I sit down with Silvi Carter to explore the roots of self-doubt, emotional intensity, and the feeling of never being enough. Together, we unpack how childhood experiences, fatherhood, and the possibility of ADHD have shaped the way he relates to himself and his own energy.

We discuss why so many men see their natural vitality as a problem to be solved, and how learning to accept that energy can transform self-worth, emotional regulation, and even addictive patterns. This is a powerful conversation about healing, fatherhood, and learning to work with yourself instead of against yourself.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

01:14 - ADHD, Dopamine, and Emotional Regulation

06:58 - Fatherhood Changes Everything

09:06 - Learning to White-Knuckle Through Life

10:38 - Feeling Like You're Too Much

14:18 - The Help He Never Received

17:37 - What It Feels Like to Be Truly Understood

19:14 - Accepting Support

21:21 - Why Does It Feel So Rare?

23:01 - What I Needed From My Parents

28:07 - The Origins of Self-Doubt and Not Enoughness

34:44 - Containment, Energy, and Childhood Development

36:26 - Negative Relating to Your Own Nature

39:11 - The Volcanic Energy Within

42:41 - Acceptance Before Expression

44:23 - Creating an Outlet for Your Energy

46:10 - Fathering Yourself

49:36 - Dopamine, Self-Worth, and Healthy Energy

53:05 - Final Reflections and Takeaways

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