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From Casting to Courtroom: Stepping Into the Role of the Leader You Want to Be
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Tyson Mutrix
This is Maximum Lawyer with your host, Tyson Mutrix. Welcome back to Maximum Lawyer Live. Today I need you to stick with me on this one. I need you to bear with me as I get through this one because I may hit you on this one from left field, but I promise you this whole, the whole thing is a point. I will connect all the dots. But I was watching with Amy, Amy and I were watching the movie Christie and it's really interesting to me. They've taken Sydney Sweeney out of her typical role and they have put her into this boxing role. And it was, it's this biopic about this female boxer named Christy Martin. And as I was watching this movie, I kept thinking like they completely changed how Sydney Sweeney looked. And then I kind of got this thought, like, how much of like how we look, how we act, how we lead, how our firm is run on a day to day basis are actually just choices we've made, whether we've done it consciously or not, which is really kind of an interesting thing. And like it's, I know it started with looks and I was, because I, I, it really got me thinking. I even said Dana's, like, how much of like how we look do you think is like a choice? I, I know you can't change, like, you know, the size of your ears and the color of your eyes and the shape of your nose and the size of your forehead and your height and all these other things, like how much of your looks are really like a choice. And I'm not just, this isn't just about looks, by the way. This has a bigger point. But it did really get me thinking that started kind of the thought process of, like, this is kind of an interesting thing where part of it is probably, like, internally we're like. It's our own perception of ourselves. And so we dress ourselves a certain way. That. That's in line with that perception of ourselves. Like, if you look at Marco Brown, like, Marco Brown, those of you that know Marco Brown and that you've seen. Seen him at an event, like, he wears a suit everywhere. We've talked about it on the show. I've had him on the show. We've talked about why he does that. You can check those out there. But that is a choice that he has made. Okay. Jimmy likes to wear socks and Crocs. That is a. That is a choice. Right? And I've talked about that at the conference about how I think that that's a great choice for him. I. I love nerds and weirdos. I think that's a great thing. But these are choices that we have made. And it also kind of hit me, like, it's. It's not just that Hollywood can change the way someone looks. It was like that the look followed the decision. Right? And that's. I think that's the part that is. Is interesting to me. She had to train differently. She looks like a boxer. I was really, really interesting. She looked like a boxer in some scenes. Now, not in all scenes. I was kind of critical about some scenes, but she. There were times where she was throwing a really good jab. I was. I was very impressed. But she probably had to eat differently because her body composition changed. Her hair had to change. It wasn't just her hair. It wasn't just her wardrobe, wasn't just her makeup. Right. But she had to, like, physically move differently. And I mean, that's kind of interesting thing. Like, she had to physically move her body differently. She had to carry herself differently. The way she spoke was different. And then it really kind of got me thinking about, this is how my. My brain works. You're getting a view inside my brain. I kind of go down these rabbit holes in my own brain. But it. It really got me thinking about how many things in life are we acting? And, like, I was kind of, like, thinking about myself. Like, do I act as. Like, it's permanent? When in reality. When in reality, they're just the result of repeated choices. That's all they are. It's not something that's permanent. It's something I can just change the choices. I. I can just decide to do something differently. Like, how many times have you been in A cranky mood. And you can just change. You just decide to be in a better mood. You really could. It's possible. Like we, we. We try to teach our kids that, like, you can, you can decide to be a grown. Or you can decide to, you know, get up with the living and actually be in a good mood. Like, your bad mood is usually a choice. Your good mood is usually a choice that is hard for a lot of us to take. Even me sometimes. I'll be a grump sometimes. And I've got to force myself to get out of that mood. Now, I want to, I do want to acknowledge that. I'm not saying everyone has the same genetics, the same resources, the same health, same circumstances or the same schedule. Things are different, right? Which is going to lead me to this video I'm going to share. I'm going to share the very beginning of it. It is Eric Church's 2026 commencement speak speech to the University of North Carolina. I want to play just the very beginning of it. I think it's a very interesting way to start. So just get, bear with me for a couple, couple minutes and I'm going to play this.
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Eric Church
I've been grinding for a little bit about how to do it. I have torn up multiple speeches. I have thrown things. And in one of my fits of frustration, I sat down with a guitar and I thought, man, who am I kidding? I need to figure out a way to do this with a guitar.
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Tyson Mutrix
So
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Eric Church
if you'll indulge me, I want to start with a sound. You know, this sound. It's a guitar that's out of tune. Something that almost gets there, that tries but doesn't. And some ancient, honest part of your brain knows it immediately. You don't need training to hear it. You just know that sound is the sound of something beautiful that has not been. Has not been tended to. Six strings. When all six are in tune, the chords they make can stop a conversation cold, carry a broken person through the worst night of their life, or make a room full of strangers feel for three minutes like they've known each other forever.
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Tyson Mutrix
Okay, so I thought that was beautiful with what I've been kind of chewing on a little bit with the whole Christie, Sydney Sweeney, you know, can you decide the way, the way you look? I think there is this chord that runs through us that it will never change. And I'm not saying it will change. I. I think that that chord, the foundation. And I really high, highly recommend that you listen to this whole speech. It is really phenomenal. I I, I gotta give credit to Amy on this one because she. I walked into the bathroom and she was crying and I was like, what is wrong with you? She's like, just held her screen up that she had and watched this, this speech. It's really good, the commitsment speech. But I do think he's right like that you. You have this cord that runs through you that I don't think you should try to change. And that's not at all what I'm trying to say. Okay. I'm not trying to say that you need to change the, the, your base foundation. I think that you. There's a lot of power in embracing that cord, but there's also a lot of power in acknowledging that that cord may have some weaknesses. And with those weaknesses, that's where you might want to make some tweaks around your life to, to improve yourself. I'm a firm believer in visualization and I was having a conversation with coaching member just the other day and Billy Terraso had spoken about this at Max Law Con years ago about sort of like having this view of like. And I'm going to kind of mess up. The way she explained it, it's. It's much better job. You can find it on YouTube. It's. It's really good. But how like the, the person you want to be, like, visualize the person you want to be and then kind of step into those shoes. I do, I do something very similar. If you, if you've ever seen the movie the Judge, it's a great movie, you know, played by, played by Iron man. So I will always view him. But I, the. He's a lawyer in that, in that movie. And I kind of like, sometimes if I am, if I have to kind of snap out of something, especially if I'm going in a courtroom, I kind of. I kind of step into like that role. Like that's who I want to be, which sometimes I think we need that. I'm not changing who I am from that foundation. I am. I am making a decision to be that person and to fill. Fulfill that role again. I do the same thing whenever it comes to all parts of my life. I mean, we all have people that have been influential to us. And so when it comes to parenting, okay, who, like, who do I need to step into for this role as a parent? Who do I need to step into for this role as a firm leader, as a husband, all of these different things. When it comes to maximum lawyer, like, who do I need to step into for this role Here So that I can put on the absolute best show or the absolute best conference or the absolute best, you know, best mastermind. And I really kind of step into different roles when each one of those where I. And I kind of, I just kind of step into it and I make a decision as to what I want to be, who I want to be in that, in that moment, and I become that person. And it's a choice, it is something where I get the conference. Last year I was very intentional about starting day one with wearing a three piece suit. I wanted to start it a very intentional way. I also, I went and spoke at Disrupt, which was hona's conference last year. I also wore a three piece suit. And the reason why is because I knew that everyone there was going to be wearing casual clothing. Because that's the thing to do at conferences nowadays is you get on stage and you're wearing casual clothing. And I wanted to be different, okay? I wanted to have a different presentation to the people. That was a, that was an intentional decision that I made. And so my entire point is, is that a lot of the decisions, whether these are physical looks or mindset or leadership or parenting or, you know, being a good spouse, all of these are decisions that we make and they take some work surrounding it. It's not just, I've made the decision, okay, Remember early on when I talked about how Sydney Sweeney, she had to walk a certain way, she had to punch a certain way, she had to train a certain way, she had to eat a certain way. If you want to be the person that you want to be, it's going to take some change in your life, okay? If you're overweight, you need to work, you need to work out and you need to eat better. He's usually just starting with eating better. I've told, I've told this before, the story about the guy at the gym that just stopped going to restaurants where I had to drive thru, okay, stop drinking the soda. All these different things, the, these intentional choices that if you want to be a certain way, be a certain way. If you want to be an assertive leader, become an assertive leader. Go get trainings on how to be more assertive. That is, it's not just a simple, I've made the decision. I've made the decision. Plus I'm going to get the training I need to do it. And then I'm going to make sure my team knows that I'm going to be a more assertive leader. And if it's not the whole team it's going to at least be the leadership team, and I need you to back me up on these things. So you have not just made the decision, but you have also done the other things surrounding the decision to make it easy for you to then fulfill that role so you can look at all the parts of your life and do these things, make these decisions, make the choices surrounding those decisions to then help you become the person that you want to be, all while not losing that one cord that runs through you. You can still honor that and be loyal to that while also being the person that you want to be without changing truly who you are. So it's interesting, it's just one little thing that I observed in a movie, how I kind of. It really got me thinking about all of these other parts of our lives, all these other things that choices. And I be. I even sort of acknowledged some things in my life. I'm like, okay, I, I can just change this. I can really just do something different here. Get the training I need, surround myself with the, with the people I need. It's. It's something. I was talking to my trainer just this morning. A lot of our conversations, I've kind of run through my, My trainer. But it is interesting how, like, he was talking about how, like, when I made the decision to come to the gym and, and he said a lot of people, like, when they're in their 40s, they. They make the decision to come to the gym and put on the muscle and all that, because I told him, like, it's really important for me. It's. I sort of had a different reason. I think we all have our own reasons for doing certain things. I, I, My reason for coming to the gym was different than the average person, he said, because the average person has kind of lived an unhealthy life, get to age 40, and they decide, okay, I'm gonna get some help getting this weight off and get a better shape. Like, mine was a little different. Like, I was already in good shape. I already worked out. Mine was more. I want to build the muscle for when I'm 50, because you start to lose muscle. Most people lose muscle when they start, when they turn 50 or shortly thereafter. Now, that's not, Does. Does not apply to everybody, but on average, that's how it works. And I want to make sure that when I'm 50, I've got enough muscle that as I start to lose it, if I start to lose it, I don't want to lose it, but if I, if I start to lose it, by the time I'm 80, I still have some muscle mass that I can actually still walk around and get up if I fall, that kind of a thing. That's. That's the way I'm sort of thinking about things. But we all have our own choices. So I, I had made that decision, and I, I decided to, okay, change my health when it, when it comes to eating. And. Okay, how am I, how am I going to put this muscle on? Okay, I'm gonna hire a trainer. So we all have these different reasons for different. Doing these different things, and then we have to make the decisions around them to do that. Okay. So if I say I'm not just, you know, I'm just not organized, so let's say that that's your thing. I'm just not organized. That's one of those things that, I mean, it may just sound harmless, but what if the more accurate sentences I've chosen not to become organized yet. So you're. You're changing the thinking a little bit. So you're beginning. Okay, so you want to be an organized person. You, you, you content. You always refer to yourself as an unorganized person, and you just change it. Just a little tweak. This is the beginning of it. You know, I've not, I've not chosen to become organized yet. And that one might sting a little bit more for you because it puts the responsibility back on you. That is what's interesting about it. It puts the responsibility back on you. That's why I do the same thing with our kids. I. If they say that they're bad at something I said. Hold on a second. No, no, no. You're working on getting better at blank. You're working on getting better at soccer or your kicks or your passes. Those types of things. All that makes a big, big difference. So if you think you're bad at hiring. Nope, that's not it. No, don't say that. If you say, oh, I'm not a numbers person. No, that's not, That's. We're not doing that. I'm not. I'm not good at sales. Nope, we're not going to do that either. That those are just identities that you've chosen for yourself that you need to shift. They're just under underdeveloped skills. That's all they are. That you're working on getting better at hiring. That's what you're. That's what you're going to do. Okay. You are learning to get better at dealing with your numbers for your firm again. That puts a responsibility back on you. The firm is working on getting better at sales. Again, that puts the responsibility back on you, as it should. All right, that's all I have for you this week. Hopefully you got something from this. Make sure you check out Becky's List, Becky's List code. That's where you can find out the best vendors and avoid the worst vendors by looking at reviews. Rate and review on beccaslist.com also, if you're interested in the conference maxwellcon.com the window for Early Bird is closing. I think it's a day. I think tomorrow or maybe Friday, the window is closing. So if you've not gotten those. If you're listening to this, Early Bird may have closed. If you're watching this in the association, you have time. But just know, I believe by the time this post it, Early Bird will have closed. So make sure you get your tickets before they go up. 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