What happens when the identity you built your life on suddenly disappears? On Mind Over Masculinity, hosted by Shreya, this episode explores the raw truth behind strength, vulnerability, and rebuilding from rock bottom.

Featuring Hakeem Bourne McFarlane, this conversation is for anyone navigating grief, addiction, or identity loss. You’ll hear how performance, anger, and silence can mask deeper pain—and what it truly takes to rebuild with honesty, structure, and self-respect.

About the Guest:

Hakeem Bourne McFarlane is the creator of the Choose Yourself Process, shaped by his lived experience with addiction, grief, incarceration, and rebuilding his life through discipline and personal growth.

Episode Chapter:

00:00 Introduction to Masculinity & Identity

03:20 The Masks Men Wear

08:45 Grief, Sports & Performance

15:10 Addiction and Identity Collapse

21:30 Rock Bottom & Solitude

26:00 The Choose Yourself Process

30:00 Systems Over Motivation

Key Takeaways:

Identity built on performance eventually collapses
Asking for help is accountability, not weakness
Unprocessed grief often turns into anger or addiction
Systems create stability when motivation fades
Real change starts with one conscious choice

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Website: https://chooseyourself.info

Instagram & Facebook: BigDreamHakeem

Podcast & Book: “Choose Yourself” available online

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Rebuilding Masculinity After Loss, Addiction, and Identity Collapse with Hakeem Bourne McFarlane