boat. I wanted some vacation, and this crazy woman chased me down the pier with a bathing cap. Yet it was your mother. And she was like. She's like, go call Maria. You both have to get going to the tsunami. You have to save the people, raise the money. What are you doing? She's like, Mrs. Shriver, I'm getting in my dinghy. Don't get in the boat. Call Maria. Do something. And she's like, how long is she gonna be here? Can I. I'm gonna move the boat. I wanna get away, you know? I know. She called me and she's like, I saw Oprah. Now, I think the two of you should get together. I'll organize a call. We should do something quickly. Now, that time is of the essence. And I think it was Christmas. And I was like, mommy, nobody's working at Christmas. And she was, yeah, we are. We're all working. Just. You and Oprah are the only two people on vacation. I was like, okay. That's the way she was.

Maria Shriver (9:05)

But that was her.

Maria Shriver (9:06)

That was her, so. And, yeah, I mean, that's how, you know, she started Special Olympics. She started, you know, programs. She was determined to change the world for people with intellectual disabilities. And she did through just grit, resilience. Not accepting. No. And believing that everybody who came to our home was a permanent volunteer in her army. And such was the case. Everybody did. And people would. I remember when I was little, people would be like, I don't really want to come to your house. I would be like, why? And they're like, oh, your mother's scares me. She's going to make me go and work as a volunteer in that camp. And, you know, your dad's going to sign me up for the Peace Corps. I really don't want to come over there. But, yeah.

Maria Shriver (9:50)

A testament to your parents and how they operated. You went as a member of the Peace Corps overseas, and you were in some slummy, horrible place, and it was scary for you. And you called home. If I got the story right, you called home and you were like, this place is terrifying. Someone needs to come get me. I don't remember where you were.

Maria Shriver (10:09)

I was in Tunisia. My father thought it would. My parents were very adamant that my brothers and I make sure that we understood how everybody was living. So they were very much into community service, obviously. And so they sent me. I lived in a hogan for several weeks. Not a good thing for me. And then they sent me to Tunisia, Tunis, to live and work with the Peace Corps there. And I lived with the family in the Medina. And I went with a girlfriend, and she was out of there in 24 hours. She was like, I am so out of this place. And I was living with a family who had five boys, and it was myself. And there was no running water, no toilet, no nothing. And they ate couscous for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. And I was like, this is a mistake. I have got to get out of here. And so I called my parents and said, you know, obviously nobody speaks English. I spoke French, but I said, you know, I need to go because I'm living in the Medina, and, you know, this is not safe for me here. And so they sent my brother, my older brother to come and see if I was exaggerating. So my older brother came over and he's like, you're such a baby. Oh, my God. He goes, she's fine. Leave her there. And so, yeah, they left me there and sent me the next year to Senegal in Africa, the same thing. But at the time, I thought it was a terrible thing, but it turned out to be, in hindsight, a really good thing. And then I've done the same thing to my children. That's exactly how you operate. The exact same, by the way.

Maria Shriver (11:44)

That is exactly how you operate.

Maria Shriver (11:46)

Yeah. So I was like, my kids are like, why are we being sent? I said, just because I was. And it was funny.

Maria Shriver (11:54)

So when you are in a family that has such high expectations and they probably had a path set for you, and for someone like you to say, actually, the path that you guys are on, I want to be a journalist. I want to go down this road. How do you find a voice in a place that's so. I'll say loud or noisy, but a place where maybe you wouldn't be heard?

Maria Shriver (12:17)

Well, for me, that was really hard. And it continued to be hard, I think, really, throughout my life in different ways. So I decided I wanted to be a journalist after spending time on the campaign trail when my dad was the vice presidential nominee in 1972. And I looked at the plane and the people in the front who were the candidate and all the people working for the candidate were stressed out and freaked out and, you know, just didn't look like they were having any fun. And in the back of the plane were all the journalists, and they were the ones having fun. And they also seemed to be the ones controlling the story. They seemed to be the ones telling the story. And I thought, I want to be back here. I want to be in the back of the plane. And so I set out and started to try to get myself to the back of the plane in so many words. And so I went to work in Philadelphia, then I went to Baltimore, and then I just worked my way up. I went to CBS and then obviously went on to NBC. And it was a way for me to be of service because that's what my parents respected. But to do it in my own way and in a profession that they actually saw in a way as across the line, so to speak. They were on this side of the line and I was walking into an area of people that was reporting on them. And so I think in the beginning they didn't really understand there weren't a lot of women in journalism, so they thought it was odd. And I think, like everything I thought, they thought I would grow out of it. Same when I met my former husband, they were like, for sure you're going to grow out of this, hopefully. And when I moved to California, that was also. I was the first person in my family or extended family to move to California, which was in their mind a terrible idea. And. And to also then take up with someone who was of a different political party was an even more outrageous idea. But as I've looked back on it, I was doing that, I think, to find my own heir, to find my own breath, actually to find my own way. Because growing up in a very competitive, well known family, you can either be subsumed by it or you have to leave. But I also realized that kind of leaving. I'm an only girl, I have four brothers. And leaving the east coast, leaving my parents to go to the West Coast, I think must have been really difficult for my parents. But I knew I couldn't stay and survive. I knew I couldn't stay and find my own way, become my own person and know why I was here. If I was just following in like this preordained path of my family. And that has always been my desire, my search for why am I here? How am I different from this group of people? And I grew up being very kind of just confused with everybody. It was like, which Kennedy are you? You have hair, you have teeth. You're just one of all of these other people. And that was, you know, funny, but also actually sad because it robbed you of being a person in yourself. And so I never felt like I was Maria. And then when I would say I'm Maria, they'd be like, no, no, no, no. But like, which Kennedy are you? Which one are you? And I'd be like, no, I'm Maria. Like, no, but And I was like, oh, okay, well, that's not enough. And so I think my whole drive was like, who is Maria? And so it was a. By talking to people, by interview, in a way, interviewing myself has been a journey to answer that question.

Maria Shriver (16:12)

I thought it was pretty profound that you told me when you were married to Arnold, too, you felt invisible. And one of the words I would never use about you would be that word. I feel like when you walk in a room, everybody knows it. There's something about you. How did you feel that way?

Maria Shriver (16:31)

Well, I think you can feel like. I'm sure everybody in here at some point has felt invisible in their life, has felt small in their life. I think it's a very human feeling. And I think particularly women often feel like that. And so oftentimes you can walk in the room regardless of, and people don't see you. They don't know you. They may know you as so and so's daughter or so and so's wife or so and so's mother, but they don't really know you. And I think that can create a feeling of being invisible. And I think that even though I grew up in a very famous family, I was invisible as a human in that family. I was part of a family, and that's what was visible. And I think I didn't always feel invisible with Arnold, but I think when you're married to somebody super famous, people behave a certain way around people who are super famous, and they can knock you down to get to that person, walk over you to get to that person, and it can make you feel, well, who am I and what am I doing here and do I matter? And so for me, it was really important that I raised children who felt like they were a priority in a public family. I wanted to guard their privacy. I wanted to make sure they were not part of political pamphlets, that they were not used as props, that they were the stars of our home. And that, for me, was a something that I was really passionate about, that they feel that they were of equal importance to whatever their mom or dad was doing, that they were valued, that they were four distinct individuals, but also collectively a family. But that regardless of what their dad was doing or what I was doing or what family they came from, what what they were doing was important. And that was really and continues to be, I think, for me, something that I take super seriously to make sure that they feel that whatever they're doing isn't overshadowed by what their parents are doing. And that's an ongoing piece of Work.

Maria Shriver (18:54)

People are always asking you about how you raise up your kids. You've got great kids. They want to be around each other. They want to be around you. I remember you told me that when Maria comes into her home and there are children there, kids, her sons, her daughters and their friends, they stand up.

Maria Shriver (19:12)

Yeah, I make them stand up.

Maria Shriver (19:15)

She makes them. Literally.

Maria Shriver (19:16)

I used to make them. Now they just do stand up. Well, my mother did that. So there's many things that I've emulated from my mother, but my grandmother and my mother and were big on manners. So when somebody who was older walked in the room, AKA my mother, everybody stood up. You know, when we went to the dinner table, everybody had to have something to bring to the table to talk about, to converse about. My mother would be like, okay, what's your opinion of, you know, the gospel? What's your opinion of what the president said today? And, you know, you could be 10, 11, 19, 20, but like, you had to, like, step up. And so I wanted my kids to, you know, when I walked in the room or their dad walked in the room or you would walk in the room that they, you know, stand up out of respect. And so when their friends would come over, I'd be like. And I'd say, Cause my mother did that. She'd stand in the door and she'd go. And then everybody go, oh, oh. You know. And so I started doing that with my kids friends because, you know, I didn't want to walk in the room and they'd be sitting looking at a phone or watching the game. I'd be like, I'm here. Like, let's, you know, here we are. Here we are, Here we are. And here I am. And look me in the eye, say hello, thank me for coming, write me a thank you note if I take you somewhere, that sort of stuff. And even though my kids moaned and groaned about it, they now say it was a good thing. I don't know, but they say it.

Maria Shriver (20:52)

More ahead with Maria Shriver. Stay with us.

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Maria Shriver (22:37)

I think a lot of people came here and they know the topic that you like to talk about, which is a meaningful life. Like what makes a meaningful life. I feel like you've been a student, a seeker, and whether you're at NBC and when Maria walks in the makeup room at NBC, she doesn't come in spewing knowledge. And she has more than all of us put together. She does nothing but ask questions of the intern, of Laura who's doing hair, Mary who's doing makeup. Whoever comes in. Chanel's having a rough day. She's asking a million questions. But what constitutes and how can you find a meaningful life?

Maria Shriver (23:15)

Well, I think first of all, by everybody here is living a meaningful life. I think you start from the fact that you're here. Each of us is a divine miracle. I believe that regardless of whatever your religious affiliation, it's a miracle that you're here. It's a miracle. And then figuring out why you're here, you are here, I believe, to do something meaningful with your life. I mean, there's no question in my mind that we're all here for that specific reason. And what's meaningful to you, to you, to it's all different for so many people living a meaningful life. You might find meaning out of raising your children, and that gives you meaning. You might find meaning in your work. You might find meaning by starting a nonprofit or an organization or helping your community, and that can change. I found myself over the decades. I keep checking in, and my life has changed dramatically over the decades. But I try to kind of think forward. Who do I want to be and where do I want to be when I'm 85? Who do I want in that open field and at that table with me? And I try to put in the work now to make sure that when I'm 85, God willing, that those people are at my table. So I try to invest in my friends, I invest in my family, I invest in my faith, which really directs everything that I do. And I try to use my being and my voice on behalf of work that I hope will help other people. So whether it's my journalism, I look at it as service journalism. I don't believe in gotcha journalism. I don't believe in aggressive journalism like that. I believe in a journalism that's focused on the truth, but it's also of service. I try to. My Alzheimer's work is of service. My mosh bars are of service. They raise money, money for research. Even the Sunday paper started out of a love of writing and wanting to reach people's hearts and minds and elevate the voices of other people. But I think all of us have to decide what matters in our life, separate from who we might be married to, separate from our parents, separate from the shoulds of our lives. And I think that comes by first being in quiet. I'm a big advocate of silence. I'm a big advocate of spending time really interviewing yourself. You know, who am I today at 50? Who am I at 55? Who am I at 40? What's important to me? Well, at 40, this is what was really important. But at 50, maybe my kids are grown and something else might be kind of becoming more important. And that's scary, I think, for a lot of people. And I think one of the things. So I think that's a big thing to know what your path is. And there's always that saying that if you're on a kind of worn path, you're on the wrong path, that you want to be on a path that's rocky, that's bumpy, that's dark, that you don't know where the hell you're going, because that means it's your path. And I would say that my path has been really bumpy, and it's been fricking dark, and it's also been beautiful. Right? And I think that's the thing I've learned as I really Became older into my 50s. When I got divorced, it was a. Like, terrible. And it. But it showed me what I was made of in. It showed me that many of the things, you know, starting with when my mother died, I thought I'd never survive. I did. Then my father died. I thought, oh, my, now I'll be an orphan. I won't be. Who will I belong to? I survived. When my marriage ended, I thought, that's it. I'm over, I'm done. You know, I'm nothing. I don't know who I am. I did. I found a new version of myself. And that's what is so wonderful, I think, about life. If you continue to ask yourself, why am I here? What matters to me? Who am I today? There's no wrong answer to that. And you just keep going deeper and deeper, and you keep blooming as you go deeper, and you keep evolving as you go deeper, and you surprise yourself. And then you have this life that maybe you never even dreamt of. Like, you didn't dream of this five years ago, ten years ago. But it's only by going deeper, by asking questions, by going, yeah, let's try that. Let's go over there. We went to Miraval to go for the weekend, and we were like, oh, maybe this is a good place to do a thing. And then we're like. And Hoda's like, yeah, maybe we should do this. And we're like, yeah, maybe we should. But it came from, like, experiences, adventures, trying, asking. And something will come for you from this that you didn't even know coming into this, right? Something will stir in you that might take you to the left or the right or somewhere else. And that's great. Even though it may be scary, that's great. And I just want to reiterate to people all the time that, you know, this is great. Emerson quote, that everything you need is within you already. It's there. Don't ever doubt that you can't do something, that you can't go over here, you can't go to the left or the right. You can. I'm telling you 1,000%, you can. You were made to do that. You are made for tough times, and you are made for great times. You are made for love. You are made for heartbreak. You are made for joy. You are made for grief. That's what really constitutes a life. And I don't think we talk enough about the benefits of suffering, the benefits of pain, the reality of grief and trauma, and how it all encompasses what is a meaningful life. You can't have a meaningful life if you don't know grief. You can't have a meaningful life if your heart hasn't been broken. And I'm a big believer, and I wish somebody had told me that, because I spent a lot of time holding on, thinking, I want to make sure everything stays here, because I don't want to have any more grief or I don't want to have any more trauma. And that's a fool's errand. And I think that people need to tell other people there's nothing wrong with you if you have fallen down, if your marriage didn't work out, if you got fired from your job. I got fired from my job. My marriage didn't work out. Right. There's a lot of stuff that happens in a life, and it all adds up to make a beautiful life depending on our perspective and depending on how strong we feel, how capable we feel and how well we know ourselves and how well we love ourselves and how well we believe in ourselves. Because if we don't do it, no one else is going to do it for us.

Maria Shriver (30:48)

The faith piece of your life is important. You've said it a few times. It's like, center. It's how you start your day. It's how you end your day. How has it evolved for you?

Maria Shriver (30:59)

Well, both of my parents were deep, really religious Catholics. They went to church every single day. And so I went to the Convent of the Sacred Heart, and then I went on to Georgetown. So I was educated by the nuns and the Jesuits, and I grew up in a house where, as I said, if you weren't running for president or becoming a nun or a priest, get out. You know, it was like you were not even at the table. So I grew up with that kind of that. That was people who were nuns and priests. At that time, that vocation was really revered. And I remember when I was in grade school, and I would ask the nuns, you know, like, well, how'd you become a nun? Cause, you know, my mother was always talking about the nuns, and she was always having nuns over. And I remember she was like, I want you to come downstairs and meet this nun. I'm like, oh, God. Like, every time as a nun, it's like, over here, you know, and it was Mother Teresa. Oh, you know, and she's like, yeah. And I. And I. One of my brothers sent me a picture, and she's there. And I'm like, you know, because I was like. But my parents, you know, they had, like, the Berrigan brothers, fathers over who were, like, social activists and stuff. And so. But I asked the nuns in my school, like, well, how'd you become a nun? And they were like, you know, I was just a girl, just like you. And one day I went home, and I was in my room, and God or Jesus appeared to me and said, I want you to be a nun. I was like. So I would go home every day and go, do not come in the room. Do not come in the room. I was like, I don't. But I feel actually, you know, so I think I resisted my faith, you know, I was like, you know, I was like, I like boys. I like sex. Get out. You know, But I have, you know, kind of embraced my faith, you know, So I went, you know, I was taught by the nuns, taught by the priests, and then I. I battled my faith as a woman in the Catholic Church, and I still battle my faith as a woman in the Catholic Church. And. But it's a big part of my life. I go to church every week, I pray every day, and I feel. I feel in many ways like I'm a servant of my faith. I'm walking my faith. I'm in my faith. I'm trying to do God's work in whatever way. I'm moving through the world, and it gives me. It makes me feel that I'm not alone in the world. My relationship with God, my relationship with prayer, it helped me in really dark times. I have found it. You know, even with when my parents were sick, when my mother died, my faith was what helped me navigate through. And I don't know where I would be without my faith. And I appreciate people of all different faiths. And I have, you know, in my home, I have Buddhas, I have Kwan Young, you name it. I have Mary, I have Jesus. I'm like, constantly when people say to me, I'm talking about Jesus, I'm like, where's Mary? Let's talk about Mary. But so I'm, you know, and I'm really interested in people who give their life to God. I'm really interested in the work of the nuns, which is quite extraordinary. I mean, the social justice work of nuns around the world is quite amazing. And I just find people who do that kind of work and who have that kind of contemplative, almost monastic life, super interesting to me and super inspirational to me. And so I try to spend a lot of time with people who have either given their entire lives over to God or who are somehow walking alongside their faith.

Maria Shriver (35:09)

Today, I think a lot of people get to certain, let's talk age for a second. You get to certain ages in your life and you feel like, wow, well, you know, the best stuff is behind me now. You know, whether it's 50, some people even at 40, start to feel funky. 50, 60, 70, whatever, those. I feel like there's been a whole reset on aging. And I know you've, you did a whole thing on reframing aging.

Maria Shriver (35:37)

Yeah.

Maria Shriver (35:37)

But I maybe just speak to the fact that sometimes you feel like, well, maybe I'm too old for fill in the blank, whatever it this.

Maria Shriver (35:45)

No, I don't feel that at all. I never, I actually, I mean, I have, you know, two 30 year old daughters in there and so many of the young women that come over to my house, they're like, I'm so old. I'm so old. I'm 30, I'm 32. Oh my God. Having like a breakdown or I'm like, what? I'm like, I'm like, What? You're like 33? Or they're like, it's over, I have to go and get Botox. I'm wrinkled. I'm like, oh my God. I'm like, honey, buckle up, buckle up. But I find, you know, I love being in my 60s. I feel like I know myself. I feel healthy. I mean, I think health has a huge component to how one feels about aging. So let's start from that point of view. So I think if you are healthy, if you. So let's also adjust that because I think as many people age, their friends may pass away or their lives change in many ways and they find themselves without friends or without their health. And then it's tough. I think aging is tough. And I think we have an ageist society and I think that's important to call that out in every way, shape and form. People tell me all the time I can't get a job, or I was let go of my job because of my age, or I can't get insurance because of my age. So I think the country has to really catch up to the, you know, to how many people are aging in our country and how many people are aging alone in our country. How many people need care in our country? We have no, you know, coming back to stand up in the room, you know, respect for aging, respect for the, for elders. You know, it's much more prevalent in other societies than in the United States. And so I think that's advocacy work, I think it's political work, and I think it's something that we all have to Push up against, fight against, and be the best examples. I think, particularly for our children that, you know, ages. I want my children to see me vital. I want them to see me working. I want them to see me happy. I want them to see me talking about things. I surround myself a lot with young people to keep me current so that I know what's going on and that I'm current. And I want my kids not to be afraid of aging, and I want that for everybody as well. But I make no mistake that aging is. We do live in an ageist society, and so we have to take that into account. So when you feel like, wow, I'm feeling that as I go out to try to. To change my job or something, that's real. That's real. And I think we have to push up against it and honor it. And then that's why I think so many women are becoming entrepreneurs at 50. They're starting their own businesses, they're becoming consultants. And I often say that to women who've like, said, well, you know, I'm a mother. Or when I was first lady of California, women would come up to me all the time and say, like, I'm just a mother. I said, get rid of the word. Just so often we put the just in front of whatever it is. How we're describing our. I'm just a schoolteacher. I'm just. You name it. None of us are just right. That's why my new book is I Am Maria. I'm not just X, Y and Z. And none of you are either. But there's so many women who are brave enough to start new businesses, consultings, nonprofits, and doing so many, you know, trying to access capital. But that's also a challenge as a woman entrepreneur. And that's a real thing, too. But I think we're all here to change our society, to change our culture. And we do that with how we live our lives, with how we use our voices and how we conduct ourselves. I'm a big believer in that. And the only way to reframe aging, to reframe what it means to be a woman in her 60s, to reframe what it means to be a mother, what it means to. Means to be a professional, what it means to live a meaningful life is to just do it.

Maria Shriver (40:12)

More with Maria Shriver when we come back.

Hoda Kotb (40:19)

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Maria Shriver (40:48)

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Maria Shriver (40:54)

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Maria Shriver (40:54)

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Maria Shriver (43:27)

Well, I think everybody here, in a way, is doing that this weekend. Right? You're hitting the button on what is your kind of normal life. And I think you're putting a stop to what you normally do. And you're coming here once again, why? You're coming here for something. There's something inside of you that is bringing you here. And so pause with that. Think about what that is. For me, I find pausing and writing. I write to know what I'm thinking. I write to understand what I'm feeling. I write to figure out where I'm going and what makes sense to me. So in the morning, I write, I feel this way. I write, I woke up with anxiety. I woke up with fear. What am I afraid of? I write that out. So it might help to. In those moments when you pause to write to yourself about what you're feeling and what you feel in that pause. I feel like I should want more. I feel like I deserve more. I feel like, how do I do that? And then start to just find your way through. You know, some people find it through painting. Some people find it through writing. Some people find it through through walking in nature. Some people find it all different music. Right? But I think it's really important because life goes so quickly. And you're not the same person here today that you were six months ago. You're not. You're not the same person that you were last week. Think about what's gone on in your life just this year alone. You're different. And you have to stop and let that difference. Of course, you don't have to do anything. I should lose the word have to. But it's a gift to yourself to stop to think about what has been the impact of all of that on your life. What do you do with that? Where does that take you? How can it take you somewhere that maybe you never imagined six months ago or a year ago? And I think that's what you're doing. Your life is taking you somewhere you never imagined you, in a direction you never even thought about. And it's only happening because you started. You paused and you started thinking something else going on, something else out there. Took your time. It's been going on for a long time. And at some point you're like, now. So there's no hurry here, right? Even if you're in your 60s or in your 50s. I think that's the other thing that I notice from people. Like, I have to figure out my purpose. I don't know what my purpose is. Now I have to go over here, you know, that I think is something that society puts on us. You have to figure out your purpose by like, you know, you know, kids come over to my house. Like, I don't know my purpose. What's my purpose? I'm like, you're not going to get it from, like, what's my purpose? What's my purpose? Right? And we're actually all actually in our purpose right here. Your purpose is right here. You're in your purpose by being here. You're in your calling by being here. And whatever that voice is, and it's different for every person in this room, it's gonna guide you in ways you never imagined. If you allow it, if you pause to listen to it, if you honor it and give it the space, if you make space to hear your own calling and your own mission. Cause we all have it. And the only person who can decide what it is is you. You. It doesn't come from asking anybody. It comes from asking yourself. That's what I have learned. Wow. Wow, wow, wow.

Maria Shriver (47:22)

All right, Maria, I love you so much.

Maria Shriver (47:25)

I love you. I love you.

Maria Shriver (47:26)

Please get Maria's book. It's called I Am Maria. And I don't know about you, but I'm standing up for Maria.

Maria Shriver (47:31)

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Maria Shriver (47:41)

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